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KingCracker wrote:Id say whipped, would of been you watching the game with the guys, enjoying yourself, she phones in a little "Im lonely" and you just take off.

Well, that kind of depends on the exact context of the 'I'm lonely'. A simple 'I'm lonely' would be whipped, but an 'I'm lonely and covered in [insert ice-cream topping of choice]', well that's just common sense really

Nah, nothing 'under the thumb' (as the term is normally known as over this side of the Atlantic) about cooking for the significant other. Personally we've got a system going, I work mon-fri so she cooks most weekdays (unless she's ill or something), she works weekends so I cook weekends.

Usually I find people who cry 'under the thumb' tend to have trouble with relationships in general...

As much as I love women, I refuse to date because of this reason. I like cooking but I'm the guy who would only cook for himself. I am self-sufficent. I cook, I clean, I work, I go to School, I fill out my taxes.

I consider cooking for my woman an investment in my future happiness.

As much as I love women, I refuse to date because of this reason. I like cooking but I'm the guy who would only cook for himself. I am self-sufficent. I cook, I clean, I work, I go to School, I fill out my taxes.

Uhh, I'm having a hell of a time extracting a point from this. You refuse to date because you refuse to cook for any other human? You refuse to date because you don't need someone to do your laundry, cook, and clean? You refuse to date because your buddy's might call you whipped?

Tyyr wrote:I consider cooking for my woman an investment in my future happiness.

As much as I love women, I refuse to date because of this reason. I like cooking but I'm the guy who would only cook for himself. I am self-sufficent. I cook, I clean, I work, I go to School, I fill out my taxes.

Uhh, I'm having a hell of a time extracting a point from this. You refuse to date because you refuse to cook for any other human? You refuse to date because you don't need someone to do your laundry, cook, and clean? You refuse to date because your buddy's might call you whipped?

I don't need anyone else for laundry etc. Love is superficial in my opinion.

Leigen_Zero wrote:

KingCracker wrote:Id say whipped, would of been you watching the game with the guys, enjoying yourself, she phones in a little "Im lonely" and you just take off.

Well, that kind of depends on the exact context of the 'I'm lonely'. A simple 'I'm lonely' would be whipped, but an 'I'm lonely and covered in [insert ice-cream topping of choice]', well that's just common sense really

Nah, nothing 'under the thumb' (as the term is normally known as over this side of the Atlantic) about cooking for the significant other. Personally we've got a system going, I work mon-fri so she cooks most weekdays (unless she's ill or something), she works weekends so I cook weekends.

Usually I find people who cry 'under the thumb' tend to have trouble with relationships in general...

This is essentially what my point was earlier.. You planned to cook, and at the appointed time, left watching the game. Where *I THINK* the "whipped" term can even be considered is if there were no plans, and she calls claiming to be hungry but for whatever reason cant/wont cook, and you leave, this is especially true if she threatens (or gives an ultimatum if you dont) you with anything if you dont go cook for her.

Basically, it boils down to, did you/do you do an activity because you: plan, like, or want to do something; OR are you: begged, threatened, guilted or otherwise negatively influenced to do something (especially if you are doing something that falls under the first category that is more for you than her, vice versa for women who are dating/married to men)

Ensis Ferrae wrote:
Basically, it boils down to, did you/do you do an activity because you: plan, like, or want to do something; OR are you: begged, threatened, guilted or otherwise negatively influenced to do something (especially if you are doing something that falls under the first category that is more for you than her, vice versa for women who are dating/married to men)

Excellent point, EF. Right on the money.

Kilkrazy wrote:No.

It's a bit weird to think of showing care and affection for a loved one as being "whipped".

It seems such a "hyper-masculine" concept. Maybe there's some homosexual bonding sub-text going on.

News at 11: If you watch a football game with other men, you're a repressed homo

What if you're watching the game naked?

Monster Rain wrote:What if you're watching the game naked?

if you are alone, OR it is "homo-erotic chicken" then it's fine

I always cook for the missus... It's mostly because I enjoy it, but partly because she can't really boil an egg....

And food equates closely with love/sex, soooooo.....

Monster Rain wrote:
In fact, anyone who even uses the term "whipped" without irony seems to be an emotionally stunted individual.

Even if it's an honest criticism of someone constantly being forced into things they don't want to do, but do it because there soul mate says so and they rarely get anything in return?

Cheesecat wrote:

Monster Rain wrote:
In fact, anyone who even uses the term "whipped" without irony seems to be an emotionally stunted individual.

Even if it's an honest criticism of someone constantly being forced into things they don't want to do, but do it because there soul mate says so and they rarely get anything in return?

I feel like there WAS a time when it was true, but the word has so much baggage it would be clearer to say "in an unhealthy relationship"

Like, yes, you should be able to criticize a one-sided relationship, but "whipped" means too many things now.

I always cooked for my ex, mainly because she was a rubbish cook.

Rented Tritium wrote:

Cheesecat wrote:

Monster Rain wrote:
In fact, anyone who even uses the term "whipped" without irony seems to be an emotionally stunted individual.

Even if it's an honest criticism of someone constantly being forced into things they don't want to do, but do it because there soul mate says so and they rarely get anything in return?

I feel like there WAS a time when it was true, but the word has so much baggage it would be clearer to say "in an unhealthy relationship"

Like, yes, you should be able to criticize a one-sided relationship, but "whipped" means too many things now.

Also I don't think soul mate was the right term in my description more just living with someone your barely enjoy being around because you're afraid of being single/alone that to me is "whipped".

