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On #3, I loathe hearing my own name.

If we're ever on a date, please try not to use it unless it's to catch my attention (for example, if I'm about to get run over by a bus); I much prefer the use of eye-contact and body language to indicate that you're speaking to me.

Try and remember their name! I'm terrible with names, especially when drunk. Asking their name 3 times is not a good start, Especially when you've repeated it at least once.

The name game thing can have a varying impact depending on tone of voice and relation to the person. One of my exes would only ever use it disapprovingly, and the way she said it dripped acid and venom, it would pretty much shatter my psyche any time she used it and leave me a babbling wreck (but thats also because she had manipulated me and twisted me around her finger so well that I was a wreck anyway), another girl I dated would say it though and the hair on the back of my neck would stand on end and my spine would tingle (in a good way).

Yeah I agree about the name thing, it depends on how its used. I'm not usually that keen on hearing my full name, the nickname version (Sam) is preferred lol. But I guess it does depend on the tone.

Even 'Chris' is annoying to me. =|

I just have some sort of innate hatred of hearing my name, which is then affected by the tone etc. as normal. It's like starting with a +10 to Name Hatred stat whereas everyone else starts with a neutral +0.

My full name is a no-go, though. 'Christopher' is far too formal and usual precedes something bad or negative.

All that said, reading my name is fine.

I'm also not a fan of hearing my own voice, which has made editing my youtube videos a bit of a pain - having to listen to me saying the same stuff over... and over... and over... and over... *shudders*.

 Avatar 720 wrote:
Even 'Chris' is annoying to me. =|

I just have some sort of innate hatred of hearing my name, which is then affected by the tone etc. as normal. It's like starting with a +10 to Name Hatred stat whereas everyone else starts with a neutral +0.

My full name is a no-go, though. 'Christopher' is far too formal and usual precedes something bad or negative.

All that said, reading my name is fine.

I'm also not a fan of hearing my own voice, which has made editing my youtube videos a bit of a pain - having to listen to me saying the same stuff over... and over... and over... and over... *shudders*.

As a fellow Chris/Christopher I can relate entirely my friend (also about the voice, its weird hearing your own voice on a recording), most of my friends (and even casual acquaintances) refer to me by my last name, so hearing my first name is weird, though if the person in question is female, then I'm all for it.

chaos0xomega wrote:


As a fellow Chris/Christopher I can relate entirely my friend (also about the voice, its weird hearing your own voice on a recording), most of my friends (and even casual acquaintances) refer to me by my last name, so hearing my first name is weird, though if the person in question is female, then I'm all for it.

Despite not being a Chris, this is pretty much true of me. I'm known pretty much entirely by my surname.

Hell, it's even become a forum name!


Also - I did my homework at the weekend; and if I can do it then I'm damned sure the rest of you lot can too!

Interesting stuff guys! I think this really would have helped me out when I was younger. Here are my 2 cents.

1) Confidence is key. Without confidence you are awkward and no girl likes awkward. One of the first dates I went on was with this gorgeous amazing blonde who was way too hot for me. I kept asking her the whole night if she was having fun. Turns out she would have had I just not freaked out on her all night. But we learn and move on.

2) Find a girl/guy who does what you like. The most successful relationships/dates I have ever had were with women that i shared a common interest with. So decide, do you like to go hiking? Do you like video games? Board games are cool right? Whatever, find something fun you can do together. I had a subscription to the Official Playstation Magazine in the early 2000s. They had a segment in there that highlighted couples who played video games, the title was "Those who play together, stay together." Words to live by.

3) Go for it! Sack up, just do it already!!! See that hot girl in class or at the bar or at work? Just go talk to her. Know that you are interesting and that you have worth to provide to her. Tell her that you think she is pretty (I personally hate that stuck up pick up game stuff) and ask if it would be cool if you walked her to her next class or if you could buy her a drink while you chatted about how happy you are that Macklemore won all sorts of Grammys this year (or something that is a "safe" topic interesting to you and maybe her). If you can make it through without a hitch, just go ahead and ask her out on a date (if that's what you want) or another drink if you are at a bar.

4) You can say no. As a guy who had a lot of trouble dating when I was younger, every time I saw a girl that was remotely interested in me I fell head over heels. This is beside the fact that I found many of them unattractive (personally, physically, sexually, etc). If you have invested time in someone and you aren't happy. Then get out. Be picky guys/gals. You will thank me for it later.

Tibbsy wrote:

chaos0xomega wrote:


As a fellow Chris/Christopher I can relate entirely my friend (also about the voice, its weird hearing your own voice on a recording), most of my friends (and even casual acquaintances) refer to me by my last name, so hearing my first name is weird, though if the person in question is female, then I'm all for it.

Despite not being a Chris, this is pretty much true of me. I'm known pretty much entirely by my surname.

Hell, it's even become a forum name!


Also - I did my homework at the weekend; and if I can do it then I'm damned sure the rest of you lot can too!

Yes, mate!

How did it go?

