So this is going to be the first time I will have a date for Valentines. I have asked out one of the nurses at work and she said yes, so far we have had 2 coffee dates but this is the first serious one. My question is, as it is early on where should I take her for dinner? Should it be something simple like Nando's or pizza hut? (thinking low end here). How about something more up market with Bella Italia, Browns or Cafe Rouge? Need advice on which would be acceptable, all help appreciated.
Depends on your budget and what she is like. Is she relaxed or would she like to be wined and dined?
Either way, not Pizza Hut. It's too kid friendly. Not McD's, just, well, thats not a date unless your 12.
Any reason your ruling out Jamie's?
Out of those, if you want a little bit of spoiling for her (as it is valentines day), then Browns. It's gone down hill in recent years, but is still passable.
Either that or go to Mission and show her your manliness with four Corona (with lime) and El Triple Lucha Libre!
Valentines day, well anything up market will cost you on that day. I would just suggest something fairly casual like a Nando's but would also suggest going to a nice wine bar or the like for a drink first, will loosen you both up for conversation over dinner and is a nice informal way of starting things.
All depends really though on if you are trying to hang out and have a good time leading, or trying to woo her in the typical valentines day fashion.
I don’t recognize the non fast food places, so didn’t vote. But I’d aim for a level above them. Defiantly a sit down and be waited on place. Nothing so fancy that you’d need to where a suit, but nice enough that if you did, you would not feel out of place. I think of valentines day there is an expectation of something a little nicer then the norm
But I know nothing about you and your date. If she’s the kind who wants beers and wings at a sports bar/pub, by all means, run with that.
There is low key for dates, then there is fast food (Pizza Hut/McD's). I would think long and hard about what sort of impression you are trying to give her, and what an appropriate venue may be that would reflect that.
The Maccy D one was a joke option, never really plan on going there on date. Reason for excluding Jamies is the fat I dislike the guy and don't want to patron one of his restaurants.
If you've already been on two dates with her do you have an idea what type of place she would be interested in? Might be best to take that into account
Do you really want your first date to involve stuffing your face? And women are usually very sensitive about eating in front of somebody they want to impress. I would suggest an activity. Show her you are fun, take her to go karts, mini golf, laser tag. People continue to enjoy those things we'll past adolescence. I was taking girls to these things into my mid twenties. If I hadn't gotten married I would still take girls to these types of things and I'm 30.
Imnewherewheresthebathroom wrote: Do you really want your first date to involve stuffing your face? And women are usually very sensitive about eating in front of somebody they want to impress. I would suggest an activity. Show her you are fun, take her to go karts, mini golf, laser tag. People continue to enjoy those things we'll past adolescence. I was taking girls to these things into my mid twenties. If I hadn't gotten married I would still take girls to these types of things and I'm 30.
Good idea. A dinner is boring, and being its valentine's Day is too pretentious. Remember you don't necessarily want to be aroudn a lot of long time couples on Extortion Day er Valentines Day.
The Oracle in Reading, eh. Do you work at Royal Berkshire?
I definitely agree you want a proper sit down restaurant with table service, but not too up market as you don't want to come on hard, and you need to leave headroom for a future special occasion.
Cafe Rouge has a good menu selection. Food quality is good and service is friendly.
Cote Brasserie is similar, a little bit more up market perhaps, sort of fits in a bit below the now defunct Chez Gerard chain.
Strada would be good if he/she likes Italian. It's basically an Italian version of Cafe Rouge.
You might like to scoot over during lunchtime and recce them.
Dude, Pizza Hut and it's ilk is barely acceptable for a regular date when you're in high school. It's certainly shouldn't be on the table as an adult, when you're trying to woo a new lady on valentines day. Pizza Hut level date would not only be cause for her to drop you like a hot potato, but it'd be really reasonable for her to start cautioning every lady she can meet against even talking to you.
