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Post by: poontangler
Today me and my fiancée were talking about my 40k army; by talking of course, she was making fun of my tau forces that stood in defense of my dinner table.
She calls them my "Gnomes" and often makes wise cracks and rolls her eyes when I go off to play or play at my home.
So I pose this question to my fellow gamers: What does your other half(If that applies, as some of us are lucky enough to be single) about your hobby?
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Post by: Luco
Single, but the girl I'm interested in likes painting them so I'm fairly set if we do get together.  She thinks its odd but is fine with the small power armored and bearded horde making appearances on occasion.
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Post by: loranafaeriequeen
I actually suggested to my husband that we get involved in the hobby together. He played in college, and had fallen out of it. I was looking for something interesting to do, and thought it would bring us closer together in the process. So about eight months ago, we took our state tax refund and sunk it into starting armies.
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Post by: daedalus
The last girl I had over that saw the game room reacted only with, "Oh God, Brad, what have you done?"
Probably something I will take with me to the grave.
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Post by: Brother SRM
My girl gets me Warhammer stuff for Christmas and the like, and we paint together. She has no interest in the game, but she likes painting goblins, and she's actually pretty good at it. I play with tiny plastic spacemen, she does roller derby, it's all good.
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Post by: FITZZ
My Missus is pretty supportive,often purchasing minis for me on Birthday/Christmas.
Since our Son has become interested (and started his own army) she now views it as "Business as usual" around the house.
About the only time she fusses about it is if I loose track of time while painting,I've heard " Are you coming to bed or staying up to play with your little men?!" at least once a week for years.
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Post by: poontangler
Lol. I like the supportive wife.
Mine just enjoys teasing me about it, but she does help me pain from time to time.
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Post by: Wi1ikers
daedalus wrote:The last girl I had over that saw the game room reacted only with, "Oh God, Brad, what have you done?"
Probably something I will take with me to the grave.
LOL thats pretty funny. I'd probably get the same reaction. Thats why she aint allowed into the stores. 
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Post by: Redbeard
I've got a very supportive wife, who cross-stiches chaos stars for me, and knits me dice bags.
She's into various crafts, and is a gamer too, so she gets it...
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Post by: poontangler
I intend to get my daughter into this hobby when she comes of proper gaming age.
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Post by: VikingScott
Any girl I've ever told said something along the lines of either:
"Oh, that's . . .um. . . cool"
Or alternatively
"Mhmmph, mhpmhph!!! mphmhpmhphm!"
I try not to tell gals now till they're in for the long haul.
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Post by: poontangler
VikingScott wrote:Any girl I've ever told said something along the lines of either:
"Oh, that's . . .um. . . cool"
Or alternatively
"Mhmmph, mhpmhph!!! mphmhpmhphm!"
I try not to tell gals now till they're in for the long haul.
haha. I am of the mind if a girl does not like you for you, then she does not deserve you.
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Post by: IronfrontAlex
Single, but my last Girl would joke about it and call it nerd time, but accepted it as my time away from her.
Now finding women who are cool with it, and will even participare? i need to find me one of those!
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Post by: Flashman
Mrs Flashman is fairly tolerant of it, but won't have it on display when we have guests 
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Post by: Balance
poontangler wrote:So I pose this question to my fellow gamers: What does your other half(If that applies, as some of us are lucky enough to be single) about your hobby?
She doesn't "get it" but she likes that it's a creative hobby (she paints and does crafts) and that it's pretty tame having a night out with the guys in someone's living room every couple weeks vs. going bar hopping or such regularly. So I don't get any complaints.
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Post by: Melchiour
My fiance always goes with me to our local shop to watch the games. She has gotten more and more interested over time. She has planed out a Blood Angels army that she wished to play, of course she insists they be purple and pink, which I completely agree with. Don't worry. I will post pics.
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Post by: Beer_&_Bolters
My gf (wife essentially) views it with a mix of confusion and tolerence. Except when i tell her that i want to buy something new, then she just loathes it.
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Post by: FITZZ
Beer_&_Bolters wrote:My gf (wife essentially) views it with a mix of confusion and tolerence. Except when i tell her that i want to buy something new, then she just loathes it.
Yes,the expenses of the hobby can also lead to some pretty good arguments at times.
" You spent $300.00 dollars on WHAT?!"
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Post by: HawaiiMatt
My accepts that from time to time, I want to go dork out. Since my other friends tended to spend all their money in strip clubs, my wife has accepted this as a better source of bonding.
She doesn't get it at all, has no interest in the game, but is ok with my wasting time and money on it.
Like most things, balance is the key. Some weekends I'll game, some weekends we do stuff together.
-Matt
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Post by: Blood Lord Soldado
My wife doesnt get it at all.
I have started to buy collections to resell so I can somehow make it seem like its at least profitable so so she wont make me quit.
I don't blame her, we do have 4 kids, but the inner nerd in me will never be slain.
I am going to get my older son into the game soon, maybe over the holiday break. He just turned 13, so hes close to being able to really strategize and stuff, and I just got enough for a 2nd competitive army.
I will post a battle report if it does go down.
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Post by: rryannn
my girlfriend supports it until it is time to cuddle, cook/eat dinner, spend time w/ her, etc.
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Post by: Hückleberry
My girlfriend thinks its "cute". She just thinks its good that I have a constructive hobby.
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Post by: Wulfenone
My girlfriend doesnt mind it at all she buys me warhammer for my birthday and X mass. The only thing that she doesnt like is going into GW stores by her self she says it freaks her out although she has gotten use to the one close to our house. Im trying to get her into the hobby but its proving difficult.....
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Post by: Jburch
Sometimes my wife supports it (i.e buying me the new dark eldar line for my B. Day or not complaining when I have my weekly game night with a buddy). She has (on 3 seperate occasions) seemed to get really excited about it and want to start an army, but then we buy a started box of whatever she wants, and then it sits and collects dust until I finlly just sell it or paint it myself.
