About two months ago my closest and oldest friend, whom I've known for over 5 years, met her biological mother for the first time. About half a month after that she broke up with her boyfriend and moved in with her biological mom in another state. She then ran off with another guy, who she had sex with a few months before (she told me), back when her boyfriend and her temporarily broke up. The guy she ran off with was also her boyfriend for her sophomore year of high school, but that was many years ago.
So, she moved in with her bio mom for a bit, and there was some confusion as to what was going on, so I called her to see if she was okay. We talked for a long while, she told me everything and why she did what she did, and told me that she's glad she's had me as a friend through everything. A few days later she then told me and all of her other friends that she was going to start her life over and that she didn't want anyone or anything from her old life anymore. So she created a new Facebook, blocked everyone (including me and her ex-boyfriend), and got a new cell phone.
Now today she just came flying back into my life all of a sudden. Or rather, she flew back into her ex-boyfriend's life again, the one she had been living with for over two years. So he broke up with his new girlfriend and got back with her. But guess what, she won't talk to me. She didn't unblock me on Facebook. After everything I've done for her, I was always the one who was there for her whenever she needed help or advice. I was the one who was the one who offered her a place to stay when nobody else would, without questioning her. I was the one who supported her for the last several years and was her best friend. I was the one who accepted her with open arms and didn't think of her any differently when she told me about the sexual fetishes she's into. I did everything for this woman, and she won't even give me the time of day.
I feel like I've been used, played, disrespected, abandoned, and betrayed. I've always been a good friend and always been the one she'd talk to and confide in. I honestly find it hard to believe that she had it in her to do all of this to me as it is. I guess you never truly know someone, do you? Could someone please give me some advice on what to do.
samusaran253 wrote:About two months ago my closest and oldest friend, whom I've known for over 5 years, met her biological mother for the first time. About half a month after that she broke up with her boyfriend and moved in with her biological mom in another state. She then ran off with another guy, who she had sex with a few months before (she told me), back when her boyfriend and her temporarily broke up. The guy she ran off with was also her boyfriend for her sophomore year of high school, but that was many years ago.
So, she moved in with her bio mom for a bit, and there was some confusion as to what was going on, so I called her to see if she was okay. We talked for a long while, she told me everything and why she did what she did, and told me that she's glad she's had me as a friend through everything. A few days later she then told me and all of her other friends that she was going to start her life over and that she didn't want anyone or anything from her old life anymore. So she created a new Facebook, blocked everyone (including me and her ex-boyfriend), and got a new cell phone.
Now today she just came flying back into my life all of a sudden. Or rather, she flew back into her ex-boyfriend's life again, the one she had been living with for over two years. So he broke up with his new girlfriend and got back with her. But guess what, she won't talk to me. She didn't unblock me on Facebook. After everything I've done for her, I was always the one who was there for her whenever she needed help or advice. I was the one who was the one who offered her a place to stay when nobody else would, without questioning her. I was the one who supported her for the last several years and was her best friend. I was the one who accepted her with open arms and didn't think of her any differently when she told me about the sexual fetishes she's into. I did everything for this woman, and she won't even give me the time of day.
I feel like I've been used, played, disrespected, abandoned, and betrayed. I've always been a good friend and always been the one she'd talk to and confide in. I honestly find it hard to believe that she had it in her to do all of this to me as it is. I guess you never truly know someone, do you? Could someone please give me some advice on what to do.
Judging by some of your other posts I'm going to say that she's probably into guys who are little more mature.
The whole "start a new life and cut off all my friends" thing sounded like she had joined a cult, but I read on and I guess that isn't the case. Maybe she's a bit fickle, or just flaky. I'd move on if I were you, you can't do much about it.
Doesn't sound like she was a good friend anyways. She will just drag you along forever. 3 or 4 years from now she will show up on your door step probably hooked on drugs and wanting a place to stay. Move on and don't look back. Don't try and patch things up when she wants too. Trust me, she will only use you. True friends would never treat you like that.