Look, I can't tell you what her tastes are but seriously, the bare minimum level for a an acceptable date is probably like $30/head before drinks.. and that's just for regular occasions. Be straightforward, make an evening of it. Do more than dinner, maybe hit a museum or a show as however your mutual tastes run.
Man really, like McDonalds is fine for a feeling lazy-as-gak sunday after you're in an LTR or something, but it isn't date. I can't even believe this is a question...
Yes I work at RBH. I'm also considering Zazzi's that you just reminded me of. It's a pizzeria. Unfortunately the booking I cannot do till she can confirm she can swap a shift. Otherwise we are doing it a day early.
Dinner dates are great and I usually go for a place that is a mix between an overall casual setting that has a quieter dinning room area (much easier to talk there then yelling across the table in a family/sports bar restaurant).
I'm wondering whether to go over my gf's place on Friday or go to Friday Night Magic. She doesn't seem keen on going out on the 14th exactly, but would like to do something at the weekend.
Ahtman wrote: Be classy and just take her back to your flat and have her model lingerie you got her (so she knows you are a giver) while watching porn. Ah, romance.
If you want to go the extra mile pick up some Boone's Farm wine, some Dixie cups, and McDonald's chicken strips. If it costs more than $7 to take a woman out, she's clearly a gold digger.
Ahtman wrote: Be classy and just take her back to your flat and have her model lingerie you got her (so she knows you are a giver) while watching porn. Ah, romance.
If you want to go the extra mile pick up some Boone's Farm wine, some Dixie cups, and McDonald's chicken strips. If it costs more than $7 to take a woman out, she's clearly a gold digger.
This guy gets it. You just have to know how to treat a lady.
I voted McD's just on the off chacne you were stupi... errr... I mean lucky enough to take the lovely lady there... also because you're a Bruins fan, those other places are for REAL people, not Bruins fans.... hah!
No but seriously, I dont know any of those places, and in my opinion the dinner-date is too mundane. Save it for when you're already in a solid relationship, instead show her you're dynamic, take her to something more interactive, I dont know what y'all are into and what you have for options in your area, but something like ice skating is always a good one (it gives you an excuse to hold her hand if she's never skated before, etc.).
There will surely be a nice place that you can go that stretches the imagination? Perhaps go for Lunch if you can't get dinner? Late lunch and maybe hit the cinema or go for some drinks/coffee? Not a bad third date.
Don't think a full bunch of flowers, perhaps a single rose?
Problem: if Valentine's Day over there is anything like it is over here, you're already too late to get any reservations for any of the nice restaurants, so keep that in mind.
Yeah, I just picked the fanciest place, because going to a fast food place on your first big date on Valentines day is likely to flop hard.
Take with a grain of salt, I can't speak or women, but I think on the whole you want something slightly above average, but not too crazy. Like, on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being crappy food truck and 10 being Masa (I looked up "most expensive restaurants in the world" and this popped up), and with 5 being an "ok" sitdown (like applebees or something), you probably want to aim for a 6-7. Go slightly nicer than your average sitdown, but you don't want to go too nice, because then people start to question your motives, and wonder about your propensity to sling money around.
Of course, it also depends on the woman you're dating. Some don't like fancy places, some love them and want to feel pampered. Some women (and men) will have dietary restrictions that are important to note.
Maybe do something like get a reservation at a nice, but not too nice, place, and then ask her about her if she has any preferences/dietary restrictions. Phrase it something like "I was thinking of XX, but I wanted to check and make sure that you can eat there. Do you have any restrictions or preferences?"
I wouldn't mention that you've made a reservation, since she will probably feel forced to go along, and you don't want her to feel forced to go along. From her perspective, it's "our" date, not "your date, with me being the arm candy." By suggesting it, you can show you've put thought into it, but can also get her input, as well as gauge her reaction and act accordingly.
Christ dude, you've got 4 days to sort something and NOW you ask?!!
Firstly, it would be better to choose a local, reputable restaurant/gastro pub rather than a chain.
The issue will likely be getting a table at this short notice, but if you can, do this.
