Must be something that has actually been said to you, preferably one that you didn't listen too but in hindsight was glaringly obvious as a sign of possible mental illness.
"I stopped taking all my meds, now I just smoke weed"
"I like rape fantasy"
"I used to cry and scream at Christmas if I didn't get enough presents"
"You were in the Army... you don't seem stupid."
The beginning of a terrible relationship and that should have tipped me off. Oh the curse of young hormones.
Well..ok even if that's true to a point,it puts me on the back foot basically because I now feel like ..
A. I'm in a "we" vs "they" situation.
B. The woman in question has either not realized that..pssst..."women enjoy sex too." or she is the type who uses sex as a weapon.
Walk up to a hot girl at the bar... start up some small talk...
things are going great....
Girl: So what do you do for a living?
Me: I'm in the Army.
Girl: Really? That's pretty bad ass. What rank are you?
Me: Corporal
Girl: Sweet. That means you make what, $1000 a month. Plus if you live off post your BAH is around $800... right?
Me: Um.... yeah. Oh hey look at the time....
jp400 wrote:Walk up to a hot girl at the bar... start up some small talk...
things are going great....
Girl: So what do you do for a living?
Me: I'm in the Army.
Girl: Really? That's pretty bad ass. What rank are you?
Me: Corporal
Girl: Sweet. That means you make what, $1000 a month. Plus if you live off post your BAH is around $800... right?
Me: Um.... yeah. Oh hey look at the time....
As a general rule of thumb,anytime I met a woman and they started to discuss money (especially mine) in the first few months, I hauled stakes.
How much I make is none of your business...now eat your Cheese burger and look pretty.
She is either not looking or has found the wrong guy multiple times. I usually surmise the latter. Thus making her an overly emtional (imagine that, a woman that is overly emotional ) basketcase.
Mannahnin wrote:"You look kind of like one of my exes, who used to do heroin."
- My first girlfriend; I was 17, she 15. Gotta love the U-District in Seattle, circa 1992.
PSST. IT STILL SUCKS!
I actually really enjoyed the 'Ave. Some cool comic and coffee shops, and the Neptune was awesome. Saw The Hunger there. It was a double-feature with Nosferatu, but I left before the latter.
Khornholio wrote:"You wife now Kyushu one week, deshou?" - This statement sends this Iron Hippy to Def-con 5 instantly.
Can you translate for the modern ignorant American?
"your wife is in kyushu for a week, isn't that true?"
unless i'm missing something, kyushu is an area of japan.. and this chick is trying to get some extra-marital activity out of him
There fixed it for ya
her: Aww your still a virgin?
me: yea why?
her: Well that doesnt matter I havnt slept with to many guys, I only had 1 three some.......... and only 1 of them was black
her: Aww your still a virgin?
me: yea why?
her: Well that doesnt matter I havnt slept with to many guys, I only had 1 three some.......... and only 1 of them was black
her: Aww your still a virgin?
me: yea why?
her: Well that doesnt matter I havnt slept with to many guys, I only had 1 three some.......... and only 1 of them was black
her: Aww your still a virgin?
me: yea why?
her: Well that doesnt matter I havnt slept with to many guys, I only had 1 three some.......... and only 1 of them was black
I have a friend who told a guy that she was interested in dating all about the baby blankets and pillows she was already making for her future children. I thought that was a pretty weird thing to do.
Connor McKane wrote:Said to me by actually more than one fine upstanding young lady... and at the time, thought "Holy Crap this is Awesome!"
- - - If he/she says "Most guys can't keep up with me sexually"
I've had one say it to me. Later that night in a wheezing voice she said "I can't believe you out----ed me! No one's ever done that before..." and she passed out on the spot
Monster Rain wrote:I had a girlfriend that told me after knowing her for about 3 hours that she had been molested by a cousin as a child.
The relationship ended predictably. That broad was out of her damn mind.
I'm pretty sure every female but 1 that I've dated has been molested. It's almost a new American tradition.
KingCracker wrote: her: Aww your still a virgin? me: yea why? her: Well that doesnt matter I havnt slept with to many guys, I only had 1 three some.......... and only 1 of them was black.
I see this one as a positive Other than the only one part, the statement applies also.
Monster Rain wrote:"Want to go see Twilight?"
I've hit that more than once. If you seriously want to ignore a large sect of the female population for trivial reasons then more for me
Some of my own:
Me on the prowl: "So, you hook up a lot?" Them: "Oh yeah!" *swap stories about how slutty we both are* Them later in the same convo: "Yeah, I don't really get around that much. I only sleep with people I'm dating."
This is the most frustrating thing EVER. When you're at a bar in "loose" clothing, expect to be picked up. Don't act like you're some sexual god or goddess then become insta-prude before I've even made my move. If it was outright rejection I could understand, but not even that
"You're just like my ex!" said in a positive, happy way.
Oh, you crazy nerds with your random prejudices And there are women of the full age spectrum who like Twilight. Many of you see women who are into Twilight how they see men who are into Warhammer.
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:Oh, you crazy nerds with your random prejudices And there are women of the full age spectrum who like Twilight. Many of you see women who are into Twilight how they see men who are into Warhammer.
yes, and I accept that. I also accept that I might have to watch Twilight to get the booty. I don't have to like it though.
I've hit that more than once. If you seriously want to ignore a large sect of the female population for trivial reasons then more for me
You can have all the 12 year olds you want, buddy.
Chris Matthews is on his way to your house right now.
Also 98% of the people that I have met that feel the urge to brag about how much sex they get turn out to be a sad, lonely individual who hasn't been laid in the last six months.
And useing your own logic, since you are posting here........... the answer seems obvious.
I dated a woman who told me that she didn't look at porn when she masturbated, but rather looked at pictures and videos of women giving birth. Because, she said, "I like to see women in pain."
After we broke up, she told me that the reason we didnt' have more sex was because she had taken up martial arts, and since sex and violence were so linked to her, she didn't to sleep with me.
I've hit that more than once. If you seriously want to ignore a large sect of the female population for trivial reasons then more for me
Also 98% of the people that I have met that feel the urge to brag about how much sex they get turn out to be a sad, lonely individual who hasn't been laid in the last six months.
And useing your own logic, since you are posting here........... the answer seems obvious.
