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So, I started Uni last Saturday, I'm in a Halls of Residence flat with 2 other guys, and I've got a problem.

The problem is that one of them smokes weed. Now, I don't judge him on that, it's his decision, and I've no problem with people doing that. Usually.

But the thing is, in our flats you aren't supposed to smoke at all - but he does - he won't go outside because "s' too co-old", or he "Can't be ed"
He says he opens his window and smokes out of that, but the stink just creeps inside the entire flat and clings, so even if I leave my door closed, it still gets in, and won't go, even when I open my window (which I don't like doing, seeing as it's cold here ATM)

The smell is making me feel nauseous and tired, and it's just really horrible to come back to a room that reeks of pot after lectures. especially when I'm missing home anyway - I don't want the next year to be like this, and while I don't have an issue with him smoking the stuff, I really don't want to be smoking it second hand.
So, I thought I'd ask anyone on Dakka for some advice or tips on how to deal with it?

I don't see the point saying anything to him, he's always too stoned to care - should I skip wasting my time asking him not to, and talk to the Uni landlord, via anonymous tipoff, sort of thing?
Failing an actual solution, is there a trick to getting rid of the stink?

I don't want to be "That guy", but I'm getting into some heavy debt for the opportunity to be at Uni, and if it comes to a point where either he goes or I do, I'm damned if it'll be me.

Any advice would be really appreciated, thanks.

dont be timid, tell him flat out, smoke outside, or you call campus cops/dean/real cops.

very disrepectful what he is doing, let alone illegal.

Report his ass anonymously. No need for anyone else to know it was you. Mention to him later how unfair it is that he got caught.

Then sleep with his mother or sister for good measure.

Just tell the right people to make him go away. He sounds like somewhat of a waste of space anyway.

I'd ask about transferring to a different room. I don't know how the UK system works at all.

My BFF was a big pothead when I was in college. I myself was known to roll with Doobie Howser from time to time back then, but I wasn't, you know, into it. Anyway, I know how you feel because his apartment spelled like the inside of a bong. It was pretty disgusting and I totally would not have wanted to have lived with him and again, I am someone who liked him a great deal and had no general aversion drug use.

I'd also be concerned for the legal consequences of a raid, because pretty sure when the cops come, it's not "his" drugs, it's "the groups drugs" - so keep an eye to covering yourself.

 kronk wrote:
Then sleep with his mother or sister for good measure.

Also, take her to a nice seafood dinner and then never call her again.

I would approach the person and give them a very clear discussion on the matter; if they are refusing to accommodate then don't hold back -go straight to the next level and discuss the matter with the head warden/building admin.

You can also discuss matters with your tutor if you want additional advice or want to know who is best to talk with in your specific university.

You're not being "that guy" you're being a grown up. Living with others is part give and take; however is one person isn't going to play their part and if that is causing you health and other problems then its the correct thing to do to bring it to the attention of the higher ups. If you don't you'll suffer, your results will suffer and you'll end up failing or scoring poorer than you could otherwise (and you're there to study and score well, not be tormented).

Edit - I wouldn't call the cops, go through the university channels first and foremost; its there for a reason and should be able to solve the problem. If they do fail then you can consider going higher up to outside influences, but the university should be able to solve the problem. Asking for a transfer (or for the other person to be transferred) is also a valid approach.

 Ouze wrote:

I'd also be concerned for the legal consequences of a raid, because pretty sure when the cops come, it's not "his" drugs, it's "the groups drugs" - so keep an eye to covering yourself.

This is an excellent point and why Ouze is our resident Nark.

Thanks for the (lightning fast!) replies guys - I'll straight-up give him the ultimatum, and if that doesn't work, talk to my tutor.

I figured that was the way forward, but I'm (obviously) new to the whole Flatsharing thing, and I just wanted to be sure I'd not overlooked any option or over-reacted.

Thanks again, and as much as I love Kronk's idea about the sister thing... whoo boy, you obviously haven't seen her

 Dark Apostle 666 wrote:
Thanks again, and as much as I love Kronk's idea about the sister thing... whoo boy, you obviously haven't seen her

Ishamel, let me tell you that everyone must sail the seven seas hunting their White Whale.