The issue with chain restaurants is they scream "I have no personality or imagination" but they might be your only choice, if so, choose one you're familiar with, as at least you'll be familiar with the way things work for ordering food etc, and aren't likely to commit a faux pas, which means you'll at least be more relaxed, which is A Good Thing.
You do NOT need to spend a fortune, in fact, going too upmarket this early on in your relationship could freak her out, but a small gift, as its Valentines day, wouldn't be the worst idea. But rather than roses or chocolates, perhaps you could think back to talks you've had and come up with a small but thoughtful gift based on something she's expressed an interest in or liking for. Believe me, demonstrating you were paying attention to what she said, especially if some time has elapsed, is a brilliant way of earning many brownie points.
Do not bring sense into this thread , although i am thinking maybe a (pleasant) surprise would be better. That said take her someone nice with tablecloths and waiters. Do not take her to a chain of any kind, nothing says unimaginative or cheap like a chain. You get one chance to make an impression I'm thinking pizzadonalds is not the way to go , however if she could have BPD a big mac might be the way to go, or optionally the fore mentioned porn, lingerie and $7 night .
Since you're low on time maybe a WELL planned and WELL catered picnic (preferably made by you) somewhere with a view and feth all people (gl with that though)
McDonalds, and pay separately. Your goal is to use the date as a filter: if she never speaks to you again because you didn't spend enough money, great! Now you can move on to someone who actually wants to spend time with you instead of just collecting free food.
I would have thought that a filter is supposed to let something through it, that sounds like a pretty airtight way to filter everyone out. If you do however follow his advice ,instead of a flower a half rotted piece of compost should suffice.
Peregrine wrote: McDonalds, and pay separately. Your goal is to use the date as a filter: if she never speaks to you again because you didn't spend enough money, great! Now you can move on to someone who actually wants to spend time with you instead of just collecting free food.
Peregrine wrote: McDonalds, and pay separately. Your goal is to use the date as a filter: if she never speaks to you again because you didn't spend enough money, great! Now you can move on to someone who actually wants to spend time with you instead of just collecting free food.
Please tell me you're joking man.
One would hope so, but I've read enough of Peregrine's posts to suspect that much of his knowledge of the human race is essentially theoretical, so I wouldn't go all in on it!
Peregrine wrote: McDonalds, and pay separately. Your goal is to use the date as a filter: if she never speaks to you again because you didn't spend enough money, great! Now you can move on to someone who actually wants to spend time with you instead of just collecting free food.
Please tell me you're joking man.
One would hope so, but I've read enough of Peregrine's posts to suspect that much of his knowledge of the human race is essentially theoretical, so I wouldn't go all on it!
Oh no he didn't!
OP: Asking for advice from Dakka for dating is probably a fundamentally flawed proposition.
If you want to bone her, don't feed her first. Simple rule of dating.
Crap, ,I wasn't implying he's a virgin, more that many of his opinions seem to have been formed in a vacuum and don't really seem to jive with the realities of day to day living.
Do not bring sense into this thread , although i am thinking maybe a (pleasant) surprise would be better. That said take her someone nice with tablecloths and waiters. Do not take her to a chain of any kind, nothing says unimaginative or cheap like a chain. You get one chance to make an impression I'm thinking pizzadonalds is not the way to go , however if she could have BPD a big mac might be the way to go, or optionally the fore mentioned porn, lingerie and $7 night .
Since you're low on time maybe a WELL planned and WELL catered picnic (preferably made by you) somewhere with a view and feth all people (gl with that though)
I love the picnic idea. That could be really sweet! Except I wouldn't say somewhere with no people - somewhere that's not packed with people, but still has enough other people around to be comfortable.
azreal13 wrote: Crap, ,I wasn't implying he's a virgin, more that many of his opinions seem to have been formed in a vacuum and don't really seem to jive with the realities of day to day living.
As long as he doesn't try to solve his virginity issue with a vacuum everything should work out ok .
Good point Plastic , I didn't think about the possibility of creepy factor , I was just thinking romantic.
