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We have a bar at my company's head office, on Thursday and Friday nights only.

We hold a boardgames club there on Thursdays.

Kilkrazy wrote:We have a bar at my company's head office, on Thursday and Friday nights only.

We hold a boardgames club there on Thursdays.

Man, it sounds like you guys are a bunch of hooligans.

Although, I could see a Dust: Tactics boardgame Thursday being a pretty damned good night personally...

Kilkrazy wrote:We have a bar at my company's head office, on Thursday and Friday nights only.

We hold a boardgames club there on Thursdays.

..And there would be one of the (many) diferances in the white collar/blue collar work enviorments ...the best we ever get is a manager walking around the shop on Friday passing out cheap beer.

Cheap beer...company bar...

Cheap beer...company bar...

Wait, does the cheap beer also come with easy girls?

Kanluwen wrote:Cheap beer...company bar...

Cheap beer...company bar...

Wait, does the cheap beer also come with easy girls?

If some of the tales going around about some of the front office assistants are to be belived ...then yes,easy girls do figure into the picture..

We need a thinking Orc emoticon for this.

Because truly, this is mankind's greatest quandry.

Cheap beer and easy women or a full service bar.

Kanluwen wrote:We need a thinking Orc emoticon for this.

Because truly, this is mankind's greatest quandry.

Cheap beer and easy women or a full service bar.

Hmm...While my higher brain would enjoy all the perks of a full service company bar,my inner-reptile says pass the free Budwieser and lets go talk to the new girl from payroll.

Punch her back, right in the kisser.

Albatross wrote:If a (non-family) woman is comfortable with having physical contact with you, it generally means that she would be open to having sex with you.

This statement is absurd. Being willing (or even eager), to have some given kind of physical contact in some given context does not equate in any way to "I'd be OK with having sex with you".

I mean really, there are lots of kind of physical contact, most of them are no indicator whatsoever of sexual interest.

FITZZ wrote:

Ahtman wrote:I think you have confused being at work with being at a bar.

I hate when I do that...
The boss hates it even more though.

Being self employed my boss actively encourages it.

Ahtman wrote:I think you have confused being at work with being at a bar.

Exactly.

Since you have now given us her age of 19, Im quite certain she is like every other attention-seeking tween and is just flirting around the office to be 'popular'.

I also agree with handle in person/no bosses involved. it's a minor situation, and if they are looking at bumping you
up that may make them wonder if you could handle larger problems on your own.

and on a personal level, i hate dealing with HR, period. they're soulless machines that don't take real people into account it seems.
and for the record, i've never had a problem, but i've seen plenty of friends go through endless drama. and lets say she is in the least
case being truely friendly or worst case really hitting on you by hitting on you, her career could be affected by a simple misunderstanding.
that said, i'm not saying you should have to be uncomfortable or harrassed in anyway either.

bottom line, talk to her. people seem to always go to someone else to say something that they easily could have, or nothing at all. so many
issues could be resolved if people would just communicate.

Still no straight answer. She hit me again, but I think she finally stopped since she seemed to ignore me for the rest of the night.

And she's actually 18. /shootselfinhead

If the age difference bothers you try this: While having a normal conversation mention that a girl "right out of high school" keeps wanting to hang out and that you think it's weird because of the age difference. See how she responds. You may also want to find out if this is how she was raised (i.e. lots of brothers)

This thread is hilarious.

She is just messing with you, how does this warrant a thread at all? Its like tickling a girl when you were in highschool; didn't mean anything, you're just fooling around.

She is just trying to be liked in the office.

I have a female co-worker much older than me and she tends to treat me a bit like she would her own sons as I'm in the same age group as them. This was largely fine as we always had a friendly atmosphere, but on occasion when I did something wrong she would give me a slap over the back of my shoulder or similar which obviously crosses the boundries of a working environment. I liked her as a co-worker and also personally so I didn't want to say something that would "rock the boat" so my solution was simple, the next time she did it I turned and looked at her with my best angriest "I'm gonna kill you" expression which told her in no uncertain terms that such physical contact was acceptable, especially to me.

We laugh about it now but she knows not to do it and no feeling were hurt. Perhaps you could do something similar. She will hopefully just take it that you are having a really bad day and that its largely unwelcome and thus hopefully not take offence.


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Karon wrote:This thread is hilarious.

She is just messing with you, how does this warrant a thread at all? Its like tickling a girl when you were in highschool; didn't mean anything, you're just fooling around.

She is just trying to be liked in the office.

Of that I don't doubt, but in any working envirnoment its unprofessional and is not always recipiated by the person being poked. Imagine how she'd feel if she chose to poke the one guy in the office who is more than happy to press for sexual harassment? Extreme case I know, but you can't deny that it hasn't happened before.

Your right that she proberly is just trying to be liked, especially if she is new or generally insecure.

Ahtman wrote:I think you have confused being at work with being at a bar.

Actually I hate bars, as do a lot of people. So how does a person who hates bars meet new people? Work! presuming you work in a big enough place and not some tiny office or whatnot. But whatever, you can go on living your life believing that office romances always lead to lawsuits, firings and such.

Personally, I work in health care surrounded by women all day. Yes I get flirted with and yes I flirt back. as long as your not groping women and yelling "BOOBIES!!!" or in some other way being an ass, it is very harmless and fun. I'm not sleeping with any of them as I'm taken, but if I were single I would date at work no problem.

