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Well I imagine a wargaming forum isn't the best place to ask these questions. Thus my inability to take it seriously.

Also bro's before hoes.

metallifan wrote:

halonachos wrote:No metallifan, he's sure he wants to ask her out and feels that she has been coming on to him. His friend is the one who's a shy introvert.

Whatever, you don't win a race by letting others get ahead. Sounds cold, sure, but if his buddy won't make a move why should he have to sit and lament?

I've really got to agree here, as I said the OP has apparently been very supportive of his friend...and if his friend is content to sit in the shadows...then I really don't see why the OP should pass up a chance to make a connection.


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Shadowbrand wrote:Well I imagine a wargaming forum isn't the best place to ask these questions. Thus my inability to take it seriously.

... ...Let's not generalize here Shadow...not everyone who picks up some dice is unfamilar with the dating world.

Shadowbrand wrote:

It's okay, i'm here for you.

Like I said, I'm just empathetic to his friend. But if he feels like he really likes her then he should go for it, but he needs to tell his friend that he's going to do it instead of saying "If you don't ask her in a week.". To tell the truth you two don't seem to be very good friends if a girl is coming between you two and if neither of you is willing to be a wing man for the other then you're not really close friends. I have friends that tell me to "go for it" and I have friends who say "If you ask her out, tell her that you're going to get lunch or coffee with some friends and text me saying you need a wing man and I'll be there." and I appreciate the guys who do give me advice other than "just ask her out". In fact its why I'm shaving my face this weekend.

Just telling an introvert to go ask someone out is like telling a receiver who constantly drops the ball that he needs to hold on to the ball, its pointless advice.

Thanks man, feels good.

Makes me sad that not many women these days will let you pour fake blood all over them and play twister naked in the candle lit night to some Burzum.

Shadowbrand wrote:Thanks man, feels good.

Makes me sad that not many women these days will let you pour fake blood all over them and play twister naked in the candle lit night to some Burzum.

I would play twister naked with you Shadowbrand, maybe not with fake blood, but definitely naked twister.

Shadowbrand wrote:

...You know...I don't get it...Perhaps it's due to the fact that I had no idea what "wargamming" was until I was 30 so didn't grow up " under it's shadow" ..perhaps it's because I've never been shy and introverted...but I just don't get why so many gamers seem to view themselves as ...hopeless.

This thread has made me gay.



Aw yeah. Gonna spend all your money.

Its just that a lot of girls tend to now like guys who spend $100 on a piece of plastic.

That and a lot of them get dating advice from gaming sites.


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Shadowbrand wrote:This thread has made me gay.



Aw yeah. Gonna spend all your money.

The guy in the black shirt in the back is jealous or a young mister Burns.

Shadowbrand wrote:This thread has made me gay.



Aw yeah. Gonna spend all your money.

Well, if you're Gay... dibs on the redhead in the middle.

Bi wins. Every. Time.

Well most of the youth involved with wargames don't understand the female psyche.

I have a -moderate- understanding. To the point I can deduct the only reason why I have a girlfriend now is.

I play guitar, and write songs. Seriously become a musician if your lonely. And my jovial jokester nature. However, don't rely on that alone, it just gets you in the friend zone.

Dear fething Thor, i'm giving relationship advice.

"Chloroform generally works for me."

Avatar 720 wrote:

Shadowbrand wrote:This thread has made me gay.



Aw yeah. Gonna spend all your money.

Well, if you're Gay... dibs on the redhead in the middle.

Bi wins. Every. Time.

I like Uncle Sam, reminds me of home.

halonachos wrote:

Avatar 720 wrote:

Shadowbrand wrote:This thread has made me gay.



Aw yeah. Gonna spend all your money.

Well, if you're Gay... dibs on the redhead in the middle.

Bi wins. Every. Time.

I like Uncle Sam, reminds me of home.

I would.

That poser at the back in the man-shorts is looking oddly perverted/turned on/both...

halonachos wrote:Its just that a lot of girls tend to now like guys who spend $100 on a piece of plastic.

That and a lot of them get dating advice from gaming sites.