Do not bring sense into this thread , although i am thinking maybe a (pleasant) surprise would be better. That said take her someone nice with tablecloths and waiters. Do not take her to a chain of any kind, nothing says unimaginative or cheap like a chain. You get one chance to make an impression I'm thinking pizzadonalds is not the way to go , however if she could have BPD a big mac might be the way to go, or optionally the fore mentioned porn, lingerie and $7 night .
Since you're low on time maybe a WELL planned and WELL catered picnic (preferably made by you) somewhere with a view and feth all people (gl with that though)
I love the picnic idea. That could be really sweet! Except I wouldn't say somewhere with no people - somewhere that's not packed with people, but still has enough other people around to be comfortable.
A picnic?
Oh, you Antipodeans!
You know its fething winter in the UK right? More to the point, its winter and half the country is under water thanks to record levels of rainfall? (even for the English!)
I still want to salvage the concept but I basically have no idea what it's like to live somewhere that snows, so I don't know the first place to start.
"Record levels of rainfall" makes me think "awesome, let's go have a picnic somewhere we can watch the floodwaters going by somewhere ridiculous." Since the OP is in the UK they can get some delicious fish and chips and have that for the picnic. This date is shaping up to be so amazing that I want to go on it now.
None of those places sound particularly good, I'd say skip the dinner and do something else.
As a general rule don't bother taking your dates out for dinner unless the food is memorably good (not necessarily expensive or sophisticated, just good). Your mileage may vary dependent on partner, though if they don't appreciate good food why are you taking them to dinner anyway?
Peregrine wrote: McDonalds, and pay separately. Your goal is to use the date as a filter: if she never speaks to you again because you didn't spend enough money, great! Now you can move on to someone who actually wants to spend time with you instead of just collecting free food.
Please tell me you're joking man.
Well, somewhat. I'd never seriously suggest McDonalds when you can probably find a good local burger place with better food and cheaper prices.
Peregrine wrote: McDonalds, and pay separately. Your goal is to use the date as a filter: if she never speaks to you again because you didn't spend enough money, great! Now you can move on to someone who actually wants to spend time with you instead of just collecting free food.
Please tell me you're joking man.
Well you could spring for a happy meal, if you're feeling generous. Bring the ripple in your own cups.
Do this, you have some time to practice. But, they'll likely enjoy it more than those places.
Do not do this.
Inviting someone around to your house on your first proper date has the potential to send out all sorts of incorrect signals.
A neutral location is a much better idea.
Of course, if you can contrive a way to cook for her in a neutral location, that's full of all sorts of win. (Women generally appreciate a man with cooking skills)
Asmodai Asmodean wrote: OP: Asking for advice from Dakka for dating is probably a fundamentally flawed proposition.
I can't believe you used the word "probably" in that sentence.
Not that I think people should stop asking for dating advice on Dakka, however. They're usually some of my very favorite threads. I always learn a lot about other Dakkaites in those. Yesterday I was wondering when the "show her who's boss" crowd would show up, and it seems that Peregrine has ridden to the rescue?
Well, I would say my house, after removing any unwanted family members/flatmates.
it is very hard to have kinky fethery at a diner. At home on the other hand.....
master of ordinance wrote: Well, I would say my house, after removing any unwanted family members/flatmates.
it is very hard to have kinky fethery at a diner. At home on the other hand.....
And that is exactly why inviting someone back to your place for a serious first date is a terrible idea.
At least take them out somewhere first before one of you offers to go back to your place.
master of ordinance wrote: Well, I would say my house, after removing any unwanted family members/flatmates.
it is very hard to have kinky fethery at a diner. At home on the other hand.....
And that is exactly why inviting someone back to your place for a serious first date is a terrible idea.
At least take them out somewhere first before one of you offers to go back to your place.
Ohhh, serious dates?
Simple: a good, classy resturant, like The Chines Buffet that we have over here. Not too expensive, but very stylish.
