Is it okay to ask the person bagging your groceries out on a date? Like would it be rude? There's other people in the line waiting for their items bagged as well, there's a bit of an audience, etc. Should I take any opportunity I can?

I think asking anyone you don't already know on a date is going to be kind of awkward regardless of context, but asking someone in the middle of their job seems more awkward than other scenarios. Not rude, but maybe a wee bit weird.

However if you really really want to ask said person and you don't want to be a stalker hanging out waiting for them to leave the store (for the love of me don't do that XD), I'd suggest asking if he/she is seeing anyone first and if they seem uncomfortable apologize and let it go. If they say they are not, and don't look like they're about to call the creep police (security) on you then try asking for his/her number and ask if it would be okay to call them when they're off work.

But what do I fething know. I'm a nerd XD

Nope.

Nope nope nope.

When someone is busy at work all you're likely to do is piss them off and/or embarrass them, and even if they may have said yes under other circumstances, they'll likely say no because of either reason.

Plus you have to be prepared for a robust rejection in public.

I once mentioned in passing to a doorman outside a night club that I quite fancied one of the barmaids while we were milling around outside after closing waiting for some other friends to catch up. Out of devilment or a genuine attempt to be helpful, I will never know, he must have nipped back inside without my notice. A few minutes later, said barmaid appeared on the step outside the entrance, and quite loudly said "did somebody want to speak to me, as it's late and I want to get home to my boyfriend?!"

I then had to meekly confess it was me, and I wanted to ask her out, but I'd already got my answer. That must have been in front of 20 strangers and half a dozen friends.

It was rough!

Try and catch them in a break, or when the queue is empty if there's no other way to interact with them, but I'd try and have a little chat and a laugh with them over a few occasions and try and build a platform first, and give yourself chance to assess how receptive they are.

But don't be creepy about it!

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO.

People at work in a customer service position risk getting fired if they aren't 200% polite and respectful and submissive at all times, and you want to put them in a situation where rejecting you means risking their job? no don't do this. And beyond the pressure issue there's no reason to think that a customer service employee has any interest in you. You don't know them as a person, so why would you think they'd be a good match? There's almost zero chance this turns into anything but an awkward mess.

There's nothing wrong with scribbling your number on the back of the receipt, pushing it forward, smiling and saying to call you (or words to that effect) before leaving. Puts it in their ball court, doesn't distract them from their job with inane flirting, and means that they don't get put under pressure because you're already on the way out.

Hanging around and asking them out in a yes/no format, or asking for their number on the other hand, puts them in a horrendous position, and you shouldn't do it. Even if they're interested, their manager may nail them for it. Do the right thing instead.

 Ketara wrote:
There's nothing wrong with scribbling your number on the back of the receipt, pushing it forward, smiling and saying to call you (or words to that effect) before leaving. Puts it in their ball court, doesn't distract them from their job with inane flirting, and means that they don't get put under pressure because you're already on the way out.

Although one does then have to contend with the awkward third or fourth occasion when you bump into them in the store where it's now abundantly clear they ain't gonna be calling!

No, no NO!!!!!
I worked with some girls all this summer in a bar.
They would have people ask them out slot and give them their numbers. They hated it.
Me.....being their boss, would take the number, call them and pretend to be the girls, their reactions where great.
Never do it.

Most stores have a "no soliciting" policy in place, I assume that covers awkward attempts to solicit their employees for a romantic engagement...


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 hotsauceman1 wrote:
No, no NO!!!!!
I worked with some girls all this summer in a bar.
They would have people ask them out slot and give them their numbers. They hated it.
Me.....being their boss, would take the number, call them and pretend to be the girls, their reactions where great.
Never do it.

1. I have a hard time believing you were anyone's boss.

2. Taking customer information and using it to make prank calls is highly unprofessional, especially for someone in a position of authority.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
No, no NO!!!!!
I worked with some girls all this summer in a bar.
They would have people ask them out slot and give them their numbers. They hated it.
Me.....being their boss, would take the number, call them and pretend to be the girls, their reactions where great.
Never do it.

I have sufficient female friends who work retail and have favoured me with sufficient stories of being asked to know that I've never heard a horror story involving someone smoothly handing over their number and then leaving. Quite the opposite, I've heard plenty where it worked. It's when you act creepy, demanding, or insistent that it becomes problematic. No girl likes to be put on the spot, and by handing it over, delivering a friendly one or two liner with a smile, and departing, you offer no imposition.

If girls were that easily offended, the human race would never procreate.

 Ketara wrote:
There's nothing wrong with scribbling your number on the back of the receipt, pushing it forward, smiling and saying to call you (or words to that effect) before leaving. Puts it in their ball court, doesn't distract them from their job with inane flirting, and means that they don't get put under pressure because you're already on the way out.

Hanging around and asking them out in a yes/no format, or asking for their number on the other hand, puts them in a horrendous position, and you shouldn't do it. Even if they're interested, their manager may nail them for it. Do the right thing instead.

I'd second this. That said, there is one context I could see it being alright and that would be if it's basically dead (like a holiday or something), there are no customers in sight, and the cashiers are basically stuck sitting around trying to look busy. I've worked grocery before and it does happen. But I would still recommend the above (during a slower period) before that.

