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I gave up when I met my wife, we got serious, and soon had a kid. Figured Id never game again so I gave away all my gaming stuff. Several years later I needed a hobby and got back into gaming. Got her into it too.


The biggest loss from giving away all my stuff was the huge amount of Battletech mechs I had given away, over 120 mechs. Many were unseen and conversions using parts hat arent available anymore.

Never fully. I took a break from actually playing towards the end of 4th/beginning of 5th, but keep up with the hobby and still bought and painted models. Back in it now.

Before my GF, and her not only tolerating my hobby, but actively enabling it, I too let women take me from it. However, in hindsight, that was stupid of me. You can't love someone and take them from what they love. Trying to change a person's passions is wrong, and futile.

Convos got to be like this for me:

her: you're always in the garage/basement

me: I'm working really hard on this thing, it's going to be awesome when I'm done

her: You never want to spend time with me

me: ok, sorry, what do you want to do?

her: sit on the couch and watch gak on TV that I like but you don't want to watch. Go clothes shopping with me or you can watch my kid that I won't discipline.

me: Would you like to sit out here with me and learn about the Imperial Guard? About building terrain?

her: no- gives "the look"

me: ok, I'll go

her: NEVERMIND! You never want to spend time with me anymore! You care more about your toys than me!!

me: I wonder why?

Part of me wonders what guys ever see in women like that?

I've never hidden my gaming, but when I have been serious about someone, I have let them know that I was a gamer, and that it was something that was not going to change.

The wife accepted it and enables my hobby. I'm lucky.

dsteingass wrote:Before my GF, and her not only tolerating my hobby, but actively enabling it, I too let women take me from it. However, in hindsight, that was stupid of me. You can't love someone and take them from what they love. Trying to change a person's passions is wrong, and futile.

Convos got to be like this for me:

her: you're always in the garage/basement

me: I'm working really hard on this thing, it's going to be awesome when I'm done

her: You never want to spend time with me

me: ok, sorry, what do you want to do?

her: sit on the couch and watch gak on TV that I like but you don't want to watch. Go clothes shopping with me or you can watch my kid that I won't discipline.

me: Would you like to sit out here with me and learn about the Imperial Guard? About building terrain?

her: no- gives "the look"

me: ok, I'll go

her: NEVERMIND! You never want to spend time with me anymore! You care more about your toys than me!!

me: I wonder why?

My GF is totally the opposite she hears me coming up stairs from my dungeon and groans " Oh no he's coming to bug me"

She actually likes my little men and robot model kits, shes doesn't want to know about where or what so and so is but she humors me can't ask for much more then that. =o]

I quit several years back once i had no friends to play with. I didnt start playing again until 2 years ago