Firslty hugging is very simple. If you lean in to hug, with your arms over theirs, it usually works out. Sometimes they are a top hugger, so simply put your arms under theirs. Im mostly a staggered hugger. 1 on top, and 1 underneath, works out well for me.
Kissing? I only kiss my kids, and my wife. I dont kiss anyone else...... Im not French. Is it the French that do that? Hell I dunno, either way I dont do it. I find it odd to kiss someone in a friendly mannor anyway. Hugging is fine, not kissing.
When two guys hug, they should always roughly slap each other on the back at the same time. That way it's still manly, because you can say "I'm hugging you, but I'm hitting you too".
Krak_kirby wrote:When two guys hug, they should always roughly slap each other on the back at the same time. That way it's still manly, because you can say "I'm hugging you, but I'm hitting you too".
This is where I always get confused, is that before or after the but grab?
If it's a friend, you want to offer quick support, or are unsure if you should hug someone a "side hug" or a hand on the opposite shoulder is non-threatening and always accepted. If you want to hug someone in a way that says you care, just extend your arms and wrap them up. Just place your arms around them, don't over tighten. This is good for relatives or maybe someone you just started dating. If you really want to hug someone you're attracted to and you're comfortable with, apply pressure (below the waist as well if appropriate as well). Nothing says you're attracted to someone like letting them know you have a bulge. Again, that's for someone you're very close to/when you're drunk and looking for that hookup.
Most importantly, commit to when you want to hug someone. Do it fluidly and don't be stiff or rigid. Try and be as not-awkward as possible. Hope that helps.
Kissing takes practice to get good at. The same things apply. Be smooth, be fluid and commit to doing it (don't freeze up halfway there). You'll probably have some good and bad kisses, but enjoy them.
Edit: And it's okay to hug men or women. It doesn't make you "gay" and everyone needs a hug sometimes
I came into this thread with the intent of making a joke along the lines of, "When you hug a girl, make sure you grind her boobs against your chest for as long as possible!!1!", but I see that everyone else has already taken up the slack.
I greatly regret that after my brother's wedding in Miami one of the uncles of his (American) bride went to hug me on saying farewell and I avoided it in a typically English fashion and just shook his hand instead.
I'll probably never see that guy again, but in some way our families are joined together so I wish I had given a better impression.
The lesson here is that you generally shouldn't avoid hugs if offered.
Hugging women The side hug is safely non-sexual but less supportive than the full hug.
The full on hug can carry sexual connotations but that depends on the circumstances. For example, parents often hug their children without any sexual purpose. The Japanese have a concept called "skinship" which conveys the idea of body contact as a carrier of emotion and closeness.
Since men are often larger than women, it is usually easier for the arms to enclose the woman's arms around shoulder level. This also avoids the buttock touch which is straying into sexual territory. Don't prolong the hug too long as it can become like a restraint.
The other option is for the woman's arms to go round your neck. That makes it rather more like a kiss than a hug.
After you hug someone with your arms, make sure to jump on them and wrap your legs around them too. Then squeeze as hard as you can. Also, make sure to drink your zionist juice with breakfast every morning so you'll be strong enough to squeeze really hard.
Kilkrazy wrote:Since men are often larger than women, it is usually easier for the arms to enclose the woman's arms around shoulder level. This also avoids the buttock touch which is straying into sexual territory. Don't prolong the hug too long as it can become like a restraint.
The other option is for the woman's arms to go round your neck. That makes it rather more like a kiss than a hug.
Yes that ^ 100% if you are really tall and heavy , your arm would probably be around her shoulder level.
If you keep your arm there for too long ( and you dont know if she want to be hugged ) she'll feel trapped and pressured.
And dont hug too tightly , if she turn around and give you a hug back , yay.
If she try to push your arm away or step away from you , back off and dont hug her again o_O
I have never see men hug each other tbh in a friendship way.
Its either father and son , but then it looks like the father is patting the son's shoulder.
or in sports when they scored or something...
And you mentioned hugging leads to kissing , sort of . Consider this:
If you do get close enough in relationship that you want to kiss , or even a peck on the cheek and both of you are embarrassed about it.
You can hug her from behind and place your cheek next to her cheek. She could turn to the side easily and give you a peck on the cheek or you can do it as well.
This is less pressure compared to if you hug her from the front and she'll feel pressured to not kiss you at all because its straight face to face. ( and you 2 arnt that close yet )
she'll feel pressured because shes worried where to kiss. compared to the one mentioned earlier.
