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Now that I am taken, I think that means I am free to mention something without it risking becoming awkward. (Especially since it is, in essence, praise). Someone may find it useful or interesting.
Peregrine might have gathered himself a mixed reputation due to his strong opinions and complete lack of fear for displaying them, but if you want to appear attractive in the way you behave and word yourself online, he is doing basically everything right. Having very firm and logical opinions, incredibly no-nonsense (even if almost a bit too blunt sometimes) and never far from the action but, as displayed in certain... less pleasant threads, also having a good heart! Quite mysterious as well (I know very little about him outside of Dakka). In essence, the way he is behaving hits all the right buttons to draw attention like a fire alarm without appearing as though he's even remotely trying to do so. The way he gets smackdowned in various threads for his opinions almost makes you feel sorry for him, and simultaneously he acts like he has the willpower of a stone wall. 10/10.
Yes, I am a Peregrine fangirl. Bite me. Hopefully I won't get banned for talking about another poster.
Now for something a bit less personal, I am quite interested in game demographics and during my years of WoW I have asked people I encounter various questions (simultaneously stressing that I don't expect them to answer if they don't want to). I am not surprised I find myself quite attracted to WoW as my taste in games have never been very feminine, but I am surprised by the sheer number of other women I've found in that game, and I am still not entirely sure why the gender ratio in that game/genre is so much more equal than in most other games with a that high focus on violence. During my days of CoD4 I felt like the only female on the planet.
Man, All the girls I met in WoW where really guys.....
If it is a female Tauren, the odds are something like 90% or more that it's a girl behind the screen. Male trolls, draenei and female orcs are also quite popular. And Pandaren!
If it is a female Blood Elf in a metal bikini, a male orc or Tauren, the odds are reversed.
There are quite some trends!
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@Ashiraya: Well i'm a guy so i'm not effected by his charms and i usually disagree with him (and i think it depends on the woman rather than ashiraya here being seen as every woman). I feel sometimes peregrine is alright but some of his opinions seem a little too extreme. His opinion of never saying hello to somebody you don't know was a bit much for me as well as his opinion that if you just lost your family member that somebody not knowing you asking you to keep your head up or similar deserved a punch in the face. In fact having gone through that situation i'd say people helping you is a big deal. I felt really alone when my mom died so i can say for me and in my experience with the situation what i really needed was family, friends and anybody that would care. Didn't help not long after my dad forced me to move in with my half sister and not very long after sold the family dog. Sure this was all when i was 19 but for a fairly young person it's a lot to go through. Could you imagine going through all this about right now ashiraya. I had to at about your age. In case you're wondering my mom died of ovarian cancer and suffered for at least 3 months on a constant case of lowering and stabilizing health that saddened and relieved you constantly until you were emotionally dead inside. It was not fun.
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flamingkillamajig wrote: @Ashiraya: Well i'm a guy so i'm not effected by his charms and i usually disagree with him (and i think it depends on the woman rather than ashiraya here being seen as every woman)
Well obviously my perspective does not speak for everyone, but I imagined someone might find it interesting to know how that kind of behaviour is viewed by someone on the other side of the border.
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flamingkillamajig wrote: @Ashiraya: Well i'm a guy so i'm not effected by his charms and i usually disagree with him (and i think it depends on the woman rather than ashiraya here being seen as every woman)
Well obviously my perspective does not speak for everyone, but I imagined someone might be interesting to know how that kind of behaviour is viewed by someone on the other side of the border.
Fair enough and i added a bit more to what i said as you posted that so you might want to re-read my old post i was editing.
flamingkillamajig wrote: Well i'm a guy so i'm not effected by his charms and i usually disagree with him
I like him as a DakkaDakka member, but I would not date him . And I am pretty sure he would not date me either .
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"Our fantasy settings are grim and dark, but that is not a reflection of who we are or how we feel the real world should be. [...] We will continue to diversify the cast of characters we portray [...] so everyone can find representation and heroes they can relate to. [...] If [you don't feel the same way], you will not be missed"
https://twitter.com/WarComTeam/status/1268665798467432449/photo/1
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There is no such thing as a hobby without politics. "Leave politics at the door" is itself a political statement, an endorsement of the status quo and an attempt to silence dissenting voices.