 Albatross wrote:

Tibbsy wrote:

chaos0xomega wrote:


As a fellow Chris/Christopher I can relate entirely my friend (also about the voice, its weird hearing your own voice on a recording), most of my friends (and even casual acquaintances) refer to me by my last name, so hearing my first name is weird, though if the person in question is female, then I'm all for it.

Despite not being a Chris, this is pretty much true of me. I'm known pretty much entirely by my surname.

Hell, it's even become a forum name!


Also - I did my homework at the weekend; and if I can do it then I'm damned sure the rest of you lot can too!

Yes, mate!

How did it go?

Pretty well I think

Amusingly; we met on Tinder

Tibbsy wrote:

 Albatross wrote:

Tibbsy wrote:

chaos0xomega wrote:


As a fellow Chris/Christopher I can relate entirely my friend (also about the voice, its weird hearing your own voice on a recording), most of my friends (and even casual acquaintances) refer to me by my last name, so hearing my first name is weird, though if the person in question is female, then I'm all for it.

Despite not being a Chris, this is pretty much true of me. I'm known pretty much entirely by my surname.

Hell, it's even become a forum name!


Also - I did my homework at the weekend; and if I can do it then I'm damned sure the rest of you lot can too!

Yes, mate!

How did it go?

Pretty well I think

Amusingly; we met on Tinder

We're gonna need moar details before I can give you your grade!

I've said it before, and I'll say it again, Tinder is mega. There is absolutely no reason not to be on it if you're single. Had a few dates off there and got a few more lined up. TONS of beautiful girls on there.

 Avatar 720 wrote:
But how many of them were serious?

Well, not serious enough to go to another country, but if by chance we ever happen to be in the same neighborhood, I would totally go do some Via Ferrata with her.

 Avatar 720 wrote:
I'm also not a fan of hearing my own voice

Yes. That is THE HORROR ! I hate hearing my voice a lot. Also, as an unrelated note, my voice is definitely very feminine : at least one out of ten people that have never seen me before and hear me on the phone thinks I am a woman.

 Albatross wrote:
I've said it before, and I'll say it again, Tinder is mega. There is absolutely no reason not to be on it if you're single.

Well, there is one : I have no smartphone.


So, today I was eating lunch with my supervisor and a few other member from the team, and then some colleague comes with a new, very nice girl. After a while (because we were not seated close), I started chatting with her, asking her name, what she does (she is a PhD student too), joked on how we both wear hats, and then… well, of course, I did not do my homework .
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Well, maybe I will see her again. Not so sure though, she splits her time between three labs, and she had already been doing her PhD for more than one year, it was the first time I met her.
Anyhow, she is working in computer science too. That means she spent most of her time surrounded mostly by boys. What are the chances she is still single ? Practically none .

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
Well, maybe I will see her again. Not so sure though, she splits her time between three labs, and she had already been doing her PhD for more than one year, it was the first time I met her.
Anyhow, she is working in computer science too. That means she spent most of her time surrounded mostly by boys. What are the chances she is still single ? Practically none .

Listen to yourself! Just stop! You are your own worst enemy when you think this way.

This is known in the sales business as "Pre-qualifying". Essentially, you talk yourself out of the sale before you even try. Remember, the number one reason people fail to get a date is because they NEVER ASK. Don't be that guy!

Get out of your head, and just ask. Try something like, "Huh, I would love to hear more about your work. Let's get together for coffee and you can tell me more. What works better Wednesday or Thursday after work?"*



* Note= I would not call this a date. This is simply establishing some sort of connection that could lead to a real date. However, that is still a lot further than you are right now.

 Easy E wrote:
Listen to yourself! Just stop! You are your own worst enemy when you think this way.

That only came as an afterthought. I certainly did not think “Hey, let me not ask her to meet again because she likely already has a boyfriend.” I forced myself to overcome my shyness/self-deprecation enough to initiate a conversation, but not enough to ask her to meet again.
Anyway, last time I managed to ask a girl from the lab to meet together, even though she did have a boyfriend, we still became friends, so that is totally not any excuse for not proposing a later meeting.

 Easy E wrote:
Try something like, "Huh, I would love to hear more about your work. Let's get together for coffee and you can tell me more. What works better Wednesday or Thursday after work?"*

Yeah, that is what I should do, and maybe what I would have done if we had had more time to chat. And maybe what I will do if we meet again.

Cool, I hope you get the chance.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Easy E wrote:
Listen to yourself! Just stop! You are your own worst enemy when you think this way.

That only came as an afterthought. I certainly did not think “Hey, let me not ask her to meet again because she likely already has a boyfriend.” I forced myself to overcome my shyness/self-deprecation enough to initiate a conversation, but not enough to ask her to meet again.
Anyway, last time I managed to ask a girl from the lab to meet together, even though she did have a boyfriend, we still became friends, so that is totally not any excuse for not proposing a later meeting.

 Easy E wrote:
Try something like, "Huh, I would love to hear more about your work. Let's get together for coffee and you can tell me more. What works better Wednesday or Thursday after work?"*

Yeah, that is what I should do, and maybe what I would have done if we had had more time to chat. And maybe what I will do if we meet again.