When she isnt supportive of it, she spends her time telling me to grow up lol....
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Post by: Mithrax
My wife does not care for 40k.
Fantasy on the other hand, she quite likes.
Except when my night gobbos chase her dragon mage off the board 
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Post by: Ifurita
My wife is quite supportive. She doesn't play, but likes to paint and my kids are getting into painting and setting up all the figures.
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Post by: Eilif
Wife doesn't like it at all. However, she tolerates well the gaming, painting/modeling and the money spent.
A few times I've been able to get inside what her real reservations are. The most telling was hearing "I don't like associating my husband with that", shortly after taking her briefly inside the Chicago Games Workshop Battle bunker where there was a kid in a cape and fatigue hat who clearly thought he was from tanith....
Can you blame her? I don't want to be associated with that.
On the other hand she has expressed approval with how "normal" most of my current gaming buddies are, so progress is being made.
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Post by: poontangler
This Christmas I have spent over 1500$ on gifts for my step daughter, my real daughter, my fiancee's nephew, and other children who are not my own.
Mrs. Poontangler: Babe, I'm so happy, you really made Christmas this year! The best part, you did not get anything for your self..
Me: *Reading his new Dark Eldar Codex* Im sorry, what were you saying.
Her: That book...it looks like your Tau book..but its not...oh dear god... YOU DID NOT
Me: *smiling brightly* I so did. $300 on some Dark Eldar! They will be arriving with in the week!
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Post by: Nils
My wife supports my hobby completely, she rarely complains about the time I spend painting or being at the club. She thinks it's good that I have something to do by myself. She has painted some things and sometimes surprises me with a random miniature. As she is the artist in the family I use her quite often for critique and suggestions on colors etc.
I'm a firm believer in that if the girl/boy doesn't accept you and your hobbies they can sod off.
Of course this does not stop her for making fun of me
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Post by: gorgon
My wife has less than zero interest in the hobby.
However, she's fine with me going out for game night once a week or so. She just kinda sees it like a poker night or bowling night. And she's just glad it's a safe, harmless hobby.
Personally, I think it works better that she ISN'T into the hobby. Couples need separate interests IMO, and that's one of mine.
When dating it wasn't something I brought up right away. For one thing, yes, it might scare someone away who doesn't know you well yet. For another, it's just a hobby of mine and there's a whole lot of other "get to know you" things to talk about that don't involve gaming. Then again, I never chased "gamer girls" since "normal girls" seemed like a vastly larger and deeper pool...
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Post by: Ed_Bodger
My wife started off painting with me when we first met, now she allows me a big display case in the study, tolerates me leaving bits all around the house, tolerates me having 'geeky' conversations with 'geeky' friends until she meets them and realises they are normal. Generally she is quite supportive, if she is going shopping and I want something from GW she is quite happy to take a list, pay for it and pick it up. I think I'm lucky.
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Post by: VenerableBrotherPelinore
My wife spends more time reading the books than I do.
This point gets emphasised more and more as time goes by. This passing weekend, I purchased Firedrake after my club had finished with it's gaming for the week, intending to go home and read it. Upon my return, she plucked it out of my hand, thanked me, and proceeded to sit down and begin to read.
On the actual gaming side, she doesn't play, but she's more than tolerant of my play, and of finding messes and such after I've experimented with something. Still trying to get her to play though.
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Post by: Augustus
What is a "spouse"?
I couldn't find that in the rule book?
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Post by: Devilsquid
It's the expansion to that costs a ton of money, and it's the only edition you can play with for the rest of your life.
Coming soon: Children, the new expansion!
My wife is a game, and not only understands/gets my gaming, but supports and encourages it. True, i do get the occasional sigh of "I'd rather you be home" or "Another convention?", but she knows it's something I'm passionate about, and accepts it.
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Post by: Rurouni Benshin
Wow, all these stories about supportive wives/fiances/girlfriends is making me a little jealous. 
Well, needless to say, my wife is not thrilled about my gaming hobbies. And by "not thrilled", I mean she hates it. She says it's "unattractive and childish", which to a degree, I can understand. The stigma that comes with some forms of gaming aren't very pleasing, generally speaking, and to be honest, some of my gamer friends, whom she has met before, aren't very easy on the eyes either.
She especially gets mad when I knowingly make plans to do these sorts of things, but pretty much forgets about it soon after. However, our son was just born a few months ago, and she just went away with her mother and sister for awhile, while I got to bond with my son. Brownie points will definitely be cashed in in the near future.
Also, in regards to comments like this...
Beer_&_Bolters wrote: " You spent $300.00 dollars on WHAT?!"
I usually come up with things to the effect of "Whatever I've spent on my hobby doesn't come NEARLY as close as to how much you've spent on shoes and purses. When was the last time you wore all of your shoes in a single month? At least I use everything I've spent my money on."
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Post by: chromedog
My wife not only supports me in my hobby endeavours, she doesn't put me down, and even buys me stuff. I have a great wife.
Sure, she calls me geek or nerd on occasion, but I call myself that anyway (and she has never used it in a negative way).
We have no children (and can't have them) so my hobby time will never be reduced by them, and my finances will never know the drain of little feets.
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Post by: Ifurita
"can I spend $50 on a new tank for my army?"
"NO!"
"OK, going to the strip club with my buddies"
"How much was that tank again?"
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Post by: Augustus
That sounds perfect chrome!
My last Girlfriend actually heard me talking about the hobby when I was explaining it to a coworker who asked me about it.
That's how we met.
Unfortunately she wanted to have kids, and that's how we split.
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Post by: Necros
No spouse but my GF who will be that one day doesn't have any interest at all. But, she doesn't mind me painting models and all that stuff, she likes that I have a creative hobby that I enjoy.
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Post by: Acardia
My GF has watched the games, and I'm pretty sure she'd give 40k a whirl if they looked like bretionians that she actually does paint.
