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 MarsNZ wrote:
Like video games, there's probably a lot more than you think. They likely don't advertise their gender due to the hordes of mouthbreathing nerds who are infatuated with the idea of the mythical gamer girl.

Yeah, it's this.

As far as I know, we have 2 bug players, 1 ork player, 1 chaos space marine, and 1 sister of battle player in our local group that are female.

My wife is a fine example of an "evolving player"- she started with mobile and boardgames, then switched to card games and even when she started enjoying "closed" miniature based boardgames like Zombicide, she strongly opposed "open" wargaming, as being "too involving": the hobby side and "entry level time investment" of WH40K held her back (not a "masculine setting" or any other "non gender inclusive" nonsense, nor in fluff, nor within community - she had the exact same objections against investing in Wolsung skirmish game and she generally likes dystopian/dark future settings with endless conflicts). But eventually she tried a couple of introductory games with my old minis and now she deeply enjoy her (literally) hundreds of bugs.

But even now she despises going to gaming clubs/stores and playing with strangers, because it usually contradicts with "having fun". And this is not a solely 40K thing - even more complex board/card games, that allow for different playstyles/mindsets are best played with likeminded people to be enjoyable. With wrong crowd even cooperative games end up with arguing and competing over "who has better solution". With board games this usually mean just a single bad evening from time to time, over a game that you are largely indifferent to. But 40K seem to draw so many self-righteous folks that are so heavily focused on their own faction superiority, that "mutual fun" is often an exotic concept on 40K evenings at our FLGS and "in game racism" is a common thing. So she actively avoid clubs, even though she rarely plays anything other than 40K now.

Have we ever had a poll on Dakka asking what gender players are? Maybe what gender they are and also whether they paint only, paint and game, or neither paint nor game.

We have a girl in my group, she's married to another player and wins all the tournaments I don't. She's really good.

I played one at the Seattle GT and she beat me. She was very good. baited me perfectly with a stinking Librarian which kind of created a cascade of other things too long to mention but I remember her quite a qhile baqck and she manages a GW store if i remember correctly. She was also at the BAO one year if I recall and won it or got real close... Wish I could remember names.

Had a relative (female) express interest in starting up a Daemon army, but nothing ever came of it. Haven't run across any more who'd express interest in the game at all. In fact, I don't know if others feel generally the same, but my wife detests the "grim" nature of the 40K universe.

Got two female bloodbowl players at the local FLGS - one played halflings (switched to Chaos with the next gaming season), the other plays undead.

I've had female RPGer's in my personal group since the 90's (BEFORE I was married), and for a while had an all-female (3-5 players) crew for my D&D games and a Vampire game I ran.

Havent seen any girls going solo in this hobby execpt my ex girlfreind, she is still having a blast playing 40k.

I'm going to try and introduce my wife to this hobby through blood bowl this christmas, wish me luck.

I've seen women playing 40k and Sigmar a few times, but its predominately guys.

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Got three in my gaming group, but they don't play that often.

Mostly painting and collecting.

Probably about 1/3 of the people I know who play, are female.

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My local GW store is run by a woman. I assume she plays and paints, but I don't go in often to know more.

I can't get my wife even vaguely interested in 40k, boardgames etc. not even Monopoly! :(

 timetowaste85 wrote:
One at my store who plays Space Wolves.

Ditto. Seen the one at my store twice in a year, though our game store isn't toxic as far as 40k is concerned.

+1 to the camp of all our FLGS's have seen female players but those female players only spend as little time as necessary in the stores. There are some awful angry reviews and instances of people getting harassed pretty badly...

But I would attribute a lot of that to the recent change in our GW's management.

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There is one that currently plays at my old FLGS. Ex-wife(space wolves) with her new husband(Eldar) that she cheated with while I was in Iraq.
Soooo yeah, my old FLGS I had played at for years, Is now on my ban list when she started playing there, I do not go there at all anymore. even to buy things. I have a new and better FLGS that I play at and buy from now.