Ashiraya wrote: The majority of us are probably a fair bit nicer in real life than online. Lowered inhibitions tends to do that.
I can't comment on the occasion you mention as I have not followed that discussion.
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Im probably not. Im a jerk in general. Atleast people say I am. But several say im nice and have a quiet demeanor.
People usually insult me more online. I think it depends. I think the major problem is i joke with people and tease them but can't take a joke meant to tease me at times (usually they don't do such in a humorous way whereas i do or possibly the idea we were joking was not understood). In every other way most people seem to be good with me. There does seem to be a great bunch of *ssholes and douchebags though. Not saying i'm great either but there are a lot of people that are bullies and (at least in my opinion) and much worse than me.
Oddly enough on dakka dakka possibly because i'm not heavily invested in the site and the bond between members isn't so close (often on smaller forums people are closer) i have found myself getting a lot less hate. I think there's only a couple people on this site that hate me or rub shoulders with me. I tend to find people that do are the overly-serious bunch that can't take a joke. For instance as a joke last week at work i told a co-worker if he ever knew a woman that played the harmonica with her q*eefs. We both thought it was pretty funny. A serious person probably wouldn't though.
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I wish some girls here were super fond of me in the way ashiraya was with peregrine. Hopefully i can find a girl that enjoys humor. I also think i'd prefer a girl that isn't too innocent. Perhaps one that likes fun but isn't a party girl. We'll have to see.
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I think Ive been ruined for all women (or something like that). It happened by accident, bullshitting about hockey in a facebook group where I became acquainted with a Canadian girl, we talked a bit bout a plethora of different topics. She is like, literally perfect (for me) in every way possible. Great personality, super interesting, super polite (but arent all Canadians? ), etc etc etc ad nauseum, and my fething god is she beautiful, like words cannot describe, Im still trying to pick my jaw up off the floor. This was like 2 weeks ago (havent spoken to her since, we arent friends or anything, just random strangers who had a chat about common interests), since then, I have not seen a girl that triggered any sort of emotional/physical/attraction response in me whatsoever. Like, at all.
There were a couple girls I had intended to message on okcupid, and now im like "nah". I had to delete my Tinder because I caught myself just endlessly swiping left on every girl I saw. Restarted my account, and then just went back to swiping left before I deleted it again and decided to take a step back. I thought, oh maybe its just a momentary fancy, itll pass with time... but seriously, 2 weeks and I basically have no interest whatsoever in women anymore (except that Canadian chick, which is pretty much a nonoption for fairly obvious reasons).
Other than that, not much goin on. Been dealin with some pretty confusing signals from a friend of mine whonrecently entered a long distance relationship with someone else, not really sure whats up with that. Shes been kind of a huge bitch to me since then, particularly whenever I tell her I cant hang out (as in if she invites me out somewhere/over to hang our at her place, etc and I tell her I cant she gives me a ton of gak about it every time, but we get along great otherwise when we are hanging out, although there was that one time I had to bail out on a party early and she just would not stop giving me gak as I left, even messaging me afterwards to try to make me feel bad for leaving.
Other confusing signals from another girl who ive only relatively recently met, she has a bf (really cool guy too) she keeps hitting me up to hang out n whatnot and has been almost excessively friendly towards me, not sure whats up with that either, particularly since Im her best friends "gay friend" (even though she openly admitted to me she would sleep with me if the opportunity came up, not interested).
And beyond that, well... meh. So disinterested in all that gak recently, its as if Im all out of feths to give. I think a large part of it has to do with the fact that im unemployed and living with my parents, situation isnt necessarily conducive to relationships/getting laid, and I have bigger concerns on my mind, like why my interview for my dream job keeps getting pushed back and how im going to pay my bills for the next month.
CoALabaer wrote: Wargamers hate two things: the state of the game and change.
flamingkillamajig wrote: I wish some girls here were super fond of me in the way ashiraya was with peregrine.
Ok, lesson here: I don't have some secret "make women like me" attribute, it's just pure luck. For every person that's "super fond" of me there's at least a few that hate me. And plenty of them are members of this forum. But apparently the population here is large enough for there to be at least a couple that don't. So if you want someone to feel that way about you then go meet more people until you find someone that does.