 Ketara wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
No, no NO!!!!!
I worked with some girls all this summer in a bar.
They would have people ask them out slot and give them their numbers. They hated it.
Me.....being their boss, would take the number, call them and pretend to be the girls, their reactions where great.
Never do it.

I have sufficient female friends who work retail and have favoured me with sufficient stories of being asked to know that I've never heard a horror story involving someone smoothly handing over their number and then leaving. Quite the opposite, I've heard plenty where it worked. It's when you act creepy, demanding, or insistent that it becomes problematic. No girl likes to be put on the spot, and by handing it over, delivering a friendly one or two liner with a smile, and departing, you offer no imposition.

If girls were that easily offended, the human race would never procreate.

This was at the local Waterpark, they where not smooth, I heard the term "Bitch" a couple of times when they asked



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 Nostromodamus wrote:
Most stores have a "no soliciting" policy in place, I assume that covers awkward attempts to solicit their employees for a romantic engagement...


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 hotsauceman1 wrote:
No, no NO!!!!!
I worked with some girls all this summer in a bar.
They would have people ask them out slot and give them their numbers. They hated it.
Me.....being their boss, would take the number, call them and pretend to be the girls, their reactions where great.
Never do it.

1. I have a hard time believing you were anyone's boss.

2. Taking customer information and using it to make prank calls is highly unprofessional, especially for someone in a position of authority.

Wow, Thanks
Yes I was someones boss, because I worked hard.
by work hard, I mean show up for work......

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
This was at the local Waterpark, they where not smooth, I heard the term "Bitch" a couple of times when they asked

So really then what you're saying is 'the people I've seen who've done this were acting like complete jerks', which then leads us to the conclusion 'don't act like a total jerk.' Which is, I think, something we can all agree is pretty sound advice. However, I don't think it supports the rest of your conclusion, that the only way to ask is to be a total jerk.

Just telling someone you'd like to get a coffee if they were interested, and leaving your number is not being a jerk. It's a 20 second thing at best.

The question comes with what you do if they say no, or don't call at all. Do you just stop going to that grocery store?

Well yes, Dont be a Jerk Obviously
But I know quite a few women who get hit on constantly at their job(One or two at the LGS) and they hate it because their working and they just want to do their job.

OP, you can always hit her in the head with your club and drag her to your cave, if nothing more works.

 Galas wrote:
OP, you can always hit her in the head with your club and drag her to your cave, if nothing more works.

Careful there, buckeroo, you're playing a dangerous game with those words.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Well yes, Dont be a Jerk Obviously
But I know quite a few women who get hit on constantly at their job(One or two at the LGS) and they hate it because their working and they just want to do their job.

But the whole point of the "number in receipt" idea is that it isn't "hitting on them" and it won't disrupt them in the execution of their duties.

I've heard of more than one colleague who put their numbers into cellphones they've sold, for instance, the guy who took it upon himself to look up a girls number on the computer and call her, he got fired.

It's all about staying in the lines and not making it awkward for either party.


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 Galas wrote:
OP, you can always hit her in the head with your club and drag her to your cave, if nothing more works.

You're assuming
a) it's a girl and
b) that Cheescat isn't one of those wet noodley armed type nerds who would simply get his ass kicked, girl or no.

 sebster wrote:
The question comes with what you do if they say no, or don't call at all. Do you just stop going to that grocery store?

There's plenty of grocery stores in Kamloops, so I have options if I really embarrass myself.

The number on the receipt thing sounds like the best idea. If I may ask though, do you get the impression this person likes you too in some way?

 Disciple of Fate wrote:
The number on the receipt thing sounds like the best idea. If I may ask though, do you get the impression this person likes you too in some way?

To me the purpose (or one of them at least) of a date is to find out if someone likes you or not, so I don't know yet.

 Tactical_Spam wrote:

 Galas wrote:
OP, you can always hit her in the head with your club and drag her to your cave, if nothing more works.

Careful there, buckeroo, you're playing a dangerous game with those words.

I apologize. I didn't wanted to offend any homo neanderthalensis and their rich traditions.

 Cheesecat wrote:
To me the purpose (or one of them at least) of a date is to find out if someone likes you or not, so I don't know yet.

To get a "yes" to a date they have to have some reason for thinking that a date is a good idea. If you're just picking random strangers and asking them out your chances of success are almost nonexistent, and you're going to get a ton of awkward rejections. Don't be that guy, only ask out people that seem to be interested, have things in common, etc.

(And don't forget that customer service employees have to be nice to you or they get fired. Smiling at you/wishing you a nice day/etc are just part of the job, they don't mean that someone likes you or even acknowledges you as more than just another annoying customer to deal with.)

 Galas wrote:

 Tactical_Spam wrote:

 Galas wrote:
OP, you can always hit her in the head with your club and drag her to your cave, if nothing more works.

Careful there, buckeroo, you're playing a dangerous game with those words.

I apologize. I didn't wanted to offend any homo neanderthalensis and their rich traditions.

My best friend is a Neanderthal.

I hope you know what I was getting at there though.

 Tactical_Spam wrote:

 Galas wrote:

 Tactical_Spam wrote:

 Galas wrote:
OP, you can always hit her in the head with your club and drag her to your cave, if nothing more works.

Careful there, buckeroo, you're playing a dangerous game with those words.