- Captain Ahab Alf

Edit: I seriously had the nickname in college Captain Ahab because of 2 large ladies I dated in high school and the 1 semi-large lady I dated in college (she wasn't fat when we started dating).

I wasn't referring to size, more her lack of teeth and her anti-personnel body odour...

It's not the destination that's important, it's the stories you later tell that you cherish.

I'm not sure if I'd survive to tell the stories...

 Dark Apostle 666 wrote:
I wasn't referring to size, more her lack of teeth and her anti-personnel body odour...

Lack of teeth means she can't bite things... and well if her body odor is an issue, might I suggest a group shower?

The answer is of course to call the police and get him arrested, which should result in the university removing him. And since the year has already started and housing assignments are probably all set this will probably mean you get to keep his space, which is always a good reason to get him removed.

 Peregrine wrote:
The answer is of course to call the police and get him arrested, which should result in the university removing him. And since the year has already started and housing assignments are probably all set this will probably mean you get to keep his space, which is always a good reason to get him removed.

The other thing you could consider is lifting his wallet when he's watching Tosh 2.0 or whatever, and then buying a firearm with his credit card. Once you have the firearm in hand, go rob the local drug den - make sure to drop his wallet at the scene. Stash the gun and the blow under his bed, and go visit your parents for a few days - you should have the room to yourself for at least a semester after that.

 Ouze wrote:

 Peregrine wrote:
The answer is of course to call the police and get him arrested, which should result in the university removing him. And since the year has already started and housing assignments are probably all set this will probably mean you get to keep his space, which is always a good reason to get him removed.

The other thing you could consider is lifting his wallet when he's watching Tosh 2.0 or whatever, and then buying a firearm with his credit card. Once you have the firearm in hand, go rob the local drug den - make sure to drop his wallet at the scene. Stash the gun and the blow under his bed, and go visit your parents for a few days - you should have the room to yourself for at least a semester after that.

Heeey... isn't that a Breaking Bad episode?

Ask if you can have a toke with him/her.

Wow, and I thought my opinion on Peregrine couldn't possibly get worse.

To OP, ask him to invest in a vaporisor. He could also smoke from a bong filled with ice and water, and puff out a cardboard roll filled with fabric softener.

It's very easy to smoke weed in a room and block out the smell, I've been doing it for years.

Do not ruin another man's higher studies because you feel righteous about denouncing his smoking habits. At some point during your stay, you'll do something against the dorm's rules. Housing and schooling is just too important to be douchy about.

The vaporiser idea seems like a good middle ground also, assuming he can obtain the extracted oil.

I still think removing yourself from the situation entirely is the best bet though for reasons already articulated.

I'd call the cops on him, because that would be funny.

 Ouze wrote:
The vaporiser idea seems like a good middle ground also, assuming he can obtain the extracted oil.

I still think removing yourself from the situation entirely is the best bet though for reasons already articulated.

A vape doesn't require oil, you can just grind up a bud in the filling chamber. It's also a nice way to save money, as it requires a lot less than a bowl to give you a good kick.

On the subject of possession, I have my doubts. Possession is (as always, up here) knowledge of position and control. If the roommate keeps his stuff in his room (as he should) then it's easy to deny knowledge of position.

A vaporizer would work quite well. Otherwise, just contact the RA or whoever's in charge, and let them know. And continue to do so until the problem is either fixed, or he's kicked out.

 Kovnik Obama wrote:

Do not ruin another man's higher studies because you feel righteous about denouncing his smoking habits. At some point during your stay, you'll do something against the dorm's rules. Housing and schooling is just too important to be douchy about.

If he smokes dope recreationally, that might be true, if he smokes to the extent that's described, it's bad for him, period and will also mess with his studies. So getting him to cut down is not douchy, it's adult.

THen there's a whole other issue, which concerns his lack of respect. There's no reason at all you have to endure his weed fumes and, as discussed, you need to tell him that. He's the problem, not you. Yes, it's his first time away from home so he's all excited about the smoking opportunities, but he should act like an adult, not a kid.