Grabzak Dirtyfighter wrote:

Ahtman wrote:I think you have confused being at work with being at a bar.

Actually I hate bars, as do a lot of people. So how does a person who hates bars meet new people? Work! presuming you work in a big enough place and not some tiny office or whatnot. But whatever, you can go on living your life believing that office romances always lead to lawsuits, firings and such.

Personally, I work in health care surrounded by women all day. Yes I get flirted with and yes I flirt back. as long as your not groping women and yelling "BOOBIES!!!" or in some other way being an ass, it is very harmless and fun. I'm not sleeping with any of them as I'm taken, but if I were single I would date at work no problem.

It's not so much that office/work related romances always lead to firings.lawsuits and such (though it does happen from time to time),it's more of a case that relationships often don't work out,so if you've started one with a co-worker and this occures your now (in many cases) in an awkward situation.
Now,it's not that I haven't,in the past,dated co-workers,it's simply that IMO (based on experiance and what I've seen of others) that 7 out of 10 times it leads to headaches.

Kanluwen wrote:Cheap beer...company bar...

Cheap beer...company bar...

Wait, does the cheap beer also come with easy girls?

Might be cheap company beer bar :(

She strikes me as being somewhat immature and insecure.


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And now for something completely different.

Just kidding, this is the latest development.

Well, I did talk to her about it and she stopped for a little while, but her self control is lacking. (You rack displine!)

I'm still undecided as to what is going on. It seems to me that she talks to me differently than other people. She asked me what I do at my other job, what I do for fun, etc. And then as I'm walking by minding my own business, this other guy is about to pick her up and she's resisting. She grabs at my arm, but I don't help because they're just screwing around. They stop it and she goes, "C'mon <insert my name>, you're supposed to help/save (I don't remember which) me!" It's a wtf moment for me, when did I become the white knight?

But yeah, I don't know what's going on. I usually pretty indifferent to women so I'm pretty poor at reading them.

Amaya wrote:I don't know if I should talk to a manager or something

Only if she starts dangling you up-side down and stealing your lunch-money

No, this can be resolved without management intervention, the guys here seem to have nailed it. Just speak to her in a casual and friendly manner about it, say that you don't really mind and quite enjoy the attention but as this is a place of work you feel the behaviour could be misconstrued as unprofessional, add you're just looking out for both of you professionally as it could reflect negatively on both you and her.

Leave her a note that says:

"Meet me under the jungle gym at 4, come alone."

Then don't show up. That will give her the message.

Karon wrote:This thread is hilarious.

She is just messing with you, how does this warrant a thread at all? Its like tickling a girl when you were in highschool; didn't mean anything, you're just fooling around.

She is just trying to be liked in the office.

Wow... already said this and completely glazed over by OP.

Kilkrazy wrote:You should talk to your HR department and ask their advice.

This young lady may secretly like you and this is her awkward way of expressing affection. Or she might be some kind of nutter.

Either way, relationships at work are best kept on a professional basis until the team personalities have thoroughly settled down and got used to each other.

As her behaviour is making you uncomfortable, it should be stopped. That needs to be done as gently as possible in order to avoid fallout.

This or alternatively spinning hook kick.

It sounds like she likes you. Perhaps you should talk to someone a little closer to the situation who knows you (and maybe even her) a bit better than the random intranetz people. Relationships and human interaction are sketchy enough things without throwing the work element into the mix. Personally, I'd just roll with it, feeling good about the fact that chicks are interested in me, but I've got a strict no-work policy. Though where I work does nothing to actively discourage it, it's just too much hassle and god knows this job is complicated enough as is.

Internet Mode:

YOU SHOULD TOTALLY PUNCH HER IN THE FACE WHILE SCREAMING "IT'S OVER 9000!" LOL!!!!11eleven1


Ugh.

Ahtman wrote:I think you have confused being at work with being at a bar.

Indeed. Trithfully if she does it again, say publicly in a voice loud enough to be hear by others that that activity is making you uncomfortable in a professional environment. If that doesn't work, hire some mercenaries with mad nunchuk skills.

Frazzled wrote:

Ahtman wrote:I think you have confused being at work with being at a bar.

Indeed. Trithfully if she does it again, say publicly in a voice loud enough to be hear by others that that activity is making you uncomfortable in a professional environment. If that doesn't work, hire some mercenaries with mad nunchuk skills.

I just did a numbers crunch, I don't think anyone can afford mercs with mad nunchuck skills.

Slarg232 wrote:

Frazzled wrote:

Ahtman wrote:I think you have confused being at work with being at a bar.

Indeed. Trithfully if she does it again, say publicly in a voice loud enough to be hear by others that that activity is making you uncomfortable in a professional environment. If that doesn't work, hire some mercenaries with mad nunchuk skills.

I just did a numbers crunch, I don't think anyone can afford mercs with mad nunchuck skills.

You have an excellent point.

Alternatively:
*Tell her you're married, and that your wife is Italian from New Jersey. Tell her your wife is both insanely jealous and has really bad impulse control. Laugh about the time you first met her inlaws, who are in "the business."

*Tell her you're married, but that your wife doesn't understand you.

Just say you're gay.

filbert wrote:Just say you're gay.

Just become gay.