I've hugged you plenty of times, you fanny! I honestly see nothing wrong with hugging and kissing my close female and male friends as a form of greeting. It's affectionate.
Anyway, I'm off to pour myself a nice cool glass of orange jews.
I don't like hugging people outside of close relatives, my SO, or extremely close friends. And even with that last category, I'm not exceptionally comfortable.
The OP's point is still sort of lost on me. I understand that he is Chinese, and to be honest if I found myself in China I'd feel a little lost as far as cultural body language and general rules regarding proximity went.
Hugging is the act of placing your arms around another person for any given reason. Some people hug as a greeting, whereas some do not - in Australia you see a lot of different cultures interact, and even in my family there are the 'huggers' and the 'no-huggers', even before BO is taken into consideration.
There are no real hard rules on hugging because it is typically a cultural or intimate device, and hence the 'rules' are bound to the situation. As a general rule, when one person pulls out, it's over. Try to avoid arms around hips if the person is not intimate with you. Also, if you're just going in for the feel, don't bother asking the community if there is a proper way to do it. Nike it.
Arctik_Firangi wrote:There are no real hard rules on hugging because it is typically a cultural or intimate device, and hence the 'rules' are bound to the situation.
Yeah, it's a good point and I should qualify what my earlier point. I was talking about the kind of dude who insists on hanging off of girls when they are clearly uncomfortable with it.
When I hug I often panic at the last minute and overcompensate. This leads to uncontrollable squeezing, screaming, defecation, crying and/or laughing, and inevitably, fainting.
I've never been able to explain it, I guess I just love giving hugs...
Automatically Appended Next Post: BTW, my advice for a new hugger is: do it as often as you can, and always follow it with a huskily whispered "I love you."
It's never helped me, but it might work for someone else.
Your penis should casually but intentionally brush against the other guy's, you should then dwell on how interesting you found the sensation for up to 3 weeks, mingling more guilt and self harming as time goes by.
This is the most important thread I've ever seen in OT.
MeanGreenStompa wrote:Your penis should casually but intentionally brush against the other guy's, you should then dwell on how interesting you found the sensation for up to 3 weeks, mingling more guilt and self harming as time goes by.
This is the most important thread I've ever seen in OT.
Indeed, yet touching groins is strictly against the bro code regulation.See step 2.
MeanGreenStompa wrote:Your penis should casually but intentionally brush against the other guy's, you should then dwell on how interesting you found the sensation for up to 3 weeks, mingling more guilt and self harming as time goes by.
This is the most important thread I've ever seen in OT.
Indeed, yet touching groins is strictly against the bro code regulation.See step 2.
Look, 'Tony', do you create random, crappy threads to waste peoples time?
You've started 102 topics, not one of which is helpful or useful in anyway!
If your really asking the dakka community for advice, you don't stand a chance with a girl.
Boss 'eadbreaka wrote:Look, 'Tony', do you create random, crappy threads to waste peoples time?
Perhaps he is a robot which has gained self-awareness and is simply trying to learn how to best infiltrate our society in such a way as to somehow rule it some day.
Oh no... This?
Though its not necessarily wasting other's time having thread like this.
The topic is clear and it wouldnt trick people into taking a look if they dont have interest.
And i guess its less awkward asking as anonymous compared to asking his friend irl.
Boss 'eadbreaka wrote:Look, 'Tony', do you create random, crappy threads to waste peoples time?
Perhaps he is a robot which has gained self-awareness and is simply trying to learn how to best infiltrate our society in such a way as to somehow rule it some day.
It's amazing how macho this hobby pretends to be. Nothing shuts down a "What, are you gay!" like "What, you've never smoked a cock before?"
Haha, I haven´t and i can´t say I´m looking forward to that XD But the thing is, I´m bi, It´s a coincedence that I´ve only had proper relationships with girls.
Haha, I haven´t and i can´t say I´m looking forward to that XD But the thing is, I´m bi, It´s a coincedence that I´ve only had proper relationships with girls.
I don´t dig the hardgays xD
I'm in a similar boat, though I can honestly say that I am looking forward to it People should love who they love. It's really easy/fun to freak nerds out though. "Hey, after the game want to get a beer and makeout?" Your sportsmanship score is about to get tanked or maxed
Haha, I haven´t and i can´t say I´m looking forward to that XD But the thing is, I´m bi, It´s a coincedence that I´ve only had proper relationships with girls.