I am not allowed to have anything unpainted on display, which is fine.
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Post by: Aurelia
From the spouses point of view...
I think 40k is a totally childish, messy hobby and I'm sick of my husbands little toy orks taking up all the room on the huge desk we have in our front room and many cabinets of his armies and constant dreaming about getting yet another army...
...I need the room for MY Dark Eldar and darn it I reserve some room for my future chaos SoBs!!!
(Seriosly though I do not get the hatred shown by others of my gender for their partners hobbies... its much more fun to either join in or at least find some humor in it!)
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Post by: Stravo
My wife at first viewed it as a curiosity and then was bemused by it as it grew from "I just want to build a dreadnought and have it sit in my office so I can admire it." to now "My 1750 point Spacemarine army is nearly complete!"
The cool thing is that she occasionally paints with me and gives me advice on colors, etc since she is far more artistic than I. However the expense of the hobby has started to creep in on her as she sees stacks of unopened models piling up in our apartment and more coming through the door. She has been gently reminding me that buying a LR right now makes no sense when I have so many unopened models still waiting for my attention.
However she does appreciate my take on the expense. Some men go out and drink their money away, some gamble, others spend it on their favorite sports team. This is my vice and it keeps me home close to my family.
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Post by: Magister187
My girlfriends reaction is probably best represented with a timeline
September: We have been going out for 9 months. I start playing 40k again. She is confused by the small figures and high pricetag, but supportive.
Early October: She agrees to help me buy painting stuff, as she is an artist and knows these things. She is mildly interested in trying her hand at painting them herself.
Late October: She wants to see a game being played, and to learn the rules "so she will know wtf I am talking about" when 40k comes up in conversation.
Early November: She decides to start collecting an army herself, but doesn't know which one to start.
Late November: She takes her Eldar codex to Thanksgiving Dinner.
Early December: She has the beginnings of an Eldar army, which she is prepping to begin painting early next year.
God I love her.
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Post by: djones520
No differantly then I treat her obsession with Twilight. Neither of us really like it, but we leave it be.
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Post by: Boyofdestiny205
My wife has been very supportive.
The only grief i get is when I call my friend and discuss the hobby she likes to come into the room asking when my next playdate with my boyfirend is...
Its pretty funny so i cant get mad at her.
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Post by: KamikazeCanuck
What's with these supportive/interested women?! My gf properly dislikes it/has no interest. Ditto for my two buddies ladies. One of them derisively calls them "dollies".
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Post by: CT GAMER
My wife passively accepts my hobby, and treats it with a mixture of mocking disinterest and disbelief, the same way I treat her love of bad reality tv and "girly shows".
Tbh I'm glad she doesn't like it or want to do it, because then I would have to reciprocate by watching Glee and House Hunters...
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Post by: Augustus
One of my best friend long time players wives calls them:
"Little Dudes"
We all kind of like that!
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Post by: Vanq
Hmmm, my GF isn't interested in the gaming side, but really appreciates the creative side. Which is great because I'm more of a collector than a gamer
She had been previously exposed to 40k before we met, which made it a little easier, albeit confusing for me when it came up early on in our relationship!
Her: "So, tell me something I don't know about you?
Me: "Ummm...you know I'm an unasamhed geek? Well I love this silly game called Warhammer 40k..."
Her: "Cool! What do you play?"
Me: "Oh, Eldar"
Her: "They were always my favourite. What Craftworld?"
Me: "  "
As a result I've returned to the hobby after a hiatus now that I've started Dark Eldar, which she has describe my first attempts as "Well, he doesn't look very friendly at all" 
I feel sorry for the guys and gals out there who feel they need to hide it away like some secret shame. Its good to reply to an SMS of "What are you up to?" with "Playing with my toy soldiers babe"
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Post by: tom_gledhill7
My fiance loves it, she thinks she's nerdier than I am so she loves seeing some 'nerd' in me. She thinks it's... "cute" how obsessed I am with 40k hahah she's awesome
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Post by: Flashman
Mrs Flashman wants it noted that she came with me to Warhammer World in Nottingham, spent ages looking at all the minis in the display cabinets and took a photo of me standing in front of the Space Marine statue. She occassionally talks about 3 ups to demonstrate she was paying attention that day.
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Post by: Zid
My wife makes fun of my hobby... though she likes to paint the occasional fig. Its just not her thing; shes more into Motorcycles and stuff.
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Post by: NoBaconz4You
Hah, most of you guys are very lucky! I'm only 17 at the moment and the girls my age haven't really grown up yet, it's all very generic nerdiness, and prejudice. Although there are some that don't mind that kinda thing, still iffy about it though.
Sigh, someday eh?
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Post by: DiscoVader
My girlfriend's been nothing but supportive when it comes to Warhammer. It's made easier because we're both huge nerds - we both love anime and manga, and though she's not a huge gamer she still loves video games. It also helps that one of her best friends used to play Fantasy, with a Wood Elf army, so she's got a little bit of exposure to it, and she knows how much I love it, so she manages to put up with my rabid fanboying and discussions about the game.
She's also interested in a hobby called ball-jointed dolls - basically very intricate, posable dolls about 30-45cms high (or roughly the size of a Reaver Titan from FW) and made of resin, so they're VERY expensive, anywhere from $300 and up, usually around $600. It makes it a lot easier to justify spending the amount of money that I do on GW when she's done the same thing with her BJDs, so that's never a problem between us. And she's more than happy to come along to the FLGS if I want to get a game in, since she's happy to sit and read in the manga section.
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Post by: Phototoxin
Mrs Phototoxin doesn't like it when I have space marines on a table for a week (as I paint in batches!) Otherwise she's semi-ok with it.
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Post by: Wakinglimb
She is tolerant to the point I can build the odd rhino in the lounge whilst we watch a movie together... but refers to 40k as "that game" or will ask if I am enjoying "painting my little men"... but is better than me going out drinking etc.