I apologize. I didn't wanted to offend any homo neanderthalensis and their rich traditions.

My best friend is a Neanderthal.

I hope you know what I was getting at there though.

Yes, I was just joking. But I had understand you. I'll refrain from joking with this in the future!

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Well yes, Dont be a Jerk Obviously
But I know quite a few women who get hit on constantly at their job(One or two at the LGS) and they hate it because their working and they just want to do their job.

Yeah, I think that is a fair point, and something a person has to be sensitive of when considering something like this. They shouldn't certainly be confident that the girl was doing more than just being polite, more even than that 'professional flirting' that is expected of many women in many public facing positions.

They'd have to judge there was an actual interest taken in them. Which, to be fair, is very hard to figure out a lot of the time.

 Cheesecat wrote:

 sebster wrote:
The question comes with what you do if they say no, or don't call at all. Do you just stop going to that grocery store?

There's plenty of grocery stores in Kamloops, so I have options if I really embarrass myself.

Give it a week and if she doesn't call don't worry about it. The next time you happen to be at her register just be friendly and toss out something along the lines of 'no worries' as you leave. It's not like she has personally evaluated you and decided you're bad--you don't know each other after all, and there's a million reasons completely unrelated to you that she might say no. As much as 'I don't have the time/energy for a relationship right now' may seem like a cover it can easily be the truth.

Yes - dont turn your nose up at her because she has a menial job.

No - dont hit on her at work. Passing her a note might work and can be discrete.

I think a note might be the way to go.

You could write something like,

Hi, sorry if this is awkward as you're obviously busy at work.

I just wanted to let you know I think you're interesting and wondered maybe you'd like to go out sometime? No problem if not but here's my number/social media anyway

Thanks, Cheesecat

P.S Blood for the blood god

I feel this thread needs a distinctly 70s soundtrack. Boom cheeka wow wow!

hotsauceman1 wrote:
This was at the local Waterpark, they where not smooth, I heard the term "Bitch" a couple of times when they asked

The context of the question was 'How do I ask a girl out', not 'How do I negg a girl'. There are alternative methods of hitting on someone without acting like a moron reading an internet 101.

Sebster wrote:The question comes with what you do if they say no, or don't call at all. Do you just stop going to that grocery store?

See, I live in London where your odds of seeing them again are pretty remote. Heck, even if you frequent the same large supermarket, odds of seeing them again are small. Not to mention that even if you do, it's easy to just use another cashier's terminal to pay. Or even self-service. Nobody's going to push an interaction. And even if you did, British people would be unlikely to say anything nasty. After all, even if they decide not to call you, you did pay them a compliment by asking them out (assuming you didn't use the word 'b***h....)

obsidianaura wrote:Hi, sorry if this is awkward as you're obviously busy at work.

I just wanted to let you know I think you're interesting and wondered maybe you'd like to go out sometime? No problem if not but here's my number/social media anyway

Thanks, Cheesecat

I'm sorry, but that sounds awkward as hell.

Thing to remember is this is an elevator pitch. You want to make yourself seem as attractive as possible in a short window without giving off any negative vibes. She doesn't know you, she has no reason to want to. She's at work. That means the only reasons she will accept your proposal are based on i) how good looking you are, and ii) how well you deliver the proposal.

If you furtively wander up, squeak 'Please take this' before your trembling hand thrusts a receipt into hers and you scurry off, you're just going to come off badly. If that receipt has a lovingly crafted detailed message on the back, it'll not only look like you're passing love notes in college, it removes the whole casual pressure-free basis of the interaction. How the hell would you know if she was interesting? Are you watching her? These are things girls have to worry about, and it distracts somewhat from getting the result you want.

The perfect pitch is short, sweet, delivers a reason for her to say yes, and an easy exit for everyone involved. You make sure you're dressed up nice. You walk up to the till. You buy something (what you buy is a subject for another matter, don't be the dillweed who asks for an extra large box of condoms). You smile, and wait for the transaction to go through. Ask for the receipt before she can offer it to you. Whip out a pen and scribble your number on the back, whilst smoothly complimenting something not obvious ('I've just got to say, I love your different colour nails/interesting hairpiece/whatever), then smile and push the receipt across the counter to her whilst seguing into the follow up 'You know, I'm about the next few days if you want to grab coffee or a drink or something. My name's x. Here's my number if you're interested'. Then you depart in as stylish and casual a fashion as you can manage.

In doing so, you're saying 'I am confident enough to see a girl I fancy, and ask her out in a low-key non-douchey way'. If she likes the look of you, and she has some time spare, she might well take you up on it. If she thought you were fugly, it won't happen, but in that case, it was never gonna happen.

A woman's perception of a man's attractiveness is less linked to physical features than the other way around though. Keep it cool, confident, and casual, and you'll have loaded the social stack in your favour as much as you can. That's all you can ever hope for.

 Galas wrote:
OP, you can always hit her in the head with your club and drag her to your cave, if nothing more works.

This is eerily similar to how I became married. Even after all these years, she can still swing that bat!

 Ketara wrote:

hotsauceman1 wrote:
This was at the local Waterpark, they where not smooth, I heard the term "Bitch" a couple of times when they asked

The context of the question was 'How do I ask a girl out', not 'How do I negg a girl'. There are alternative methods of hitting on someone without acting like a moron reading an internet 101.