Sometimes kids who never used to and have recently started to can't shut up about it. I think I went through a phase like that.
Mannahnin wrote:Sometimes kids who never used to and have recently started to can't shut up about it. I think I went through a phase like that.
I'm pretty sure everyone does.
Even someone like me, who tends to be rather less talkative than average when it comes to such personal matters, had quite a few NC-17 conversations on the subject when I discovered what I had been missing.
Haters gonna hate And I believe there's a minor difference between trying to make someone else feel small or trying to let people who may otherwise remain ignorant know that they can experience things they've only dreamed. I know me and what I've done, so validity arguments aren't something I much care about (I've actually commented many times before how unbelievable it all sounds ).
TBF, complaining about Twilight like it's the end of the world is pretty ridiculous in itself.
Khornholio wrote:"You wife now Kyushu one week, deshou?" - This statement sends this Iron Hippy to Def-con 5 instantly.
Can you translate for the modern ignorant American?
Wifey had been out of town for a grand total of about 10 minutes when I got a phone call from one of her co-workers. My wife went to the other end of the country for a week and this gal was checking whether that was true or not. She wanted to go drinking that night. Seeing as I am the only white gorilla in town, I'm pretty easy to spot. Even people who don't know me, know me. Even my Ferris Flower Child Ninja skills couldn't pull this off....maybe
"I think we're great together, but I've got to help Jonny get off of crack. So, I'm going out with him" - Said to me in my final year of high school.
Another observation of my own, I'd tend to avoid any long term relationship with a girl whose name ends in "i". Beki, Candi, Cindi, Kathi, Barbi, etc. They're usually OK for a week or so but after that it's screaming, ex-boyfriends, fits of insanity, biting. Of course, in retrospect observing was pretty fun at times too. hubba hubba
I've hit that more than once. If you seriously want to ignore a large sect of the female population for trivial reasons then more for me
You can have all the 12 year olds you want, buddy.
Chris Matthews is on his way to your house right now.
Also 98% of the people that I have met that feel the urge to brag about how much sex they get turn out to be a sad, lonely individual who hasn't been laid in the last six months.
And useing your own logic, since you are posting here........... the answer seems obvious.
How about this one? This is (more or less) an actual conversation I had with a blind date a friend of mine set me up on.
Me: Hi, Kelly? I'm Jason nice to meet you. Ready to get our seats at this nicely expensive Piano Bar?
Kelly: Hi, umm.... just to let you know, I am on my period.
Me: .....um.... what?
Kelly: I am on my period.
Me: Wh...why do you feel obligated to tell me this?
Kelly: Well, this way you won't be thinking about sex all night, and are you going to get me into bed, so we can just concentrate on getting to know one another. okay?
Me: I know all I need to know Kelly...
(P.S. She wasn't on it, 4 grey goose martinis later she was more than willing to mount me like a taxidermied Warthog!)
Me: Hi, Kelly? I'm Jason nice to meet you. Ready to get our seats at this nicely expensive Piano Bar?
Kelly: Hi, umm.... just to let you know, I am on my period.
Me: .....um.... what?
Kelly: I am on my period.
Me: Wh...why do you feel obligated to tell me this?
Kelly: Well, this way you won't be thinking about sex all night, and are you going to get me into bed, so we can just concentrate on getting to know one another. okay?
battle Brother Lucifer wrote:You kept my name instead of Jason
So I did...
Or say that you were told by a mysterious gypsy fortune teller that you would meet a woman on a blind date who was menstruating that would someday give birth to the Antichrist and you're afraid you have to kill her.
Image walking up to your friend of the opposite gender, and then having them instantly start talking about how someone of my gender ''likes me'', and when I tried to change to subject,.. let's just say NC-17.
Ugh, I actually knew a chick who was really, really into getting tied up. She actually described how she wanted to be tied up while in a Catholic schoolgirl get up. /runsaway
Lets see here...... my ex girlfriend and i were going to have sex and she decides to tell me that shes going to get me aroused then make sweet love to a banana........ needless to say afterwards, well still hearing her i stole the drivers side mirror off her dads 69 Mustang.
Anotehr good one that she said to me was "shut up! Gods talking to me!" (please note i have nothing against religion)
Amaya wrote:Ugh, I actually knew a chick who was really, really into getting tied up. She actually described how she wanted to be tied up while in a Catholic schoolgirl get up. /runsaway
Amaya wrote:Ugh, I actually knew a chick who was really, really into getting tied up. She actually described how she wanted to be tied up while in a Catholic schoolgirl get up. /runsaway
Amaya wrote:Ugh, I actually knew a chick who was really, really into getting tied up. She actually described how she wanted to be tied up while in a Catholic schoolgirl get up. /runsaway
Nothing wrong with that.
I'd even say it seems quite right to me
Mwhahahahaha
'You have been a very bad girl'.
'I will act as christs purifying vessel....'
Polonius wrote:I dated a woman who told me that she didn't look at porn when she masturbated, but rather looked at pictures and videos of women giving birth. Because, she said, "I like to see women in pain."
After we broke up, she told me that the reason we didnt' have more sex was because she had taken up martial arts, and since sex and violence were so linked to her, she didn't to sleep with me.
Firstly, give me her number
Secondly, you should of just told her you can take a hit.
Man, some excellent stories in here. I have a finely honed "up her own arse" sense, so I tend to avoid conversations with a lot of that type of woman. One thing that I dislike hearing is "You should tell me what to do more", and not in a sexual context. Woman, get your life in order, I'm not your dad.
Another conversation:
Her: "I'm worried about going on this holiday because I'll look fat in my bikini."
Me: "Hmmm, I think you'd look attractive, but if you're worried about being fat, maybe you should eat less and exercise more."
Her: "I'M HAPPY WITH WHO I AM, I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU!"
Me (Thinking): Wait, happy, but worried, but...what? What? Argh!
One of my ex girlfriends was a lovely girl, but she was scared to introduce me to her parents after two years of going out, including living together for a long period.
Da Boss wrote:Man, some excellent stories in here. I have a finely honed "up her own arse" sense, so I tend to avoid conversations with a lot of that type of woman. One thing that I dislike hearing is "You should tell me what to do more", and not in a sexual context. Woman, get your life in order, I'm not your dad.
