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I don't know exactly what is to blame, so I'll blame the internet, but there has been a slight rise in "He Man Woman Hater" clubs over the last few years. They still are in the minority but I wouldn't be surprised if they had some impact over younger readers that venture to places they shouldn't, like say 4chan.

It's always the internet's fault especially when it isn't.

Like the others in the thread I don't consider it to be a negative in the slightest.

I cook for my wife because,
a. I'm good at it,
and,
b. I enjoy it.

We should make a new term called friendwhipped, where your friends can force you to stop doing things you like and keep doing things you hate, at the cost of your relationship and general enjoyment of life.

I wish I had a girlfriend to cook for, but enough of me feeling sorry for myself, as others have said it sounds like your friends are either a: jealous or b: immature, it wouldn't surprise me if they shouted out "Bro's before Ho's" at you before you left from how you put it.

Melissia wrote:We should make a new term called friendwhipped, where your friends can force you to stop doing things you like and keep doing things you hate, at the cost of your relationship and general enjoyment of life.

Second.


Alternative could be browhipped, essentially the same thing but more for specific instances like this.

Philld77 wrote:"Bro's before Ho's"

Seriously though, if Cooking for your Gal is being Whipped, I'm totally fethed. I love to cook and I love to bake cookies.....

HudsonD wrote:"Chef" is a masculine word, and cooking is a manly activity, like eating raw red meat, and beating people up. The better question is, why would "friends" want you not to do something manly ?

I wouldnt say that like!

I mean, I don't think cooking is unmanly, but I wouldn't call it manly because it requires little strength.

Manly is like.. Bear Wrestling or Cage Fighting or something!

No, I love cooking and I cook for just about everyone I can.

n0t_u wrote:

Melissia wrote:We should make a new term called friendwhipped, where your friends can force you to stop doing things you like and keep doing things you hate, at the cost of your relationship and general enjoyment of life.

Second.


Alternative could be browhipped, essentially the same thing but more for specific instances like this.

There is already a perfectly good word for it, 'spineless'.

My dad was a chef, I grew up around the firey hell pit of a large restaurant/hotel kitchen. My mum can burn water. I love cooking, it's a talent and if you're good at it, all power to you.

And being good at it makes you more attractive to your woman and women in general.

No, it doesn't. Frankly anyone who actually uses the term "Whipped" seriously is a particularly annoying breed of dumb ass.

mattyrm wrote:

HudsonD wrote:"Chef" is a masculine word, and cooking is a manly activity, like eating raw red meat, and beating people up. The better question is, why would "friends" want you not to do something manly ?

I wouldnt say that like!

I mean, I don't think cooking is unmanly, but I wouldn't call it manly because it requires little strength.

Manly is like.. Bear Wrestling or Cage Fighting or something!

Yes I do agree with you there Matt. but back on topic, No cooking dose not make you whipped. It is a very wise thing to do in a relationship, it dose wonders

mattyrm wrote:

dogma wrote:Nah, he only forces his phone (number) on men.

I've thought of a better one..

Sean "sometimes they need a slap" Connery!

I've probably said this before, but you and I must enjoy afternoon tea (read: get hammered) together at some point.


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Melissia wrote:
Douchebaggery like this isn't uncommon...

You are a denizen of the internet, and I assume you play video games, so there is that.

However, no offense intended, but you do seem quite sensitive where gender is mentioned.

My current girlfriend actually brags about my cooking, mainly because I am good at it. Some of the women she has told have even expressed jealousy due to same. I also bake. Recently created a sensation among same by using left over "Pixie Stix(TM)" to make sugar cookies.

Whipped? No..... I learned to cook out of self preservation and survival. My sisters are dreadful cooks.

As for it being "manly": Ever tried lifting a stuffed 20lb turkey out of a roasting hot oven?

dogma wrote:

mattyrm wrote:

dogma wrote:Nah, he only forces his phone (number) on men.

I've thought of a better one..

Sean "sometimes they need a slap" Connery!

