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Now thats how you do it. Nice 45 too.

That was great I wish more parents where like that.

Um, Why didnt he sell it? I know shooting is alot of fun but selling it and then using the money on dinner for the couple would give alot more damage.
But god, I love old fashion parents.

Reminds me of my mom, except she doesn't have a .45.

I question the airing of dirty laundry in order to illustrate that the airing of dirty laundry is bad.

That said, it does remind me of a line one of my old professors used to start every semester with: "And, to close this class session, remember that I've been playing this game for almost 30 years. No matter how good you think you are, I'm better. Don't bs me."

I had 5 courses with him, and he never failed to recite it verbatim.

I really can not tell if this is a joke or not. If not this guy needs to get his head out of somewhere and realize this is no longer the 1950's. If it was a joke then golfclap

He has his head up his ass becuase he took away a laptop he repeatedly warned would be taken way after she continually was rude and disrespectful? OMG, a teenager doesn't have a laptop they didn't pay for all of a sudden, someone call CPS.

Also, not that I know the man, but the seemingly unconscious paper scrunching doesn't exactly say "Wholly rational, well balanced, individual." to me.

Also, also: towards the end I only heard "ZOMG, my teenager whinges about me to her friends!" Made all the more hilarious by an old man whinging about his kid.

The circle of life, as it were.

Ahtman wrote:He has his head up his ass becuase he took away a laptop he repeatedly warned would be taken way after she continually was rude and disrespectful? OMG, a teenager doesn't have a laptop they didn't pay for all of a sudden, someone call CPS.

That is not why he has his head up his ass. The reason his head is there is because he handled this situation like a fussy child and not like a responsible adult should. I am sorry but raging at the internet then plugging holes in your kids laptop does not make you a rational or sensible person. "You made me mad so I am going to break something you have and hope you watch" is something a five year old would do.

dogma wrote:Also, not that I know the man, but the seemingly unconscious paper scrunching doesn't exactly say "Wholly rational, well balanced, individual." to me.

You've never been mad before? I don't think being upset is a sign of an unbalanced person, as we all get upset from time to time.

dogma wrote:Also, also: towards the end I only heard "ZOMG, my teenager whinges about me to her friends!" Made all the more hilarious by an old man whinging about his kid.

The circle of life, as it were.

I don't really get the big deal about some spoiled teen losing a laptop is. He paid for it, if he wants to shoot it he is welcome to. I also don't think it was as simple as "she whined on Facebook so this is happening becuase of this single incident". He made it pretty clear there was a pattern of behavior that had been going on for some time that lead up to her no longer having a laptop. It isn't like he beat her or that this was a first offense.

Should he have filmed it and put it on the internet? Probably not, but people aften do silly things when they are frustrated and hurt. I'm still trying to figure out the 'cleaning lady situation', as I don't quite understand that, other then she isn't the cleaning lady. I kind of get the impression they are really well off but that, probably becuase of their working background, they don't let her act as if she is well off and she wants to act that way. Sort of a "we're rich, why should I clean my room?" attitude.

It is funny but I don't really get the big deal. Parent gets frustrated at teen, dog bites man, news at 11.

He also gives out his full name on youtube, and seemingly runs an IT company in North Carolina.

Johnny-Crass wrote:

Ahtman wrote:He has his head up his ass becuase he took away a laptop he repeatedly warned would be taken way after she continually was rude and disrespectful? OMG, a teenager doesn't have a laptop they didn't pay for all of a sudden, someone call CPS.

That is not why he has his head up his ass. The reason his head is there is because he handled this situation like a fussy child and not like a responsible adult should. I am sorry but raging at the internet then plugging holes in your kids laptop does not make you a rational or sensible person. "You made me mad so I am going to break something you have and hope you watch" is something a five year old would do.

Yes, one incident of anger must mean he is a five year old. I'm sure you have never had an irrational moment in your life. While it may not have been the most level headed response, it isn't as if anyone got hurt. I'd rather get mad and take away an unneeded piece of tech then go on a rampage. Silly, but harmless, and it wasn't like he even destroyed anything of hers, it was his laptop that he was letting her use on conditions she didn't meet.

How did you handle your teens when they were continually petulant, defiant, rude, and disrespectful even after being to talked to about it and reasoned with?

Ahtman wrote:
You've never been mad before? I don't think being upset is a sign of an unbalanced person, as we all get upset from time to time.

Sure, and I've even done things that I regret. But I haven't ever been so mad that I grabbed a camera, a laptop, a gun, and proceed to scrunch a piece of paper in anger after all that was done (That sounds strangely lik Dr. Seuss.).

That said, unbalanced was the wrong word, "overly emotional" is a better phrase, and more reflective of my generally cold perspective.

Ahtman wrote:
I don't really get the big deal about some spoiled teen losing a laptop is. He paid for it, if he wants to shoot it he is welcome to. I also don't think it was as simple as "she whined on Facebook so this is happening becuase of this single incident". He made it pretty clear there was a pattern of behavior that had been going on for some time that lead up to her no longer having a laptop. It isn't like he beat her or that this was a first offense.

Oh, I'm not saying its abuse, or even wrong to the extent of abuse. I just think its either an overreaction given the apparent age of the girl, or a poorly thought out idea given both the message that is supposed to communicated (Don't talk gak on Facebook.) and the reality of the internet.

