My experience with Bloodborne is mostly the same as yours. I wanted to like it
so much, but the issues that you mentioned made it a frustrating experience for me.
To put it into perspective, Demon's Souls, Dark Souls 1, 2, 3 and to a lesser extent Elden Ring are some of my favourite games of all time, so it drives me crazy when I hear people say that Bloodborne is the greatest of the Souls games
It's not like I'm the kind of player to hide behind a shield either, I'm usually very attacking in Souls games, so BB really should have hit the mark.
I don't really have anything else to add buddy, except to confirm that
I agree with you