We hear a few whispers on this topic in the forum from time to time, I wanted to see some stats on the matter.

When I met wifey I was on a hiatus from all things nerd. When she found out I was into hobbying warhmmer, at first she tolerated it, but thought it was lame, or a phase. But then she saw I was actually pretty good at it, and encouraged it. She's totally not int he hobby at all, but she's cool with me doing it and buying the stuff.

NERD IV LYF

My girlfriend wasn't wierded out at all - She's a comic book nut so she really doesn't mind. She loves reading too, and after reading 'Legion', BL became pretty much her favorite publisher. She won't paint though, because she thinks she sucks (Even though she's an amazing artist) but I'll make her see the Emprah's light

My SO gives me some encouragement. She isn't into the hobby herself, and she thinks its expensive, but she likes to look at my minis sometimes. Most of the time she just ignores it, but occasionally she gives me gentle encouragement or praise. This year she offered to buy me minis for my birthday.

Khornholio wrote:When I met wifey I was on a hiatus from all things nerd. When she found out I was into hobbying warhmmer, at first she tolerated it, but thought it was lame, or a phase. But then she saw I was actually pretty good at it, and encouraged it. She's totally not int he hobby at all, but she's cool with me doing it and buying the stuff.

I'm in the same boat! But perhaps not quite as far along

I actually voted for "hates it" (I'm the only 1 so far) although in real actions she tolerates it now, and I think she feels better about it. Once she realized it was important to me, it became somewhat important to her because of that.

She actually attended the outdoor tournament that the SGI group hosted in northern VA last weekend with me. She was bored, but she had a pretty good time overall

And she's actually encouraging me to paint some things (I was having things painted for me to lessen my time commitment to the hobby). Woot!

She pretends it doensn't exist. Like dirty little secret.

My wife can occasionally be coerced into a game, but it usually is after our little one is off to bed.

The wife encourages it alot except when I leave my tools on the table LOL!

My girlfriend is very encouraging,she likes to look at WIP minis and even gives me advice as to what might look cool and what would most certianly suck.
At times she entertains the idea of getting a small army of her own,but most of the time sees it as " my thing".

My Girlfriend has been into it for about 6 years now! So i always get plenty of encouragement to paint unfortunately i don't get alot of time to do it

penut the butter wrote:The wife encourages it alot except when I leave my tools on the table LOL!

QFT, she especially gets mad when I create mini-dioramas of my squads on the bookshelves.

The girlfriend tolerates it, but doesn't understand it. I've made a couple of attempts to try to get her into it, and at times she'll stop by the store to watch, but nothing more. The only time she gets really pissy about it is when I throw the cat for getting into my bitz box/army case.

my girlfriend once told me it was 'hot in a nerdy kind of way', so Im going to go with 'encourages it'

I think she tried it herself years ago before we met, but was never hooked.

I don't have an SO, so yeah, that's something I've been trying to get and failing at lately. Who knows with any luck I'll get one that tolerates it.

my gf thinks my nerdyness is cute (wtf i know) but that means i can do it without punishment She understands my hobbies mean alot to me, so shes never really got annoyed with it

Dawn loves the 40K novels, and thus, enjoys our games of Dark Heresy and (now) Rogue Trader. The miniatures... she might have liked to play when we were younger, but she's very busy these days. She never complains, even when the entire dining area (well...what should be the dining area) is overrun by Orks.

She assumes I'll spend too much money on products, and even sent me to GenCon with lots of cash... I'm not sure what's wrong with her, but I hope it's never cured...

My girlfriend calls it cute too lol WTF INDEED!? lol She also tolerates it lol... I got a gd thing goin down tho... I get her TV shows on DVD like The Hills and Desperate Housewives so that distracts her, enabling me to paint MARINES!!!!!

My wife is somewhat between tolerates and encourages. Understands that it is a cool hobby, but has almost no interest in it other than seeing the occasional finished model.

darkprincewilson wrote:My wife is somewhat between tolerates and encourages. Understands that it is a cool hobby, but has almost no interest in it other than seeing the occasional finished model.

Same here. My wife let me turn the the storage shed out back into my workshop. She'll look at something when I finish painting it, but not much else. She does get slightly annoyed when I'm down at my FLGS all Saturday playing and she's stuck at home with the kids (2). But she is a big NASCAR fan (I really don't care for it) and I deal with the kids on Sunday during the races, so it all evens out.

She was sitting right next to me when I came upon this poll. She took a look at it and said to vote 'encourages' so I did.

She likes for me to get out of the house. I go to school and work a lot. Sometimes she has to convince me to go play games on the weekend. She says it's good for me to get out.

my wife tolerates it and even suggests (incorrect) colour schemes. fair play to her she even attempted to paint one as well. but its a case of she doesnt care and doesnt create a fuss(my 8 yr old son has started to paint orks so she sees it as bonding)

my girlfriend is into the painting side of the hobby but doesn't like the game. She's a better painter than me and is also a member here

As a single guy on a Saturday morning, this thread is definitely one of the most depressing things I've read all morning.

Thanks guys .

From talking with my friends, it seems like girlfriends and wives are more supportive of wargaming then of other gaming. (Probably because it looks like we are being productive, what with all the modeling and painting and whatnot)

On a personal note, my gf encourages it. She even gave me her engagement ring from her ex to cut up and use for bitz.

nice one

Mine is quite tolerant, as long as all hobby 'stuff' is tidied away out of sight once I'm done. She'll even deign to put the odd decal on for me, if I pull my pathetic face.