Sebster wrote:The question comes with what you do if they say no, or don't call at all. Do you just stop going to that grocery store?

See, I live in London where your odds of seeing them again are pretty remote. Heck, even if you frequent the same large supermarket, odds of seeing them again are small. Not to mention that even if you do, it's easy to just use another cashier's terminal to pay. Or even self-service. Nobody's going to push an interaction. And even if you did, British people would be unlikely to say anything nasty. After all, even if they decide not to call you, you did pay them a compliment by asking them out (assuming you didn't use the word 'b***h....)

obsidianaura wrote:Hi, sorry if this is awkward as you're obviously busy at work.

I just wanted to let you know I think you're interesting and wondered maybe you'd like to go out sometime? No problem if not but here's my number/social media anyway

Thanks, Cheesecat

I'm sorry, but that sounds awkward as hell.

You left out the P.S, its vital!

Seriously though, I feel like it's the least awkward, most merciful way to do it in a busy supermarket. I guess it depends on the delivery. I've been in the same relationship for nearly 14 years so am far from an expert.

 Ketara wrote:


A woman's perception of a man's attractiveness is less linked to physical features than the other way around though. Keep it cool, confident, and casual, and you'll have loaded the social stack in your favour as much as you can. That's all you can ever hope for.

Shouldn't generalise about women, they hate that... generally.

 obsidianaura wrote:
I think a note might be the way to go.

You could write something like,

Hi, sorry if this is awkward as you're obviously busy at work.

I just wanted to let you know I think you're interesting and wondered maybe you'd like to go out sometime? No problem if not but here's my number/social media anyway

Thanks, Cheesecat

I have to concur with you and Ketara. I don't think in general she would be off limits, but you have to be show some discretion about when - pick your moment. Not when she's busy, and don't be weird about it.

If she doesn't ever contact you, I would never, ever bring it up again. You could keep shopping there but I would uh, at least avoid her line if possible.


For what it's worth, my friend once tried this with the girl at the counter at McDonalds. They would up getting married and having 2 kids together.


PS YOU OBVIOUSLY NEED TO FOLLOW UP IN THIS THREAD WITH WHAT HAPPENED NO MATTER THE OUTCOME

 Cheesecat wrote:
Is it okay to ask the person bagging your groceries out on a date? Like would it be rude? There's other people in the line waiting for their items bagged as well, there's a bit of an audience, etc. Should I take any opportunity I can?

If you're nervous, stuff a sausage down your pants.

Edit: Down the FRONT of your pants.

 kronk wrote:

 Cheesecat wrote:
Is it okay to ask the person bagging your groceries out on a date? Like would it be rude? There's other people in the line waiting for their items bagged as well, there's a bit of an audience, etc. Should I take any opportunity I can?

If you're nervous, stuff a sausage down your pants.

Edit: Down the FRONT of your pants.

Pay for it first though.
A woman was arrested for 'using' a sausage in the shop's toilets last week....

There is no good way to do this..... so just do it anyway.

Dating is a numbers game, the more you ask for dates the more you get. You don't even have to be good at it.

Too many people focus on "the right thing to say" insteaad of just getting out there and asking. The number one reason a person doesn't get a date is because they never ask for one.

Therefore, Carpe Diem... or seize the sausage and shove it down someone's pants..... or something.

I've been slipped a number while working in a grocery store before, never called and never saw them again so it all worked out.

However I was out on the floor at the time so it was no big deal really.

Don't do it while they're at the register it'll be super awkward.
Just remember, if it'll put them on the spot in front of others or possibly hold up other customers:

 n0t_u wrote:

Don't do it while they're at the register it'll be super awkward.
Just remember, if it'll put them on the spot in front of others or possibly hold up other customers:

Agreed. You're trying to ask them out, not embarrass them.

I say no. I have some sort of vague notion that I haven't fleshed out yet about it being a similar relationship as to the one between employer and employee. It's similar to, but not quite as dire as the bartender or waitress situation.

You're potentially putting her on the spot in front of other people. In her mind, she might have to be concerned about how you'll react if she turns you down. Are you going to be cool if that happens? Are you going to make a scene and try to get her in trouble with her employer?

I mean, I'm sure that kind of stuff happens all the time, so it's probably not that big of a deal. It's not something I go for though.

 daedalus wrote:
I say no. I have some sort of vague notion that I haven't fleshed out yet about it being a similar relationship as to the one between employer and employee. It's similar to, but not quite as dire as the bartender or waitress situation.

You're potentially putting her on the spot in front of other people. In her mind, she might have to be concerned about how you'll react if she turns you down. Are you going to be cool if that happens? Are you going to make a scene and try to get her in trouble with her employer?

I mean, I'm sure that kind of stuff happens all the time, so it's probably not that big of a deal. It's not something I go for though.

I think that rather than issuing 'rules' (Do it/don't do it at the register), it is better to simply gauge when it would be appropriate. Doing it to an employee in training with a manager behind them is very obviously a no go. Doing it immediately after you've watched them have a ten minute issue with a problem customer? Likewise. Doing it with a line of fifty people standing grumbling behind you? She's probably stressed out. So a bad time. etcetc

On the other hand, if it's a relaxed day, and other patrons/cashiers are spaced out enough not to be breathing down the girl's neck? You're probably good.