Another conversation:
Her: "I'm worried about going on this holiday because I'll look fat in my bikini."
Me: "Hmmm, I think you'd look attractive, but if you're worried about being fat, maybe you should eat less and exercise more." Her: "I'M HAPPY WITH WHO I AM, I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU!"
Me (Thinking): Wait, happy, but worried, but...what? What? Argh!
One of my ex girlfriends was a lovely girl, but she was scared to introduce me to her parents after two years of going out, including living together for a long period.
Just pointing out where you may have gone wrong here.
Hey women are women. Ive honestly never met a woman that really thought they were thin/attractive/fit enough. And Ive dated just about every type of woman out there
Da Boss wrote:Perfectly logical advice! I thought she looked fine, but if she thought she was overweight then the answer was...eat less and exercise more!
Heh heh. I have very little patience for the whole "wah I'm so fat" routine.
It's actually not logical. A person asking that question probably knows how to lose weight, so offering them information they already have was not helpful.
The logical response depends on what your goal is. You can simply validate them by saying they look gorgeous, or you can simply tell them that they can wear what they want.
But women have body issues. It's just part of the package. The only way to really stop it is to bring up your own. A friend of mine with a skinny girlfriend and a healthy gut of his own got sick of her bitching about being fat, so he told her that when she says that, he feels worse about his own body. That shut her up...
Hah, I like it. Good point, Polonius.
I'm underweight myself (actually was properly malnourished during undergrad, with the result that my poor teef got demineralised and are now slightly yellowed) and I suppose I have a pretty good metabolism, so I get easily frustrated with excessive whinging about weight.
It's part and parcel of being attracted to girls that aren't up their own arses though- if they thought they were hot gak I'd probably think they were idiots.
God, there's too many, and I think I've heard more in this thread that I'd care to admit. "I love you" after the first week was always a warning sign. The other one that still leaves me feeling unsettled is, "You should hit me. I deserve it."
And the latter of the two was one of the more "well adjusted" of my girlfriends. You'd think I try to pick up women just outside of psychiatric wards.
You just brought back some memories! I've also gotten "If we're arguing and I won't shut up, call me a bitch. It's the only thing that works." Yeah, not worth it.
Amaya wrote:Ugh, I actually knew a chick who was really, really into getting tied up. She actually described how she wanted to be tied up while in a Catholic schoolgirl get up. /runsaway
Amaya wrote:Ugh, I actually knew a chick who was really, really into getting tied up. She actually described how she wanted to be tied up while in a Catholic schoolgirl get up. /runsaway
Mr Mystery wrote:Well, there was that time my ex-missus said I wasn't going to get my afternoon delight, because she'd fallen to the communists that morning.
Amaya wrote:Ugh, I actually knew a chick who was really, really into getting tied up. She actually described how she wanted to be tied up while in a Catholic schoolgirl get up. /runsaway
If a close personal friend of mine had told me they had had this opportunity and turned it down, in person, I would slap the piss out of them.
Monster Rain wrote:While its "on topicness" may be tenuous, I really like this blood related article from the Onion. Maybe my favorite they've ever made.
Me here in the United States
Her supposedly in Nigeria but originally from New Jersey
One week after friending me on FB asks if I could send her some money looking at her FB page noticing other males of like stature saying sorry I can't help you and her ignoring them afterwords tells me something SCAM!!!
Amaya wrote:Ugh, I actually knew a chick who was really, really into getting tied up. She actually described how she wanted to be tied up while in a Catholic schoolgirl get up. /runsaway
I completely fine if a girl said that too me. XD. Who would not be up to that?
I remember sister from RVB. When Sister Said. "Hell why would I want to be known as the girl who got 10 abortions."
XD
Amaya wrote:Ugh, I actually knew a chick who was really, really into getting tied up. She actually described how she wanted to be tied up while in a Catholic schoolgirl get up. /runsaway
I completely fine if a girl said that too me. XD. Who would not be up to that?
XD
Yes, I was a bit confused as to why that would be a "Red Flag"...Personally I have no problem with "Sexually adventurous" women
Amaya wrote:Ugh, I actually knew a chick who was really, really into getting tied up. She actually described how she wanted to be tied up while in a Catholic schoolgirl get up. /runsaway
I completely fine if a girl said that too me. XD. Who would not be up to that?
XD
Yes, I was a bit confused as to why that would be a "Red Flag"...Personally I have no problem with "Sexually adventurous" women
Amaya wrote:Ugh, I actually knew a chick who was really, really into getting tied up. She actually described how she wanted to be tied up while in a Catholic schoolgirl get up. /runsaway
I completely fine if a girl said that too me. XD. Who would not be up to that?
XD
Yes, I was a bit confused as to why that would be a "Red Flag"...Personally I have no problem with "Sexually adventurous" women
My friend: "Mmmm whats in this spaggetti?"
His EX: "My menstral blood... its a love potion"
0_o
She believed she was a witch and would make these "potions" out of odd ingredients... such as period blood. She was hott though. But needless to say they broke up RIGHT after that...
Laughing God wrote:My friend: "Mmmm whats in this spaggetti?"
His EX: "My menstral blood... its a love potion"
0_o
She believed she was a witch and would make these "potions" out of odd ingredients... such as period blood. She was hott though. But needless to say they broke up RIGHT after that...
Literal red flag
Sometimes I amazed at how crazy people are on this planet. Also WTF?
I seriously believe that Women are more crazy than I. As I don't get obsessive with anything. Unless if it is a weapon like a sword.
Laughing God wrote:My friend: "Mmmm whats in this spaggetti?"
His EX: "My menstral blood... its a love potion"
0_o
She believed she was a witch and would make these "potions" out of odd ingredients... such as period blood. She was hott though. But needless to say they broke up RIGHT after that...
Literal red flag
Sometimes I amazed at how crazy people are on this planet. Also WTF?
I seriously believe that Women are more crazy than I. As I don't get obsessive with anything. Unless if it is a weapon like a sword.
Does this statment Imply they are not as crazy on other planets? lol
Laughing God wrote:My friend: "Mmmm whats in this spaggetti?"
His EX: "My menstral blood... its a love potion"
0_o
She believed she was a witch and would make these "potions" out of odd ingredients... such as period blood. She was hott though. But needless to say they broke up RIGHT after that...