Ok, as someone who has had three best friends, one of them turned into an donkey-cave jock, the second one following said donkey-cave and sniffing him whenever possible, and the third one being the type who only "likes" you when your around them, let me say this;
You don't need someone like that around you. Stop trying to get back into contact with her, she ain't interested. If you were truely as big of a help to her as you say, let her world crash down upon her, and then make the choice when she finaly comes back to you; Are you willing to help the type of person who act like you don't matter, or are you willing to let her live with the consequences of her actions?
One of two things is going to happen; She is going to come running back into your arms, or you are never going to see her again.
If it's the later, you never meant as much as you thought you did to her.
If it's the first, it will be up to you to decide if you want to be someone's "Second Choice".
Personally, if she ran to me, I would laugh at her face. But then again, I'm a sad, lonely angry a-hole, too.
Agreed, justget over it (apologies if that soudned harsh ) Clearly not worth your time and effort if she's not wanting anything to do with you and good riddence is all I would say
My best mate of 6 years ditched me out of the blue. It taught me a valuable lesson: She may be your best friend in the world, but that doesn't mean you're hers...
Unfortunately, the only way to go is forward, as others have said. Find new friends. If she comes back, be civil, polite, but thats it. Shes ditched you once, and that tells you everything you need to know about what she thinks of you.
Had similar situations in the past; NEXT is about your only option here. If she does try to come back later, make her do degrading things. I'm not even joking, make her beg on her knees with someone else in line of sight and earshot. If she does it and cries, then give her another shot.
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:Had similar situations in the past; NEXT is about your only option here. If she does try to come back later, make her do degrading things. I'm not even joking, make her beg on her knees with someone else in line of sight and earshot. If she does it and cries, then give her another shot.
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:Had similar situations in the past; NEXT is about your only option here. If she does try to come back later, make her do degrading things. I'm not even joking, make her beg on her knees with someone else in line of sight and earshot. If she does it and cries, then give her another shot.
That is cruel and I wholeheartidly approve.
Or you could just not be her friend any more and avoid the power games thing.
Life's a beach. Get sand kicked in your eyes and then you cry.
First thing to do is dump that avatar.
Next is to bite the bullet as has been said.
Man she has jumped from one person to the next like a flibberttegib on a hot tin roof. She is not coming across well in how she treats people and you just happen to be next in line for the big E treatment.
Kudos to you for having loyalty and the sensitivity to be hurt. However, the pattern she has set shows she will come back and then dump on you then bugger off all over again.
She is not likely to change from this behaviour.
Personally I would advise you to listen to what the others have been saying, though it will be hard for you cos you seem a decent kid and it will hurt like hell, but time to bite the bullet, wash hands, mix metaphors and move on.
samusaran253 wrote:About two months ago my closest and oldest friend, whom I've known for over 5 years, met her biological mother for the first time. About half a month after that she broke up with her boyfriend and moved in with her biological mom in another state. She then ran off with another guy, who she had sex with a few months before (she told me), back when her boyfriend and her temporarily broke up. The guy she ran off with was also her boyfriend for her sophomore year of high school, but that was many years ago.
So, she moved in with her bio mom for a bit, and there was some confusion as to what was going on, so I called her to see if she was okay. We talked for a long while, she told me everything and why she did what she did, and told me that she's glad she's had me as a friend through everything. A few days later she then told me and all of her other friends that she was going to start her life over and that she didn't want anyone or anything from her old life anymore. So she created a new Facebook, blocked everyone (including me and her ex-boyfriend), and got a new cell phone.