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Post by: Rurouni Benshin
Aurelia wrote:
(Seriosly though I do not get the hatred shown by others of my gender for their partners hobbies... its much more fun to either join in or at least find some humor in it!)
Can I introduce you to my wife? 
CT GAMER wrote:Tbh I'm glad she doesn't like it or want to do it, because then I would have to reciprocate by watching Glee and House Hunters...
I totally know what you mean. Despite her disinterest/hatred for it, it does provide me that same excuse not to sit through Dancing with the Stars or the Jersey Shore. 
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Post by: Dannicus
My partner doesn't understand my hobbies, but encourages me to game with the guys. Plus he buys me gaming stuff...I just scored Dust Tactics and Wings of War
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Post by: chromedog
KamikazeCanuck wrote:One of them derisively calls them "dollies".
Hell, I call them my warbarbies, wardollies and man-barbies. Take their wounding words and use them as armour. Yes, the principle IS the same one used by Afro-american youth taking back the 'n' word and using it amongst each other. You can't take the piss from something even I don't take that seriously.
@Augustus: When we met, she knew I was a gamer (we met through mutual friends who were SF fans and/or gamers) and that it would not be changing. She agrees that it is necessary for even close partners to have time apart with hobbies. Besides, her family all collect something, from trains to airplanes, to radios, stamps, model cars (mustangs only), etc so I'm the 'normal' one who plays with his toys.
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Post by: Augustus
Awesome!
Perhaps one day there shall be one for me! Till then, back to the painting table!
I find the amount of supportive spouses out there encouraging!
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Post by: Skarshak
My GF has no interest in the game and just lets me go about my business! Sad really seeing that she likes to paint! I've asked her if she wanted to help paint up a few and I got a solid NO! :(
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Post by: KamikazeCanuck
chromedog wrote:KamikazeCanuck wrote:One of them derisively calls them "dollies".
Hell, I call them my warbarbies, wardollies and man-barbies. Take their wounding words and use them as armour. Yes, the principle IS the same one used by Afro-american youth taking back the 'n' word and using it amongst each other. You can't take the piss from something even I don't take that seriously.
@Augustus: When we met, she knew I was a gamer (we met through mutual friends who were SF fans and/or gamers) and that it would not be changing. She agrees that it is necessary for even close partners to have time apart with hobbies. Besides, her family all collect something, from trains to airplanes, to radios, stamps, model cars (mustangs only), etc so I'm the 'normal' one who plays with his toys.
War-barbies, War-Dollies or Man-Barbies. I can't decide.
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Post by: Kouzuki
Rurouni Benshin wrote:
Beer_&_Bolters wrote: " You spent $300.00 dollars on WHAT?!"
I usually come up with things to the effect of "Whatever I've spent on my hobby doesn't come NEARLY as close as to how much you've spent on shoes and purses. When was the last time you wore all of your shoes in a single month? At least I use everything I've spent my money on."
I WOULD LIKE TO EXPRESS MY INCREDULITY AT YOUR STATEMENT, AND MY BELIEF THAT SOME OF THE MONEY SPENT BY HER IS TO YOUR BENEFIT.
Personal comments redacted by the Modquistion. There is no good reason to go making generalizations or insulting suppositions about other people's marriages. -The Mgmt.
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Post by: Adam LongWalker
I'm lucky to have an understanding GF who realizes that spending money on a hobby that is actually a creative one is better than hopping on my "Harley" and raising hell with my Biker buddies.
Speeding tickets are getting expensive these days.
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Post by: MADLarkin
My wife calls them my Little Men. She is tolerant. My two year old son already knows what each one is called and what gun it is carrying.  got to start them young.
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Post by: Talarn Blackshard
My fiance said she was ok with me persuing this hobby as long as we had all of our financial obligations taken care of ... i think she's opened the flood gates...
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Post by: poontangler
Lol. My Fiancée can not say anything about me spending money, because I Earn 90% of our household income
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Post by: pdawg517
My GF doesn't really care that I play. Sometimes she finds it rather endearing. She gets me models and the like for gifts and gives me my game night. She does like to pick about it and ask me if I am going to go play space barbies with my friends! Needless to say she has no interest herself, but gaming is MY time so I like that she is not interested in it.
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Post by: Capt_Bowman
My fiancée encourages me, both to play and to buy stuff. I'm hopeless at spending money on myself so she almost nags me to buy the odd figure / box. That being said she's a semi-ex-gamer herself with a history of RP, Dark Future and Necromunda so she understands.
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Post by: Mannahnin
Off Topic junk argumentative posts deleted.
Please refrain from petty arguing.
Please also refrain from making generalizations about one gender or another like "all women own way too much clothing." It's dumb, and it makes you look bad.
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Post by: Doop Dude
My current girlfriend laughed, said, "Aw, that's cute", then giggled for two hours after. My ex burst into laughter, and said "YOU STILL PLAY WITH TOY SOLDIERS!!" After she'd finished, she told me it wasn't too bad, as her brother in law played a similar game.
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Post by: loranafaeriequeen
My two year old son already knows what each one is called and what gun it is carrying. got to start them young.
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Our three year old mostly knows about orks. He likes them, and goes around saying "Bwwaaah!"
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Post by: Big Mek Dattrukk
At times, she tolerates it, and then i go out to the Shop to actually play a game... 3 hrs later, in the middle of my 4th shooting phase, i get a phone call : Hunny, are you EVER Coming home?
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Post by: Flashman
poontangler wrote:Lol. My Fiancée can not say anything about me spending money, because I Earn 90% of our household income
Wait until you're married and watch the dynamics about 'whose money it is' change
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Post by: Morathi's Darkest Sin
Aurelia wrote:
...I need the room for MY Dark Eldar and darn it I reserve some room for my future chaos SoBs!!!
Hmm, ponders if he should mention the Slaanesh Daemons army he has floating in his head since he saw those spider/Daemonette 'Fiend' conversions on Cool mini.
