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 Peregrine wrote:
The trouble with this argument, besides being kind of awkward, is that it depends on an assumption that there are at least two gamers. In fact, the entire gaming community is nothing more than sub-programs of Peregrine, the god-like AI that runs the universe simulation. Since Peregrine can obviously not be both gay and straight or single and not single, and arguments about half a person don't make any sense, the entire tangent should end here.

So what if Peregrine comes to you and offers you a choice, you can help him and receive the rewards of that lifestyle, or you can suffer bad luck and eternal pain if you choose to doubt his god-like control. In either case, you will never know that these events came from your interaction with Peregrine the god-like AI that runs the universe in the first place and what choice you made. I believe it is called Peregrine's Phoenix.... or something?

Ummm, and dating stuff too.......

now, can we get back on topic please?
I'll start lol: How many delays a girl makes on arranging a date is just a polite way to tell me to off

Are you trying to arrange it with her? I'd say try about three times (not in quick succession), and if the third doesn't work, ask her to get in touch whenever she's next free. You already made an effort, and if she's interested and was genuinely busy or whatever, then she'll get back in touch. If she doesn't get back to you, then you know she wasn't interested and it's saved you asking and being delayed every time.

Three times is a good rule of thumb.

Once is confusion
Twice is communication problems
Three times is deliberate

Much appreciated guys, that is what i was planning to do, oh well now i am 100% sure

Currently dating a Brazilian girl I met on Tinder.



Manchester Tinder is AWESOME.

ThatSwellFella wrote:
Can someone explain me why i got this feeling that this thread is about Ashiraya not dating

To my knowledge, it's not.

That said, my current lack of dates is more due to 'just can't find anyone that I really like' rather than 'ugh wargamers are disgusting'.

Yes, unwashed gamer kids exist, but so do perfectly normal (ish) people.

 Ashiraya wrote:

ThatSwellFella wrote:
Can someone explain me why i got this feeling that this thread is about Ashiraya not dating

To my knowledge, it's not.

That said, my current lack of dates is more due to 'just can't find anyone that I really like' rather than 'ugh wargamers are disgusting'.

Yes, unwashed gamer kids exist, but so do perfectly normal (ish) people.

There are dozens of us!

DOZENS!
...
Okay, maybe I'm a little less normal than even -ish. >_>

 Avatar 720 wrote:

There are dozens of us!

DOZENS!
...
Okay, maybe I'm a little less normal than even -ish. >_>

Who cares about normal (well apart from the people you are trying to date of course) monkey man, dakka would certainly be a lot less humourous without you around.

 Bullockist wrote:

 Avatar 720 wrote:

There are dozens of us!

DOZENS!
...
Okay, maybe I'm a little less normal than even -ish. >_>

Who cares about normal (well apart from the people you are trying to date of course) monkey man, dakka would certainly be a lot less humourous without you around.

Oh, I'm not complaining. I like being rather less-than-normal; it's fun.

 Albatross wrote:
Currently dating a Brazilian girl I met on Tinder.



Manchester Tinder is AWESOME.

I've been told to use tinder. Is it basically a nicer version of a f**k-buddy site? Not that that's bad it's just i dunno if that's all i want. Could be fun for a bit till i want something more serious.

 Ashiraya wrote:

ThatSwellFella wrote:
Can someone explain me why i got this feeling that this thread is about Ashiraya not dating

To my knowledge, it's not.

That said, my current lack of dates is more due to 'just can't find anyone that I really like' rather than 'ugh wargamers are disgusting'.

Yes, unwashed gamer kids exist, but so do perfectly normal (ish) people.

It's better not to try to make the group you're looking at too narrow anyways. I know I didn't even bother looking in the wargamer group. Two wargamers together probably can lead to financial issues.

Obviously though stupidity is being with someone who hates some of your favourite hobbys.

Yeah i haven't felt anything really special since that one girl some years ago. Perhaps i should learn more about each person?

@ashiraya: I think you misquoted him but i can't remember. Some guys here probably like you sure but i don't think i do. Too young for me being 27 and that usually brings with it more immaturity and lifestyle differences. For me i have my own place while people your age are just leaving high school or entering college and are finally just experiencing life on your own at a dorm. I also pay bills and have a job. Then there's the distance and the fact you seem too concerned of what other gamers think of you or something. Then again i find many gamers and war-gamers to follow the path of hating shooters even when they're ok and hate something fully even with decent parts to it (i don't like some things but i hate overly-critical people like something has to be a freaking masterpiece every time or an action movie can't be good for people that just want an action movie). Anyway i wouldn't know you well enough to care.