Literal red flag
I encountered many "witches" and " Voodoo priestess" when I lived in New Orleans...by and large they were usually very "interesting".
Never had any place any bodily fluids in my spaghetti though....at least not that I'm aware of.
Laughing God wrote:My friend: "Mmmm whats in this spaggetti?"
His EX: "My menstral blood... its a love potion"
0_o
She believed she was a witch and would make these "potions" out of odd ingredients... such as period blood. She was hott though. But needless to say they broke up RIGHT after that...
Literal red flag
Sometimes I amazed at how crazy people are on this planet. Also WTF?
I seriously believe that Women are more crazy than I. As I don't get obsessive with anything. Unless if it is a weapon like a sword.
Does this statment Imply they are not as crazy on other planets? lol
Other planets if alien races come here. They Would Probaly exterimante us after they saw what we did.
@Laughing: The chick I'm rooming with now has love potions XD I should probably verify their contents...
@KC: He won't just change his tune, he'll be singing in a different key ;D It annoys me when guys complain about slutty girls when they'd do just as many chicks given the chance.
Nah. I would do chicks unless if they said the magic words. Plus I'm 16. And I have 6 scars and I do parkour, it is already highly unlikely that I will get laid anytime soon.
Trying not to get too off topic here, but anyone can get laid with the right amount of confidence and swagger and attention to personal detail. PM me if you want any tips. At 16 you have lots of time to worry about it anyway so you're doing the right thing by just enjoying life. Don't be anyone's emotional plaything though unless you're getting something worthwhile in return.
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:@Asherian: Some of us are that lucky
@Laughing: The chick I'm rooming with now has love potions XD I should probably verify their contents...
@KC: He won't just change his tune, he'll be singing in a different key ;D It annoys me when guys complain about slutty girls when they'd do just as many chicks given the chance.
Yea thats pretty much true. I thought the same way though when I was younger. Now its like "whoa you did what? With how many? I dont even CARE why there was a tub of butter and animal crackers there, count me in"
Darkvoidof40k wrote:Maybe a white flag of surrender and total cooperation?
Depends if you sub or dom
Depends if your a dom who likes doms or a dom who likes subs or a sub who likes subs really.
Lets hope that one of us is that lucky. Because a girl willing to do that is awesome. Unless if she is completely sluty girl then hell no.
Misogynistic post is misogynistic. I find it odd that some people equate harmless behaviour like dressing up or being submissive with the likelihood of being a "slut". Charming. No one seems to tell Cannerus he's a slut and he'a apparently getting it all the time. So what gives? As long as you take the normal sensible precautions it really doesn't matter what you do or with whom.
Darkvoidof40k wrote:Maybe a white flag of surrender and total cooperation?
Depends if you sub or dom
Depends if your a dom who likes doms or a dom who likes subs or a sub who likes subs really.
Lets hope that one of us is that lucky. Because a girl willing to do that is awesome. Unless if she is completely sluty girl then hell no.
Misogynistic post is misogynistic. I find it odd that some people equate harmless behaviour like dressing up or being submissive with the likelihood of being a "slut". Charming. No one seems to tell Cannerus he's a slut and he'a apparently getting it all the time. So what gives? As long as you take the normal sensible precautions it really doesn't matter what you do or with whom.
I have to agree,the concept that a woman is somehow "slutty" for "promiscuous" behavior,while men are overall viewed as "just being guys" has always bothered me.
There is nothing "slutty" about a woman embracing/exploring/enjoying sex.
I don't think Asherian's post was particularly misogynistic. I didn't see him rule out the possibility of there being "slutty" or "whorish" males. He said "girl" because that's what he would be looking at as a prospective partner, not because of some deep-seated hatred of women or societal double-standard.
I didn't seem to me that he was making as profound a statement as y'all are making it out to be. My two cents on it.
Monster Rain wrote:I don't think Asherian's post was particularly misogynistic. I didn't see him rule out the possibility of there being "slutty" or "whorish" males. He said "girl" because that's what he would be looking at as a prospective partner, not because of some deep-seated hatred of women or societal double-standard.
I didn't seem to me that he was making as profound a statement as y'all are making it out to be. My two cents on it.
My comment wasn't meant as a jab at Asherian,sorry if it came off that way.
My overall problem is the way the term "slut" seems to be applied in many cases to any woman who doesn't adhere to a certain social view of "proper sexual behaviour".
FITZZ wrote: My overall problem is the way the term "slut" seems to be applied in many cases to any woman who doesn't adhere to a certain social view of "proper sexual behaviour".
Yeah, I agree that there is often a double standard, but there are plenty of people that find having random sex with a lot of partners to be distasteful regardless of gender. I have never personally been one for casual sex, at least not since I had to get an STD test where they had to stick a Q-Tip somewhere that you really don't want something stuck. Amusing addendum to this story: Then the Navy corpsmen who didn't know how to read the new software for the results informed me that I had herpes (which was a horrible thing to hear) and then called me a few weeks later to inform me that they had made a mistake and I actually didn't. In case you're wondering, the actual verdict was 100% squeaky clean.
Anyway, that whole thing kind of put me off hooking up randomly. Stable relationships with someone I know pretty well is where I prefer to engage in this type of behavior.
The whole idea behind women being the sluts, and not men, is that there is the misconcieved idea that women should only be looking after their children while the men go around being heroes by increasing the planet's population. It doesn't make sense to me.
FITZZ wrote: My overall problem is the way the term "slut" seems to be applied in many cases to any woman who doesn't adhere to a certain social view of "proper sexual behaviour".
Yeah, I agree that there is often a double standard, but there are plenty of people that find having random sex with a lot of partners to be distasteful regardless of gender. I have never personally been one for casual sex, at least not since I had to get an STD test where they had to stick a Q-Tip somewhere that you really don't want something stuck. Amusing addendum to this story: Then the Navy corpsmen who didn't know how to read the new software for the results informed me that I had herpes (which was a horrible thing to hear) and then called me a few weeks later to inform me that they had made a mistake and I actually didn't.
Anyway, that whole thing kind of put me off hooking up randomly.