Mine calls them pew pews and shouts the words NERD often

As some of you guys, my Significant Other doesn't understands it, but occasionally gives me an opinion or advice on a particuliar mini...

So I couldn't say she "encourages" me, more than she "tolerates" it...



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jimsolo wrote:On a personal note, my gf encourages it. She even gave me her engagement ring from her ex to cut up and use for bitz.

Man, your girlfriend rocks!!!!

My girlfriend encourages it. She's quite the artist, herself, but doesn't spend the time for more than occasional doodling. If I'm glued (hopefully not literally) to a crafty-type project, whether 40K or not, then she gets in the mood to work on something as well, for which she always thanks me, later. I doubt she'd ever really get into the hobby, but she tried a practice game and thinks my stuff looks cool, for sure.

My "Better Half" knew what she was getting into 27yrs ago, i had my modelling and gaming, she had her reading and soaps.
Having a son who was into the hobby was great till he moved out at 23, now she calls me The Hermit cause i'm either in my room or out in the workshop.
We were watching 40yr old virgin together one night, the clip were he's painting his fig's surrounded by collectable's, she just looks at me and smiles..........

Think my sig says it all really........

"I work a second job to pay for her warmachine habit" isn't on the list, so I got close as I could.

My latest ex encouraged it. It was a bit nerve-racking when I first told her but it went over well.

Its helped me more than hurt me to tell chicks that I paint "little plastic dudes".
Don't ask me why. I'm completely baffled.

Funny how the Honey Do list tends to gravitate towards my game night . . .

She also does scrap booking and quilting. Interestingly enough, we actually share tools . . . .

My April knew absolutely nothing of the hobby before we met but now we play every week and she has an upstart little bug force of her own. I'm very proud, even if she can't paint yet.

The Strife used to paint figs and rpg (still threw dice before the boy was born), and has always been surrounded by friends who gamed, but has fallen out of it. She generally supports my plastic/metal crack habit.

Don't currently have one.

The ex was generally supportive...it got me out and about, it gave us extra excuses to go to the larger malls together (she'd get her stuff and I'd peruse the GW store), and she's an artist so she could relate to the painting.

Problem was, the FLGS met on Sundays, which got ugly during football season.

I am lucky that my wife also shares of love of expensive hobbies, she is a strong supporter of my love for plastic crack!! As a matter of fact she may start an army soon herself.

Does Hannah and her five sisters counts as a SO?

Rossko wrote:As a single guy on a Saturday morning, this thread is definitely one of the most depressing things I've read all morning.

Thanks guys .

That about says it all except now it's sunday arvo.

Unfortunately my girlfriend is one of the popular ones...

I may have to give it up :( :( (warhammer)

She hates nerds (looks down)

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Yeah my old lady is pretty cool. She doesn't play or collect or anything but she is a painter. Occasionally she gets interested and asks to paint one of my "tiny monsters" so I tells her to pick her favorite one and go for it. She does a great job on them too and it's fun to paint together.

My wife is a World of Warcraft addict.The house has rooms filled with miniatures and miniature related stuff from many years hoarding.

I suppose it quite likely one of the reasons i am now divorced! Still both my children have followed me into the hobby so it cant be all bad! Just got to find a sane understanding women to put up with me!

For everytime she gets her hair and nails done.. I get a trip to the Hobby Store

The Missus is a good sport... if it makes me happy it makes her happy.

I asked her and she replied "doesn't mind it" so I assumed that was a "tolerates it."

Its a tradeoff.
no video games = 40K Ok


The modeling time she doesnt mind, but the all day apoc battles drive her nuts

My Girl doesn't mind I'm collecting "mini-soldiers" but really hates that I spend so much money on it.

Think I'd might go and bye here something pretty soon, perhaps she'll stop nagging a week or 2

Perhaps people can post pic's of there girl/boyfriends? Or is nobody interested

My wife is a gamer - mostly video games, but we met at a white wolf vampire larp, so she gets gaming.

She will play games every so often, generally as part of team - she likes pushing the models around and rolling dice, but the strategy part is not her thing, so as long as someone else tells her where to attack, she's happy.

She encourages me while I'm painting, and buys me models as gifts. Plus, she's currently cross-stitching me something game-related

Lady Thorne tolerates my gaming habit, understanding that I have a certain level of manic energy that focuses itself very well on detail-oriented tasks of which gaming in general and 40K specifically is full of: collecting, converting, designing, painting, displaying, etc. She appraises the occassional mini and makes color recommendations from time to time, is generally supportive without being involved.

If it wasn't gaming, she knows it would be baking, cooking, making chainmail, leatherworking, beekeeping, electronics, RC airplanes, making longbows and arrows, archery with said items, coloring hair, making jams and jellies, writing, Wing Chun, brewing mead, or any one of the hundreds of interests I happen to have from month to month. I've been into 40K solidly for a year now so I think she appreciates the consistency. Now I just have to keep it from taking over our living space...

EDIT: after viewing the results, I find it interesting that those of us with "tolerant" SO's and those without SO's are closely matched.

Lextheimpaler wrote:Mine calls them pew pews and shouts the words NERD often

Haha, I wondered where my mrs got to when I was at work! Aus seems like a long way though!

That is almost identical to what she says to me when she walks into my office at home and sees me on Dakka surrounded by IA books n' minis.

