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Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:Not one to be left out apparently, a chick at work wants my balls. Issue being, she has a boyfriend. Each day the physical contact has increased, and I've told her one or two of my stories and she's super into it. Does it make me a horrible person (I'll settle for bad) if I A) do her, knowing she has a boyfriend or B) let her know that I know she has a boyfriend but I'll still play along if she wants first, then do her (basically give a disclaimer)? Id gladly be the third but I don't think the guy would be into it.

Well, first of all, if I were in your shoes, I would figure out just how big and fast this boyfriend is, and then proceed from there.

That's probably very sound advice That's an obvious threat I was dismissing as unlikely, but really should consider.

Indeed. Always have a back up plan, and then make a back up plan for that back up plan. It's the only way to be sure, short of Nuking from Orbit.

And the plot thickens! lol

It's getting to the point where I no longer care about what happens because it so freaking funny.

Anyways, I'm minding my own business and doing my job as usual. (On a side note I had like Powerthirst levels of energy today)
The girl comes up to me and says to me kind of quietly, "It's okay Amaya, I love you."
I think to myself "WTF" and say, "Err, okay." She replies a little annoyed, "Never mind." So I say, "I just don't know what you mean."
She replies, "Not like that! That's nasty!"

In close, I'm about 90% sure that she's just friendly to people in general (or at least to people who are pleasant.) The other 10% of me is going "Damn so, you dun goofed."

But all in all I am still so baked that I don't care what is going on. Time for beer pong!

Edit: I see four potential plausible possibilities.

1) She has a severe crush and was crushed when I didn't respond in kind.
2) She has a slight crush and was annoyed when I didn't respond in kind.
3) She's on the fence.
4) She considers me a friend at best and was grossed out when I took her joking comment to potentially mean something else.

/shrug

Who knows how their mind works? I sure as hell don't. (Which is why I typically don't give a FF)

Nothing really interesting today.

I swear to god I heard her mutter "I'll get you to like me."

I don't know if I should be scared or not now.

You don't have any pets that are now missing do you?

SilverMK2 wrote:You don't have any pets that are now missing do you?

Thank god I don't have any pets.

Should probably check contents of bag after work in the future.


Or maybe I am hearing voices.

Is she cute?

She's not like a knock out, but I think she's cute.

Update:

I talked to the girl's sister and said that I think like this girl (despite her craziness ;D). She told me that I should tell her.
My sister and a couple of friends also advised me to ask this girl to hang out some time.

It's too crowded to ask at work and I don't want someone to overhear. Regardless of whether or not she says yes or no, I don't want the knuckleheads there bothering me about it.

So, I sent her a message just asking that if she's free some time would she like to hang out. I haven't heard anything back in a couple of days.

I'm a little confused and annoyed now. Hopefully its just that she hasn't seen the message, but I can't help but feel like I goofed up.

Look on the bright side, if you scared her off your problems are solved.

Don't worry. Always stay cool. "Haste" is a word your mind uses to disguise what would otherwise be known as "pathetically desperate."

Meh, I'm just gonna drop it. I work with her in a couple of days so I'll see if she acts differently.

Amaya wrote:Meh, I'm just gonna drop it. I work with her in a couple of days so I'll see if she acts differently.

I actually worked with her yesterday. I said nothing to her. She said nothing to me.

'rubs hands together' Cracking, sounds like job done to me ! Unless you wanted her to talk to you theen kind of a step backwards.

Heh. I don't know. I don't know what her game is. She really didn't talk to anyone that day. Her sister said that she was having a bad day.
Her older sister was one of the ones who advised me to talk to her in the first place actually.

Well dude, unless Reincarnation turns out to be true, I have only this to say:

You only live once, might as well go for it.

Yeah, I'm going to talk to her tomorrow. I'm basically going to say, "Hey, if you don't want to hang out, that's cool. It's your decision to make and I respect it. Hopefully we can still be friends. I won't bring it up again.."

Ask her out face to face that way you can get a replie

Maybe ask her out to some event or gig going on.

I worked with her again. She said hi to me, but that was it. I didn't talk to her (other than saying hi ofc).

I'd stick with that then. Anything else will come off as desperation.

<snip>

Well, here's the deal.

I finally asked her at work if she was mad at me. She gave me a deer in the headlights and didn't reply. When I got home I had a message on FB from her, saying "No. I'm not mad. Its just better if stay distant."

I reply, "That's fine. I'm more than happy to be nothing more than friends with you."

She replies with, "..."

Frustrated, I say, "I don't understand. What did I do wrong?"

Her: "idk..."

Me: "Can't you give me a straight answer?"

Her: "I can't."


My sister thinks that she's either being a bitch or that she doesn't know how to communicate.

My friends think this girl is just weird.

I don't know what to think.

Just stay clear.

What do you think though?

Amaya wrote:What do you think though?

Breaking my new Frazzled stay out of OT screed here but, frankly I think you're an idiot for this whole sad escapade.

You've set yourself up for a joyous bad day at black rock employment wise, with what could be a very kooky woman (or you're the wackjob and don't grasp whats really going on). Either way:
1. Defriend yourself from her FB. Now.
2. Do not be alone with her at work from now on.
3. At work remain civil but only civil and business like.
4. DO NOT see her outside of work.

Amaya wrote:What do you think though?

RUN TO THE HILLS!! RIDE FOR YOUR LIVES!!

Frazzled wrote:

Amaya wrote:What do you think though?

Breaking my new Frazzled stay out of OT screed here but, frankly I think you're an idiot for this whole sad escapade.

You've set yourself up for a joyous bad day at black rock employment wise, with what could be a very kooky woman (or you're the wackjob and don't grasp whats really going on). Either way:
1. Defriend yourself from her FB. Now.
2. Do not be alone with her at work from now on.
3. At work remain civil but only civil and business like.
4. DO NOT see her outside of work.

Why so mean?

I do understand what you're saying. This is what I think.

She doesn't like me, but for some reason won't say so. Doesn't make sense to me. Aside from my stature, which isn't even particularly big to begin with (6' 190), I am a non threatening person. My bosses like me, I joke with them a lot, I get along with pretty much everyone I work with there, and I'm generally considered a decent and friendly person. (Yes, from time to time I can see rude things to people on forums, my apologies)

She just likes me as a friend. What's the deal here? I told her that was fine.

She likes me, but doesn't want to be in relationship, is socially awkward, insert multiple other reasons here. /shrug 'tis possible.

She's freaking nuts. Sadly, this is possible. Is this what you're thinking Frazzled?

She may be the " I like you,but want you to chase me so I can create a soap oprea" type.

She may be the " I'm so confused I have no idea what i want..." type

She may have no interest what so ever in you and just doesn't know how to tell you...

She may be totally bat-gak..

What she isn't is straight forward...

I'd avoid her...in a work related enviorment this seems to be a bad situation waiting to happen.