I get your point MR,however I see the issues as a bit different in that the decision to have multiple partners or "deviate from the sexual norm" is viewed in terms of morality,where as the decision to protect yourself from STDs should be viewed (IMO) as just plain common sense.
Darkvoidof40k wrote:Maybe a white flag of surrender and total cooperation?
Depends if you sub or dom
Depends if your a dom who likes doms or a dom who likes subs or a sub who likes subs really.
Lets hope that one of us is that lucky. Because a girl willing to do that is awesome. Unless if she is completely sluty girl then hell no.
Misogynistic post is misogynistic. I find it odd that some people equate harmless behaviour like dressing up or being submissive with the likelihood of being a "slut". Charming. No one seems to tell Cannerus he's a slut and he'a apparently getting it all the time. So what gives? As long as you take the normal sensible precautions it really doesn't matter what you do or with whom.
For the record I've called myself a slut several times, but you're right. People I meet tend to fall in two categories those who enjoy my stories or those I censor myself around. Even the ones who aren't interested in hearing tend to praise me for my conquests and talk crap about any girls that I mention who get around and I always call them on it. It's pretty stupid.
FITZZ wrote: I get your point MR,however I see the issues as a bit different in that the decision to have multiple partners or "deviate from the sexual norm" is viewed in terms of morality,where as the decision to protect yourself from STDs should be viewed (IMO) as just plain common sense.
Oh sure and I was back in the day but it isn't 100% effective and, well, q-tip. Yeowtch.
Da Boss wrote:I wouldn't consider it any more acceptable to be calling men sluts and whores, either.
Of course not, its pretty rude isn't it?
I was pointing out that not preferring a girlfriend with a long list of previous sexual partners isn't inherently misogynistic.
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:For the record I've called myself a slut several times, but you're right. People I meet tend to fall in two categories those who enjoy my stories or those I censor myself around. Even the ones who aren't interested in hearing tend to praise me for my conquests and talk crap about any girls that I mention who get around and I always call them on it. It's pretty stupid.
But when you use it about yourself it's not in a derogatory sense I assume, it's lighthearted. Asherian rather implies that dressing as a schoolgirl and such is at least a bit slutty, just as long as they aren't "completely slutty" in which case "hell no". People shouldn't be throwing terms around like 'slut' and 'whore' to describe the activity of others, it's quite offensive. Certainly they can be applied to men, but usually they are aimed at women.
Tim the Biovore wrote:The whole idea behind women being the sluts, and not men, is that there is the misconcieved idea that women should only be looking after their children while the men go around being heroes by increasing the planet's population. It makes sense to me.
Considering how often the terms "Nazi" and "Hitler" get thrown around on the intenets, I'm surprised that "slut" strikes such a chord around these parts.
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:For the record I've called myself a slut several times, but you're right. People I meet tend to fall in two categories those who enjoy my stories or those I censor myself around. Even the ones who aren't interested in hearing tend to praise me for my conquests and talk crap about any girls that I mention who get around and I always call them on it. It's pretty stupid.
But when you use it about yourself it's not in a derogatory sense I assume, it's lighthearted. Asherian rather implies that dressing as a schoolgirl and such is at least a bit slutty, just as long as they aren't "completely slutty" in which case "hell no". People shouldn't be throwing terms around like 'slut' and 'whore' to describe the activity of others, it's quite offensive. Certainly they can be applied to men, but usually they are aimed at women.
Asherian didn't equate dressing up with being slutty. He did seem to suggest that being tied up as a Catholic Schoolgirl as a sexual thrill does raise the question regarding their peculiar (but by no means abhorrent) sexual tendencies. While I don't think it's fair to link such a fetish with being a slut, that sort of behaviour can understandably alarm some people.
BTW, do you think there is ever a circumstance where terms like those can be thrown around? (in a not-so-lighthearted-sense)
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Monster Rain wrote:Considering how often the terms "Nazi" and "Hitler" get thrown around on the intenets, I'm surprised that "slut" strikes such a chord around these parts.
"Hitler was a Nazi Slut!"
"Hey! How dare you call someone's sexuality into question!"
Emperors Faithful wrote:BTW, do you think there is ever a circumstance where terms like those can be thrown around? (in a not-so-lighthearted-sense)
Not really, unless you're deliberately aiming to offend a person in which case there are lots of words you could use for all kinds of people. If you're asking whether I would think it ok to describe someone as such for being extremely promiscuous and engaging in high risk activity or whatever extreme example you could come up with then I'd actually find a more constructive way to say it.
Well by what I mean by slutty is that the girl sleeps with anyone and doesn't care. Thats what I mean. But apart from that. Bondage girls i'm fine with. But any girl willing to be with me for any amount of time, is my hero. Because who wants to hang out with a guy who literally jumps off cliffs into a lake? And then climbs back up them? I am a definite turn off for most people. Hence why I hate it when someone tells me someone has a crush on me. Because I say your a hacker get off my friends account or the person is trying to undermine my efforts. But anyway Lets get more stories. These are making me laugh a whole lot more than the TV.
Hey man, I know from me personally, I was just ball busting. Your views on anyone, man or woman is not my place other then to give you a hard time for it
Really pick what makes you happy/feel good mate, thats all that matters in the end. Just remember that hookers, although a good idea on paper, will shorten your life by upto 100% depending on how unlucky you are
A girl once said to one of my friends. "Yeah, uhh, I've been meaning to tell you this, but I really like chicks more than guys..."
End of relationship, as she broke up with him there and then.
When ever a girl says they are lesbo on the bus. I peak my head over the seat and say. "Oh, Really?"
So, I seem to be in a bit of a pickle. I work in a place where everyone is married, but me, and apparently I have three wives who have crushes on me..... One has been pawing my stuff, one is seeking me out at work and then just stands next to me while I work, and the other is pretty normal, I will give her that.
But anyway, the two of them don't seem to know how to take a hint that I AM NOT INTERESTED. I would have thought that a frown on my face when they said "Oh yeah, my husband and I did this", or "Yeah, I am married" would have been a clue...
Damn 19 year old wives..... Why couldn't this have happened back in High School when I had fewer morals and less people where married?
Yes I have. It is so funny. And They are hot. But I know they are not lesbos. As they look at my private region every time i talk to them. Perverts. But I'm ok with that.