Also whenever a mysterious box appears on the doorstep addressed to me, she will pass it to me and ask if it is more warhammers! I have pointed out out the correct terms and names but warhammers covers it all appearently. She will then smirk as I grab said box off her and stomp off like the grumpy 13 year old I was 20 years ago!

Tolerate yes, mock definitely!

My wife started an Eldar army of her own today!

I am quite with the excitedness.

My girlfriend stops by the game room on Monday nights once in a while and is generally supportive of the hobby. I have a little office and if a Space Marine or paint brush strays into the living room he magically ends up back in the office...

There are total nuts who drag their sick kids to game night because their SO had to work the night shift and the little ones are just curled up on the floor feeling miserable for three hours. She can't believe this and is horrified by it (so am I), this is certainly not the majority, I play with many guys who have little ones and understandably they are usually taking care of family stuff and can't always play.

So as long as I don't put it higher than our family's health, I'm good

Not got one, only thirteen so no wife for me ^_^

She not only doesn't think it's weird, but she actively encourages me and even better, supports my hobby by paying for it.

She's an artist, and her family includes other hobbyists and collectors (model railway and kit models).

(She's the breadwinner - I'm the househubby).

In return, now and then, if she sees a model she likes, I have to get it "for her" assemble and paint it up for her.
(The last example being a valkyrie and skyshield landing pad - because they have moving parts and she likes models that DO stuff).

But she's not a gamer and never will be.
She also doesn't think much of several of the crowd I game with (but that's ok - neither do I. Very sheltered and "special" people, they are).

I voted "tolerate" even though the wife truly encourages the actual gaming and painting.

Its the mess that gets left after painting, or an all nighter with the boys that is what makes her think of throwing EVERYTHING away...

So overall its a tolerate.

It appears that the vast majority of the answers equate to shared interests and/or equality. Kinda the main ingredient in any significant relationship, I would assert.

My own SO has an artistic bent, one of the many reasons I was attracted to her in the first place. So, when I am painting my "man-Barbies" - as she so delicately puts it - she is generally working on some interesting landscaping piece.


Iechyd da!

I play, my ex plays most of my friends play... i am the token shegamer. its good for the boys to have a nerdy girl with them ^_^

The wife partakes... the only thing keeping me sane is that I play better than she paints.

My SO does scrap booking so a five dollar piece of paper make my toys look cheap. This means we have equally expensive hobbys and she can't get at me about it.

My wife is somewhere between tolerate and encourages. She likes the hobby aspect and can appreciate a well-painted mini or a well made piece of terrain, but I think she'd get pretty pissed if I tried to play all day everyday.

I think she gets annoyed that I never finish projects, including minis sitting on the shelf that are supposed to be display pieces for her. :/

She tried to play back in 3rd edition and just didn't get it. I got her playing Space Hulk, though, so I'm slowly getting to her I think.

I pretty much have the ideal situation. My girl is the cashier at my FLGS! She hid a Space Hulk box for me, and when she has extra store credit she buys me guardsmen!

She likes for me to get out of the house. I go to school and work a lot. Sometimes she has to convince me to go play games on the weekend. She says it's good for me to get out.

Mine's like this exactly. If I haven't painted in awhile or gone to play a game she'll tell me to go do so. If I play too many video games I start getting lazy and she prefers this hobby to other things. She argues for me saying there are worse things guys can be into like strip clubs.

My wife plays with me.

She has Tyranids, Blood Angels, WoC, wants Dark Eldar, Skaven, plays Blood Bowl, B5 ACTA and various other wargames.

Her only line is historicals, especially WW1 and WW2, she doesn't like the idea of playing over the graves of actual people.

So aye other than that, anything.

Much like someone else that replied; my wife met me when I was not nerding it up. I've recently started back and since then the otaku jokes fly...until I start in on her handbag and shoe fetish. I have to say my hobby is much cheaper than her bag and shoe thing.... speaking of, christmas is coming soon and I'll have to buy her yearly Coach something or other...ugh, I hate shopping.

My wife used to call it my "shame" (as in shame workshop and my fevered hiding of it from most of my peers, associates etc), but would always commend me on my converting/painting effort and the 50'th little plastic man I'd shown her that evening!

However she was recently dragged into GW Hereford and came away telling me how stompa's are cute and that she wanted one. Is that an excuse to start Orks aswell?

She'd rather I sat and modelled than spent all my time shooting people on xbox live although she can feel left out when I occasionally spend a weekend playing games with friends (although she interrupted the last game of BB I played and proceeded to thrash my opponent, do a victory dance and waltz off).

Morathi's Darkest Sin wrote:Her only line is historicals, especially WW1 and WW2, she doesn't like the idea of playing over the graves of actual people.

Yep understand that entirely, that's what keeps me sci-fi and fantasy, i know they are only games but it feels disrespectful.

My wifey has her own hobbies which take up significant time/resources, so she leaves me to my wargaming.

It's only occasionally I'll hear "Why is there a sniper in the Christmas village aiming at Santa?"

It was funnier the year I put a squad of Khorne Berzerkers assaulting the carolers, or the Sentinel behind the train station, or a Tyranid in the church, or...

Meh! We get our laughs where we can...and I personally hate the X-Mas display.

My SO is somewhere between tolerate and encourage. I was open about it from the start, kinda had to be since the work bench is currently in my bedroom. She doesnt quite understand the hobby. Thats most likely because i havent played in years, and im trying to get a whole army together to place. I do my work when she is doing her homework, so it doesnt really come between us.

She did recently follow me into a FLGS and discovered their cost, now she understands my hobby even less.