Monster Rain wrote:In fact, anyone who even uses the term "whipped" without irony seems to be an emotionally stunted individual.

I think there is definitely such a thing as being whipped. I've had a guy to call up the morning of a cricket match to explain they have to bail this week because their partner declared they're doing something else with their time. Didn't matter that it was a pretty serious comp, and they were about to throw three or four sides into unrest as players got pulled up the grades to cover this guy. I've known blokes who just disappear from social circles because their partners don't let them out, or because they disapprove of a certain group of friends.

There's plenty of blokes who just go along with whatever their partner's decree, and I think it's fair to call them whipped. That certainly doesn't apply to cooking for your partner, but it does exist.


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rockerbikie wrote:I don't need anyone else for laundry etc. Love is superficial in my opinion.

You're a strange cat, rockerbikie.

Piston Honda wrote:So I was out late this afternoon with "the guys" watching some college football and drinking beer and rum.

I was the first one to leave, I left a bit early, the college games were not exciting and wanted to get home to cook dinner for my girl friend who I promised to make her favorite dish. Spaghetti with eggplant parmigiana and garlic bread, and picked up a bottle of her favorite red wine (Casella Wines' Yellow Tail Merlot, luckily it is cheap as hell).

I never thought about it as being whipped as I enjoy doing it and she loves my cooking so makes me happy. My friends see it as being whipped and another result of the new age "equal partnership".


I do see going to art shows and plays as being whipped though. Hate them, but she loves them and I love seeing her smile.

Are you whipped? Certainly not, especially if you enjoy cooking. I do have to question your girlfriend's taste in wine though. I've always thought merlot of any variety tastes a bit like salt.

I wish I had somebody to cook for... *sigh*

Oh wait! I do!



Wait, you don't watch sports with other men while naked?

All this time...

Ask your buddys if they have ever had oral delight while playing KOTOR. Ya my dinner was that damn good.

Monster Rain wrote:What if you're watching the game naked?

Is football gay?

Lets look at the evidence:

1. Pretty colors
2. Spandex
3. lots of guy on guy ass slapping
4. The whole front line bends over to start the play
5. what exactly is the Qb feeling under the center?

Sweety loves my cooking. It opens all avenues in personal negotiations, such as she washes dishes and I cook dinner.

My close friends who are in this hobby are pretty jealous of being to take her out to a game store and play a game while she paints. Then we go home and make our meals.

If that means I'm whipped, then let me lick the cream clean off from spoon of life!

I cook for the mrs all the time.
I'm the cook in the house. She likes to do it, but until we can get the kitchen tidied up (brother-in-law has to shift his arse and take our old dining table away so that I can do this.) she's not allowed into the kitchen.

Besides, cooking for her has its advantages - all of which have been enumerated in previous posts.

Besides, as a married man, I live by the old adage.

Happy wife, happy life.

sebster wrote:

Monster Rain wrote:In fact, anyone who even uses the term "whipped" without irony seems to be an emotionally stunted individual.

I think there is definitely such a thing as being whipped. I've had a guy to call up the morning of a cricket match to explain they have to bail this week because their partner declared they're doing something else with their time. Didn't matter that it was a pretty serious comp, and they were about to throw three or four sides into unrest as players got pulled up the grades to cover this guy. I've known blokes who just disappear from social circles because their partners don't let them out, or because they disapprove of a certain group of friends.

There's plenty of blokes who just go along with whatever their partner's decree, and I think it's fair to call them whipped. That certainly doesn't apply to cooking for your partner, but it does exist.


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rockerbikie wrote:I don't need anyone else for laundry etc. Love is superficial in my opinion.

You're a strange cat, rockerbikie.

Yes. Indeed I am.

I cook.

On Saturday I am making pie.

Not sissy fruit-pies, but manly meat pies. Vegetables don't feel pain. They don't know they've been bested.

Pork, & beef, onions, potatoes, garlic, cinnamon, & nutmeg.

I am making many pies. Frendsmas is Saturday, Christmas is coming, there must be pie for all.

Tourtière for the Pie God!

I have only cooked once for her cos I can't cook ( I want to though!!) And it made her really happy

I'd do anything to make her smile, if anything I'm whipped by my own rampant love for my lady lol

If you are a hyper-masculine man, close to a chauvinist, then maybe. But if you are a normal guy like most of us here then hell no. You are showing how much you like her by cooking to her. Besides it is fun. In many countries, it is considered a very manly profession.
Only the "get back in the kitchen" type persons will tell you it is a feminine activity. I for one love cooking with my girlfriend.

Gaaargh wrote:I cook.

On Saturday I am making pie.

Not sissy fruit-pies, but manly meat pies. Vegetables don't feel pain. They don't know they've been bested.

Pork, & beef, onions, potatoes, garlic, cinnamon, & nutmeg.

I am making many pies. Frendsmas is Saturday, Christmas is coming, there must be pie for all.

Tourtière for the Pie God!

See, that's pie right there! In England we dont even entertain other pie. Sure you occasionally see a dick head eat an Apple Pie, but its never caught on. Who the hell wants to eat a pie with cherry or.. well.. whatever else it is you lot put in a pie.

A pie should be pork, or steak, or chicken, or even better game pie! With 3 different meats in it.

My missus loves pie these days, she hasn't touched a fruit pie since she moved here, but she regularly knacks the pork ones, I think she eats about three a week. And her arse is smaller than mine, which seems terribly unfair.

And her arse is smaller than mine, which seems terribly unfair.

So long as she still allows you near it I'm not seeing the problem.