Probably better I just slip on out.
But yeah, she answered this thread for me.
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Post by: poontangler
I find it works better when I ambush my better half with my 40k buys
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Post by: Guitardian
My girl thinks its nice that I have a hobby. She has sat through a couple of games, working on her own stuff and occasionally taking an interest in what the boys and me are so excited about. She even painted a few swooping hawks for fun (They are well done, but totally not in my color scheme, but I can't repaint them now because that's what relationships are about or something ) Beyond that she has very little interest in it. Then again I barely ever spend any money on it other than gas to get to the game. I don't need any more figs to play my one army of choice, don't need any more paint or supplies, and even the other army's codex my cheapskate ass just finds on .pdf if I need one. So she doesn't really care. I guess its better than having a hobby that requires continuous spending.
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Post by: FITZZ
poontangler wrote:I find it works better when I ambush my better half with my 40k buys
I did this for a while,but that often led to.."problems",not if I simply walked in with a Rhino or something,but if I walked in with a huge lot..."$300 Dollars!..for WHAT!"
I find it much easier now to simply say " Hey! Honey..check this out." show her a picture/add/ etc..for something I want and then "we" decide if it's "doable"...I get what I want about half the time...not to shabby.
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Post by: Corey85
After three or four years of on and off bickering about money and purchases of models, comics, and movies, we simply started a separate bank account where a certain amount of my bi-weekly check goes. This changed the conversation from "you haven't finished your CSM, you can't buy anything else", to "hey, is this check going towards comics or models, because I'll go to the mall if your buying comics..." etc.
My wife has slowly come to know the general fluff of 40k, and knows what armies I play and the basic units in those armies. I work second shift, and she works first, so on nights when I'm home she'll ask about my day and if I worked on minis she is always happy to look.
Other than the money issue, which has been resolved, she has always been supportive.
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Post by: poontangler
My Fiancee is actually quite knowledgeable with my Tau army. To the point, she can tell you the history of them, as well as explain the war gear. She does make fun of me, but she does ask questions, and help me paint.
Now when tournament time comes around it is a different story. She comes from a very competitive family, so when I go to the shop to sign up for a tournament she gets all excited like i'm going to play foot ball or something.
She actually got kicked out for screaming "Kick his ass baby!" during one of my matches. I was so proud.
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Post by: AzurePhoenix
My wife is very supportive of the hobby. She's not interested in it herself but she has occasionally bought me 40k models and she always encourages me to invite my friends over to play games.
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Post by: Frazzled
Its viewed as better than if I were hanging out in a bar. Weiner Dog command however loves it as they love the taste of the paint.
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Post by: redbristles
My girlfriend is very supportive, she bought me loads of Dark Elves for xmas this year, I even managed to get her to paint up a Moria Goblin, which is a lot better than my first ever model was a lot better than mine was! She's very supportive in general and will be coming to GD '11 too!
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Post by: grizgrin
My ex wife was very supportive. Perhaps too much so. She got a kick out of feeding other peoples addictions. She actually would start me out on new armies and such. One Christmas I opened a large box and found a Tomb Kings Army Box stuffed will additional Tomb Kings. And a full SIsters army stuffed in as well.
My girlfriend is also supportive. She calls me Alpha Geek. I don't really know why; I'm not THAT great a gamer. SHE is the one who worked in Tech Support, lol. But she puts together models sometimes, finds it therapeutic.
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Post by: mr badmek
Strangely it was one of my other half's friends that got me interested 10 years ago, now we have painting time together, she builds her own models (mostly), reads the black library books and incredibly she's encouraging me to start a dark elf army
BTW she has Tau, Eldar, Grey Knight and High Elf forces, and the beginnings of a Hordes force.
So, yep she's supportive and I wouldn't have it any other way.
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Post by: A Black Ram
Don't want to be in a relationship, but my niece who is younger than 5 laughs at the Orks with topknots and calls them monkeys
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Post by: Jayden63
My wife sees it as a necessary evil with a side of amusement.
Modeling and painting is what I do for stress relief and is my hobby. Money not spent on 40K or Garage Kits would just get spent in some other leisure fashion.
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Post by: Rosarius
She runs away when I say "Nurgle", because she is terrified of some CSM pictures.
...Yeah.
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Post by: TK-421
not surprising... Nurgle units arent exactly the most eye pleasing
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Post by: Excommunicate Traitoris
My wife has no problem with my hobby, she buys me stuff on occasion. She likes that I have a hobby I can do so I dont pester her while she is reading, doing an oil painting, drawing or doing some other art project, or watching one of her programmes.
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Post by: Ashrag
My girlfriend encourages (nags) me to buy things that she thinks are cool (and they are ) - so thanks to her I got into 40k ... bought a chaos reaver and right now she's really into Death Korps of Krieg ... what can I say - I just love her
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Post by: filbert
Question: How does your spouse view your 40k hobby?
Answer: She thinks I am a massive geek.
There is probably some truth to this.
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Post by: Gitsplitta
My wife is not the least bit interested in war gaming, but she's always supported me in the hobby. Holiday presents usually include some choice pieces I have trouble coughing up the dough for otherwise. Considering how much time I spend locked in the studio painting... she's about as supportive and you can get.
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Post by: loranafaeriequeen
Do you wish your spouses/girlfriends/fiances were more involved? Or do you mostly prefer them to be "into their own things?" Mostly I'd like to know what you have in common with them if it's not wargaming. (and i don't mean the obvious thing)
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Post by: filbert
loranafaeriequeen wrote:Do you wish your spouses/girlfriends/fiances were more involved? Or do you mostly prefer them to be "into their own things?" Mostly I'd like to know what you have in common with them if it's not wargaming. (and i don't mean the obvious thing)
I would love for my wife to get involved but after several aborted attempts, I am resigned to the fact that it just ain't gonna happen. She briefly showed an interest in painting but swiftly became bored. She has shown little interest in the games beyond one game of Space Hulk (that she played to stop me mithering mainly). she also fell asleep during the Ultramarines movie.