She tolerates it for now, but she's agreed to play one game with me if I'll watch Pride and Prejudice with her.

She WILL see the Emperor's light.

My girl likes "nerdy" things along the same line as me, mostly in the form of FPS video games and guns and funny internet stuff. She also used to play D&D, so she has no problems with me playing 40K, so long as I don't become obsessive I haven't tried to get her involved in it (yet), but i don't know if she'd be that into it.

When my GF moved in with me she immediately got really into the hobby. She's not interested in reading the literature or understanding it on any deep sense, but she enjoys the painting and the playing.

The galling thing is, she's been doing the hobby 7 months and she outstrips the painting skills of myself and everyone else who games with her by a mile. If she could just get a bit more confidence I am sure she could put in an entry for Golden Demon next year.

My girly "Likes to help me put little guys together"

Good thing I play Orks.

My girlfriend BARELY tolerates the hobby. Sometimes she feigns interest. Sometimes she yells that she's gonna "flush all my little men down the toilet!" I try and delude myself into thinking she will eventually come around and start playing. Maybe least space hulk, I've gotta get her foot in the door somewhere...She is a closet nerd. It's only a matter of time.

She encourages it because painting is better than playing Call of duty with EPIC surround sound. Yeah it's loud but I can totally hear when some one is running up behind me!!! She also painted the warboss and Nobs that came in the black reach set. I need her to finish so I can ebay them, they are that good.

Only 3% hate it? Man, I'm starting to think I have it rough...

Edit: Lol @ privateer! That's how it was with me... and she didn't come around. However, you can get along fine with some friendly ribbing about these kinds of things... at least that's how we get on, and I think we have a good relationship.

(It doesn't mean I don't wish she loved my toy soldiers a little more, though!)

I think that my case is somewhere between tolerates and encourages.

She thinks the hobby is rather odd but amusing and it does give me something to do in the same room while she is watching TV

My SO isn't real thrilled about the game. She's fine with me playing the game. What she's not real pleased about is the fact that the tribbles keep multiplying. Basically I'm required to have a case for every army at this point. I can't say that upsets me.

Wow... I'm depressed now... I really need to get a girlfriend...

my GF doesn't play (though she has tried, just doesn't like it) but she paints amazingly well, so she does my characters for me

She plays Blood Bowl though, and is also into roleplaying so we have a lot to share.
I'm lucky, because with one exception, everyone else I wargame/roleplay with has an other half who either barely tolerates or openly hates wargaming/roleplaying.

Methinks everyone who has a supportive other half should give them much appreciation, and help out our brethren who don't get so much support/encouragement!

My wife is tolerates, but borderline hates it. Well, I shoulden't say she hates the hobby, more like she hates the money, even if is a fraction of what we get, that goes toward it.

The game itself, and the hobby she seems on the fence. She has painted a few minis, and enjoyed it, but I don't think I'll ever get her into the game.

I never tried to hide it, but i honestly have no earthly idea how my GF/Fiance at the time (wife now) couldnt tell i was a major nerd. I had the computer with more games on it then school work (had a laptop for school tho).

warhammer books and figures all over my apt. Played WoW and everquest during my spare time...

All of a sudden after we had been engaged and living together for a month or so she just looks at me and goes. " Wow, you know, you are a huge nerd". I was like yup!!!

Now she encourages it. I talk to her before going crazy on purchases (like my 300$ army addition yesterday). She does Mary Kay tho so she is normally at meetings or seminars 1-2 weekends a month and every monday night so thats when i mainly play!

I belive mine SO hates my hobby, I never figures how my hound munched down the Defiler I had bought for my now deceased CSM chapter. Or why paint seems to disaper from time to time

Ever thought about storing your supplies and minis in cabinets kept shut by dial locks when you're not using it? Better yet, make each cabinet door our of plexiglass so she still has to look at them

My "Better Half" tolerates my gaming habits, but has yet to show any real interest in them!

Girlfriend loves when i paint, encourages me and shes amazing (: She supports me in the hobby

Anyone else select the 'I dont have a SO' option rather determinedly and angrily?

Haha

Mine tolerates in a strong sense of the word. As in, she thinks it's ridiculous that I play with 'action figures' (wut.) but she has no problem with it.

Well, she did threaten to take all my stuff and sell it when I texted her one day like: 'hey, so what do you do if your finger won't stop bleeding?'

Needless to say, discovering I needed 6 stitches in the hospital and had to stay there 6 hours while they figured out if I hit a nerve because of my 'action figures' doesn't endear her to the hobby. :p (If you were wondering, I was inneffectively using a pocket knife to hollow out little nooks in my dreadnoughts so I could magnetize the arms. Knife folded back on my finger, SHINK! Blood for the Blood God!)

I hid it from my wife when we first met and then I slowly introduced hoping she would come to terms with my nerdism...it didn't work. She threatens to vacuum them up every now and then and I can only paint when there is a TV show on that she wants to watch but other than that she tolerates it

My wife encourages my hobby, mainly because I introduced my 17 year old step son into Warhamer about 3 years ago. I's been full on ever since, he loves it about as much as I do.

Gonna have to go with "horribly depressed".

My wife designs and sews clothing for Korean ball-jointed dolls (Those dolls are damn expensive and she has several to use as models for the clothing.) She also makes soaps, toiletries, oils, etc with scents inspired by sci-fi/fantasy books/movies: http://www.etsy.com/shop/pixxxiepieandposie

We're both photographers and artsy types. She enjoys watching me build terrain from scratch and paint minis which more than 90% of my hobby time goes to (I make stuff way more than I actually play and like it that way.) I'm learning to sculpt with green stuff and when I get decent I can use that to make materials for her clothing business. Things such as medallions or jewelry.