I don´t dig the hardgays xD
I'm in a similar boat, though I can honestly say that I am looking forward to it People should love who they love. It's really easy/fun to freak nerds out though. "Hey, after the game want to get a beer and makeout?" Your sportsmanship score is about to get tanked or maxed
Haha, I've done something slightly worse, while he was measuring something out, i just leaned close to his ear and whispered words along those lines.
I saw a shiver going down his spawn followed by spasmic denials. It was awesome.
LOL. I was at a tournament on Saturday. There were only three chairs and 4 people at the the tables I was near so we were trying to decide who would get them. A girl was one of the four so she immediately got one and one of the other guys got one as well, so it was between me and this Asian guy. He said "You go ahead and take it" and I said "I'm bi, so I guess that makes me kind of like a chick." My opponent said "Oh, you got the bye?" and I said "No, I'm bi." The two people next to me both took a step backward and the other guy's eyes widened and he screwed up his movement on his first turn because he was freaked out and couldn't concentrate. People are so squeamish
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:LOL. I was at a tournament on Saturday. There were only three chairs and 4 people at the the tables I was near so we were trying to decide who would get them. A girl was one of the four so she immediately got one and one of the other guys got one as well, so it was between me and this Asian guy. He said "You go ahead and take it" and I said "I'm bi, so I guess that makes me kind of like a chick." My opponent said "Oh, you got the bye?" and I said "No, I'm bi." The two people next to me both took a step backward and the other guy's eyes widened and he screwed up his movement on his first turn because he was freaked out and couldn't concentrate. People are so squeamish
Yep, the minute they know your bi/gay, they think your gonna jump them for their ghoulies.
Or that you're incredibly horny 24/7 and intend to rape people in their sleep. I know I frequently get gay stalkers on forums who ask me for pics because " ur soo hott" so some of that stigma can't be helped. People are stupid
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:LOL. I was at a tournament on Saturday. There were only three chairs and 4 people at the the tables I was near so we were trying to decide who would get them. A girl was one of the four so she immediately got one and one of the other guys got one as well, so it was between me and this Asian guy. He said "You go ahead and take it" and I said "I'm bi, so I guess that makes me kind of like a chick." My opponent said "Oh, you got the bye?" and I said "No, I'm bi." The two people next to me both took a step backward and the other guy's eyes widened and he screwed up his movement on his first turn because he was freaked out and couldn't concentrate. People are so squeamish
Yep, the minute they know your bi/gay, they think your gonna jump them for their ghoulies.
It would have no effect on me. I'm married, with children. I'm just waiting for the hurting to stop.
LunaHound wrote:
I have never see men hug each other tbh in a friendship way.
I hug all my friends as a greeting, and so do they.
If we're at a party we usually start humping each others leg or something at some point. Because we can
lol yep. it seems with my closer friends, we can be very homo about things and it is just normal. we are comfortable enough in our sexuality to not be scurrred.
and Luna, dudes hug all of the time...
and for the OP, there are a few different man hungs you can attempt.
the "handshake hug". I use this with my bouncer friends and friends not quite close enough to full on hug. you grasp palms, fingers facing up with you thumb pointed towards you, and you pull them in for a one arm'd "half hug".
the "handshake slap hug", same as above, but you pat them on the back roughly, can be used in the same application, add salt to taste...
the "quick double slap", both arms, double slap on the back, for closer friends. or your dad.
the "too long hug" if you have a real close friend and you have a similar sense of humour, you can greet each other with one of these hugs, both arms, very close....works great especially in mixed company, it makes those who dont really know you feel awkward....and you and your buddy can have a chuckle over it while you drinks manly pints of stout or porter...
as far as hugging women goes...Luna offered indispensable advice back on page one...and the awkwardness of your OP kind of sounds like you should pay attention....
The category of "bi" makes no sense to me. If you are a male who finds masculine secondary sexual characteristics to be attractive then you are clearly gay. But if you are a male who finds feminine secondary sexual characteristics to be attractive and aren't too bothered by penises then I'd say your just straight and a bit adventurous.
metallifan wrote:Um... Hate to call a technicality here, but shouldn't both of them gotten that? I mean... It takes two
There was a post edit here: from "that's how I hugged my ex" to "that's how I hugged the guy who cheated on me with my ex." Personally, I would suggest "that's how I hugged the guy with whom my ex was cheating."
Manchu wrote:
The category of "bi" makes no sense to me. If you are a male who finds masculine secondary sexual characteristics to be attractive then you are clearly gay. But if you are a male who finds feminine secondary sexual characteristics to be attractive and aren't too bothered by penises then I'd say your just straight and a bit adventurous.