I've probably said this before, but you and I must enjoy afternoon tea (read: get hammered) together at some point.

It's harder getting together for a pint with an American cos your country is too big! If your ever in the UK I will happily meet you for 15 pints and some hairy sweaty chunks of flesh in a piece of bread (kebab)

Oh and I'm off to San Diego, Santa Barbara and LA for three weeks next month if that's any use to you.


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helgrenze wrote:My current girlfriend actually brags about my cooking, mainly because I am good at it. Some of the women she has told have even expressed jealousy due to same. I also bake. Recently created a sensation among same by using left over "Pixie Stix(TM)" to make sugar cookies.

Whipped? No..... I learned to cook out of self preservation and survival. My sisters are dreadful cooks.

As for it being "manly": Ever tried lifting a stuffed 20lb turkey out of a roasting hot oven?

I did say that cooking wasnt in any way effeminate or anything, I just think that cooking is clearly not manly either because, well.. define manly!

To me its basically "something that requires intestinal fortitude" you know, so it might be extremely physically demanding, or mentally demanding, and Im sorry, but cooking is neither of those things. I'm an alight cook because my missus is an exceptional one and she has taught me! I can make great Mexican food, Im class at doing rice and beans ans such.. But Ive never once had the adrenalin pumping when I've been opening a can of corned beef.

If we ate Dinosaurs and you had to fight them before you could eat them I would concede the point.

Do you consider cooking for your gal being "whipped"?

Did someone somehow just transport us back to the 1950's? Seriously.

I cook 99% of the time, to the point that the Mistress gets hungry and then asks what's for dinner. I love cooking for her. At times (usually when we're both stoned) she'll want me to make something for her and I'm too out of it to care, and we still survive somehow.

On the topic that someone else might actually care about, has the amount of time you spend with your friends changed because of her? If that's the case, anything she wants you to do will seem like you being "whipped."

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:On the topic that someone else might actually care about, has the amount of time you spend with your friends changed because of her?

You always have more time to spend with friends when you're single. It's just like getting another non-romantic friend, you divide your time between them.

No way

cooking for your woman is manly. A man that can't cook is not a man IMO

DIDM wrote: A man that can't cook is not a man IMO

I can cook so this is not self interest speaking, but isn't that as stupid as saying that a man who can cook is manly?

What makes you a "man" is purely the concept of an individual. To me it might be something totally different to you, but needless to say, I don't see how if you take someone that has done something astonishingly brave, and then ask him if he can cook, when he replies "No I am an awful cook" how on earth does that make him "less" of a "man"?

I think that statement is as daft as the OP's friends one about being whipped!

My gf does all the cooking.
She actually forbade me to cook, not that I´m bad at it, far from but she just likes doing the cooking.

I dont much mind, it´s pretty neat actually.

To the OP: Cooking because you like to for your GF or significant other is not being "whipped", them calling you in the middle of the football game, "asking" you to come home to cook and you going home to cook is, excepting in extreme circumstances (like she can burn water or something to that effect in the kitchen)

mattyrm wrote:

DIDM wrote: A man that can't cook is not a man IMO

I can cook so this is not self interest speaking, but isn't that as stupid as saying that a man who can cook is manly?

What makes you a "man" is purely the concept of an individual. To me it might be something totally different to you, but needless to say, I don't see how if you take someone that has done something astonishingly brave, and then ask him if he can cook, when he replies "No I am an awful cook" how on earth does that make him "less" of a "man"?

I think that statement is as daft as the OP's friends one about being whipped!

a man who can't cook is still a boy

makes perfect sense in my mind.

Piston Honda wrote:So I was out late this afternoon with "the guys" watching some college football and drinking beer and rum.

I was the first one to leave, I left a bit early, the college games were not exciting and wanted to get home to cook dinner for my girl friend who I promised to make her favorite dish. Spaghetti with eggplant parmigiana and garlic bread, and picked up a bottle of her favorite red wine (Casella Wines' Yellow Tail Merlot, luckily it is cheap as hell).