Slarg232 wrote:So, I seem to be in a bit of a pickle. I work in a place where everyone is married, but me, and apparently I have three wives who have crushes on me..... One has been pawing my stuff...
Slarg232 wrote:So, I seem to be in a bit of a pickle. I work in a place where everyone is married, but me, and apparently I have three wives who have crushes on me..... One has been pawing my stuff...
Slarg232 wrote:So, I seem to be in a bit of a pickle. I work in a place where everyone is married, but me, and apparently I have three wives who have crushes on me..... One has been pawing my stuff...
Pawing your what now?
My stuff, not my Stuff. No Capital letter.
Hahaha. Not the way I read it too. I was wondering about your stuff. Like stuff stuff? Like treasures of photos and blocks? Or your lower section jewels>?
Slarg232 wrote:So, I seem to be in a bit of a pickle. I work in a place where everyone is married, but me, and apparently I have three wives who have crushes on me..... One has been pawing my stuff...
Pawing your what now?
My stuff, not my Stuff. No Capital letter.
Hahaha. Not the way I read it too. I was wondering about your stuff. Like stuff stuff? Like treasures of photos and blocks? Or your lower section jewels>?
Like papers and stuff. I didn't mind much, because A) She is a red head ( ), and B) I didn't know she was married, but whoa-hoh-hoh.
She isn't really a problem, though, it's this other girl. She is kind of on a 3 out of ten on the creepy meter, and beleive me when I say you have to do a LOT to get to even register on my creepy meter.
Slarg232 wrote:So, I seem to be in a bit of a pickle. I work in a place where everyone is married, but me, and apparently I have three wives who have crushes on me..... One has been pawing my stuff...
Pawing your what now?
My stuff, not my Stuff. No Capital letter.
Hahaha. Not the way I read it too. I was wondering about your stuff. Like stuff stuff? Like treasures of photos and blocks? Or your lower section jewels>?
Like papers and stuff. I didn't mind much, because A) She is a red head ( ), and B) I didn't know she was married, but whoa-hoh-hoh.
She isn't really a problem, though, it's this other girl. She is kind of on a 3 out of ten on the creepy meter, and beleive me when I say you have to do a LOT to get to even register on my creepy meter.
My Question for everyone on dakkadakka is. Why is it that girls call you creepy? When you say everything that is on the facebook account and you then say. "Please remove that information it could do more harm than good. I don't need to know the story of your life before we start to date."
Anyway Red flags are when people call me Creepy. Because, I am Profiler, its a gift, can tell alot from what people do. But not like Criminal minds good. Like mediacore like I know when someone is angry or sad and has a sad story.
Asherian Command wrote:Because, I am Profiler, its a gift, can tell alot from what people do. But not like Criminal minds good. Like
mediacore like I know when someone is angry or sad and has a sad story.
So, you have basic human empathy? I mean, i know this is a wargaming forum, but is it that noteworthy to be able to read body language that reads "I'm angry?"
Albatross wrote:Her: " So... how many men do you think is 'too many' to have slept with at our age?"
Me: "Hmm... I dunno - like, 20? I mean, a girl would have to be a proper slag to have slept with that many blokes by the age of 16...."
Her: *bursts into tears*
Me: "Wow. Awkward."
I was number 20!
ZING!
Element206 wrote:"My ex-boyfriend and me used to do it like 5 times a day"
"My last boyfriend cheated on me, so I hit him with a bat in my parents kitchen"
Also had a girlfriend who was so jealous that once she destroyed a CD of mine just because I called the girl singer 'hot'
Im guessing you have a thing for crazy chicks eh? Songs a bit like my sister in law. She can be pretty friggin crazy at times. Once my brother and I were out and decided to stop at a drive through and pick up some burgers. Now on our way down the road he tells me with burger in mouth
him: hey uh.....if Cora asks.....we never ate anything.
me: why? so we ate some food big deal
him: yea but if she even thinks I got something without her she will beat me.......
me:...................................................................
him:..................
me: wait like BEAT you?
him: yea she hit me with a pan full of dinner once because I went out to eat without her.
Asherian Command wrote:Because, I am Profiler, its a gift, can tell alot from what people do. But not like Criminal minds good. Like
mediacore like I know when someone is angry or sad and has a sad story.
So, you have basic human empathy? I mean, i know this is a wargaming forum, but is it that noteworthy to be able to read body language that reads "I'm angry?"
Basically And I am called a stalker because of it.
My worst one was an ex, while we were doing it grabs her phone and starts txting, like nobody is in the room!! It was over then and there and then has a go at me for just leaving midway through!
Another one was:
girls txts me - missing you so much....blah all that
I finally get to her house and she barely says a word to me. So I called her on it and then she screams at me for being there.
Squig_herder wrote:My worst one was an ex, while we were doing it grabs her phone and starts txting, like nobody is in the room!! It was over then and there and then has a go at me for just leaving midway through!
Another one was:
girls txts me - missing you so much....blah all that
I finally get to her house and she barely says a word to me. So I called her on it and then she screams at me for being there.
Texting in the middle of intimacy?...that's one I've never heard of and I thought I've heard them all.
I have however witnessed the " attachment with no attachment" of text "love",it takes absolutely zero emotional effort to text words across a distance,plenty effort to convey those same emotions when in the actual presence of the Pearson.
You guys reminded me of a motivational poster I'd seen a while back with the "slut" discussion. I won't repost it here, as I'm sure some of the language is non-Dakka-worthy, but it goes something like this:
It's unfair that if a guy brings home a different girl every week, he's a legend, but if a girl beds just two guys in a year, she's a slut Enlightenment If a key opens many different locks, then it's a master key.
But if a lock can be opened by many different keys, it's just a crappy lock.
tavoittamaton wrote:You guys reminded me of a motivational poster I'd seen a while back with the "slut" discussion. I won't repost it here, as I'm sure some of the language is non-Dakka-worthy, but it goes something like this:
It's unfair that if a guy brings home a different girl every week, he's a legend, but if a girl beds just two guys in a year, she's a slut Enlightenment If a key opens many different locks, then it's a master key.
But if a lock can be opened by many different keys, it's just a crappy lock.
But..what if the "master key" is simply opening a whole bunch of "crappy locks"?