Hopefully i can find a girl that enjoys humor.
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Perhaps one that likes fun
And here's another hint: everyone enjoys humor and likes fun, so looking for that isn't very useful. When you're listing the things you're looking for it's best to start with the ones that do the best job of splitting people into distinct "like" and "don't like" groups. Those are going to be the things that make you different from all the other people. All the other stuff like "I enjoy having fun" is just useless fluff that tells you nothing about what a person is like or whether you'd be a good match for them.
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There is no such thing as a hobby without politics. "Leave politics at the door" is itself a political statement, an endorsement of the status quo and an attempt to silence dissenting voices.
flamingkillamajig wrote: I wish some girls here were super fond of me in the way ashiraya was with peregrine.
Ok, lesson here: I don't have some secret "make women like me" attribute, it's just pure luck. For every person that's "super fond" of me there's at least a few that hate me*. And plenty of them are members of this forum. But apparently the population here is large enough for there to be at least a couple that don't. So if you want someone to feel that way about you then go meet more people until you find someone that does.
This, the secret is just meeting enough people to play with those odds basically.
I'm a little confused I'm getting signals that's she's into me like rubbing my face with a finger condom, helping out on my side of that station, or bringing up details about my date at work, yet there is this guy who for anonymous sake we'll call "blank" that I've seen driving her around or hanging
out (a few times) and I remember in a conversation (a month or two earlier) her saying "I can't believe I called blank a friend" (implying either he's a boyfriend or they aren't friends no more), she's also will occasionally talk about the handsome black co-worker, so I don't know if she's being
flirtatious with me or if there's genuine interest.
Well.
I recently spoke with a girl I am pretty sure (like 99 percent I've spoken with a friend of hers and she's told my sisters) so might see how that goes, tho I don't plan on maiking any "moves.
ps, today I wore welding goggles to school.
pps, the school's religious nutcase is into me.
ppps, My ex is talking gak about me on facebook .
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I like him as a DakkaDakka member, but I would not date him . And I am pretty sure he would not date me either .
This can probably be applied to 99% of the people in this thread as well.
Nah. I like Peregrine as a DakkaDakka member more than I like most others DakkaDakka members .
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"Our fantasy settings are grim and dark, but that is not a reflection of who we are or how we feel the real world should be. [...] We will continue to diversify the cast of characters we portray [...] so everyone can find representation and heroes they can relate to. [...] If [you don't feel the same way], you will not be missed"
https://twitter.com/WarComTeam/status/1268665798467432449/photo/1
If it is a female Tauren, the odds are something like 90% or more that it's a girl behind the screen. Male trolls, draenei and female orcs are also quite popular. And Pandaren!
If it is a female Blood Elf in a metal bikini, a male orc or Tauren, the odds are reversed.
There are quite some trends!
Interesting, but in one of my classes we did a trend study that showed women to be attracted to the elves. With the pandarens being the last race women tend to play.
But eh trend studies are usually all over the place.
Also was told to wait by a girlfriend of the girl I am asking out . Kind of worried something might of happened.
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From whom are unforgiven we bring the mercy of war.
If it is a female Tauren, the odds are something like 90% or more that it's a girl behind the screen. Male trolls, draenei and female orcs are also quite popular. And Pandaren!
If it is a female Blood Elf in a metal bikini, a male orc or Tauren, the odds are reversed.
There are quite some trends!
Interesting, but in one of my classes we did a trend study that showed women to be attracted to the elves. With the pandarens being the last race women tend to play.
But eh trend studies are usually all over the place.
Also was told to wait by a girlfriend of the girl I am asking out . Kind of worried something might of happened.
Pretty much all elves in any lore deserve to burn in a fire. Since they're made up i can totally say that. I haven't seen elves in any lore which haven't been smug, arrogant, self-righteous, racist and usually on the brink of extinction even though their arrogance tends to look passed inconvenient truths right in front of their eyes. So in general elves suck and until somebody writes an elf i like i will continue to hate them. Female elves are a bit better but the male elves are just overly feminine.
If it is a female Tauren, the odds are something like 90% or more that it's a girl behind the screen. Male trolls, draenei and female orcs are also quite popular. And Pandaren!