I never thought about it as being whipped as I enjoy doing it and she loves my cooking so makes me happy. My friends see it as being whipped and another result of the new age "equal partnership".


I do see going to art shows and plays as being whipped though. Hate them, but she loves them and I love seeing her smile.

Important question: how many of them are in long term relationships?

How many of them are happy?

Just let them talk. They probably don't know anything.

mattyrm wrote:

DIDM wrote: A man that can't cook is not a man IMO

I can cook so this is not self interest speaking, but isn't that as stupid as saying that a man who can cook is manly?

What makes you a "man" is purely the concept of an individual. To me it might be something totally different to you, but needless to say, I don't see how if you take someone that has done something astonishingly brave, and then ask him if he can cook, when he replies "No I am an awful cook" how on earth does that make him "less" of a "man"?

I think that statement is as daft as the OP's friends one about being whipped!

Actually, the man in you example does not deny being able to cook, he just admits it is something he isn't very good at. If he had said "No, That is women's work" then yeah, he would be less of a man. Bravery isn't a solo indicator of "manhood". The ability to admit a fault, such as being bad at something, could be.

dogma wrote:However, no offense intended, but you do seem quite sensitive where gender is mentioned.

I'm not sensitive on the topic of gender so much as I am sensitive about people claiming I believe something I don't.

It just so happens that a lot of people do this on the topic of gender because of their own inherent biases, trolling tendencies, or ignorance.

Piston Honda wrote:So I was out late this afternoon with "the guys" watching some college football and drinking beer and rum.

I was the first one to leave, I left a bit early, the college games were not exciting and wanted to get home to cook dinner for my girl friend who I promised to make her favorite dish. Spaghetti with eggplant parmigiana and garlic bread, and picked up a bottle of her favorite red wine (Casella Wines' Yellow Tail Merlot, luckily it is cheap as hell).

I never thought about it as being whipped as I enjoy doing it and she loves my cooking so makes me happy. My friends see it as being whipped and another result of the new age "equal partnership".


I do see going to art shows and plays as being whipped though. Hate them, but she loves them and I love seeing her smile.

Two options:

1. Your friends are just trying to take the piss out of you (guys are compelled/conditioned to engage in this kind of teasing)

2. Your friend are knuckle dragging morons.

I cook and do laundry. I Enjoy cooking. I also prefer laundry to be done in a certain way. Being whipped has nothing to do with either.

Also there is no shame in being a loving person who likes to do things for one's partner.

Just tell your friends you would like to leave before they start the "circle jerk" as it isn't what you are into...

DIDM wrote:

mattyrm wrote:

DIDM wrote: A man that can't cook is not a man IMO

I can cook so this is not self interest speaking, but isn't that as stupid as saying that a man who can cook is manly?

What makes you a "man" is purely the concept of an individual. To me it might be something totally different to you, but needless to say, I don't see how if you take someone that has done something astonishingly brave, and then ask him if he can cook, when he replies "No I am an awful cook" how on earth does that make him "less" of a "man"?

I think that statement is as daft as the OP's friends one about being whipped!

a man who can't cook is still a boy

makes perfect sense in my mind.

A man is someone who is prepared to ignore silly opinions and concepts like this, and do what THEY want to do, regardless of societal or peer pressure. Be it cooking, not cooking, wearing kilts, or joining the Royal Marines.

Uhhh no. Of course my Girl is a good friend of mine and I cook better.

Melissia wrote:We should make a new term called friendwhipped, where your friends can force you to stop doing things you like and keep doing things you hate

It's called "being a male".

Male peer pressure is a strong thing, often fueld by equal parts sexism homophobia and testosterone.

It's why guys watch a boring sport like baseball, waste time watching horrible action/horror/sci-fi movies, and listen to various forms of awful "metal". failure to do so is to be labeled and ridiculed as somehow "not manly".

God forbid you don't like/enjoy what "real men" enjoy, that might mean you a "homo", "sissy" or "whipped", etc.

Sometimes it is done in jest or to poke good natured fun, but it has a far deeper cultural root and is ingrained in most males...