Now today she just came flying back into my life all of a sudden. Or rather, she flew back into her ex-boyfriend's life again, the one she had been living with for over two years. So he broke up with his new girlfriend and got back with her. But guess what, she won't talk to me. She didn't unblock me on Facebook. After everything I've done for her, I was always the one who was there for her whenever she needed help or advice. I was the one who was the one who offered her a place to stay when nobody else would, without questioning her. I was the one who supported her for the last several years and was her best friend. I was the one who accepted her with open arms and didn't think of her any differently when she told me about the sexual fetishes she's into. I did everything for this woman, and she won't even give me the time of day.
I feel like I've been used, played, disrespected, abandoned, and betrayed. I've always been a good friend and always been the one she'd talk to and confide in. I honestly find it hard to believe that she had it in her to do all of this to me as it is. I guess you never truly know someone, do you? Could someone please give me some advice on what to do.
Judging by some of your other posts I'm going to say that she's probably into guys who are little more mature.
Which is why she's an adult who has been alternating between the same three guys since she was 13?
samusaran253 wrote:About two months ago my closest and oldest friend, whom I've known for over 5 years, met her biological mother for the first time. About half a month after that she broke up with her boyfriend and moved in with her biological mom in another state. She then ran off with another guy, who she had sex with a few months before (she told me), back when her boyfriend and her temporarily broke up. The guy she ran off with was also her boyfriend for her sophomore year of high school, but that was many years ago.
So, she moved in with her bio mom for a bit, and there was some confusion as to what was going on, so I called her to see if she was okay. We talked for a long while, she told me everything and why she did what she did, and told me that she's glad she's had me as a friend through everything. A few days later she then told me and all of her other friends that she was going to start her life over and that she didn't want anyone or anything from her old life anymore. So she created a new Facebook, blocked everyone (including me and her ex-boyfriend), and got a new cell phone.
Now today she just came flying back into my life all of a sudden. Or rather, she flew back into her ex-boyfriend's life again, the one she had been living with for over two years. So he broke up with his new girlfriend and got back with her. But guess what, she won't talk to me. She didn't unblock me on Facebook. After everything I've done for her, I was always the one who was there for her whenever she needed help or advice. I was the one who was the one who offered her a place to stay when nobody else would, without questioning her. I was the one who supported her for the last several years and was her best friend. I was the one who accepted her with open arms and didn't think of her any differently when she told me about the sexual fetishes she's into. I did everything for this woman, and she won't even give me the time of day.
I feel like I've been used, played, disrespected, abandoned, and betrayed. I've always been a good friend and always been the one she'd talk to and confide in. I honestly find it hard to believe that she had it in her to do all of this to me as it is. I guess you never truly know someone, do you? Could someone please give me some advice on what to do.
Judging by some of your other posts I'm going to say that she's probably into guys who are little more mature.
Which is why she's an adult who has been alternating between the same three guys since she was 13?
But seriously, forget this chick mate, friends are supposed to be there for you as much as you are for them. Either that or you accept that you don't get the same thing in return from the beginning.
Forget her, buy another army and move on, I've had lots of best friends over the years and the older I get the more I realise that friendships arent always permenant.
Take a valuable lesson about giving too much of yourself away from this friendship and use that lesson to enrich your own, or someones life in the future.
If reciprocity was never part of your relationship it probably never will be. She doesn't exactly sound stable from your brief description. I've had a few "friends" in my time who've had the "move somewhere no one knows" fantasy and the common personality trait they all shared was they procrastinated and always ran from any responsibility. The escape fantasy is a manifestation of their subconscious guilt, they know somewhere deep down it really isn’t everyone else’s fault. Some actually fallowed through and moved away and I never heard from them again, the others are selfish drug addicts with severe trust issues living in social housing or enduring failed relationships.
It’s easy for us (the internet) to be indifferent to your plight and rightfully so, we don’t know you and I’d like to put forward the theory that this person you considered a good friend may also not truly know you. It’s easy for us to just say “move on, get over it” but obviously the reality of your situation isn’t logical as it appears to us, it’s emotional. I would suggest discussing it with others who you trust and if that’s not the option consider some form of therapy. Talking about just about anything will in time aid in dealing with the emotional impact of this “betrayal”. I would just put forward the idea that doing it anonymously on the internet is not the best course of action and the indifference you're likely to find will not help you feel better.