Another one was: girls txts me - missing you so much....blah all that
I finally get to her house and she barely says a word to me. So I called her on it and then she screams at me for being there.
Sorry mate that wasn't here. That was one of her friends. One of my friends had a similar thing happen he texts this girl and her friend texts back " I like you alot." Then he stalks her. For like 3 months then, we tell him it was one of her friends. And he didn't listen. Just comes to show Female Teenagers from the US are manipulative and will do anything to screw with good people\
This reminds me of one person Barney Stinson from How I met your mother. Wow his advice would be horrible for this thread.
The number one lesson guys needs to learn is not to let themselves get boned. It's just as much a guys fault for falling for it in my book. Yes, we're trained to be gentlemen and all that crap, but at the end of the day she's going to go after what she wants. 90% of the time if the guy had just done that from the get-go he would have had much less heart ache and a definite "no." What bugs me is when they refuse to give a guy a definite no then act like it's a burden to have 5,000,000 guys stalking them :/
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:The number one lesson guys needs to learn is not to let themselves get boned. It's just as much a guys fault for falling for it in my book. Yes, we're trained to be gentlemen and all that crap, but at the end of the day she's going to go after what she wants. 90% of the time if the guy had just done that from the get-go he would have had much less heart ache and a definite "no." What bugs me is when they refuse to give a guy a definite no then act like it's a burden to have 5,000,000 guys stalking them :/
I've always chalked up the lack of a definite no to some,note I said some,woman having no idea what they really want,thus attempting to keep "all hands on deck",coupled with a desire to avoid confrontation/conflict.
I myself had always opted for saying " I enjoy your company,and spending time with you...but I'm not attempting to get into a serious relationship" route,and appreciate the same from the females I dealt with,we all knew were we stood and anyone who didn't accept those conditions simply moved on.
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:What bugs me is when they refuse to give a guy a definite no then act like it's a burden to have 5,000,000 guys stalking them :/
This I completely agree with (as well as the rest, but that in particular), I've got a friend who does this which I really don't understand and point out to her that it's just easier if she tells them where to go etc.
I think in most of these cases its typically a case of the 'stalked' wanting attention/being the kind that can't stand being single for any amount of time...
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:What bugs me is when they refuse to give a guy a definite no then act like it's a burden to have 5,000,000 guys stalking them :/
This I completely agree with (as well as the rest, but that in particular), I've got a friend who does this which I really don't understand and point out to her that it's just easier if she tells them where to go etc.
I think in most of these cases its typically a case of the 'stalked' wanting attention/being the kind that can't stand being single for any amount of time...
This has happened to me so I can relate. I really hate it when they call you a stalker for repeating the stuff that is on her facebook page. That they themselves wrote. And is basically an entire bio of their life. Thats why I write random crap on facebook. Because I don't want people to know exactly what I am like.
Asherian, by no means trying to judge you or offend you, but you sound a little inexperienced. If I'm right, just take it slow. Find some less-crazies to be with and screw up on and learn your lessons. If you want any specific advice I'm more than willing to help. Most of all, don't just blame the females, because you probably did something creepy to them without knowing it, and that's nothing to be ashamed of. It gets much, much easier.
I went on a few dates with this fun chick. She was smart, kinda cute, similar interests and my neihbor, and weirdly i knew her ex husband though never made the connect that they had been married. All was ok till this happened.
I asked her to a movie. The day that we were going out to se the flic, her ex came up and said...
"so you and XXX are going to the movies tonight."
me ... suspiciouse "yes"
him " well, you and she were ging to see Spider but we went and saw that last night"
Me "oh really"
Him " yeah, so tonight we are going to go see The Mighty Wind"
Me perplexed "WE?"
Him " Yeah, i've been a little down latley so she invited me to cheer me up"
I actually went on the date. Yeah i know i am a complete idiot but this was such a weird thing that i figured that if i went through with it it might be interesting. Besides there had to be alogical explanation. There wasnt. I basically bought him popcorn and pink lemonade and then he sat between us. I never saw here again.
Lets simplify things: Sex feels very good, its healthy for you, it promotes long life. So why should we not be having as much of it as possible? STD's, unplanned pregnancy, emotional attachment. In my mind if you can eliminate those 3 things then there is nothing wrong with haveing as much sex as I can get as long a a female suits my tastes and I hers.
Now to this whole "slut/lock/double standard stuff"
I believe its safe to say that women have control over weather sexual intercorse actually happens. If a man is offered free sex by an average woman who is STD free, on birth control, and will not call you the next day... you would not say no. A woman will likely say no to a man in this case. Men have to work to get sex. Its the natural order of things and balances us out from falling into a state of hedonism and debochery.
So I say if a woman is throwing around sexual favors its like she is being a bad gate guard. While if a man is gaining sexual favors he is being rewarded for hard work.
Laughing God wrote:So why should we not be having as much of it as possible? STD's, unplanned pregnancy, emotional attachment. In my mind if you can eliminate those 3 things then there is nothing wrong with haveing as much sex as I can get as long a a female suits my tastes and I hers.
Laughing God wrote:Men have to work to get sex. Its the natural order of things and balances us out from falling into a state of hedonism and debochery. So I say if a woman is throwing around sexual favors its like she is being a bad gate guard.
Yes I am new to dating. But not when it comes to other peoples relationships. I am good in that I am unbiased when it comes to emotions! Thank you military camp thats what happens!
God who knows around here anymore. Sometimes I see people become mods and my brain does the lolwut thing. But if he DOES become a mod, the sex mod would have to be in the title. If not, I might leave DAKKA
naw I still wouldnt, too much time spent here, and the other sites Ive seen were horrible.
'Cannerus The Unbearable: Sex Mod'. ... , yeah...it does sound like a toy or a really bad porn (like Seventies bushy moustaches and...other things...bad).
But,yes...I like it, 'Cannerus The Unbearable: Sex Mod'. it is.
FITZZ wrote: 'Cannerus The Unbearable: Sex Mod'. ... , yeah...it does sound like a toy or a really bad porn (like Seventies bushy moustaches and...other things...bad).
But,yes...I like it, 'Cannerus The Unbearable: Sex Mod'. it is.