Thanks for the entertaining answers so far, knew it would be a risk asking here, not asking if you think dinner is a good idea, asking for appropriate place (had already said she was interested in dinner). As for home cooked meal that she has asked for at some point but too soon for that.
Picnic, while nice idea, it has barely stopped raining here and we do have some flooding. Part of me is thinking about Nando's because she is Portuguese but it seems too casual though that does have a home theme for her. I also know she likes Italian, Cafe Rouge does nice food, but small portions for the price.
Whoever suggested the small something cheers, you gave me a great idea. She isn't allowed pets where she lives atm and misses her cat so small toy cat should bring smile to her face.
Cook her a really nice meal. Seriously. I've done it on a second date before, went great (on the other hand, the first date went extremely well, so it was fine).
Corpsesarefun wrote: Chinese all you can eat buffets are pretty much the furthest thing from a stylish place to take a date.
Azza, do you have a good tapas bar anywhere near you? If you're old enough to drink they are excellent places to go on dates.
Trust me, this is far from what you seem to be thinking from.
It is an amazing place and it is very classy and stylish.
Students.
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Azza007 wrote: Thanks for the entertaining answers so far, knew it would be a risk asking here, not asking if you think dinner is a good idea, asking for appropriate place (had already said she was interested in dinner). As for home cooked meal that she has asked for at some point but too soon for that.
Picnic, while nice idea, it has barely stopped raining here and we do have some flooding. Part of me is thinking about Nando's because she is Portuguese but it seems too casual though that does have a home theme for her. I also know she likes Italian, Cafe Rouge does nice food, but small portions for the price.
Whoever suggested the small something cheers, you gave me a great idea. She isn't allowed pets where she lives atm and misses her cat so small toy cat should bring smile to her face.
What you're not grasping, and what I was alluding to, is that an all you can eat buffet is never classy, even served in the Taj Mahal by the Queen.
It isn't the venue that's the problem.
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Clicked for gaks and giggles. Yeah, I guess I'd have thought that place was classy once upon a time too. I've subsequently eaten in places where the cheapest bottle of wine the sommelier recommended was more than some people will earn in a week. Not bragging, as it was a one off for me too, paid for by my multi millionaire boss at the time, but it does give one a better sense of perspective.
Unfortunately the NHS has struck again. Not enough staff so been called in to work. So thanks anyway. (Know its not a blow off as they asked me to come in too, told them not giving up my holiday.)
Azza007 wrote: So this is going to be the first time I will have a date for Valentines. I have asked out one of the nurses at work and she said yes, so far we have had 2 coffee dates but this is the first serious one. My question is, as it is early on where should I take her for dinner? Should it be something simple like Nando's or pizza hut? (thinking low end here). How about something more up market with Bella Italia, Browns or Cafe Rouge? Need advice on which would be acceptable, all help appreciated.
Azza007 wrote: Unfortunately the NHS has struck again. Not enough staff so been called in to work. So thanks anyway. (Know its not a blow off as they asked me to come in too, told them not giving up my holiday.)
Pfft have the date at the hospital. If a dozen nightmarish godawfuul romantic comedies my wife dragged me to have taught me anything, its that fun dates at the hospital are both fun and heart warming. So heart warming you want to jump off the top of the roof...
Azza007 wrote: Unfortunately the NHS has struck again. Not enough staff so been called in to work. So thanks anyway. (Know its not a blow off as they asked me to come in too, told them not giving up my holiday.)
Probably not the worst thing, having worked hospitality, Valentines is a nightmare, probably much better to reschedule for another, less busy, less cliched and less pressured time.
The pricing and the words "all you can eat buffet" mean it's nowhere near classy for anyone over the age of 18.
Myself, and my friends would disagree, but i acknowledge your right to your opinion, even if i disagree with it.
You're right dude, an opinion is an opinion. Some people like tomatoes others don't. Some folks want chicken fried, others like it roasted.