WH40K keeps me out of her hair so she can actually get work done.


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Oh yeah, and she said if I build/paint her a Sisters army, she would play. When I bought DoW for the PC, she actually did when I got the last expansion with the Sisters in it so I believe she would actually do it.

BLACKHAND wrote:I hid it from my wife when we first met and then I slowly introduced hoping she would come to terms with my nerdism...it didn't work. She threatens to vacuum them up every now and then and I can only paint when there is a TV show on that she wants to watch but other than that she tolerates it

That sucks man everyone should have some type of hobby and I guess I'm fortunate to have a wife that's also into 40k. She currently is building a Daemon army because she loves all of the color they have and I'm perfectly fine with that because it allows me to take part in my favorite hobby without feeling guilty that shes bored.

Dont ask, Dont tell...

I have an awesome girlfriend who not only is an artist but also greatly helps me with tips and tricks!

My wife was confused about the whole thing until I made a tiny diorama of Legolas, gilded a jewelry box, made jewelry and could fix just about anything cracked or broken around.

Tolerates when the armies are concerned, proud for anything else produced from those skills (could produce in minutes things better than her entire scrap booking group.. <shudder> ).

Larry Leadhead has it covered for the family life of the gamer.

A good quote: "Men do not quit playing because they grow old; they grow old because they quit playing". ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes

Thanks for everyone being there...

Was Don't ask Don't tell....until I left my rulebook next to the toilet....she came out and was like "What is this some sort of game?" I then proceeded to kind of explain and showed her my walk in closet where I keep my armies and she was like...."oh my god...you are a dork." But then she said it was cute...she looks at them occasionally but thats about it. so I guess encourage or just impartial.

Oh man, these are just depressing me too...my last GF broke one of my models, and that was about the only time she ever showed any interest in it. As I picked up the broken shards of a Venator she just looked at me strangely...

I would realise several months later as I cried myself to sleep a broken man, that that was 'the look'... the one where they go...I don't even know who you are...

Still, it was from forgeworld...so...good riddance!

Now, back to my lonely, lonely bed...

Seriously though, all you guys out there that have GF's that support you, I would say only this...WHERE THE HELL ARE THE REST OF THEM!!!

My wife encourages me, but never hesitates to poke fun at the fact that I paint and move little men around a table.

She got me into it.

I usually go for girls with liking for wargames. So it's win-win.

I had may differant girl friends, they are vry neutrual to it, they see it as a hobby and are fine, as long i prefer her over the game its cool

Some of them even tried it, but they go very shy.


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Boss Goretoof wrote:My wife encourages me, but never hesitates to poke fun at the fact that I paint and move little men around a table.

hehehe thats kinda sweet


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Seriously though, all you guys out there that have GF's that support you, I would say only this...WHERE THE HELL ARE THE REST OF THEM!!!

Just always see the girl more important then the game is, and be yourself and be the reason she likes you. Then slowly just tell her about your hobby (but dont go into it too deep). So when she will fined out she will still like you for other reasons and she will accept it in you. Dont worry and keep your chin up

She likes it, she rolls her eyes at the occasional purchase but it's in good fun because she likes painting and playing games too.

My beautiful bride lands somewhere between hates and tolerates it. Then again she knew how nerdy I was before we got together but I guess she hoped the punk rock musician thing would even it out. In the beginning she would roll her eyes and sigh when I got out a codex or army book, or find army lists written all around the house. Even more so when I actually got my stuff out to build/paint. Now she understands that its my hobby and while she tolerates it (like I tolerate her doing Greyhound rescue) I never see her thinking its in any way cool or sexy, even in a nerdy way. Though she does wish I'd do more with WHFB than 40k as she thinks fantasy stuff is cool but sci-fi is lame. In short, she calls it dork-hammer.

Unfortunately I have to go with no Significant Other ATM, but a previous Girlfriend was heavily into LARP and had other artistic interests, I live in hope though!

My x-wife used to think it was a waste of time This coming from a woman who used to buy $300 pairs of shoes lol...

I eventually realized that she was the waste of time

I'll be a gamer till the day I die

It's right in the middle of tolerates and encourages...as long as I spend more time with her, she's totally ok with it

...I guess I've been good lately since she's getting me two Tau Piranhas for my birthday

My fiancee thinks it's, in her words, "cute and nerdy". The first time I showed her one of my painted orks she just said "gross!"

"Significant other"? My Warboss?
He's OK with it...

As will most of my hobbies she figures it could be worse, I could be addicted to heroine.

My GF tolerates it. Not really much of a choice: I've been playing 40k since I was 8 years old. That's over 2/3 of my life. We've been dating for less than a year. If the two come into conflict, is it really a question which one is going to stay and which will go?

My wife assembled her first terminator last night. Shes going to paint it herself too.

She has played Necromunda and Heroscape with me.

We are getting geared up to play a fantasy (with a tech twist) skirmish game. She decided on a fantasy setting. Im still searching around for a system to use...possibly a modified version of Necromunda or Mordheim.

Shes got a thing for the daemon stuff. Looks like her troops are going to be a general mash-up of daemons, dark Elves, and various similar themed minis from non GW sources.