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Post by: KamikazeCanuck
I think I'm in your boat too filbert.
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Post by: Gitsplitta
Meh, I don't need her to be more involved than she is. I have my 40k, she has her horses. I'm into Halloween, she's into Christmas. I gregarious & make it up as I go along... she plots and plans behind-the-scenes. The fact that we have different interests isn't a problem at all, in fact our differing strengths and aptitudes make us a more formidable team than if we were carbon copies of each other.
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Post by: Nils
loranafaeriequeen wrote:Do you wish your spouses/girlfriends/fiances were more involved? Or do you mostly prefer them to be "into their own things?" Mostly I'd like to know what you have in common with them if it's not wargaming. (and i don't mean the obvious thing)
I wouldn't mind if she wanted to paint a bit or play a game here and there but otherwise I'm quite content that we have different hobbies and don't have to do every single thing together. I believe that it's important that you have different interests and hobbies even if your a couple/married etc
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Post by: poontangler
loranafaeriequeen wrote:
Do you wish your spouses/girlfriends/fiances were more involved? Or do you mostly prefer them to be "into their own things?" Mostly I'd like to know what you have in common with them if it's not wargaming. (and i don't mean the obvious thing)
I would absolutely love it if Mrs. Poontangler would play some games with me, it would mean I could war game at home and not have to leave.
But you also have to remember 40k is not the only interest I have. Me and my better half have many shared interests. We also have our own things
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Post by: snurl
Mrs. Snurl always likes to look at what I'm painting. Over the years she has given me three nice display cabinets to keep my figures in. But she doesn't game, she has her own hobbies.
Around Christmastime she always asks me to paint something on her fingernails. I have painted grinches, christmas trees, santas, angels, pointsettas, snowmen, and all sorts of things on there. Her mom likes hers done too. Always good for an extra present or two.
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Post by: Lonecoon
My wife calls them "my little army dudes." She doesn't have a problem with what I spend on them, because she has a horse that is twice as expensive as all of my hobbies combined.
She's really not interested at all in creating her army, as she hates painting.
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Post by: Eilif
loranafaeriequeen wrote:Do you wish your spouses/girlfriends/fiances were more involved? Or do you mostly prefer them to be "into their own things?" Mostly I'd like to know what you have in common with them if it's not wargaming. (and i don't mean the obvious thing)
That is a very good couple of questions.
I think it would be nice if the missus was more involved, but it doesn't bother me that she isn't. I love spending time with her though, so I do some hobbying in the living room when we're watching movies, and our computer is in the hobby room so I can paint while she watches Hulu or plays wolfenstien.
To your second question, asside from both liking to read, watch movies and spend time together, nothing about our specific leisure hobbies was do we have in common. Our commonalities are around faith, priorities, values, lifestyle, politics, and asthetic taste (in home decor, fashion, etc). Shared hobbies would be nice, but they aren't what you build a marriage around (the first 3 things in my list and alot of quality time and communication are).
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Post by: TedintheShed
poontangler wrote:Today me and my fiancée were talking about my 40k army; by talking of course, she was making fun of my tau forces that stood in defense of my dinner table.
She calls them my "Gnomes" and often makes wise cracks and rolls her eyes when I go off to play or play at my home.
So I pose this question to my fellow gamers: What does your other half(If that applies, as some of us are lucky enough to be single) about your hobby?
married 21 years.
She supports me, even if she doesn't understand it always. Doesn't make fun, but will not feign an interest herself.
I could be a bad father, bad husband, go out and blow $100.00 a night at a bar drinking, but I don't. She appreciates that, and that is how she shows her appreciation.
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Post by: brother_zach
My girlfriend (Who's getting to the point of becoming my wife.) thinks it's "adorable" that a big country boy likes to paint little war dudes. She's sat down and painted 3 with me, which turned out to be awesome. She's even bought me things for the hobby, and though she always buys stuff that I cant use, I paint them for practice or build a diorama with them.
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Post by: darkkt
The wife views it with tolerance/disinterest/patience - but definitely prefers it over long PS3 sessions.
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Post by: Pael
My wife loves to play board games with me and likes to by me gaming presents for christmas/birthday but mainly is disinterested. Which is how I like it gives us a chance to have seperate but equal lives caus emost of my time is spent with her or the kid or both.
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Post by: Howard A Treesong
She's supportive of my hobbies and will sometimes paint a bit too. She isn't into wargaming but loves fantasy and RPG and prefers that kind of gaming which I'm more leaning towards myself as wargaming with large armies becomes prohibitively expensive, well with GW miniatures anyway.
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Post by: Balance
loranafaeriequeen wrote:Do you wish your spouses/girlfriends/fiances were more involved? Or do you mostly prefer them to be "into their own things?" Mostly I'd like to know what you have in common with them if it's not wargaming. (and i don't mean the obvious thing)
At times, sure, but honestly I'm happy that we have some separate stuff. I need time to chill and do things on my own sometimes. Painting is my private time.
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Post by: MagickalMemories
My wife is GREAT about my hobbies.
I only receive mildly contemptuous comments for my multiple "1 am" mornings during the week when I stay up late watching the Bartertown forums, packing boxes of trades (the skreech of packing tape at midnight has awakened her in a panic on more than one occasion in our marriage), painting my little men and the like.
She let me dedicate about 600 sq ft of our basement to a gaming-centric Man Cave.
Almost every Saturday, from noonish until whenever the heck I get home (usuallt midnight to 2 am), I'm out at a buddy's house playing 40K, or have my monthly 2e AD&D group over at the house (for whom she cooks dinner).
For all this, I have but to suffer the occasional "geek" joke.