I believe its safe to say that women have control over weather sexual intercorse actually happens. If a man is offered free sex by an average woman who is STD free, on birth control, and will not call you the next day... you would not say no. A woman will likely say no to a man in this case. Men have to work to get sex. Its the natural order of things and balances us out from falling into a state of hedonism and debochery.
So I say if a woman is throwing around sexual favors its like she is being a bad gate guard. While if a man is gaining sexual favors he is being rewarded for hard work.
2 things you assume that both men and women don't have standards. Usually when you want to have sex with someone, it is with someone who you think is visually (and hopefully socially as well) attractive not just some "average Joe/Jill". Second
this whole idea of men having to work to get sex and women don't, sounds like bull to me I'm pretty sure a woman will try hard get a man interested in her as well. Even then if the guy doesn't find her very attractive, misunderstands her
signals, is not very romantic, etc... these can be some annoying obstacles between him and the girl in question.
Wow guys, I'm incredibly honored It's like the real world has finally caught up to my ego. I will bear my title with honor. Now, Dakka, bow to your SEX MOD!
''I've just had my womb reinflated'' from a girlfriend of about 4 months who was getting close to 28 at the time a good few years ago (I'm 28 now, she was about 3 years older than me, so shes prob 32ish now).
Avatar 720 wrote:I can only imagine this is a red flag:
"Now, you know I love you, right?..."
Yes...basically anytime I hear anything along the lines of..
"Now, you know I love you, right?..."
" I think we should talk...."
" I've been thinking alot lately..."
....I just start packing.
Whenever I have heard those the girl is normally worried what I would think of a new kind of sexual deviance or is generally just making sure i know they have strong feelings for me Maybe I'm just lucky.
Avatar 720 wrote:I can only imagine this is a red flag:
"Now, you know I love you, right?..."
Yes...basically anytime I hear anything along the lines of..
"Now, you know I love you, right?..."
" I think we should talk...."
" I've been thinking alot lately..."
....I just start packing.
Whenever I have heard those the girl is normally worried what I would think of a new kind of sexual deviance or is generally just making sure i know they have strong feelings for me Maybe I'm just lucky.
Indeed you are lucky,for myself 9 out of 10 times when I hear that,it indicates that the following conversation will basically be " Let me tell YOU,something I noticed about YOU,that YOU may not know about YOU,but it's clearly something YOU need to change about YOU."
FITZZ wrote:
Indeed you are lucky,for myself 9 out of 10 times when I hear that,it indicates that the following conversation will basically be " Let me tell YOU,something I noticed about YOU,that YOU may not know about YOU,but it's clearly something YOU need to change about YOU."
Lord, or you get the call right before you go into work/a test you're stressed about/a job interview and they say "Hey, we need to talk later. K, bye" and you're left that entire time to wonder One thing I will never miss.
FITZZ wrote:
Indeed you are lucky,for myself 9 out of 10 times when I hear that,it indicates that the following conversation will basically be " Let me tell YOU,something I noticed about YOU,that YOU may not know about YOU,but it's clearly something YOU need to change about YOU."
Lord, or you get the call right before you go into work/a test you're stressed about/a job interview and they say "Hey, we need to talk later. K, bye" and you're left that entire time to wonder One thing I will never miss.
Amen to that.
My current Missus and myself have an agreement that they're are to be absolutely NO " We need to talk." calls before work.
Fortunately...we don't have that many " We need to talk " moments.
Shoot I must be really lucky then. My "we need to talk" moments are more like "hey we need to talk, your drinking WAY to much milk, cut back" Which is almost as bad for me...........need milk......................... Ive done the gallon challenge in like 5 minutes before, its easy AND delicious
Asherian Command wrote:My Question for everyone on dakkadakka is. Why is it that girls call you creepy? When you say everything that is on the facebook account and you then say. "Please remove that information it could do more harm than good. I don't need to know the story of your life before we start to date."
Why do people call me creepy?
Because, if there is one thing I know about myself, I don't give a damn about ANYTHING, unless I actually do give a damn about it, and then I persue it with 110% of my power. When I was writing papers, I would basically be handing in stuff that was C+ at best, but when the teacher assigned us to write a paper about something I cared about, I always topped the class in everything, spelling, punctuation, all that jazz. I was made fun of all my high school life simply because I have brown hair and glasses (Harry Potter LOL! ), but that never bothered me, but the moment someone pissed me off enough that I actually did get mad.... Lets just say that nobody was interested in messing with me, not even the teachers at the time.
Now, apply that same trait to women. I don't give a damn about any of them, except the few who catch my eye. I be nice to them, I help them more than other people, and generally talk to them more than most. Fortunately, this seems to get noticed by them, and unfortunately never in a good way.
Happygrunt wrote:Once you give up on woman, life becomes easier! One less thing to worry about.
That's for quitters
That's also for those who think things through!
(As I have said before, I had a bad time on my first couple of runs, so I am biased. I know there is someone for me, but they seem to be hiding)
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Brother Heinrich wrote:"if you play your cards right, I'll get your name and a barcode tattooed above my P****" - said to me about a week ago, red flag? you decide.
That's a green flag. For the race. Of you running from her. It starts now.
Brother Heinrich wrote:"if you play your cards right, I'll get your name and a barcode tattooed above my P****" - said to me about a week ago, red flag? you decide.
Yeah, to me, that's not particularly attractive. Call me old fashioned.
Happygrunt wrote:Once you give up on woman, life becomes easier! One less thing to worry about.
That might work for you, but I'm not attracted to men.
Brother Heinrich wrote:"if you play your cards right, I'll get your name and a barcode tattooed above my P****" - said to me about a week ago, red flag? you decide.
That could stand for one of 2 possible sexual words containing 5 letters and beginning with 'P'.
One of them is a bit of a red flag; the other... you couldn't get much of a larger red flag if you tried.
Brother Heinrich wrote:"if you play your cards right, I'll get your name and a barcode tattooed above my P****" - said to me about a week ago, red flag? you decide.
That could stand for one of 2 possible sexual words containing 5 letters and beginning with 'P'.
One of them is a bit of a red flag; the other... you couldn't get much of a larger red flag if you tried.
Yes i was quite confused there for a second..... General Ackbar and all that....
Well if a girl did say that to me (the other word starting with "Pu") i would take that as an awesome joke.
...You must know my second ex-wife. 
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