There's nothing more wrong about doing it at the register than there is at any spot in the shop, or indeed, general public. The key to remember is that much like the rest of life, there is a time and a place. Gauge the situation before doing your receipt scribble and cheeky smile (or whatever method you're planning on). Don't be a creep and a douche. Don't put them on the spot. Just leave them with all the knowledge they need (your name, number, the fact you're damn fine/interested in them), and leave the ball entirely in their court to act upon or not at a time of their choosing.

 Ketara wrote:
I think that rather than issuing 'rules' (Do it/don't do it at the register), it is better to simply gauge when it would be appropriate. Doing it to an employee in training with a manager behind them is very obviously a no go. Doing it immediately after you've watched them have a ten minute issue with a problem customer? Likewise. Doing it with a line of fifty people standing grumbling behind you? She's probably stressed out. So a bad time. etcetc

Probably the best time would be at night when she's walking to her car after work.

 Ouze wrote:

 Ketara wrote:
I think that rather than issuing 'rules' (Do it/don't do it at the register), it is better to simply gauge when it would be appropriate. Doing it to an employee in training with a manager behind them is very obviously a no go. Doing it immediately after you've watched them have a ten minute issue with a problem customer? Likewise. Doing it with a line of fifty people standing grumbling behind you? She's probably stressed out. So a bad time. etcetc

Probably the best time would be at night when she's walking to her car after work.

Sounds like a winner.

One mans smooth is another mans smarm. Any fella dressed up like he's god's gift and dripping with all the smooth he can muster is a whole lot of try-hard in some people's books. If that's really not you don't fake it.

Then again if buying a bag of lime and a shovel five minuets before closing time and asking the cashier when she's getting off for the night is more your style... then maybe don't be yourself.

Jokes aside, Its hard that you have no other place to bump into them. Kinda not ideal circumstances are pushing into dodgey territory and you're clearly aware of that. Points for general social awareness in your favour at least.

 Frazzled wrote:

 Ouze wrote:

 Ketara wrote:
I think that rather than issuing 'rules' (Do it/don't do it at the register), it is better to simply gauge when it would be appropriate. Doing it to an employee in training with a manager behind them is very obviously a no go. Doing it immediately after you've watched them have a ten minute issue with a problem customer? Likewise. Doing it with a line of fifty people standing grumbling behind you? She's probably stressed out. So a bad time. etcetc

Probably the best time would be at night when she's walking to her car after work.

Sounds like a winner.

While wearing only the finest of balacaavs!

Kamloops is not a huge town. It shouldn't be too difficult to "bump in" to her somewhere else and "recognize" her from the grocery. (hopefully) it will flatter her that you remember her face and then you can easily ask her out.

Her first name + name of store will probably get you her FB profile. Sounds stalker-ish I guess but it's probably a better idea than ambushing her at work.

I'd say just ask her out. Just find a good time to do it like when she's not at work so she's not on the spot. Wait till she's not busy, taking a break or maybe about to go home. You can even ask her when she gets off work. Try not to be awkward about it though that might be hard since we're all socially awkward nerds here.

Anyway my brother in law met my half sister because she was a waitress at a diner or something. He had to have his sister wing-man (wing-woman?) for him though. Also helps to have a lady bro as a wing-man. I imagine it's true that women make the best wing-men. They know what women want and usually they're not interested in the woman in question.

Get naked and jump up on the conveyor then proceed to urinate everywhere to both mark your territory and as a display of dominance. This will impress everyone at the store and get the cashier to notice and respect you. Police will arrive just to cheer you on.

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
I'd say just ask her out. Just find a good time to do it like when she's not at work so she's not on the spot. Wait till she's not busy, taking a break or maybe about to go home. You can even ask her when she gets off work. Try not to be awkward about it though that might be hard since we're all socially awkward nerds here.

Oh no. Nothing says "hi, I'm a stalker, want to date me and see what happens?" like following a person of interest and waiting to ambush them at the right moment.

I said ask them during break but fine whatever.

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
I said ask them during break but fine whatever.

And how do you know when they have a break? Someone coming up to talk to me on my way to my break might as well be carrying a giant sign saying "I'VE BEEN LURKING AND WATCHING YOU TO SEE WHEN YOU TAKE A BREAK", at which point my only concern is getting out of the awkward situation without things getting any worse.

 Ahtman wrote:
Get naked and jump up on the conveyor then proceed to urinate everywhere to both mark your territory and as a display of dominance. This will impress everyone at the store and get the cashier to notice and respect you. Police will arrive just to cheer you on.

No bar code, no conveyor for you!

 BigWaaagh wrote:

 Ahtman wrote:
Get naked and jump up on the conveyor then proceed to urinate everywhere to both mark your territory and as a display of dominance. This will impress everyone at the store and get the cashier to notice and respect you. Police will arrive just to cheer you on.

No bar code, no conveyor for you!

A marker and a steady hand can fix that. Or a tattoo. The question is what do you want to ring up as? And where to put the code.

 Ahtman wrote:
Get naked and jump up on the conveyor then proceed to urinate everywhere to both mark your territory and as a display of dominance. This will impress everyone at the store and get the cashier to notice and respect you. Police will arrive just to cheer you on.

Ahtman has the true way of it.