People do this, its human nature. You're only around as long as your useful and amusing, once you stop providing something you're out. The idea of a best friend is laughable, people stab each other in the back or abandon them as soon as they get a whim, all history goes out the door.. Don't take this as me being apathetic to you or anything, its happened repeatedly to me for no reason that I could fathom and no reason was offered with or without request, so I know where you're coming from to a point.
samusaran253 wrote:About two months ago my closest and oldest friend, whom I've known for over 5 years, met her biological mother for the first time. About half a month after that she broke up with her boyfriend and moved in with her biological mom in another state. She then ran off with another guy, who she had sex with a few months before (she told me), back when her boyfriend and her temporarily broke up. The guy she ran off with was also her boyfriend for her sophomore year of high school, but that was many years ago.
So, she moved in with her bio mom for a bit, and there was some confusion as to what was going on, so I called her to see if she was okay. We talked for a long while, she told me everything and why she did what she did, and told me that she's glad she's had me as a friend through everything. A few days later she then told me and all of her other friends that she was going to start her life over and that she didn't want anyone or anything from her old life anymore. So she created a new Facebook, blocked everyone (including me and her ex-boyfriend), and got a new cell phone.
Now today she just came flying back into my life all of a sudden. Or rather, she flew back into her ex-boyfriend's life again, the one she had been living with for over two years. So he broke up with his new girlfriend and got back with her. But guess what, she won't talk to me. She didn't unblock me on Facebook. After everything I've done for her, I was always the one who was there for her whenever she needed help or advice. I was the one who was the one who offered her a place to stay when nobody else would, without questioning her. I was the one who supported her for the last several years and was her best friend. I was the one who accepted her with open arms and didn't think of her any differently when she told me about the sexual fetishes she's into. I did everything for this woman, and she won't even give me the time of day.
I feel like I've been used, played, disrespected, abandoned, and betrayed. I've always been a good friend and always been the one she'd talk to and confide in. I honestly find it hard to believe that she had it in her to do all of this to me as it is. I guess you never truly know someone, do you? Could someone please give me some advice on what to do.
You've just taken your first step into a larger universe. Trust no one, believe nothing. "I've always been a good friend and always been the one she'd talk to and confide in. I honestly find it hard to believe that she had it in her to do all of this to me as it is. I guess you never truly know someone, do you? Could someone please give me some advice on what to do."
You're a guy right? Lets be honest, you probably wanted to get into her pants at some time and put up with that. That was your mistake. In the future when women do that nonsense, you tell them save the drama for you mama, I don't care. Men don't care-we're simple neanderthals remember!
Ignore her utterly. If you ever see her with this friend of yours act as if she's utterly invisible. Don't worry she sounds like an absolute wack job.
Or you can go old school LA. Tell your chola girl friend. She'll cut her for you.
Obviously she's a fickle friend so the best advice is just to grow a thicker skin and push her out of your life and refuse to let her back in. She was more than happy to push you out when it suited her so why bother with her. She made her feelings clear
Friends come and go, don't try and work out how and why, they just do, it's a fact of getting older.
Some of my closest friends I don't see for a year, but when we do it's like we haven't been apart. Other friends I see frequently and it's like we don't know each other.
Be yourself, be happy, move on ...
Remember we were all strangers once, the first step to making new friends is saying hello.
Hey man, something to remember for life: Sometimes, people (especially women between the ages of 12-21) just break. The person you knew yesterday may or may not be the person you know today. Happened with my (ex)fiance when she was 23. It's just not a stable age. It sounds like she has had to live with a certain amount of drama/instability as well, especially if she's never known her mom until that late in life. That can kind of mar a person sometimes.
In the long run, you're better off. Toughen up buttercup.
