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So, me and my brother bot love collecting and painting Warhammer minis. We usually pay 50/50 each when buying paints and supplies, but recently, I've been the one paying. Say I ask him if he needs a paint, or him asking me to buy one, and when I get home, he just says that I'm the only one who uses it, therefore I should pay. Ah. Now, the real problem: We've run out of primer. I'm going to go buy a can, and I asked him to pay half of it. That's when he says, 'You're the one who used most of the last one, you should payy for it!'. I have no idea what to do. He's certainly being a bit of a douche here, since he could just use the primer whenever he wants. His argument that since I use some of the paint that he normally uses, I should pay for them, just seems stupid. What do I do to make him understand that he also uses most of the paints + the primer + the glue and green stuff (that I bought, and he said no to paying because he said he'd never use it. He's used a fourth of the green stuff.) are things that he also uses? I don't want to pay everything, heck, the Swedish states gives him about 120 dollars a month as an 'allowance', he can certainly pay for the things!

PS, we do share everything, including paints and glues, although I've bought 3/4 of everything.

Sounds from the post that you're of an age where you should sit down with your parent(s) and him and talk it out. Gets a bit more tricky when it's issues with family members.

Blood is thicker then water... Its your brother...

 Chute82 wrote:
Blood is thicker then water... Its your brother...

Maybe that's why he goes through the paint so quickly. He's using the wrong thing to dilute it.

 Matthew wrote:
So, me and my brother bot love collecting and painting Warhammer minis. We usually pay 50/50 each when buying paints and supplies, but recently, I've been the one paying. Say I ask him if he needs a paint, or him asking me to buy one, and when I get home, he just says that I'm the only one who uses it, therefore I should pay. Ah. Now, the real problem: We've run out of primer. I'm going to go buy a can, and I asked him to pay half of it. That's when he says, 'You're the one who used most of the last one, you should payy for it!'. I have no idea what to do. He's certainly being a bit of a douche here, since he could just use the primer whenever he wants. His argument that since I use some of the paint that he normally uses, I should pay for them, just seems stupid. What do I do to make him understand that he also uses most of the paints + the primer + the glue and green stuff (that I bought, and he said no to paying because he said he'd never use it. He's used a fourth of the green stuff.) are things that he also uses? I don't want to pay everything, heck, the Swedish states gives him about 120 dollars a month as an 'allowance', he can certainly pay for the things!

PS, we do share everything, including paints and glues, although I've bought 3/4 of everything.

Simple capitalism. Divide up everything you have and from now on no more sharing. Remember sharing is Communism and Communism = Fascist Russia. Do you want Russia to take over Sweden by it did Ukraine?

Say no to Fascists and Communists. Capitalism = the free West. Are you with us or against us?

Hmm... interesting predicament. How old are you guys? Hopefully young, and if so, get your parents involved.

I would suggest not sharing things like primer, brushes and green stuff. Buy your own and use your own. Only share stuff like the paints, because there will be no complaints of "but you use it more than me" when the dropper lasts years anyways.

In my experience, sharing supplies of any kind doesn't really go over well. Someone will be conservative and reasonable, while the other will be liberal and careless. Also, some people are just jerks. I remember a while back I let a friend borrow a new tube of green stuff that he said he needed to fill some gaps in some of his models. He never returned the remainder to me and when I asked about it he said he had used it all. Kind of confusing... it's not like it's a secret that a full tube is like $12 and it would probably be good manners to not use the entire thing. Plus it really made him look like a liar because how many gaps would you have to fill to use up an entire tube of green stuff? I just think he kept what he didn't use. And I actually had plans for the green stuff, so when I found out he used it all (or more likely kept the rest), then I had to buy a new tube. Good times.

I'd start messing with his stuff until he gets the picture. "Accidentally" dab some paint on his finished minis. Scrape a bit of grass off his bases. Pick up and finger his painted figs while munching on a bag of cheetos.

I'm kinda glad I'm the only one in my family who games.

It means I've never had to deal with crap like this.