 Nevelon wrote:

 BigWaaagh wrote:

 Ahtman wrote:
Get naked and jump up on the conveyor then proceed to urinate everywhere to both mark your territory and as a display of dominance. This will impress everyone at the store and get the cashier to notice and respect you. Police will arrive just to cheer you on.

No bar code, no conveyor for you!

A marker and a steady hand can fix that. Or a tattoo. The question is what do you want to ring up as? And where to put the code.

Vienna sausage $1.99

 Skinnereal wrote:

 kronk wrote:

 Cheesecat wrote:
Is it okay to ask the person bagging your groceries out on a date? Like would it be rude? There's other people in the line waiting for their items bagged as well, there's a bit of an audience, etc. Should I take any opportunity I can?

If you're nervous, stuff a sausage down your pants.

Edit: Down the FRONT of your pants.

Pay for it first though.
A woman was arrested for 'using' a sausage in the shop's toilets last week....

I ddn't need to know that. Because its the sort of offense that could be repeatable and now I wonder if on previous occasions she put the sausage back.


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 BigWaaagh wrote:

 Ahtman wrote:
Get naked and jump up on the conveyor then proceed to urinate everywhere to both mark your territory and as a display of dominance. This will impress everyone at the store and get the cashier to notice and respect you. Police will arrive just to cheer you on.

No bar code, no conveyor for you!

Never tried a barcode reader on a cell door, wonder what happens.

Why would you ask for dating advice on a miniatures site?

Your odds of success are directly proportional to the attributes you possess that she likes. Handsome, friendly, confident guy can do things that are romantic that seem creepy when some odd looking, awkward guy does it.

With retail or service never make a move when they are busy. It's just going to piss everyone off. Try going in during off hours and do a little friendly chit chat, flirt a bit and gauge interest. Keep it light and friendly. It is okay to go in on a few off days (preferably spread out over a few weeks) to build a bit of a connection and gauge personalities. But do not harass her, get upset, or continue if she indicates disinterest. That's stalker territory.

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
a lady bro

I thought those were called

.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
a lady bro

I thought those were called

Spoiler:

sis

.

Jamie Lannister agrees.

Ouze wrote:

PS YOU OBVIOUSLY NEED TO FOLLOW UP IN THIS THREAD WITH WHAT HAPPENED NO MATTER THE OUTCOME

Yes, please!

kronk wrote:

 Cheesecat wrote:
Is it okay to ask the person bagging your groceries out on a date? Like would it be rude? There's other people in the line waiting for their items bagged as well, there's a bit of an audience, etc. Should I take any opportunity I can?

If you're nervous, stuff a sausage down your pants.

Edit: Down the FRONT of your pants.

Excellent advice there - and LOL funny too!

Well, No Answer.
Must has asked her, Gotten Married and have 3.5 kids alread.

You have 2 basic approaches. If you do use the first one- please, please have one of your friends film it for us.


And the second is a variation on that.
On a not busy moment (like no customers near, the cashier looks bored) buy a notepad and a pen. Pay with your debit card. Enter the wrong number enough times to catch her attention. Smile disarmingly at her, crack open the notepad and pick up the pen and say 'My number isn't working- could I have yours?'

Either way, try to remember exactly what she says.

Yeah... I'm going to pass on the cheesy one liners, never liked those make my skin crawl. So that's a definite no go.


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Also creating convoluted and/or contrived scenarios seems creepy and weird, doesn't come across as natural and comforting.

You might be...overthinking it now.

Yeah, who knew asking out a person at work was so complicated? I think what you really need is an elaborate flowchart, and 16 contingency plans.

 jmurph wrote:
Why would you ask for dating advice on a miniatures site?

The same reason there is a thread on how to remove scale from a bathtub, or fix their car, or why there is a new thread every week from someone asking how to fix their computer

Statement Redacted.

Better the grocery store than the strip club. Go for it nugget.

That is so corny it at the very least would work in a romcom XD

 Verviedi wrote:
Yeah, who knew asking out a person at work was so complicated? I think what you really need is an elaborate flowchart, and 16 contingency plans.

As someone who did that.......it is awkward as all hell
Honestly, I wouldnt, but I only like someone if I knew them for a bit and chatted with them for awhile.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:

 Verviedi wrote:
Yeah, who knew asking out a person at work was so complicated? I think what you really need is an elaborate flowchart, and 16 contingency plans.

As someone who did that.......it is awkward as all hell
Honestly, I wouldnt, but I only like someone if I knew them for a bit and chatted with them for awhile.

Yeah, I tried dating at work, did not work out... I now have a personal rule where I don't date colleagues.

 Ouze wrote:

 jmurph wrote:
Why would you ask for dating advice on a miniatures site?

The same reason there is a thread on how to remove scale from a bathtub, or fix their car, or why there is a new thread every week from someone asking how to fix their computer

Yeah, the scale one cracks me up. Apparently someone who logs into an internet forum that has never heard of YouTube or DIY searches....

 hotsauceman1 wrote:

 Verviedi wrote:
Yeah, who knew asking out a person at work was so complicated? I think what you really need is an elaborate flowchart, and 16 contingency plans.

As someone who did that.......it is awkward as all hell
Honestly, I wouldnt, but I only like someone if I knew them for a bit and chatted with them for awhile.

