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So I was out late this afternoon with "the guys" watching some college football and drinking beer and rum.

I was the first one to leave, I left a bit early, the college games were not exciting and wanted to get home to cook dinner for my girl friend who I promised to make her favorite dish. Spaghetti with eggplant parmigiana and garlic bread, and picked up a bottle of her favorite red wine (Casella Wines' Yellow Tail Merlot, luckily it is cheap as hell).

I never thought about it as being whipped as I enjoy doing it and she loves my cooking so makes me happy. My friends see it as being whipped and another result of the new age "equal partnership".


I do see going to art shows and plays as being whipped though. Hate them, but she loves them and I love seeing her smile.

No.

It's a bit weird to think of showing care and affection for a loved one as being "whipped".

It seems such a "hyper-masculine" concept. Maybe there's some homosexual bonding sub-text going on.

Piston Honda wrote: My friends see it as being whipped and another result of the new age "equal partnership".

If your friends equate these two things, you need new friends.


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Piston Honda wrote:
I do see going to art shows and plays as being whipped though. Hate them, but she loves them and I love seeing her smile.

So long as you aren't doing more for her than she does for you, then I don't see why its being "whipped" unless "whipped" means "having a health relationship."

Im aggressively macho and even i don't see how that makes you whipped!

If you enjoy it, that's reason enough to do it.

Surely by definition you can only be whipped if you do things you hate just because your misses forces you into it. Thus if you derive pleasure from these things your doing it because you like it not because your whipped by the missus.

Im sure your mates are just taking the piss, I doubt anyone would think that merely cooking makes you a slave to your girlfriend anyway!

dogma wrote:

Piston Honda wrote: My friends see it as being whipped and another result of the new age "equal partnership".

If your friends equate these two things, you need new friends.


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Piston Honda wrote:
I do see going to art shows and plays as being whipped though. Hate them, but she loves them and I love seeing her smile.

So long as you aren't doing more for her than she does for you, then I don't see why its being "whipped" unless "whipped" means "having a health relationship."

Well I do like to be physically whipped. And spanked.


But that's another problem I have.

mattyrm wrote:
Im sure your mates are just taking the piss, I doubt anyone would think that merely cooking makes you a slave to your girlfriend anyway!

Well, no one that isn't an awful misogynist.

dogma wrote:

mattyrm wrote:
Im sure your mates are just taking the piss, I doubt anyone would think that merely cooking makes you a slave to your girlfriend anyway!

Well, no one that isn't an awful misogynist.

Maybe he's friends with Russell Crowe!

Nah, he only forces his phone (number) on men.

My wife is truly dreadful at cooking. If I didn't cook, we would either starve or subsist entirely on takeaway.

Cooking for ones significant other isnt a sign of whippage. Its a sign of knowing how to appease our savage overlor... uhh i mean wives and girlfriends...

My mates used to give me grief about me cooking the odd meal for my better half or even taking her out to dinner on the rare occasion. But when some of them came to the realisation that a boyfriend who can cook earns MAJOR brownie points the grief giving stopped. Hell even attempting to cook usually earns you at least some cred.

dogma wrote:Nah, he only forces his phone (number) on men.

I've thought of a better one..

Sean "sometimes they need a slap" Connery!

Being whipped means your being controlled by a girl, and your personality and habits change because of it.

If you cook because you like to, it's all good.
If you cook because she tells you to, you're whipped.

I guess your friends also think she should do all the cleaning and tidying lest you appear whipped.

My wife does most of the cooking, but that's because I'm not very good at it and she quite likes it. But I have cooked simple things for her many times.

Howard A Treesong wrote:

My wife does most of the cooking, but that's because I'm not very good at it and she quite likes it. But I have cooked simple things for her many times.

This is roughly what I do, though I'm not a terrible cook. I can cook easy stuff really well. Nothing that requires precision or patience.

Its what you enjoy. I do the majority of cooking but I do enjoy cooking overall....and grilling

Your friends are probably just winding you up. It sounds from your post like you have a normal relationship with your girlfriend. I mean, if she was demanding her favourite meal and wine from you, that's different.

Little gestures can end up getting big rewards.

Cooking, a spot of cleaning, watching Twighlight with your lady.

Your sex life just ends up better.

Mr. Burning wrote:...watching Twighlight with your lady.

Now lets not be too hasty.

Nope, not whipped at all. Id say whipped, would of been you watching the game with the guys, enjoying yourself, she phones in a little "Im lonely" and you just take off. I cook for the wife (and kids) often. I enjoy cooking too, soooooo your friends are dolts

If you like cooking, what's wrong with it?

Your friends are total douchebags.

A lot of guys have got the wrong idea about cooking.

The key thing to realise is that once you've cooked some stuff you can eat it.

mattyrm wrote: Im sure your mates are just taking the piss, I doubt anyone would think that merely cooking makes you a slave to your girlfriend anyway!

I've been around enough douchebags not to have similar doubts.

I mean hell, I know a woman who was accused of being a lesbian because she wanted the guys she went out with (and she only went out with guys, as she was heterosexual) wanted all dates to be paid half and half.

Douchebaggery like this isn't uncommon...

Ok Melissia, I think you need to take a step back and breathe or something. Im pretty sure his buds were mostly fething with him. No need to go and start a rampage against men from some harmless fun

KingCracker wrote:Ok Melissia, I think you need to take a step back and breathe or something. Im pretty sure his buds were mostly fething with him. No need to go and start a rampage against men from some harmless fun

Here's another example of exactly what I'm talking about. Some sees something I said, and then jumps off on a wild tangent and assumes that I'm being ultrafeminist.

How droll and unintelligent.

Did I say that the MEN were claiming she was a lesbian, now? I'm not "rampaging against men", that's just stupid and you should be ashamed of yourself for saying it.

Melissia wrote:

mattyrm wrote: Im sure your mates are just taking the piss, I doubt anyone would think that merely cooking makes you a slave to your girlfriend anyway!

I've been around enough douchebags not to have similar doubts.

I mean hell, I know a woman who was accused of being a lesbian because she wanted the guys she went out with (and she only went out with guys, as she was heterosexual) wanted all dates to be paid half and half.

Douchebaggery like this isn't uncommon...

Just saying, you make it PRETTY easy to tell where your going with this.

KingCracker wrote:Just saying, you make it PRETTY easy to tell where your going with this.

And yet, you still failed to do so.

Howard A Treesong wrote:

Mr. Burning wrote:...watching Twighlight with your lady.

Now lets not be too hasty.

I cant be too explicit but watching Twilight has ended up with me having 'fun times' with the wife. Give a little 'get' a little and all that!

Something about the love story and hot, shirtless guys is my guess, but I also have enjoyed those movies with the wife

Also, if you watch Twilight ironically and mock it a la MST3k, it can even be kinda fun.

"Chef" is a masculine word, and cooking is a manly activity, like eating raw red meat, and beating people up. The better question is, why would "friends" want you not to do something manly ?