It really is a wide, wonderful spectrum of tastes out there. I mean some people think it's a good idea to model their life on the music of the band Insane Clown Posse, just like others might think that a cheap buffet makes for a classy date. It's all just different strokes for different folks and we shouldn't judge.
Pfft, Dakka is disappointed. Someone start a news and rumours thread for the new date.
I'd never thought I'd see Cafe Rouge or Bella Italia and upmarket in the same sentence. Remember, dear American cousins, that Olive Garden isn't a real restaurant.
The pricing and the words "all you can eat buffet" mean it's nowhere near classy for anyone over the age of 18.
Myself, and my friends would disagree, but i acknowledge your right to your opinion, even if i disagree with it.
It's not that you're wrong, it's just your frame of reference is too limited to have an informed opinion.
Come back to us in 20 years and let us know if you still think the place is classy.
Will do
Look, it's perfectly possible to have a nice date at a buffet. But what I think you don't understand is there are problems with a buffet for the OP's situation that go beyond how "nice" the restaurant is.
Problem #1: If you're trying to impress, you want to go someplace with excellent service. A buffet is the opposite of that. Asking her to get up and serve herself doesn't make her feel pampered on Valentine's Day. And all females want to be pampered on Valentine's Day.
Problem #2: The success of a dinner date -- especially a first-serious-date situation like the OP's -- hinges on the conversation. The goal here is one of those dinners where you're talking and laughing throughout and the time just flies. The nature of a buffet means repeated interruptions to your conversation, PLUS the temptation to shove your face full when you should really be focused on impressing her with your wit and charm.
Your Chinese buffet might be "fine." But for a serious date on Valentine's Day, your sights should be set higher than that. Your idea is simply poor dating strategy IMO. And it's really just an okay buffet from the pictures.
Asmodai Asmodean wrote: Pfft, Dakka is disappointed. Someone start a news and rumours thread for the new date.
I'd never thought I'd see Cafe Rouge or Bella Italia and upmarket in the same sentence. Remember, dear American cousins, that Olive Garden isn't a real restaurant.
What I earn, their prices make it up market
Also got to make sure the talk doesn't revolve around work. Might put anyone around us off their meals haha!
The pricing and the words "all you can eat buffet" mean it's nowhere near classy for anyone over the age of 18.
Myself, and my friends would disagree, but i acknowledge your right to your opinion, even if i disagree with it.
It's not that you're wrong, it's just your frame of reference is too limited to have an informed opinion.
Come back to us in 20 years and let us know if you still think the place is classy.
Will do
Look, it's perfectly possible to have a nice date at a buffet. But what I think you don't understand is there are problems with a buffet for the OP's situation that go beyond how "nice" the restaurant is.
Problem #1: If you're trying to impress, you want to go someplace with excellent service. A buffet is the opposite of that. Asking her to get up and serve herself doesn't make her feel pampered on Valentine's Day. And all females want to be pampered on Valentine's Day.
Problem #2: The success of a dinner date -- especially a first-serious-date situation like the OP's -- hinges on the conversation. The goal here is one of those dinners where you're talking and laughing throughout and the time just flies. The nature of a buffet means repeated interruptions to your conversation, PLUS the temptation to shove your face full when you should really be focused on impressing her with your wit and charm.
Your Chinese buffet might be "fine." But for a serious date on Valentine's Day, your sights should be set higher than that. Your idea is simply poor dating strategy IMO. And it's really just an okay buffet from the pictures.
Each to their own Gorgon, i have to agree on your first point, but im not so sure on the second.
Plus, my dating strategies have worked many a time before.
Forv this Valentines day, my self and my lady spent the day in a rather charming little teahouse.
I was pleasantly surprised by Olive Garden. It was good, solid Italian style stuff much like Strada. Not haute cuisine and not pretentious either.
Previously we had eaten at a swanky restaurant on Ocean Drive. My mother got food poisoning from her Surf N Turf, and they crapped on my credit card. If I had any illusions left concerning how wonderful service is in the USA, they were removed then.