If it is a female Blood Elf in a metal bikini, a male orc or Tauren, the odds are reversed.
There are quite some trends!
Interesting, but in one of my classes we did a trend study that showed women to be attracted to the elves. With the pandarens being the last race women tend to play.
But eh trend studies are usually all over the place.
Also was told to wait by a girlfriend of the girl I am asking out . Kind of worried something might of happened.
Pretty much all elves in any lore deserve to burn in a fire. Since they're made up i can totally say that. I haven't seen elves in any lore which haven't been smug, arrogant, self-righteous, racist and usually on the brink of extinction even though their arrogance tends to look passed inconvenient truths right in front of their eyes. So in general elves suck and until somebody writes an elf i like i will continue to hate them. Female elves are a bit better but the male elves are just overly feminine.
Huh. Elf hater much?
Hmm. I think that most elves are crap, unless otherwise written not to be.
Considering many elves even in tolkiens world are not feminine in structure.
As are many other species.
I mean look at the elves in Warcraft, they are quite huge and well built.
BREAKING NEWS:
Can't date girl, something is going on in her life. I have to back off for a bit.
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From whom are unforgiven we bring the mercy of war.
Ashiraya wrote: Spoilered due to a highly tangential matter.
Spoiler:
Those are definitely people you'd mistake for women at a glance, yeah?
Spoiler:
No facial hair→ feminine. But apparently on the first illustration that elf has a tiny bit of facial hair, so he just looks androgynous instead of feminine. .
Actually it is not a matter of masculine or feminine. It is more about subtlety and intricacies or brute force and bawdiness. We just tend to (wrongly) associate the first with “femininity” and the second with “masculinity”. And Elves tends toward the former, while dwarfs/orcs tends toward the latter. Given the general WOW setting, yeah, those elves do not exude the same sense of brutality and savagery that an orc, or a troll, or a tauren would. Or even most humans. Of course, in another setting…
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"Our fantasy settings are grim and dark, but that is not a reflection of who we are or how we feel the real world should be. [...] We will continue to diversify the cast of characters we portray [...] so everyone can find representation and heroes they can relate to. [...] If [you don't feel the same way], you will not be missed"
https://twitter.com/WarComTeam/status/1268665798467432449/photo/1
That elf you showed has long flowing golden hair and not much body hair so in a sense he's still a pretty boy elf (or at least in the 2nd picture).
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To be fair i do kind of like dark eldar but for the most part most elves are kind of crap.
I'm just so glad i get to punch the thalmor in the face in skyrim.
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On to the dating side of things i don't think i have done much in actual searching. The conclusions i came to about finding a girl that i have an emotional connection with may have helped though for later.
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So you do not like elves because their make you uncomfortable with your sexual orientation .
"Our fantasy settings are grim and dark, but that is not a reflection of who we are or how we feel the real world should be. [...] We will continue to diversify the cast of characters we portray [...] so everyone can find representation and heroes they can relate to. [...] If [you don't feel the same way], you will not be missed"
https://twitter.com/WarComTeam/status/1268665798467432449/photo/1
Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote: So you do not like elves because their make you uncomfortable with your sexual orientation .
No i hate elves for multiple reasons but that's just one. As i said they're arrogant, racist (believe their race to be the best), the general nature they exude of being better than you even though they couldn't take a hit in a fistfight and finally the girly nature. If you don't hear an elf talking emo about something or singing a very flamboyant song while playing his lute then you're not in elf territory. Oh and wood elves are hippies.
I cannot really help you with that one, but I guess you need to do something about it and start to find a way to accept it better. Maybe someone else in the thread can help you with that?
Please take the time to deconstruct those kind of gender stereotypes. Stop and consider what you think is girly about them, like I did a few post above, and then use the adjectives that directly qualifies what they are that annoy you rather than diss on girls .
"Our fantasy settings are grim and dark, but that is not a reflection of who we are or how we feel the real world should be. [...] We will continue to diversify the cast of characters we portray [...] so everyone can find representation and heroes they can relate to. [...] If [you don't feel the same way], you will not be missed"
https://twitter.com/WarComTeam/status/1268665798467432449/photo/1
. And I am pretty sure he would not date me either 
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