I don't know about that Nachos, women ( not to generalize here) tend to be fairly unconcerned with what money is spent on where " mens past times" are concerned ( so long as it's not getting stuck into G-strings...in most cases)...
If a guys spending hundreds on guitars and amps or motorcycle parts or golf clubs...I really don't see that most women would give a gak one way or the other...
Women...hell..people...respond to confidence...not to what your " hobby" is....do you really believe any guy would give a rats backside if they met a hot interesting girl with confidence who then said she liked to paint figures ?...of course they wouldn't...and it goes both ways...
I think it's that so manner gamers treat their hobby like some sort of " lepersy"...that...shame comes through when interacting with the opposite sex...


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Shadowbrand wrote:Well most of the youth involved with wargames don't understand the female psyche.

I have a -moderate- understanding. To the point I can deduct the only reason why I have a girlfriend now is.

I play guitar, and write songs. Seriously become a musician if your lonely. And my jovial jokester nature. However, don't rely on that alone, it just gets you in the friend zone.

Dear fething Thor, i'm giving relationship advice.

"Chloroform generally works for me."

...Well yeah...that's true...being in bands helps a lot...

Jarl Shadowbrand knows his gak.

Wait, doesn't the girl get to decide who she likes? It's kind of not up to the OP and his (now, probably ex) mate, is it?

Albatross wrote:Wait, doesn't the girl get to decide who she likes? It's kind of not up to the OP and his (now, probably ex) mate, is it?

The OP said that she was "coming on to him" as in the OP and not his friend. Seems like she made a decision, but then again I don't know what he means by "coming on to him". But yeah, probably an ex-friend by now.

It's hoes before bro's.

Radiation wrote:It's hoes before bro's.

Chicks before dicks, if we're being crude.

Shadowbrand wrote:I play guitar, and write songs. Seriously become a musician if your lonely. And my jovial jokester nature. However, don't rely on that alone, it just gets you in the friend zone.

Playing guitar doesn't really work for me lol

Radiation wrote:It's hoes before bro's.

This.

Damnit people, your garden tools always come first!

Chowderhead wrote:

Ravenous D wrote:Your friends gay, hit it like a Mac truck

And comment of the year goes to...

I second that motion

bombboy1252 wrote:

Shadowbrand wrote:I play guitar, and write songs. Seriously become a musician if your lonely. And my jovial jokester nature. However, don't rely on that alone, it just gets you in the friend zone.

Playing guitar doesn't really work for me lol

Is it electric or acoustic?

According to my friend if you want to get some go to a metal concert, according to him you haven't lived until you've been tied to a bed with shawls.

Let's look at this objectively:

You can either. . .

a) Abandon this chance at romance and remain a loyal and steadfast friend, thus sealing your friendship for a lifetime and knowing that you have someone who would do the same for you.

or

b) Ditch your buddy and go for the girl and have lots of sandwiches and sexy rumpus until she finds out you play with toy soldiers and dumps you.


I think the choice is clear.

Why do I feel like I have actually picked up something useful from the OT forums?
Huh. Thought I would never see the day. (No Sarcasm here.)

But yes go for the girl she is coming to you it is fair game.

rubiksnoob wrote:Let's look at this objectively:

You can either. . .

a) Abandon this chance at romance and remain a loyal and steadfast friend, thus sealing your friendship for a lifetime and knowing that you have someone who would do the same for you.

or

b) Ditch your buddy and go for the girl and have lots of sandwiches and sexy rumpus until she finds out you play with toy soldiers and dumps you.


I think the choice is clear.

Clearly it is.

Most likely, but she's coming on to him so why not entertain her I guess.

halonachos wrote:Most likely, but she's coming on to him so why not entertain her I guess.

So get drunk and have fun with her is the morale here?

Asherian Command wrote:

halonachos wrote:Most likely, but she's coming on to him so why not entertain her I guess.

So get drunk and have fun with her is the morale here?

Well I think the overall moral of the story is going; screw your friends and screw the girl both of you want. Of course we do use different meanings for 'screw' in the previous sentence.

halonachos wrote:

Asherian Command wrote:

halonachos wrote:Most likely, but she's coming on to him so why not entertain her I guess.

So get drunk and have fun with her is the morale here?

Well I think the overall moral of the story is going; screw your friends and screw the girl both of you want. Of course we do use different meanings for 'screw' in the previous sentence.

Well I was thinking of kissing mate. Not that...
Plus how old is the OP?
Is what 16, 17? If so it will not be that. PLus his mate was failing so if anything it just proves to the kid to stop laying around with his head up his arse and get something done in his life.