You make your kid smarter by being smarter than your kid, not by lowering yourself to their level.

Ahtman wrote:
It is funny but I don't really get the big deal. Parent gets frustrated at teen, dog bites man, news at 11.

Basically.

This would have been fine if he had not filmed it and put in on Youtube/Facebook, is basically what it boils down to.

Part of me says "Bravo, don't let your bratty teen push you around."

Part of me says, "Man, she's gonna fall behind in school if she can't use a computer to do reseach anymore." Yes, I know there are other ways to do research; I had to do it the old-fashioned way when I was in school. But if you have to spend a half-hour going to the library, then another half-hour just finding the material you are looking for, then another half-hour going home... that's an hour and a half of research time LOST versus doing an internet search.

Well, hopefully this guy knows what he's doing. But if I were an IT specialist, I'd just block her access to Facebook. That would hurt her just as much without wasting all the money on the laptop.

Who uses laptop to do research or home work?

its mostly used for socializing.

she can walk to the library if she needs info....

No loss right there, great dad.

His daughter will rebel either way. Either he tries to teach her to grow up now, or have her just distant away eventually.
He is doing what should be done.

LunaHound wrote:Who uses laptop to do research or home work?

Me and everyone else I know?

Granted, I paid for mine.

dogma wrote:

LunaHound wrote:Who uses laptop to do research or home work?

Me and everyone else I know?

Granted, I paid for mine.

how on earth do you miss the joke?

oh well

Hey, everyone, let's defend a psycho dad who solves personal relations issues by shooting stuff.

Then next week we can act all outraged about a psycho teen who solves personal relations issues by shooting stuff.

Psycho? he was composed the whole entire video.

That's why it was not an act of uncontrolled rage.

You guys dont know psycho till you have met my mother.

Well, the reason he put it on YouTube is as follows (as far as I can tell):

Even after she was warned multiple times she put up a post bitching about her parents on Facebook and thought she was smart enough to hide it from them.

So instead of just telling her "I saw what you did" they let her keep on thinking she was smart enough to get away with it and made this video in order to post it on her Facebook.

Pretty much a modern technology version of finding your teenagers secret stash of porn/smokes/alcohol, taking all of it, then putting a note in the box saying "I know what you did, you are grounded" and putting the box back.

hotsauceman1 wrote:Um, Why didnt he sell it? I know shooting is alot of fun but selling it and then using the money on dinner for the couple would give alot more damage.
But god, I love old fashion parents.

Makes a point so much more. Come on, you know you've wanted to shoot your computer before.


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Johnny-Crass wrote:I really can not tell if this is a joke or not. If not this guy needs to get his head out of somewhere and realize this is no longer the 1950's. If it was a joke then golfclap

Thats real. Most of my friends are like this . He's nothing to my Dad and Mom though - the wussy.


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Sure, and I've even done things that I regret. But I haven't ever been so mad that I grabbed a camera, a laptop, a gun, and proceed to scrunch a piece of paper in anger after all that was done (That sounds strangely lik Dr. Seuss.).

You've not had kids Dogma. Remember, before us (despite the really bad haircuts in old pics) our parents were cool. We made them that way...


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LunaHound wrote:Psycho? he was composed the whole entire video.

I just find it particularly timely, as I bought both kids laptops for Christmas. I think I'm getting one for SWMBO for her birthday as well.

Frazz you might be well advised to post a link to the craigslist posting selling your kids laptops on facebook if you go this route; unless are the CEO of an IT company in North Carolina who desperately needs to reseed his lawn.

I thought it was fantastic until he uttered the words "explodig hollowpoints." shrug.

AustonT wrote:Frazz you might be well advised to post a link to the craigslist posting selling your kids laptops on facebook if you go this route; unless are the CEO of an IT company in North Carolina who desperately needs to reseed his lawn.

I thought it was fantastic until he uttered the words "explodig hollowpoints." shrug.

Oh no. I'm too cheap to shoot their laptops.

Vulcan wrote:Part of me says, "Man, she's gonna fall behind in school if she can't use a computer to do reseach anymore." Yes, I know there are other ways to do research; I had to do it the old-fashioned way when I was in school. But if you have to spend a half-hour going to the library, then another half-hour just finding the material you are looking for, then another half-hour going home... that's an hour and a half of research time LOST versus doing an internet search.

Something tells me this particular teen isn't really the "researching" type...

BAH! I was just about to post this one But totally agree with the guy.

Basically this was, "My teenage daughter whined about me to her friends! I have only one choice; using totally disproportionate retribution I should make her hate me even more!" I understand that she needed to be punished, but he kinda went a tad too far. Maybe just take the laptop and cellphone away for a month and ground her or something.

I dont think he over reacted at all. He said in his video that he warned he previously about her doing things like that on facebook, and even said "if you ever do this again, itll be way worse" And a parent HAS to keep their promises to their children, weather fun or for punishment. If he just grounded her again, the message would of been "Im a push over, try me again"

Ive broken my kids things before for similar things. "Dont swing the bat in my house" and a week or so later when my son swings a bat in the house and breaks something, yup, he gets to throw away a nicely crush baseball bat