With not_u she's too far away and in a relationship. Not to mention i seem to disagree with many of the things she tends to think.

This is of course just looking at people online here with similar interests though and the pool for us guys is just way too small. Looking in real life is a better idea.

I don't think i'll find any online girls with similar interests to me and a similar connection though you never know.

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I'd prefer a girl that can laugh at things and enjoys humor. Probably a nerdy girl that at least is interested in anime and video games or possibly a girl i can engage with on an intellectual level without either feeling dumb or too smart. Looks would also need to be decent at least. Perhaps even that is asking too much.

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Thankfully i can make girls laugh and stuff but i really should work on taking care of myself and hygiene a bit. Sometimes i won't shave for a couple days and other issues are a problem. I really should fix myself up normally even when i'm mostly just working at a factory or going to GW.

On that topic i find most women that enter GW to just be one of the gamer's girlfriends or a mom. Nothing funnier than somebody that doesn't get a hobby trying to understand it.

"Here are your pokee man things."

At least they try to understand the hobbies. Oh and i hate 'harry potter' and 'pokemon' these days. People that like either one kinda weird me out and same goes for the twilight crowd but being into warhammer i can't judge. Twilight always seemed just like one of those high school drama shows girls used to love back in the day (except with mythical creatures to have sex with). The more things change the more they stay the same i guess.

Too many of the people on here, often times the best way to start a relationship is interaction, so if your on a date, and you are chatting away, think about asking them interesting questions, and then the social queue would probably be to ask you the same questions. Relationships are built and created not from first impressions (Though that is important), people rarely judge you as badly as you would think.

I mean the thing is that many people do not get attracted to the opposite sex or same sex (if you are into that sort of thing), until wam! You meet someone that strikes your fancy. Thats not love at first sight more of an attraction, often times though it is usually gradual once you get to know someone it sometimes heads up the route towards the romantic.

Relationships from my experience are built from casual conversations and discussion.

Interaction is quite key. The few dates I have been on I have connected well, but I don't really have a drive to go any further than a single night and meet someone. Then leave. (no, no one night stands for this guy)

But it is fascinating.

Just to clarify, I am not looking for a date here on Dakka. Too slim odds, and mostly Americans here anyway, so too distant. As for local gaming groups, I really do not expect anything but keeping my eyes open can't hurt.

 flamingkillamajig wrote:
Looking in real life is a better idea.

Or at least on dating sites, not general games/forums/etc, since that avoids the "you're 10,000 miles away and we will never meet" problem.

 Asherian Command wrote:
Relationships are built and created not from first impressions (Though that is important), people rarely judge you as badly as you would think.

I don't know, I'm pretty judgmental and it doesn't take me that long to form a bad impression of someone. Certainly by the end of a first date I'm going to have a pretty good idea if they're even potentially compatible with me. And given how many first dates in general don't lead to second dates I'd say a lot of people work the same way. That first impression matters a lot. It won't establish a relationship by itself, but it can certainly end one before it even has a chance to begin.

I'm quite sure that looking for a date in real life is better - much better than dating sites/apps too. I mean, this is the internet - people present themselves very differently on the internet than they do in real life.

And let's be serious, asking someone on a date over the internet because you both "like a good glass of wine" is so.. ehh.

 thenoobbomb wrote:
I'm quite sure that looking for a date in real life is better - much better than dating sites/apps too. I mean, this is the internet - people present themselves very differently on the internet than they do in real life.

You really think people don't lie about themselves offline? At least with online dating you can quickly sort through a large pool of people and filter out the obvious bad matches instead of having to spend a bunch of time in a bar or whatever going through the same "hi, what's your name" stuff. So what if I risk going on a first date with someone who isn't entirely honest, at least I've already avoided wasting any time on the countless other people who will proudly declare that they're not the kind of person I would touch with someone else's ten foot pole.

 thenoobbomb wrote:
I'm quite sure that looking for a date in real life is better - much better than dating sites/apps too. I mean, this is the internet - people present themselves very differently on the internet than they do in real life.