The girl is a user and a train wreck, its nice you want to help her and all but eventually you become the chump and just get stepped on, so take it as a lesson, because life has alot more of these things waiting for you...
There are three possiblities here:
1) everything is exactly as you wrote, and she has a user personality and will do anything to avoid accountability.
2) You've actually somehow hurt her, and she wants to keep you out of her life because of that, or
3) Some combination
Either way, if you want to be a friend, than let her go, and just accept that maybe there are parts of her that you don't understand. Give her space and time, and maybe you'll be back in her life someday.
And if you want to be vindicitive, you do the exact same thing except you block her out too.
To paraphrase Swingers: "there's nothing you can do to make her come back. There are only things you can do to make her not come back."
Polonius wrote:There are three possiblities here:
1) everything is exactly as you wrote, and she has a user personality and will do anything to avoid accountability.
2) You've actually somehow hurt her, and she wants to keep you out of her life because of that, or
3) Some combination
or another far more likely option:
4) Tertiary figure in woman's life has a grossly inflated sense of his importance to her. Deludes self into thinking his actions with regard to her are far more relevant and meaningful than they are. Gets upset when dealing with the real issues in her life somehow takes precedence over making sure his White Knight fantasy gets the attention his ego demands.
My advice to the OP? Take a brutally honest and rational look at what was in this person's life and where that would actually put you in her life. Then use that inormation to give yourself perspective and not spend another five years living in a fantasy about being relevant. The truth just hurts sometimes. Use the experience to gain perspective and see your real place in the future.
Gitkikka wrote:It is too late to shoehorn a "Cool story, bro." here?
I hate being late to the pity parties...
These stories are always rough, because for the teller, it's a tragic tale of unexpected woe. For everybody else, it's a melodrama (if not outright comedy) wherein the inevitiable happens.
Polonius wrote:There are three possiblities here:
1) everything is exactly as you wrote, and she has a user personality and will do anything to avoid accountability.
2) You've actually somehow hurt her, and she wants to keep you out of her life because of that, or
3) Some combination
or another far more likely option:
4) Tertiary figure in woman's life has a grossly inflated sense of his importance to her. Deludes self into thinking his actions with regard to her are far more relevant and meaningful than they are. Gets upset when dealing the real issues in her life somehow takes precedence over making sure his White Knight fantasy gets the attention his ego demands.
My advice to the OP? Take a brutally honest and rational look at what was in this person's life and where that would actually put you in her life. Then use to give yourself perspective and not spend another five years living in a fantasy about being relevant. The truth just hurts sometimes. Use the experience to gain perspective and see your real place in the future.
Wow thats as bitter as something I would say. Salute!
Polonius wrote:There are three possiblities here:
1) everything is exactly as you wrote, and she has a user personality and will do anything to avoid accountability.
2) You've actually somehow hurt her, and she wants to keep you out of her life because of that, or
3) Some combination
or another far more likely option:
4) Tertiary figure in woman's life has a grossly inflated sense of his importance to her. Deludes self into thinking his actions with regard to her are far more relevant and meaningful than they are. Gets upset when dealing with the real issues in her life somehow takes precedence over making sure his White Knight fantasy gets the attention his ego demands.
My advice to the OP? Take a brutally honest and rational look at what was in this person's life and where that would actually put you in her life. Then use to give yourself perspective and not spend another five years living in a fantasy about being relevant. The truth just hurts sometimes. Use the experience to gain perspective and see your real place in the future.
That's brutal, but actually really likely.
I mean, when I read the OP, it cncluded a line that is always the kiss of death: "I treated her so well, how could she do this to me?" (or soemthing like it)
How you treat another party has little value in predicting the future of a relationship. Rather, how they respond to you, and how they treat you, is the best predicitor of how they will treat you in the future.
I mean, if I told you about this restauratn I really like, and how I tip really well but always get terrible service, would anybody be surprised if I keep getting bad service?