My fiancee pretty much just tolerates it. She enjoys looking at my painted armies but she is not interested in the gaming aspect. I'm not sure if I would want her involved in gaming with me.

My partner makes boutique cheese commerically, if you want an expensive hobby try that! Hence 'they have a similar expensive hobby', should read 'they have a massively more expensive hobby'!

SO = girl/boyfriend?
I just got dumped in that case...

My wife encourages my hobby to a point. When I start to ignore other things in life then she puts the hammer down. Sometimes if the planets are aligned correctly meaning= we both have a day off together and no plans, we might have a quick combat patrol game of 40k. She always chooses Tau for some reason...

My wife thinks minis look very cool and is happy I have something I enjoy doing, but she has no personal interest in building or playing. She has her artwork, I have my minis, it works out.

My girlfriend knits. Those familiar with the hobby know that it can lead to the same kind of obsessiveness as wargaming. So we're quits.

My girlfriend plays a Chaos Daemon army herself. I didn't have to do much convincing, she was already into computer gaming, fantasy and heavy metal when we first met. There is a reason I quickly knew why I wouldn't ever let her go again.

My wife is also an artist, mainly oil painting, so i think she appreciates the artistic side of what i do. She doesn't think its cool in any way though and she calls GW 'nerdworld' and laughs at me when i get excited about new figures. So i figure thats tolerating but not strictly encouraging.

Don't have it. Forever alone...

Lone Wolf baby! Possibly 'till the day I die, but I won't marry anyone who has a problem with my hobby (i.e. and therefore me).

Gone from amusement to hatred to grudging acceptance

Encourages it when I haven't done it for a while, but most of the time it is tolerating. I have tried explaining the game to her, which just goes over her head, but she actively listens and makes an honest attempt at it.

The significant other has bought a couple of units of dark eldar and has started assembling them.
Much love was felt when she said "Eldar? they look stupid" "those ones (SM) look too brutish"

My girlfriend didn't understand why I would spend hours building and painting models only to have them sit on a table and do even more "nothing". Once she saw that I genuinely enjoy playing Warhammer though, she learned to tolerate it.
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my gf looked at me and said Eldar? I though girls collected those..........so needless to say I have no Eldar at the moment

My bf got me into 40k. Now I and my girlfriends spend more time on it than him and his mates.

I really do like how "They Tolerate it" comes out first..
My girlfriend encourages the hobby, she's not into it herself, but she does like arts & crafts so she understands where I'm coming from

My gf supports it for the most part. She writes books so its part of the whole "artistic mind" to her. She comments on my color scheme and helps give me ideas and I try to do the same with her writing.

Couldnt find a better girl even if a tried.

My wife likes that i have something to do that is artistic and keeps me out of trouble but I can't speak of it in any detail lest her eyes roll back into her head and she become instantly bored.

Me ex g/f use to love the painting part of it but got mad when I bought something new to paint.

Don't have a SO but the girl i'm courting think it's a very interesting hobby

My fiancee is somewhere between hates it and encourage it.

Because I'm only home at the weekends she tends to hate it when I dust of the paint and brushes and get ready. She wants (quite understandable) me to spend more time with her than painting. So I paint when she's asleep in the morning.

But then she can say "You haven't played in a while, shouldn't you fix a game?". I guess that she can't stand all that expensive plastic just gathering dust.

And for my last birthdays she's given me tanks. Mostly chimeras, but that's fine with me!
She allso have some ideas, and to be honest some of them is useable! But when I want her opinion on the second mini for the day she simply says "frakk of, I'm tired of seeing them".
And as others have said, building dioramas in the bookshelf, not appriciated. If I'm lucky she will just let them stand there during the week and nag about it every time we speak on the phone.

And well, I've tried to get her into it, so far with no luck. She says that the painting would kill her. She tried to paint a catachan I had laying around. Took me 2 months to gather the curage to repaint it. IMHO, guardsmen doesn't look all that good in golden trousers and silver jackets...

The guardsman still look terrible, after some major repainting...

I feel pretty lucky. Not only did my significant other attend Adepticon with me (we both had a great weekend). She has also went in as partners with me on starting our own gaming shop. We are starting on ebay, but hope to be in a retail location within the next year.

My missus is also into the hobby, and unfortunately she seems to be better than me :/

Originally she hated it as she thought it was a useless waste of money, but after i bought her a box of DE Wyches she loves the hobby and routinely enjoys bragging about beating me in her first ever game.....

^^

I'm very lucky that practically all my hobbies including 40k are shared by my partner. It's a lot of fun seeing as we get to do them together and understand each others passion for them.

My girlfriend thinks Trygons and Saurus Warriors are "cute".

Keeping.

After almost 10 years of marriage my wife honestly just lets me get on with it, she's happy i have a hobby tbh, she encourages my painting too which is ace.
she's tried painting things but i don't think its her thing.

a m8's ex wife did try taking up the hobby with him and painted a night gobbo army.
Pink cloaks with blue flowers i kid you not.
scaryest damn gobbo army i ever saw.

Wasn't sure how to answer this, of my "partners", one plays the same games, the other is into equally expensive stuff, the others are into an equally expensive but non-craft hobby, and one of them probably doesn't even know I care for it despite our relationship

The fiancee is an artist, so she doesn't mind my painting and gaming, though she does send the random dork comment my way

It is tolerated, as long as she is not neglected lol.

my SO hates the hobby as it's time away from her. plus it's money I'm not spending on her.