I recall several from around here. Granted, there's five or six places in the DFW metroplex that I know of and have gone to, so it's pretty busy here. Kinda sad that I never really got to know any of them, honestly, but I also haven't really wargamed in a long time because of lack of Sisters support.


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AllSeeingSkink wrote:
Have we ever had a poll on Dakka asking what gender players are? Maybe what gender they are and also whether they paint only, paint and game, or neither paint nor game.

Far too often.

 conker249 wrote:
Ex-wife(space wolves) with her new husband(Eldar) that she cheated with while I was in Iraq.

Oof.

Well, she did play Space Wolves, so not a huge loss.

Well, I just moved across country so I'm still finding my local gaming scene, but I play 30k (Alpha Legion) and while my gf doesn't play GW games she's been an avid Hordes player since it came out. She's very much a painter, but she plays the game pretty well too.

 amazingturtles wrote:

 Psienesis wrote:

Of all of them, however, I don't know any that spent more time than was strictly necessary in the local stores to buy things, instead choosing to play at home (theirs or a friend's) rather than pick-up games. The culture in a lot of stores can be pretty toxic.

Yeah, this. this is me.

Also me. I get in get my plastic crack and then run back to my basement as fast as my legs can carry me. I only play at home against my SO and a select group of people I know socialy.

 Jancoran wrote:
I played one at the Seattle GT and she beat me. She was very good. baited me perfectly with a stinking Librarian which kind of created a cascade of other things too long to mention but I remember her quite a qhile baqck and she manages a GW store if i remember correctly. She was also at the BAO one year if I recall and won it or got real close... Wish I could remember names.

If it is who I am thinking of, that's Sarah and, yes, she's crazy-good.

More common with warmachine and AoS. Even more with Malifaux on the west coast.

What are these girl thingses you are talking about?

But seriously. There are quite a few here. They had to do a girls night once a month here.

Well, there's this one woman at the local GW who's there pretty much every time I show up. I'm pretty sure she runs the store though, since she's the person I let scan my purchases into the computer at the cash register. Also since it's a one-person store now she may also be the owner. Not sure.

Although I'm certain that the male crowd vastly outnumber the female crowd in 40k, I still think there're a lot of girls in the hobby but they simply chose never to enter a FLGS due to the fact that many reacts like this...



My fiancé still talks about how unpleasant an experience it was for her to enter the FLGS to buy me a present as everyone seemed to stop up and stare frightened at her as she was some bizarre alien or something (my fiancé tends to be overly dramatic when describing something unpleasant so take this with a grain of salt )

"Squad morale broken!"
Brilliant.
They should have another one saying "Unidentified xenos species detected".

 Zewrath wrote:
Although I'm certain that the male crowd vastly outnumber the female crowd in 40k, I still think there're a lot of girls in the hobby but they simply chose never to enter a FLGS due to the fact that many reacts like this...



My fiancé still talks about how unpleasant an experience it was for her to enter the FLGS to buy me a present as everyone seemed to stop up and stare frightened at her as she was some bizarre alien or something (my fiancé tends to be overly dramatic when describing something unpleasant so take this with a grain of salt )

No, I don't think your fiancee is being overly dramatic at all for describing the reaction she got that way. Also you should add the second e to fiancee, it's kinda important there.

Ever have a room full of 30-40 men currently engaged in gaming, at the moment you enter the room and are the only woman present, stop everything they are doing and just stare at you, in unison, for a good 5 seconds?

I haven't, but that's probably because I'm a guy so I've been on the other end of that. And I have enough self-awareness to realize how I'm acting probably appears most of the time.

 Pouncey wrote:

No, I don't think your fiancee is being overly dramatic at all for describing the reaction she got that way. Also you should add the second e to fiancee, it's kinda important there.

Ever have a room full of 30-40 men currently engaged in gaming, at the moment you enter the room and are the only woman present, stop everything they are doing and just stare at you, in unison, for a good 5 seconds?

I haven't, but that's probably because I'm a guy so I've been on the other end of that. And I have enough self-awareness to realize how I'm acting probably appears most of the time.

Oh, never realised that there was a difference until I googled it. Sorry, English is not my native language but hey, at least I learned something new!