Personal relationships aren't that much different.
But seriously, forget this chick mate, friends are supposed to be there for you as much as you are for them. Either that or you accept that you don't get the same thing in return from the beginning.
Forget her, buy another army and move on, I've had lots of best friends over the years and the older I get the more I realise that friendships arent always permenant.
Take a valuable lesson about giving too much of yourself away from this friendship and use that lesson to enrich your own, or someones life in the future.
Well first it was Matt in like 8th grade and they dated till Sophomore year. Then they broke up and she dated Josh for a short while, then she kept breaking up with one of them and going out with the other over and over again. Then she gave up on Matt and dropped out of high school. She then met Justin and they dated for a few years. She got back in high school and got a GED. Then they broke up for a few days and she had sex with Josh in that time frame. Then she got back with Justin. Then she broke up with Justin, then she went out with Josh again and ran away with him to Illinois. Now she broke up with Josh and is back with Justin.
I blame soaps for hoodwinking youngsters into thinking this sort of stuff is the norm.
Back in the day, Jack met Jill in Kindergarten, they got married had kids, left school and lived happily ever after till they both died in each others' arm still in love aged 98.
But now, you have had to be triple timing your loved one before starting grade school.
I blame soaps for hoodwinking youngsters into thinking this sort of stuff is the norm.
Back in the day, Jack met Jill in Kindergarten, they got married had kids, left school and lived happily ever after till they both died in each others' arm still in love aged 98.
But now, you have had to be triple timing your loved one before starting grade school.
That's the most absurd claim I've ever heard.
What sort of child 12 or under watches a soap opera?
The girl in my story isn't a child, nor was she when she started dating, and she's not the kind of person to watch soap operas, or much of anything on TV for that matter.
Childhood crush /=/ Romance. And are you implying they got married while they were still in high school? What the feth?
Most people don't live to be 98, and most people who do had their spouse die atleast 10 years before them.
And I'm not going to comment on that pedophile thing how you think that children 12 or under are even aware of what a relationship is.
But seriously, forget this chick mate, friends are supposed to be there for you as much as you are for them. Either that or you accept that you don't get the same thing in return from the beginning.
Forget her, buy another army and move on, I've had lots of best friends over the years and the older I get the more I realise that friendships arent always permenant.
Take a valuable lesson about giving too much of yourself away from this friendship and use that lesson to enrich your own, or someones life in the future.
Well first it was Matt in like 8th grade and they dated till Sophomore year. Then they broke up and she dated Josh for a short while, then she kept breaking up with one of them and going out with the other over and over again. Then she gave up on Matt and dropped out of high school. She then met Justin and they dated for a few years. She got back in high school and got a GED. Then they broke up for a few days and she had sex with Josh in that time frame. Then she got back with Justin. Then she broke up with Justin, then she went out with Josh again and ran away with him to Illinois. Now she broke up with Josh and is back with Justin.
Sounds like a regular Loser Triumvirate.It would be best if none of them breed. Sadly, I don't think that will happen.
I blame soaps for hoodwinking youngsters into thinking this sort of stuff is the norm.
Back in the day, Jack met Jill in Kindergarten, they got married had kids, left school and lived happily ever after till they both died in each others' arm still in love aged 98.
But now, you have had to be triple timing your loved one before starting grade school.
That's the most absurd claim I've ever heard.
What sort of child 12 or under watches a soap opera?
The girl in my story isn't a child, nor was she when she started dating, and she's not the kind of person to watch soap operas, or much of anything on TV for that matter.
Childhood crush /=/ Romance. And are you implying they got married while they were still in high school? What the feth?
Most people don't live to be 98, and most people who do had their spouse die atleast 10 years before them.
And I'm not going to comment on that pedophile thing how you think that children 12 or under are even aware of what a relationship is.
I guess you had your sarcasm detection chip removed then...