My SO is a fashionista chick lit lady and dont hold any interest of my hobby but she encourage it thinking its cute with the whole - i quote "nerdy boy".

My wife is a knitter and quilter and LOVES her I pad 2. EVerytime i spend money on warhammer she gets to spend money on yarn. She has alot of yarn.

Not only does my SO encourage it but I've turned her onto the painting side of 40k!! Shes just helped me with some swooping hawks and is now eyeing up some scourges!!!

She's a keeper alright

One time the encourages it and looks like she's really interested, and the other time she says something like ''those stupid dolls are all you think about/care about''.

Women are weird...

Me and her play 40k all the time. We both love it.

Currently single, but my ex thought it was cool and was totally fine with it. She was heavily into computer games and modding consoles.

I wouldn't want to be with anyone who mocked people for their hobbies and interests, especially seeing as how my love for My Little Pony is just as strong as my love for wargaming.

My wife was skeptical at first, but I explained to her the cost vs. time you get out of it. Now she encourages my habit hobby, painted 1500pts worth of Chaos Daemons so my friend would be tournament ready, and has expressed mild interest in painting some stuff for herself. She bought me a Venerable Dread for me to Nurgle-out for Christmas, and just bought me a DE battleforce for my birthday. I'm pretty sure once I convince her to play a game she'll be hooked.

I'd say my fiancée encourages me, quite a lot, actually! I'm not so sure that she 'gets' it, but she seems to appreciate the skill involved in making/converting/painting miniatures. She asks questions and offers advice/opinions when I have questions about compostion, colour schemes etc. She also helps me source bits and bobs which could potentially be used in conversions and/or terrains and bases

My fiancee is fine with it, it's never been an issue. She likes canvas painting and arty stuff like that so appreciates and understands why I like painting. She also understands that it's a social thing for me too, so when me and my mates are playing 40k she'll hang out with my mates gf. Occasionally she'll come see how it's going and who's winning and makes funny comments.
She'll pick out models she likes when i'm looking at buying stuff and appreciates the craftwork, though she isn't really interested in learning to play.

She occasionally says she is grateful I have a hobby that requires skill, as most men just get drunk all the time. She also says it's great because i'm too nerdy to ever cheat on her lol I said i'm not sure how I feel with that comment, but I can't really complain cos all in all it's a nice arrangement! If a girl loves me enough to tolerate my 40k addiction it must be a sign of true love, so i'm more than grateful!

Mine kind of think it is cute. She enjoys looking at them and compliments my work on them.

A very good poll. Always interesting to hear how others fair in thwe regard.

My fiancee knew how I was when we started going out. I picked up my modelling habit later in our relationship and she actually finds it a good outlet for my "artistic" side (wish I knew what she was talking about )
The only rule is clean up after you are done!

Significant other...pfft

My girlfriend encourages it and will soon be playing Salamander/Vulkan.

I put "they share the same hobby" but my female is more into the assembling and painting aspect than playing, she pretty much enjoys any craftwork though. You should have seen here face when painting her bloodthirster, so intense lol.

I posted "Tolerate it" because my wife encourages me to play and paint at home, but get's kind of upset when I want to go out and play. In her opinion, as long as I'm home, she's happy.

There seems to be no option for difference in this poll.

I am a 12 year old at a prep school. I don't have a signifigant other

My SO tolerates it, she doesn't show any interest in it. I keep everything in the cellar out of the way.

She humors my continual attempts to get her started on an army, but actively encourages me to collect my own.

Once we have space for a nice table and display however, we shall see!

My wife tolerates it, with the rare outburst. The problem is, she was cool in high school. I had this weird insight she would rather I play golf!

They tolerate it.... less and less every day.

Bahaha, I'm female and I'm having serious trouble getting my boyfriend into the hobby. He says that he knows he would really like it... and that's why he doesn't want to get into it, because he doesn't want to spend the money on it just yet.


He's getting closer though. I think I've convinced him to start playing with cardboard proxies.

I think that all in all she encourages it - she finds the marine models horrible ("They look like hunchbacks in armour") but kinda lets the High Elves go by without any insult.

I got her to paint a few models on her own, but she always said she'd never try to learn how to play any of the games, and she seems happy that I paint and play.

She thinks its awesome and everything.
But i dont think she would ever start an army, she's not really into gaming.
I'm kind of glad she doesnt cause she can paint very well and prolly make me feel bad about my stuff XD.

I voted that mine tolerates it. Reality is that she hates 40k, due to the costs, but loves that I found Malifaux for the both of us, even though I am the only painter, so its a bit of both love and hate.

My wife tolerates it...she has even purchased a few models for me on special occassions....she does it somewhat grudgingly though because it's all I ever want as a gift

Good one

Mine tolerates it - It doesn't bother her that I do it, but at the same time it's something she will never get excited about/interested in.

My wife tolerates my nerdiness as long as she doesn't have to play and can make fun of me along the way.

My wife only mocks my hobby in front of me - but since I do this as well (but I do it in front of other gamers, too) this is fine by me.

There's only a small handful of gaming mates of mine that she gets on with - these are allowed in through the front door. The rest get to go around the side.

Gaming shed is in the yard anyway.

My better half is somewhere between "tolerate" and "encourage".

She's not a huge fan, but I do paint her models that she keeps in her office at work. And she likes that.

She hates DakkaDakka more.

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She hates DakkaDakka more.

Definitely.

I'm lucky in that my gf tolerates gaming.