Olive Garden is consistently decent, though I haven't gone to one in several years. Red Lobster is pretty good too, as far as the upper-scale chains go.
We're kind of spoiled in St. Louis by a surprising number of family owned and operated Italian places.
Also got to make sure the talk doesn't revolve around work. Might put anyone around us off their meals haha!
Oh dear god this is so true. The number of family outings that end up talking about bodily fluids, after enough times hearing about things like projectile gak vomit i now say "people are trying to eat you know" not that it bothers me but I am sure people paying for a meal do not want to hear about tumours and other crud.
People seem to be mentioning a lot of chain restaurants in this thread, are the majority of restaurants over there chains? I love small places , the food is more interesting , the service is variable , I cannot think of a reason to sanitise the experience of going to a restaurant by gooing to a chain
All the restaurants we frequent in Cincinnati are non-chain.
We do go to outback for a cheap steak here and there (I usually just prefer to grill our own) but the steakhouses we go to for a bit more upscale aren't chains either.
We will also hit a Quaker steak or frickers for wings.
Carrabbas is superior to Olive Garden when it comes to chain Italian and is about the same price.
Late to the party, but do not go to a restaraunt and have dinner. Boring.
Instead, have an action date where you go out and do something. Especially something that breaks the "touch" barrier in an easy and natural way. Something like a dancing lesson, light rock climbing, roller skating, etc.
Just do what I did for Valentine's Day. Invite your special lady to your apartment, hire an expensive call-girl, get both girls to start making out, then attack one of them with a screwdriver.
Albatross wrote: Just do what I did for Valentine's Day. Invite your special lady to your apartment, hire an expensive call-girl, get both girls to start making out, then attack one of them with a screwdriver.
Albatross wrote: Just do what I did for Valentine's Day. Invite your special lady to your apartment, hire an expensive call-girl, get both girls to start making out, then attack one of them with a screwdriver.
I've got a date next Thursday, incidentally. I've been on quite a few recently as I'm single now. It's fun, but bloody exausting! And christ, expensive! Oh, how my wallet longs for the days when you could take a girl to an all-you-can-eat Chinese buffet...
That gak just isn't an option for anyone over 30. Hell, 25, if I'm being brutally honest. Once they reach that age, all chicks want is a bloke who's taller than them, pays for gak and lets them talk about themselves. Endlessly.
I've got the first two down, still working on the third.
Albatross wrote: I've got a date next Thursday, incidentally. I've been on quite a few recently as I'm single now. It's fun, but bloody exausting! And christ, expensive! Oh, how my wallet longs for the days when you could take a girl to an all-you-can-eat Chinese buffet...
That gak just isn't an option for anyone over 30. Hell, 25, if I'm being brutally honest. Once they reach that age, all chicks want is a bloke who's taller than them, pays for gak and lets them talk about themselves. Endlessly.
I've got the first two down, still working on the third.
Then you're meeting with some terrible women . I'd avoid anyone that expects you to pay for them.
Dating is awful and awkward, but sometimes it's a means to an end. I always prefer something much more casual or preferably somewhere like a gig.
Easy E wrote: Late to the party, but do not go to a restaraunt and have dinner. Boring.
Instead, have an action date where you go out and do something. Especially something that breaks the "touch" barrier in an easy and natural way. Something like a dancing lesson, light rock climbing, roller skating, etc.
I think that probably depends on you and your date. I have never been on an actual date thoughso what do I know (I have been going out wife my wife for 15 years so I'm not a complete sad case)
Albatross wrote: I've got a date next Thursday, incidentally. I've been on quite a few recently as I'm single now. It's fun, but bloody exausting! And christ, expensive! Oh, how my wallet longs for the days when you could take a girl to an all-you-can-eat Chinese buffet...
That gak just isn't an option for anyone over 30. Hell, 25, if I'm being brutally honest. Once they reach that age, all chicks want is a bloke who's taller than them, pays for gak and lets them talk about themselves. Endlessly.
I've got the first two down, still working on the third.