 Matthew wrote:
So, me and my brother bot love collecting and painting Warhammer minis. We usually pay 50/50 each when buying paints and supplies, but recently, I've been the one paying. Say I ask him if he needs a paint, or him asking me to buy one, and when I get home, he just says that I'm the only one who uses it, therefore I should pay. Ah. Now, the real problem: We've run out of primer. I'm going to go buy a can, and I asked him to pay half of it. That's when he says, 'You're the one who used most of the last one, you should payy for it!'. I have no idea what to do. He's certainly being a bit of a douche here, since he could just use the primer whenever he wants. His argument that since I use some of the paint that he normally uses, I should pay for them, just seems stupid. What do I do to make him understand that he also uses most of the paints + the primer + the glue and green stuff (that I bought, and he said no to paying because he said he'd never use it. He's used a fourth of the green stuff.) are things that he also uses? I don't want to pay everything, heck, the Swedish states gives him about 120 dollars a month as an 'allowance', he can certainly pay for the things!

PS, we do share everything, including paints and glues, although I've bought 3/4 of everything.

Pay for it. Don't let him use it. Lock it up. Tell him to feth off.

Good fences make good neighbors (and brothers).

Step 1: Choose a color he uses a lot.
Step 2: Add a bodily fluid to the color. Give a good shake.
Step 3: Quietly giggle a little every time he uses that color.

Fight immaturity with immaturity.

 the_Armyman wrote:
Step 1: Choose a color he uses a lot.
Step 2: Add a bodily fluid to the color. Give a good shake.
Step 3: Quietly giggle a little every time he uses that color.

Fight immaturity with immaturity.

Dude, I'm 13. I'm not sure my body can produce such liquids.

But thanks

 kronk wrote:


Pay for it. Don't let him use it. Lock it up. Tell him to feth off.

Good fences make good neighbors (and brothers).

This,
Instead of sharing, buy what you need from now on and don't let him use it, if you need to go halves with him still, he might eventually come around, especially if the stuff you are using is the stuff he needs too.

Getting angry, messing with his models or inserting your bodily fluids into his stuff is just childish and makes you look worse than him, although back in my day a simple smack would have solved the issue !!!

Just buy your own and don't inform him of it.

Dear diary.

OK, folks, if you have nothing actually helpful to contribute, feel free to not post.

 timetowaste85 wrote:
Sounds from the post that you're of an age where you should sit down with your parent(s) and him and talk it out. Gets a bit more tricky when it's issues with family members.

Agreed... I think you could of kept this topc off the forums... this is something Dr. Phil should handle lol.

If anything just pay for it yourself and don't let him use it.

Yes. This seems pretty solidly in a personal blog/TALK TO YOUR PARENTS realm.

 Matthew wrote:

 the_Armyman wrote:
Step 1: Choose a color he uses a lot.
Step 2: Add a bodily fluid to the color. Give a good shake.
Step 3: Quietly giggle a little every time he uses that color.

Fight immaturity with immaturity.

Dude, I'm 13. I'm not sure my body can produce such liquids.

But thanks

You don't produce spit or mucus? What exactly do they feed you over in Sweden? I think the point is that if you're 13, the last place you should ask interpersonal/relationship advice from is strangers on the Internet. Ask someone you trust. Y'know, like parents.

Play nice, folks - he asked for advice.

I am in the 'if your brother isn't willing to pay then he can't use it' camp.

Sounds like he may have had a grievance of some sort, and then escalated.

But, just take the paints that you alone paid for, along with the green stuff, and put them away from the communal supplies.

Thirteen is a good age to get into the hobby - I got into wargaming when I was twelve, back in the seventies - and I have stayed in it for a long time now.

The Auld Grump - I was wargaming before there was D&D.... but not by much.

My advice: He's your brother. Enjoy that you both have a hobby you can enjoy together. You're saying that you don't feel that he's covering his fair share, but you don't mention - will you have to go without if he doesn't kick in? If you can afford it, and are just unhappy about the unfairness of it - then I would say just eat the cost. Life is very rarely super fair.

He's your brother, and will be so for the rest of your life. I know you are 13, and the days seem like forever, but life is short, man. It's very very short and sometimes cut short or changed dramatically and permanently in the blink of an eye. It's certainly not worth squabbling over a few drops of paint and glue for a game you probably won't even play in a year or so.

Just buy the primer. If he wants to use a little, then let him but say, "Next time, I'd appreciate if you contribute to the next can please."
If he uses the entire can, ask him to get the next one.

Don't sweat the small things, especially with family.

And no, don't tamper with his models or paints, you wouldn't like it if someone pulled that on you, just treat it with maturity. It's less fun, but family is for a very long time, painting isn't, necessarily.

Play the long game.

<flash forward 10 years>

“Remember when we were younger and you always tried to get out of paying for your share of hobby supplies?”
“Yah, I was kinda a tool back then, sorry”
“It’s OK, I forgive you, but you are buying the next round of drinks”

Profit.