I honestly don't think anyone is either/or. I think some people will go through life not running into someone of the opposite/same sex that they're attracted to, but I don't tihnk ti's impossible. I just say "bi" because all you stupid people need a label Some of the gayest guys I know have had girlfriends and I've known plenty of straight people who've tested the waters as well. I think it's stupid to have to name it to begin with. Hope that clears something up
On a side note, I enjoy the thought of both female parts and male parts. It's people I'm more attracted to than anything, though if we're talking purely bodies I enjoy a sexy lady more than a guy. A lot of that has to do with how they try and make guys look sexy and it has the opposite effect for me.
To clear up what I meant, seems to me that healthy, moral IRL attraction consists in persons being attracted to persons--that is, the whole human being--rather than one set of genitals or another. Yeah, I reckon we're on the same page.
Manchu wrote:To clear up what I meant, seems to me that healthy, moral IRL attraction consists in persons being attracted to persons--that is, the whole human being--rather than one set of genitals or another. Yeah, I reckon we're on the same page.
...and so the Modern Gentleman's Club gains a new member. Congratulations, have a pair of nice brogues. Call it a welcome gift.
Manchu wrote:To clear up what I meant, seems to me that healthy, moral IRL attraction consists in persons being attracted to persons--that is, the whole human being--rather than one set of genitals or another. Yeah, I reckon we're on the same page.
...and so the Modern Gentleman's Club gains a new member. Congratulations, have a pair of nice brogues. Call it a welcome gift.
EDIT:Edited for nicer brogues.
I fear that those shoes are just a bit too fancy for me.
metallifan wrote:
I jest, of course. Though I would've gone for the hammer-ankle to the back of the skull myself.
I prefer a savate-style ankle sweep, myself. A shove in the midsection followed my a sweep to the back of the leg and, if the two of you are very dear friends, a direct to the face while he's going down.
Savate: One of the more manly things the French have invented.
slightly back on topic, i'm not a fan of hugging anyone but my husband and my son much. i always feel kind of awkward even hugging my long time friends.
It doesn't feel wierd for me,but I don't know how to "initiate an assault",which means to hug someone before they do it
In my old school,I was always hugged before I initiated,cuz maybe Im just a slow reacter to this kind of communication
Tony the guardsman wrote:It doesn't feel wierd for me,but I don't know how to "initiate an assault",which means to hug someone before they do it
In my old school,I was always hugged before I initiated,cuz maybe Im just a slow reacter to this kind of communication
Ha-sah! You no speekah good Engleesh! You use moah-bettah desceeption!
But since me and my friends were talking about this,and we didn't figure out the answer,I decided to post online
As the title,how to hug?What is the best way to hug?How do you hug with your girl friend and how do you hug with friends?
And also if you feel alright,you can talkabout kissing,cuz that usually comes next,right?
Thanks anyways,just for your attention here
Not really, hugging is just a way to show your liking of somebody. Mostly a goodbye for my school, I think it's hazardous-I smell horrilbe all the time. So me and my girlfriend just wave goodbye.
But since me and my friends were talking about this,and we didn't figure out the answer,I decided to post online
As the title,how to hug?What is the best way to hug?How do you hug with your girl friend and how do you hug with friends?
And also if you feel alright,you can talkabout kissing,cuz that usually comes next,right?
Thanks anyways,just for your attention here
Not really, hugging is just a way to show your liking of somebody. Mostly a goodbye for my school, I think it's hazardous-I smell horrilbe all the time. So me and my girlfriend just wave goodbye.
Wow.... you should... wash more often? or at least use something for the smell?XD
I'm not saying I always smell of flowers, but luckily my girlfriend doesn't give a crap about stuff like that
My game was running down to time. In Warmachine, games end when the army's general
(called a warcaster or warlock) is defeated, so several games had completed before
mine. At one point (it was near 2 AM) there must have been 4-6 guys standing around
the table, so I said something along the lines of:
"I hate it when people watch my games. With all the crotches I'm not sure if I should
be worried or aroused."
What?Why do you hate people watching your game?I love to have people beside me so I can either get on the next game easily or get to know a new friend(or buy something cheap)
Don't hate them just because they are watching you lose,it doesn't matter
Also,the cocky kid in my LGS watches me play all the time,so I have a chance to show him how to play fair
Geemoney wrote:Always use the "I'm not gay" pat when hugging a man.