If it was cigarette smoke, you'd be able to enforce his quitting his doing it in your room, the fact it's weed is no different. If you want to avoid getting the authorities involved, report him for smoking tobacco (pretend you have a bad sense of smell) as that will still be against halls of residence rules, but is not a criminal offence.

Good luck with the course!

Talk to your RA, or request a room transfer.

Him smoking indoors without regard for his flat mates is extremely disrespectful.

Anyone who smells it would be able to figure it out.

Tell him you don't like the smell and he needs to do it outside.

If it doesn't, you can simply report the smell to the RA. You don't need to report what he's doing. Just the smell. Things will work out from there.

I had a flatmate who was addicted to the stuff. to the tune of about 50$ a day worth of it. He quit his job because they didn't allow him to smoke weed while at work. Nice, gentle individual who could get really aggressive if denied his pot by, say, a massive snow-storm.

He refused to smoke outside, because it would stop him from playing WoW. And I can understand that -30 weather is sub-optimal in almost everyone's mind.

I had to purchase odour-absorbent sponges to get rid of *most* of the smell, but the ash and the smoke was everywhere in the appartment. My running suffered greatly, and I had a terrible, terrible time sleeping. I finally got tired of confrontations, moved my cat out of there and paid for a flat that I barely used, until the rent was up. He still won't speak to me to this day because I refused to renew the rent. He still had no job and couldn't get approved.

Others have said it more eloquently and succinctly than I, but if his personal liberties are traipsing over yours, he's not being that reasonable. You have a legitimate concern and when people can't come to an agreement like adults, there are rules to fall back on.

 kronk wrote:
Report his ass anonymously. No need for anyone else to know it was you. Mention to him later how unfair it is that he got caught.

Then sleep with his mother or sister for good measure.

Every word in this thread is unparalleled wisdom from the sage named Kronk.

I don't think it's a big enough deal to justify having someone arrested, thrown out of school, or otherwise raked over the coals for. Still, I'd put my foot down about doing it in the room.

Hivefleet Oblivion wrote:

 Kovnik Obama wrote:

Do not ruin another man's higher studies because you feel righteous about denouncing his smoking habits. At some point during your stay, you'll do something against the dorm's rules. Housing and schooling is just too important to be douchy about.

If he smokes dope recreationally, that might be true, if he smokes to the extent that's described, it's bad for him, period and will also mess with his studies. So getting him to cut down is not douchy, it's adult.

No, it's douchy. You do not know his level of tolerance. You do not know how he behaves under the influence. You do not know if the stuff actually impairs his cognitive faculties. Basically, you know nothing. Yet you think yourself capable of making life-altering choices for him, choices which could get him thrown out of a higher education establishment and out of his current housing arrangements.

 Kovnik Obama wrote:

Hivefleet Oblivion wrote:

 Kovnik Obama wrote:

Do not ruin another man's higher studies because you feel righteous about denouncing his smoking habits. At some point during your stay, you'll do something against the dorm's rules. Housing and schooling is just too important to be douchy about.

If he smokes dope recreationally, that might be true, if he smokes to the extent that's described, it's bad for him, period and will also mess with his studies. So getting him to cut down is not douchy, it's adult.

No, it's douchy. You do not know his level of tolerance. You do not know how he behaves under the influence. You do not know if the stuff actually impairs his cognitive faculties. Basically, you know nothing. Yet you think yourself capable of making life-altering choices for him, choices which could get him thrown out of a higher education establishment and out of his current housing arrangements.

If his smoke is invading my personal space he's outta there.
Report him to the ATF as a narco terrorist and freelance Zeta hitman. Then report him to the Zetas as an MS13 member who talked about the Zetas' mammas.

Wait this is Britain. Call the Hot Fuzz and say he's an IRA supporter who talked funny about the Queen Mum. Then call the local Rugby team and say he called them a bunch of pontsy poofs who couldn't beat Liverpool if their lives depended on it, and that their mammas have arm hair like French people. And he smokes dope incessantly.

That should take care of it.