As a professional elaborate flowchart maker, I wouldn't know. I get through every interaction by pulling out a flowchart to obscure my face, and follow it exactly. I have never felt lost in a conversation, and everyone wonders what my face looks like behind the giant sheet of paper.

 Verviedi wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:

 Verviedi wrote:
Yeah, who knew asking out a person at work was so complicated? I think what you really need is an elaborate flowchart, and 16 contingency plans.

As someone who did that.......it is awkward as all hell
Honestly, I wouldnt, but I only like someone if I knew them for a bit and chatted with them for awhile.

As a professional elaborate flowchart maker, I wouldn't know. I get through every interaction by pulling out a flowchart to obscure my face, and follow it exactly. I have never felt lost in a conversation, and everyone wonders what my face looks like behind the giant sheet of paper.

A bit of mystery never hurts when trying to make a love connection via flowchart. Bravo.

 Verviedi wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:

 Verviedi wrote:
Yeah, who knew asking out a person at work was so complicated? I think what you really need is an elaborate flowchart, and 16 contingency plans.

As someone who did that.......it is awkward as all hell
Honestly, I wouldnt, but I only like someone if I knew them for a bit and chatted with them for awhile.

As a professional elaborate flowchart maker, I wouldn't know. I get through every interaction by pulling out a flowchart to obscure my face, and follow it exactly. I have never felt lost in a conversation, and everyone wonders what my face looks like behind the giant sheet of paper.

There is no face. Only another flowchart.

I am annoyed at the lack of epilogue here. What happened?

Just wait for a girl to ask you out so you can die happy and alone with your miniatures!

So what happened?

I am sure OP is too busy with his new girlfriend to even respond to us losers on Dakka.

 Easy E wrote:
I am sure OP is too busy with his new girlfriend to even respond to us losers on Dakka.

Ha ha. Good one. This is an awesome thread. If the OP is still here, there's a Red Hot Chili Peppers song called Deep Kick where at the end Flea sings out:

"But the Butt-hole Surfers said
It's better to regret something you did
Than something you didn't do"

Of course, that's not always true, but I generally feel Flea is correct here. If there's this girl that has your heart at a supermarket in Kamloops, ask her out.

There was this girl in high school I liked my entire senior year (and my freshman year in college) and I never asked her out. I spent the entire senior year imagining talking to her and asking her out and just never got the balls to do it. I still regret it- just because she became such an obsession that I wasted so much time thinking about.

 Easy E wrote:
I am sure OP is too busy with his new girlfriend to even respond to us losers on Dakka.

Or she was the friendly neighbourhood axe murderer. Life is a game of chance sometimes.

 n0t_u wrote:

 Easy E wrote:
I am sure OP is too busy with his new girlfriend to even respond to us losers on Dakka.

Or she was the friendly neighbourhood axe murderer. Life is a game of chance sometimes.

"Would you like to eat with me?," he stammered, his boylike awkwardness readily visible.

"Yes, yes I would like to eat you" she replied with a smile that showed too many teeth, "I mean with you."

Now that would be an appropriate ending.

 Ouze wrote:
So what happened?

I'm going to guess:

1) Nothing

Or maybe:

2) Nothing good!

I mean, of course we all hope it all went well, but the radio silence here is deafening!

Her checkout was probably the only one open and he's still waiting in line.

 Ouze wrote:
So what happened?

So far nothing, I mean at any time I half a dozen things going on at once, DIY speaker stand project, making dinner, house cleaning, going to the pub with some friends, visiting my family, video games, career planning, car maintenance, work, online shopping, volunteering, etc. So if I encounter

her again that's cool, l might try something, if not plenty of fish in the sea. So yeah, I have too many things on my mind to be even that concerned about this, it also explains why I don't comment much on Dakka.

I approve of this. Career planning and work > dating, in every single possible situation.

 Cheesecat wrote:
it also explains why I don't comment much on Dakka.

8132 posts.



Well best of luck if you ever get around to it mate

 Nostromodamus wrote:

 Cheesecat wrote:
it also explains why I don't comment much on Dakka.

8132 posts.



Well best of luck if you ever get around to it mate

Just over 3 posts a day in 7 years isn't too much of a chatty cathy!

Best not to ask them out at their place of work, that typically does not go over well.

If you know them outside of work that'd be much better, else you're in a bit of a tough spot.

Best of luck!

So, is this thread all done then?

Seems like it might have been better off on a personal blog/social media site?

 Nostromodamus wrote:
Her checkout was probably the only one open and he's still waiting in line.

Sadly, she was replaced by a self-check-out machine that was not interested in the OP's advances.

 Easy E wrote:

 Nostromodamus wrote:
Her checkout was probably the only one open and he's still waiting in line.

Sadly, she was replaced by a self-check-out machine that was not interested in the OP's advances.

"Unexpected item in bagging area".

 Nostromodamus wrote:

 Cheesecat wrote:
it also explains why I don't comment much on Dakka.

8132 posts.



Well best of luck if you ever get around to it mate

Pfffffff 8k posts is little league

 KingCracker wrote:

 Nostromodamus wrote:

 Cheesecat wrote:
it also explains why I don't comment much on Dakka.

8132 posts.