Yup the pat is important....
It has to hurt just a little bit to show your not being gentle with him, But not so much that he thinks you smacked the gak out of him and it starts a fight.
Also you have to either go for it or just shake hands. Nothing more hillarious then the apprehensive guy hug, where it takes like 5 seconds for them to figure out if they want to hug or not....
Geemoney wrote:Always use the "I'm not gay" pat when hugging a man.
Yup the pat is important....
It has to hurt just a little bit to show your not being gentle with him, But not so much that he thinks you smacked the gak out of him and it starts a fight.
Also you have to either go for it or just shake hands. Nothing more hillarious then the apprehensive guy hug, where it takes like 5 seconds for them to figure out if they want to hug or not....
Speak for yourself! My crotch is not for slamming men.
Would an arse-bump suit you better? Methinks not.
No, but I think fist bumps are still appropriate. The bumping crotches and arses would make me have to deal with my wife. And I make it a point never to deal with my wife if I can avoid it.
Speak for yourself! My crotch is not for slamming men.
Would an arse-bump suit you better? Methinks not.
No, but I think fist bumps are still appropriate. The bumping crotches and arses would make me have to deal with my wife. And I make it a point never to deal with my wife if I can avoid it.
There's nothing wrong with a good fist bumping.
There is so much in that post for me to take out of context....
Gitzbitah wrote:
No, but I think fist bumps are still appropriate. The bumping crotches and arses would make me have to deal with my wife. And I make it a point never to deal with my wife if I can avoid it.
Preferably, I like the hot meat packed inside the warm buns, but I really should stop talking about sandwiches now. We wouldn't want to go Off-Topic now would we?
Tony the guardsman wrote:Well yea,if you are a female,of course you can hug a man,but when you are a man,you hug other man for a reason,don't hug goodbye,its creepy!
Did you make this thread just to make fun of male hugging male?
jeez i actually believed that you were asking for advise...
Tony the guardsman wrote:Well yea,if you are a female,of course you can hug a man,but when you are a man,you hug other man for a reason,don't hug goodbye,its creepy!
Hang on, this kid makes a thread about hugging, freaks out when he reads about hot buns, and then says you can't hug a man without a reason! Kids these days... *shakes head*
Tony the guardsman wrote:Well yea,if you are a female,of course you can hug a man,but when you are a man,you hug other man for a reason,don't hug goodbye,its creepy!
Tony, some examples of bro-propriate circumstances for a bro-hug:
-You just won the lottery
-Your favorite team just won the cup game
-Someone from the other guy's family died
-You must hug due to a rule in a drinking game
Note that you must also be friends with the dude you're bro-hugging. Hugging random strangers does not make it a bro-hug.
Tony the guardsman wrote:Well yea,if you are a female,of course you can hug a man,but when you are a man,you hug other man for a reason,don't hug goodbye,its creepy!
Woah there Broseidon.
To preface; I'm male. I sometimes hug my male friends. It's not "homo" or creepy at all. It is what it is.
Tony the guardsman wrote:Well yea,if you are a female,of course you can hug a man,but when you are a man,you hug other man for a reason,don't hug goodbye,its creepy!
Tony the guardsman wrote:Well yea,if you are a female,of course you can hug a man,but when you are a man,you hug other man for a reason,don't hug goodbye,its creepy!
I think I always let my arms go under. This may be because I'm a tall guy, so usually I'll be bending slightly over whenever I hug someone, so it feels more natural for the girl to put her arms around my neck while I put my arms beneath hers and place one hand on lower back, one upper. Maybe it just feels natural as a way to give support, since I'm kinda leaning in over them. Apply squeeze as appropriate.
Tony the guardsman wrote:Well yea,if you are a female,of course you can hug a man,but when you are a man,you hug other man for a reason,don't hug goodbye,its creepy!
Did you make this thread just to make fun of male hugging male?
jeez i actually believed that you were asking for advise...
No,no,no...I didn't make this to laugh at hugging male,its just that it came this way
Tony the guardsman wrote:Well yea,if you are a female,of course you can hug a man,but when you are a man,you hug other man for a reason,don't hug goodbye,its creepy!
Did you make this thread just to make fun of male hugging male?
jeez i actually believed that you were asking for advise...
No,no,no...I didn't make this to laugh at hugging male,its just that it came this way
I wasn't talking about man in the OP
Does the idea of being hugged by another man frighten you...? If so, why...?
:?