If helps that she knows that, though I spend a lot of time involved in my hobbies in one fashion or another, they really do take a back seat to real life. I'd cancel gaming in a heartbeat if necessary and I'd sell every last gaming item I own, if we needed the money for something important, without even hesitating.
Eric
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Post by: Rurouni Benshin
Frazzled wrote:Its viewed as better than if I were hanging out in a bar.
That's another funny thing about my wife... She would honestly rather see me go out to a bar, have a drink or two, and BS with my friends out there doing stuff that doesn't involve "gaming"... And honestly, I can't think of a better and safer (while not necessarily cheaper) way of spending a night than gaming with friends.
And to answer the recent question about whether I wished she would be more involved?
I think it would be fun. Someone voiced earlier that they wouldn't have to travel elsewhere to game, but that's just a small perk, IMHO. If she were to get into gaming, and maybe learn to appreciate what I consider to be fun, then she'd probably understand why I enjoy it. But getting her to game for a little while in of itself is a challenge, let alone just getting her to understand why I like it.
*sigh*... Oh well, perhaps time will tell.
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Post by: Field Marshal Wiley
My girl does not mind the pretty art work or painted miniatures being a tattoo artist herself. She puts up with my stories about a recent game or arguments on Dakka i see or me showing her nice painted minis via the laptop. But when a group of gamers show up at the house she generally stays away or shouts "QUIET DOWN NERD HERD !"
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Post by: MagickalMemories
LOL
My wife would totally do that!
Eric
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Post by: keelerlimbstumpa
My boyfriend plays the tau so our only issue is his always losing and claiming he went easy on me.
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Post by: Leromides
My wife is very supportive. So supportive in fact that she's learning 40k so that my group will have 4 players for the UK doubles next year.
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Post by: bagley
My partner is rather negative on the whole thing, to the point I pray that she doesn't want to go shopping when I'm on my way to gamesworkshop because I know she'll follow me and stand there in the shop saying something like "oh god, I'm the only woman in here, I wonder how many of these guys are virgins", she's not very subtle. She even does it in shops like gamestation.
aside from that, she does pretend to listen to me when I rant about my little toys, and will even praise my work if I have completed a nice little conversion/paintjob. And we don't argue too much about the financial aspect, since I allways remind her how many shoe's and clothes she owns.
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Post by: quadro28
My wife is generally supportive. She will occasionally critique my painting and tolerate the stories I tell her. And I she bought me minis for Christmas so no complaints here.
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Post by: OoieGoie
Id give my left testicle for a geeky girlfriend with similar interests. I seem to attract those with opposite interests. Sigh.
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Post by: TK-421
that can be arranged... the former... not the latter.
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Post by: MajorTom11
Fortunately for me she has a Masters in Chemistry (even though she now works in marketting for Chem companies), so no matter what I do, it will never be as geeky as having a Masters in Chemistry lol!
In all seriousness though, she is fine with it and even makes efforts to be interested in what I'm working on, but obviously doesn't like it too much if I get too into it and end up not spending as much time with her as I should. To me, her wanting to spend time with me isnt bad or nagging. I would be far more worried if she didn't care, we are married after all lol!
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Post by: Sinphonite
Mine plays along with me now.
When we first met it was a pretty neutral thing, beyond a bit of friendly jabbing and calling me a dork from time to time. A bit before we moved in together I traded my Eldar for a Tyranid army. When I started painting them, she saw the Carnifex's and said they were kinda cool and she wanted to paint one of them. She painted up the first carnifex and said she wanted to paint all of my big stuff (Two more carnifex's) and would help a bit with the small things (gaunts.)
After I finished painting up the first few squads of gaunts she wanted to paint some up in a different color. No problem, my want of a horde army got me carried away in the trade and I wound up with more gaunts than I could really make use of. She painted them up all black and pink, and I prodded her into repainting one of the carnifex's and a few other things that way to make a 500 point army. She wanted to paint them up but insisted that was it, she wasn't going to learn to play or paint another model after that.
As soon as that was finished, she repainted one of the other carnifex's because she was tired of painting little things, and wanted another big one. She looked through the codex at all of the pictures and really liked the Biovore model, so I wound up convincing her to let me buy her one (The cost of the game was a big part of her relative dislike of it at the time) to paint and add to the army to round it out at 750.
Not long after she finished painting, and painstakingly named every single model in her little swarm (All with matching names in each unit, and wrote them on each of their bases!) we were bored one night and she let me teach her how to play. But she was not going to add anything else to her army.
Now, she's completely taken over and expanded the Tyranid army, has an Ork army as well, and just got done helping me clear the garage out to turn it into a game room as our FLGS is closing. So that we can continue to all play weekly.
In Short: I really lucked out.
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Post by: Gearhead
Heh heh. Mrs. Gearhead is generally tolerant, and I try not to abuse her good graces (the fact that I don't actually play anything helps enormously.) Occasionally I'll hyperfocus on something (usually packaging stuff up for the Swap Shop,) and not realize that I've let a couple of hours pass without getting up to go see how she's doing, and find her more than a little annoyed at being left alone for so long (before anyone says anything, yes I've tried the "you know, you could have come and gotten me" line of reasoning, but apparently the age-old "But I shouldn't have to" retort trumps all argument...at least when a woman uses it.)
Early on she was in the habit of picking a random mini off the bench, peering closely at it for a bit, then putting it back with a grimace and saying "these are so ugly!" She's happier with my selections these days, and sometimes enjoys watching me paint. I tried getting her into it, but she gave up after a couple of tries. It's too bad, because she's got artistic talent and I think she could develop a knack for it, but she says she hasn't got the patience.
@Sinphonite: I'd like to see those 'nids!
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Post by: SpankHammer III
My GF tolerates the hobby.
I started it after we were already going out and she already knew I was a geek so there wasn't really any fall out. Plus she is a geek in her own way, she has just started knitting.