Well best of luck if you ever get around to it mate

Pfffffff 8k posts is little league

We wanna get answers!
You have peaked our intrest and dashed our hopes!

8k, call me when you hit 18k lol

 jhe90 wrote:


8k, call me when you hit 18k lol

Poll: When is it okay to ask out another poster?

Responses:
1+ Post
5K+ Posts
18K+ posts
When you have equalled their post count
Never
Only at the grocery store

What kind of scale is that?! Completely nonlinear. For shame. 5k intervals or nothing.

 Verviedi wrote:
What kind of scale is that?! Completely nonlinear. For shame. 5k intervals or nothing.

That's going to take me nearly 50 years, are you mad

 Cheesecat wrote:

 Ouze wrote:
So what happened?

So far nothing, I mean at any time I half a dozen things going on at once, DIY speaker stand project, making dinner, house cleaning, going to the pub with some friends, visiting my family, video games, career planning, car maintenance, work, online shopping, volunteering, etc. So if I encounter

her again that's cool, l might try something, if not plenty of fish in the sea. So yeah, I have too many things on my mind to be even that concerned about this, it also explains why I don't comment much on Dakka.

Sounds like someone is trying to deflect from the fact that they haven't sacked up and asked yet.

 Easy E wrote:

 jhe90 wrote:


8k, call me when you hit 18k lol

Poll: When is it okay to ask out another poster?

Responses:
1+ Post
5K+ Posts
18K+ posts
When you have equalled their post count
Never
Only at the grocery store

Lol I never meant to imply that. Oops I guess.

New forum version? . A couple who meet purely on dakka and get married get dcm for life...
Somehow I doubt Lego be adding too many lifetime dcm accounts. Could be funny if it did happen though!

 jhe90 wrote:

 KingCracker wrote:

 Nostromodamus wrote:

 Cheesecat wrote:
it also explains why I don't comment much on Dakka.

8132 posts.



Well best of luck if you ever get around to it mate

Pfffffff 8k posts is little league

We wanna get answers!
You have peaked our intrest and dashed our hopes!

8k, call me when you hit 18k lol

26.4k and still counting. There are others with waaaaaay more than that

Crazy fact - you do still have to stay On Topic in the Off Topic forum.

Weird, right?

 Alpharius wrote:
Crazy fact - you do still have to stay On Topic in the Off Topic forum.

Weird, right?

Did you just moderate a thread that hadn't been posted on in 4 days just to bump it?!?!?! I am on to you!

But really, you never asked? I notice in your "half a dozen things" that you said you sometimes enjoy "making dinner." I believe one needs groceries in order to do that and one would get those groceries at the grocery store.

Check and Mate good sir. Get your pen and paper buddy, you got a note to pass to a cashier like a 3rd grader.

"When I met your mother, I knew right away that she was the one...who was almost important enough to make time for so I could ask her out with a note."

 Dreadwinter wrote:


Check and Mate good sir. Get your pen and paper buddy, you got a note to pass to a cashier like a 3rd grader.

This had me laughing so hard my coworkers are staring at me.


But seriously, if thats the only place you see her, then go with the note. It will put her on the spot a whole lot less. Also, be prepared to take rejection like a proper sir, and respect her in her place of work.

It may well have been something he was asking about for a future action rather than something right now. I'm sure we can all appreciate being too busy to start a relationship; even if you have the literal time it doesn't mean you have the energy.

I remeber when Hlokk had a general relationship/dating thread up in the OT. That thread was gold and got me hooked into Dakka over other forums.

It got locked because the Mods thought it was too "Personal Blog" gy. Those were good times.

Yeah it's too bad the mods locked it. A bad roll on some Moderation Table was bound to happen but still.
I have promised myself I would let people from the thread know if I get a girlfriend, and it might happen soon btw .

 Easy E wrote:
I remeber when Hlokk had a general relationship/dating thread up in the OT. That thread was gold and got me hooked into Dakka over other forums.

It got locked because the Mods thought it was too "Personal Blog" gy. Those were good times.

That thread was great, I took all of its advice and it made me the man I am today..........*Takes a Drink*

Good God OP.

Fortune favors the bold. Walk right up to her and give her a damned note already. At least do that.

If I had more vacation time, Id drive up to BC myself and giver her a note for you.

Get on with it boy!

 Spacemanvic wrote:
Good God OP.

Fortune favors the bold. Walk right up to her and give her a damned note already. At least do that.

If I had more vacation time, Id drive up to BC myself and giver her a note for you.

Get on with it boy!

If Donald Trump could convince Melina to marry him. You can ask out a clerk. Be a hero, get the girl and ride the Harley into the sunset!

 jhe90 wrote:

 Spacemanvic wrote:
Good God OP.

Fortune favors the bold. Walk right up to her and give her a damned note already. At least do that.

If I had more vacation time, Id drive up to BC myself and giver her a note for you.

Get on with it boy!

If Donald Orange God Emprah Trump could convince Melina Melania to marry him. You can ask out a clerk. Be a hero, get the girl and ride the Harley tank into the sunset!

- FTFY

Oh look! US politics!!!

Can this stupid thread be closed now? Even a mod acknowledges this is "personal blog territory" so why has it gone on for 4 pages?

 Alpharius wrote:
So, is this thread all done then?

Seems like it might have been better off on a personal blog/social media site?

Agreed.