Then you're meeting with some terrible women . I'd avoid anyone that expects you to pay for them.
Dating is awful and awkward, but sometimes it's a means to an end. I always prefer something much more casual or preferably somewhere like a gig.
Yeah, me too. And I've been meeting some lovely women! The problem is, even girls who say they don't expect you to pay (very few women openly expect it), still pretty much expect you to pay. Which is fine. I can afford it.
Not bloody forever though! Dating is horrifically expensive past 30! I want to like a chick for more than that initial dating phase, so once we get past it I can take them to fething Nando's, or better yet, KFC.
I'm so stubborn that I would gladly ruin my own happiness just so I can stick to my own principles of not adhering to traditional gender roles in dating. But then, if I'm meeting a woman who agrees with that we're off to a winner. Plus, I'm poor as gak and have little, plastic men to spend spare money on.
Siberiandreamer wrote: I'm so stubborn that I would gladly ruin my own happiness just so I can stick to my own principles of not adhering to traditional gender roles in dating. But then, if I'm meeting a woman who agrees with that we're off to a winner. Plus, I'm poor as gak and have little, plastic men to spend spare money on.
It's OK, women love that.
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Medium of Death wrote: Hopefully it all goes well for you good sir Azza, and for yourself sir Albatross.
Oh, it always goes well for me, brother!
You're totally right about the payment thing.
I know, right? And what is it with girls you meet online and wanting to know how tall you are before they decide to meet you? And why do they get so offended when you ask them, in return, if they're on the Pill? It's a double standard, is what it is...
Agree on the tall thing. It's quite sad the amount of short women who MUST HAVE TALL MEN. Come on, you look like a little girl holding hands with her father... let's even things up a little.
Siberiandreamer wrote: Agree on the tall thing. It's quite sad the amount of short women who MUST HAVE TALL MEN. Come on, you look like a little girl holding hands with her father... let's even things up a little.
Its a biological imperative to allow them to breed as close to the average as possible.
Hence fit women are often seen with less than stellar looking blokes, tall with short, fat with skinny etc..
It may sound like I'm joking, but it is a legitimate theory, although I don't think anyone could definitively prove it.
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Its why I only ever seem to attract short, fat ugly women.
If Match.com is any indication, the average female prefers men about 3-4 inches taller than them.
Makes perfect sense, since that would make the man about an inch taller than the woman while she's in heels.
Subjectively, I would say there is a positive correlation between looks and height desired by females. The "more attractive" the woman, the larger the difference in height desired for their height.
Of course, there's also a similar correlation between duck faces and selfies and height difference desired. Who knows which one is causal.
It's all about Tinder now. It's fething mega. I met a girl on there the other day who phoned me at 3am, coked off her nut, and demanded that I sing to her.
It's all about Tinder now. It's fething mega. I met a girl on there the other day who phoned me at 3am, coked off her nut, and demanded that I sing to her.
I've already picked out a ring.
Now I want to call you at 3am and demand you sing.
Have you given a thought to take her toa monster truck rally or a nice NASCAR event. You can bring your own cooler of beer to NASCAR. Whats more romantic then heat, noise, smoke, and a cooler of budweiser?
Albatross wrote: Match.com!? Who still uses that? It's all about Tinder now. It's fething mega. I met a girl on there the other day who phoned me at 3am, coked off her nut, and demanded that I sing to her.
I've already picked out a ring.
I can't use tinder, I'm an android, not an apple.
But Match is useful for finding statistics on this height stuff, since they actually ask people what height they prefer, and people don't have much incentive to lie about it.
I'd be interested to see what the correlation between self-identified body type (thin, skinny, athletic, big and beautiful, overweight, curvy, etc.) and height desired.
It's all about Tinder now. It's fething mega. I met a girl on there the other day who phoned me at 3am, coked off her nut, and demanded that I sing to her.
I've already picked out a ring.
Now I want to call you at 3am and demand you sing.
Unless you can pay me in tits and minge, you're pretty much out of luck...
Take her somewhere nice.