She doesn't like going in to the store, to the point that we walked 20 mins out of our way to buy the fantasy rule book from hobbycraft rather than GW (which i was a little shocked at as she doesn't like walking in the cold). Its something to do with the sales tactics they use, she doesn't like the fact they approach her, she would prefer to browse.
She also doesn't like it when I line them all up on the dinning table, doesn't like all those small guns pointed at her
She has bought me stuff but she would rather buy me things not related to the hobby, she flat out refused to let me name my demolisher after her (she bought it for me). I'd love her to be more into the hobby as i don't actually have that many other interests but I love her more than the hobby and we were going out before I started so I can deal with the fact she isn't.
Every so often she'll try to act interested in my latest project and she always asks me how games went but she doesn't really care. It's all part of the give and take of our relationship.
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Post by: Element206
In short, she likes the painting aspect of it, but overall she has negative sentiments about it. Her biggest gripe is that it is a waist of time and seemes depressing.
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Post by: acsmedic
Fun thread... My wife accepts it. She use to complain about the cost until I demonstrated the cost of me being a "regular guy" I went and spent a Friday and a Saturday evening at the local bar and spent $400.00 on whiskey. (not to mention the cost of the cab ride and my coming home blitzed and looking for love) After that she does not mind the $50/month I spend on a box of guys and I hear rumour that I actually have some models coming for Christmas this year.
Also my 16 y/o son plays Salamanders and Brit rifles so that adds into the acceptance factor. My 9 y/o daughter likes to play as well.. She has a chaos army of hasbro littlest petshops that swarm out of a landraider and kill everything in sight. (they are so cute they killl!!!)
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Post by: Gearhead
Thanks for the laugh, Che-Vito! Make sure pictures get posted if this thing ever gets built!!
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Post by: SpankHammer III
che-vito - if I ever do orks thats happening
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Post by: doctorludo
Mrs Ludo has a "live and let live" approach. She thinks it's a geeky hobby, and has no interest in it herself, but points out the following:
It's more sociable than computer gaming (when did computer gaming become the less geeky hobby?).
It's cheaper than a season ticket for a football team.
It's down to me what I enjoy.
She gets annoyed by women that try and convince their blokes to stop playing, or that won't buy them models as gifts if that's what they want.
And in exchange, I keep her in juggling gear and ukelele paraphenalia.
She's great, my wife...
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Post by: porkuslime
MagickalMemories wrote:My wife is GREAT about my hobbies.
I only receive mildly contemptuous comments for my multiple "1 am" mornings during the week when I stay up late watching the Bartertown forums, packing boxes of trades (the skreech of packing tape at midnight has awakened her in a panic on more than one occasion in our marriage), painting my little men and the like.
For all this, I have but to suffer the occasional "geek" joke.
If helps that she knows that, though I spend a lot of time involved in my hobbies in one fashion or another, they really do take a back seat to real life. I'd cancel gaming in a heartbeat if necessary and I'd sell every last gaming item I own, if we needed the money for something important, without even hesitating.
Eric
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slightly edited.. but this is ALSO my experience. Late nights on the computer.. a first name relationship with my postman.. AND she also gives me painting advice (my eyes have difficulty telling certain colors apart) and positive feedback on battle reports as well.
Plus, she shares my college football enthusiasm, and thus has an emotional stake in how my Sisters of Battle perform (painted in the college colors).
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Post by: oadie
My girlfriend is very tolerant of the hobby, but rather limited on the "active interest" front. She wants to paint a model, but hasn't made a move on it in the >year since I primed it for her. She played a half-assed demo game with me, but spent more time taking silly pictures using the blast templates as green filters than playing, even though she says she'd like to play again. She likes the artistic side of my painting and terrain building endeavors, but I think I've so overloaded her with my interest that she's become somewhat numb to it (even holding back and showing her only the very coolest stuff, it's still more than she cares to look at).
Reading over this, it all sounds less flattering than it did the last time this type of thread rolled around. We stand exactly where we did then, only a year or so has passed by without any action (on the wargaming front, at least ).
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Post by: thunderingjove
My wife didn't even know what the game was called; she just called it "Ork Dork," because that's what I played, Space Orks.
One time I invited her over to the game shop to watch us play, and was so overwhelmed by the BO in the room, she was up and out in about five minutes.
Otherwise, she's pretty neutral, although she does make fun of me reading dakkadakka all the time, but figures it's better than porn!
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Post by: wuestenfux
40k?
It costs your money, it costs your time, it costs your life (wife).
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Post by: CBlack
My wife says now, "If I had known you did this before we were married, I would have dumped you."
My response, "It was staring you right in the face when you used to walk through the front door."
I don't get the whole "nerdiness" of this hobby. It's like any other modeling hobby except you can play a game with it. Granted, like others have pointed out, there are people who make you shy away from it by the way they act or carry on. But what about those that sit in front a TV ALL day and ALL night and watch garbage that numbs the brain. That is supposed to be "cool"? Or those that live by watching Sportcenter? Where I live it's the hunting fanatics. Seriously, how much camoflauge does one need?
I enjoy collecting and painting, which never ends, more so than gaming so I don't have to worry about the nights away and such.
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Post by: Corpsesarefun
She can't see my mini's from the basement, unless she manages to break free from her leash that is...
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Post by: aidangunn
My wife likes to tease me about being a geek, but she is really very supportive. She played for a little while but kind of lost interest after a time.
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Post by: poontangler
I don't see how this is nerdish at all. I have met people from all walks of life who play 40k.
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Post by: Captain Solon
My mother teases me about it. [I'm only fifteen.]
But, usually, the people I go out with either don't care or are interested. it's rather funny. I've never had a girlfriend openly disdain the hobby. maybe I'm just lucky?
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Post by: wolfshadow
Tolerent/Mildy supportive.
Does buy me stuff, if thats what I want. Not at all interested in playing or painting.
My 6 year old daughter is starting to show an interest. She likes to watch me paint. In another year or so I might see if she wants to play/paint.
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