Ashiraya wrote: Attitudes like yours is exactly why I am so cautious. You have more passive-agressiveness stuffed into your post than in the average Sverigedemokraterna political manifesto.
You have to understand my background, though. To begin with, I am an avid gamer who grew up with games and who also has a wife who's into video games. We've gone through and beyond the "Video games create murderers!" thingy, which was debunked a long time ago, and the very same thing is happening right now again with "feminism". People jumping on a hypetrain to discriminate gamers all over the world.
Secondly, and that's what really upsets me, my wife's an actual feminist who puts so much dedication and effort into her job. Actual feminist work is terrible. It's a lot of paper work, working with national and international law, facing lots of resistance and, worst of all, prejudice. Prejudice that comes from "feminists" who do not have the slightest clue of what feminism actually means: female supremists, attention wooers and, we get to it, Anita who throw the word "feminism" around and drag it through the mud by poorly researching what they talk about, mispresenting information and downright offending a lot of people on purpose. Zoe Quinn also comes to my mind. Feminism nowadays is, sadly, often abused by a lot of people to hide under when they are getting flak. In this very thread, it's apparent as well where people cannot make a distinction between actual criticism of what a person (regardless of gender!) says and her gender - it is immediately assumed that every criticism towards a woman is misognistic. This "feminism" creates a LOT of negative prejudice and this is why I am so upset about this. Feminism, achieving actual changes that MATTER to women, is a huge chunk of annoying work that consumes a lot of your free time and money as well. It requires a lot of dedication and perseverance and I had my wife coming home crying out of desperation and frustration on more than one occasion. And it's those people who get to be the most vocal - those who achieve NOTHING but keep shouting "Wolf!" on the city plaza. They are a huge source of acual hatred against feminism and they undermine the work of the people they pretend to be.
Thirdly, I am hugely into statistics and science. And when people just seriously mess up with it, abuse it or misrepresent it...I gotta light the bat signal.
So...yes, as you correctly observed, my tone is less than friendly towards such people. They abuse the word feminism for money and attention. And that makes me bitter and downright angry. Seeing people happily jumping by those people's side just because it has a positive social connotation is saddening as well.
Just to give you some background why I am so upset about the entire case
I HIGHLY recommend getting in touch with your local feminist organizations, if there are any, after getting some info on them first. Test the waters etc. A lot of them really welcome public interest in their cause and it's awesome if you can get an actual conversation with feminists. It's eye-opening that despite (fortunately!) having gotten rid of patriarchies in the modern (Western) world, there still are everyday issues we often neglect - not because of us ignoring them at will, but because of us just carrying them on.