If it wasn't for my SO I'd have even MORE unpainted models, even bigger armies and even less money.....hmmm not sure any of that is a good thing....

My wife has bought me some nice models over the years, such as the Wood Elf Forest Dragon and Empire War Altar.

My girlfriend of two years recently moved in. She always knew I was a nerd and extensive video game enthusiast so she didn't mind when I started up the 40K hobby (again). Most nights when we're back from school and work we'll make dinner, I'll paint/model and she'll work on an art project of some sort (hemp, drawing etc). She would never play but she has certainly come out to a couple games to socialize and see what it's all about.

The Wife has her own craft hobbies, not sure how they compare in price. The latest thing she's doing is knitting. Some of those yarns are not cheap, and she's knitting a second throw blanket.

But she does encourage my hobby. It keeps me sane and happy, and she likes me that way. While not a gamer herself, she has gamed in the past, and her brother is also involved in game-related hobby stuff. So she understands.

Sometimes she begrudges me the time I spend out, but I normally give her priority if there is a conflict, so it works out.

Somewhere between encouraging and sharing. She paints with me from time to time and enjoys it, will happily play games, etc (including PC/console stuff like Borderlands and World of Warcraft - our first console was because she wanted one, actually!), chooses and buys figures and dice for herself as well, though she wouldn't be into it in a huge kind of way if it wasn't for the giant nerd she shares the house with.

The wife and I have been married for 30 years , and gamming together for 32 years. I guess that says it all.

You love space marines more than you love meeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

tolerates. mostly.

My girlfriend likes to encourage me and tell me she loves my nerdy side :p

But I also think I'm slowly but surely getting her into it. She loves the fluff and hearing me tell stories about Warhammer 40k and I'm sure once she sees a few games and an army she loves the look of, she'll be hooked

My wife treats my toy soldiers with gentle mockery.

My wife knew about 40k as her younger brother games. She now has a growing high elf army and kicks my arse lol

I get the sigh and 'Go ahead' whenever I bring up that I want to do something like table-top or board gaming. She tolerates it, but clearly doesn't understand the need to get away nor the necessity it has in my life.

She barely tolerates it.

Doesn't mind when I do hobby stuff, semi minds when I stay out late playing, and hates it when she realizes the prices.

No problems over here gentlemen, 100% without a girlfriend.

To be fair no girl knows my super secret nerd project so I can't really comment.

However I imagine that if I said anything it might be a big social no no.

She does 40k art, so me actually painting the models goes hand in hand.

My wife is an artist and educator so she has her own expensive hobbies.

She likes the challenge of painting fine detail & thorough shading and coming out with a very well painted figure.
The praise that Jervis Johnson, Robin Dews, Trish Morrison and several others from the GW-UK studio lavished on her figures during my time at GW-US and the contracts she had with GW-US staffers for painting and converting their figures have kept her painting through the years since our departure from GW-US.
Her great enjoyment from painting figures has provided me a steady supply of well-painted figures received as occasion presents (Christmas, Anniversary, Valentine's Day, etc.) during those years.

Most wargames, GW or otherwise, do not ask her to play.
While playing, she gets very angry and does not enjoy being angry.
What happens is a variation of "How dare you shoot me!" factor.
In BattleTech, when she plays, most people never want to play her again.
Not because of her anger, but because she has a propensity for head shots.
And that propensity gets more frequent as she gets shot at more and gets angrier.
The dice, no matter whose, love her as she gets angrier.

Now, she does love to play Warhammer Quest because it is a cooperative wargame.
There is not a person across the table shooting at her.
She just gets put out with the dice if the monsters do too well or the monster she had dead to rights survives her flurry of attacks.
She usually plays a very proficient Wardancer.

She is always concerned about my spending while always being concerned about her own spending.
She is very frugal despite having expensive hobbies herself and expects me to be as well.

She likes it. She has expressed a mild interest in playing as have I but its mostly the painting she is into. She tends to prefer painting female characters particularly one with a great deal of cleavage. Shes painting up some Slaanesh atm along with some Mantic Undead.

Tolerates, seems to be working out cheaper than MTG

My wife supports me in all my wacky things! Buys me FW for christmas and birthday presents. A few years ago I hadn't worked on any painting for a while and she brought me home a box of eldar guardians as she looked round and realized I had very little eldar. She isn't the slightest interested in it except the panting bit.

Wives rock! My one especially!

My lady has an expensive hobby too which she is really good at so I guess we have a mutual support thing. Check one more for encourage too.

I still get made fun of but what the heck, she's a nerd too. Ought to see her on a Fable bender!

edit: just remembered! We're gonna play on the other PC in a minute and she wants me to help her play Morrowind! How cool is that?

To the OP:
"If I see one I shall inform you immediately." --Jack Sparrow

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My lady has an expensive hobby too which she is really good at so I guess we have a mutual support thing. Check one more for encourage too.

I still get made fun of but what the heck, she's a nerd too. Ought to see her on a Fable bender!

edit: just remembered! We're gonna play on the other PC in a minute and she wants me to help her play Morrowind! How cool is that?

My missus loves fable too. Whats the expensive hobby btw?

My Gf is currently getting into nail art as well which tbh takes much of the same skills as Mini painting, just in 2d.

Were gonna pick a faction each and paint and play a game when Deadzone gets here.

my wife loves me painting and playing she just hates it when i go on a spending spree . shes jsut mad as shes gets less play money hahaha

My girlfriend tolerates it haha. She doesn't mind but gets kinda moody when all I wanna do is paint haha!!