Cool! Sounds to me like you're making a little progress on the confidence front, which is brilliant. I would echo what E said about not talking yourself out of asking this person out, but I would add that it sounded like it took a lot of balls for you to do what you did, so take encouragement from that, and from the fact that you seemed to establish something of a rapport with her. It's all positive stuff. Stay positive. Although you didn't technically complete your homework, you still get a 'C' for effort. Build on this and keep making progress!


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p.s. Next time you talk to her it might be worth asking her about her work, getting into deep conversation about it then making an excuse to dash off - a pressing engagement or something. That sets you up nicely for '...but let's pick up this conversation later on, over coffee - how does [insert day] work for you?'.

Just a suggestion.

If my rugged good looks and sparkling wit don't win her over, I just drop some dashing lines and claim her heart.

Your father must be a drug dealer, cuz you dope!
Can I have directions?… to your heart?
You’ve got the whitest teeth I have ever seen!
Can I buy you a drink, or do you just want the money?
Are you Sweadish? cuz you’re the sweetish girl I’ve met!
If I followed you home, would you keep me?

 ImotekhTheStormlord wrote:
If my rugged good looks and sparkling wit don't win her over, I just drop some dashing lines and claim her heart.

Your father must be a drug dealer, cuz you dope!
Can I have directions?… to your heart?
You’ve got the whitest teeth I have ever seen!
Can I buy you a drink, or do you just want the money?
Are you Sweadish? cuz you’re the sweetish girl I’ve met!
If I followed you home, would you keep me?

Pick up lines may be the worst way to introduce yourself.

 ImotekhTheStormlord wrote:
If my rugged good looks and sparkling wit don't win her over, I just drop some dashing lines and claim her heart.

Your father must be a drug dealer, cuz you dope!
Can I have directions?… to your heart?
You’ve got the whitest teeth I have ever seen!
Can I buy you a drink, or do you just want the money?
Are you Sweadish? cuz you’re the sweetish girl I’ve met!
If I followed you home, would you keep me?

You haven't included the best one ever.

How do you like your eggs in the morning? Fertilized?

Pick up lines can be an amusing topic of conversation after introduction, in a satirical way of course.

As for this "homework", does hooking up with a girl you met at a bar count?

 Corpsesarefun wrote:
Pick up lines can be an amusing topic of conversation after introduction, in a satirical way of course.

As for this "homework", does hooking up with a girl you met at a bar count?

Yeah, sure they can work at times but most of the time they just sound really cringe inducing which probably isn't good for first impressions.

I mean taking the piss out of guys that have used pick up lines on her and talking about what pick up lines you've heard is a good, lighthearted way to fill a conversation.

 Corpsesarefun wrote:
I mean taking the piss out of guys that have used pick up lines on her and talking about what pick up lines you've heard is a good, lighthearted way to fill a conversation.

I have no problem talking about how gakky pick up lines are either but to use them and to be genuine about it I don't see that working too often unless you're like an amazing person.

On the name thing, my girlfriend hates her name because it's unusual, old fashioned and everyone always mispronounces it. I've always called her by various nicknames. The real name only gets used in times of dire import. She also only refers to me by nicknames. Most of which are mildly embarassing (Penguin and Hobbit are her two favourites).

I'm sure it's sickening to everyone who hears us.

Guys guys guys....the best pickup line is still these two:

"Did you just fart? Cause you just blew me away!"

"Your eyes are as blue as my toilet bowl water."

Wait what, who has blue toilet bowl water?

 Corpsesarefun wrote:
Wait what, who has blue toilet bowl water?

Uh, only the coolest sponges and starfishes under the sea of course

Also, people who actually clean their toilets...http://www.clorox.com/products/clorox-automatic-toilet-bowl-cleaner-bleach-and-blue/

You have shown your fecal colours at last I see...

The worst pick-up line in the world can work, if you actually follow it up by asking for a date. Notice almost none of these lines actually do that.

My personal favorite is, "The word of the day is legs, let's go home and spread the word."

 Grimskul wrote:

 Corpsesarefun wrote:
Wait what, who has blue toilet bowl water?

Uh, only the coolest sponges and starfishes under the sea of course

Also, people who actually clean their toilets...http://www.clorox.com/products/clorox-automatic-toilet-bowl-cleaner-bleach-and-blue/

You have shown your fecal colours at last I see...

Our bleach is yellow and it doesn't stay in the bowl for long.

I'd like to add some input in the form of an anecdote;

A man dies horribly in a freak accident. He goes up to heaven, and there is god.

God; Oops, sorry about that. I was busy checking on the oven. So, because of that excruciating death you had to endure, I will grant you one wish, than return you unharmed. The wish can be anything you want.
Man; Well I have always wanted to go to Hawaii, but I hate flying. Can you make a highway to Hawaii?
God; That is ridiculous! Think of something else.
Man; hmm... I would like to be able to have a vague understanding of women.
God; So, how many lanes do you want the highway to be?