And let's be serious, asking someone on a date over the internet because you both "like a good glass of wine" is so.. ehh.

Whose saying that?

 thenoobbomb wrote:
I'm quite sure that looking for a date in real life is better - much better than dating sites/apps too. I mean, this is the internet - people present themselves very differently on the internet than they do in real life.

And let's be serious, asking someone on a date over the internet because you both "like a good glass of wine" is so.. ehh.

It can work I guess, experience says otherwise.

 Ashiraya wrote:
Just to clarify, I am not looking for a date here on Dakka. Too slim odds, and mostly Americans here anyway, so too distant. As for local gaming groups, I really do not expect anything but keeping my eyes open can't hurt.

Not to mention, if by some miracle you have a relationship long distance that if you fall in love, someone has to uproot themselves.

 Asherian Command wrote:

 thenoobbomb wrote:
I'm quite sure that looking for a date in real life is better - much better than dating sites/apps too. I mean, this is the internet - people present themselves very differently on the internet than they do in real life.

And let's be serious, asking someone on a date over the internet because you both "like a good glass of wine" is so.. ehh.

Whose saying that?

Literally every single woman on Dutch dating websites, as far as I know.

 Avatar 720 wrote:

 Bullockist wrote:

 Avatar 720 wrote:

There are dozens of us!

DOZENS!
...
Okay, maybe I'm a little less normal than even -ish. >_>

Who cares about normal (well apart from the people you are trying to date of course) monkey man, dakka would certainly be a lot less humourous without you around.

Oh, I'm not complaining. I like being rather less-than-normal; it's fun.

me too, sometimes i pretend i am normal, it gets boring quick though...


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 Ashiraya wrote:

ThatSwellFella wrote:
Can someone explain me why i got this feeling that this thread is about Ashiraya not dating

To my knowledge, it's not.

That said, my current lack of dates is more due to 'just can't find anyone that I really like' rather than 'ugh wargamers are disgusting'.

Yes, unwashed gamer kids exist, but so do perfectly normal (ish) people.

Hah, if you say so, then i am sorry Cos here was a storm because one guy commented the TOs sister on the forums, exactly like this:

and then the club was recalling this girl who left since people were always staring into her and she was fed up by swearing one's entire bloodline/deities when one would roll disastrously etc etc... TBH, I don't get the 2nd part(prolly since i do the same, have bad temper and even worse luck LoL) but yea, as a guy(correct me if i am wrong ashiraya, or any gamer girl reading this) i get this feeling that if we wanna atract girls to the hobby, teach her to play as if it was a guy you are teaching(but without sexist jokes and such ) fun fact, my friend from club tried it and managed to get a girl into WHFB.... BACK TO TOPIC AGAIN: apparently, girl i met last Saturday contacted me(yea, not the other way around, imma take it as a good sign) and said that she is trying to persuade her parents to let her go this saturday.... Wish me/her luck
but enough about me, you guys and girls How is your weekend going, and how you plan to spend it?

A friend of me is coming to my place Sunday. She likes playing vidya games too, so that's probably what we're going to do

ThatSwellFella wrote:
i get this feeling that if we wanna atract girls to the hobby, teach her to play as if it was a guy you are teaching(but without sexist jokes and such )

Well, that is what I would do by default. And I do not do sexist jokes even when teaching a guy. Or, like, ever, actually, I guess.

ThatSwellFella wrote:
How is your weekend going, and how you plan to spend it?

Gonna climb with her on Sunday's afternoon. No other plans yet.

Friends of Dakka, I am pleased to report that I just got myself a boyfriend.

He's a Dane (!) who I have known for years and grown closer and closer to until he asked earlier today.

So, yay! Time of loneliness is over!

 Ashiraya wrote:
Friends of Dakka, I am pleased to report that I just got myself a boyfriend.

He's a Dane (!) who I have known for years and grown closer and closer to until he asked earlier today.

So, yay! Time of loneliness is over!

Congrats.

For a second i'm going to pretend he's a Great Dane (like scooby doo only real). It's much funnier that way.

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Hopefully i can go back to school soon. Would be nice to see some more people around. It sucks being bored and alone.

Congrats.

Anything in this thread actually help the process Ashiraya?

Not directly, but it helps me understand men, which never hurts.

You're quite strange creatures, you know.