For that matter what sort of adult or teenager watches soap operas? Excluding senior citizens.
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filbert wrote:
samusaran253 wrote:
Chibi Bodge-Battle wrote:Soaps
I blame soaps for hoodwinking youngsters into thinking this sort of stuff is the norm.
Back in the day, Jack met Jill in Kindergarten, they got married had kids, left school and lived happily ever after till they both died in each others' arm still in love aged 98.
But now, you have had to be triple timing your loved one before starting grade school.
That's the most absurd claim I've ever heard.
What sort of child 12 or under watches a soap opera?
The girl in my story isn't a child, nor was she when she started dating, and she's not the kind of person to watch soap operas, or much of anything on TV for that matter.
Childhood crush /=/ Romance. And are you implying they got married while they were still in high school? What the feth?
Most people don't live to be 98, and most people who do had their spouse die atleast 10 years before them.
And I'm not going to comment on that pedophile thing how you think that children 12 or under are even aware of what a relationship is.
I guess you had your sarcasm detection chip removed then...
samusaran253 wrote:The girl in my story isn't a child, nor was she when she started dating, and she's not the kind of person to watch soap operas, or much of anything on TV for that matter.
Are we now pretending that 13-year-olds aren't children?
samusaran253 wrote:The girl in my story isn't a child, nor was she when she started dating, and she's not the kind of person to watch soap operas, or much of anything on TV for that matter.
Are we now pretending that 13-year-olds aren't children?
When did this start?
They aren't. They're teenagers. You'd be pretty hardpressed to try and prove that thirTEEN isn't a teen.
Chibi Bodge-Battle wrote:You can't just lump all teen years together mate.
13 is a long way from being the same as 19
The former is still a child. It's for you to prove that the age is adult. None of the behaviour you describe remotely matches up to maturity.
12 and under = child
13-16 = Child who eats everything in the house
17-19 = Child who eats everything in the house and tellls me I just don't understand yet won't get the hell out.
20-26 = Child who better have gotten the hell out already Fly little bird fly!
Teenagers are children as far as I'm concerned, they still demand an allowance, yell and cry over trivial things, post drama stories on forums hoping to garner attention and feel like someone cares about them when really all they have to do is just suck it up, take life in stride and what's that? Puberty hit and now you are beginning to have rational thought? HALLE FRICKIN LUJAH!
I have no sympathy for stories like these where the guy would rather get advice from complete strangers rather than dealing with it directly and in person. Grow a pair, deal with it and live on with your life for god's sake.
Do you have nuts? Honestly? Then grab them, see if you are missing one or both or even all 3 and suddenly realize 'oh hey..I'm a dude, time to start acting like it and not be a crying mess of lady parts on the floor.'
I already knew what I was going to do and how I was going to do everything before I even posted this thread. I just did so to see what people would say. Is that wrong?
samusaran253 wrote:I already knew what I was going to do and how I was going to do everything before I even posted this thread. I just did so to see what people would say. Is that wrong?
Yes. We call that "attention whoring". Why post some really long crap and ask people a question regarding what to do when you already knew what you were going to do? Sounds like a pity party I won't be going to.
samusaran253 wrote:I already knew what I was going to do and how I was going to do everything before I even posted this thread. I just did so to see what people would say. Is that wrong?
Yes. We call that "attention whoring". Why post some really long crap and ask people a question regarding what to do when you already knew what you were going to do? Sounds like a pity party I won't be going to.
samusaran253 wrote:I already knew what I was going to do and how I was going to do everything before I even posted this thread. I just did so to see what people would say. Is that wrong?
Yes. You should be ashamed. I recommend getting poster board that say "Sorry, My Bad!" and stand outside your high school all day tomorrow waving it. That'll learn ya youngin.
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biccat wrote:
samusaran253 wrote:12 and under = child
13-16 = teenager
17-19 = teenage adult
20-26 = young adult
Under 18 : Child
Over 18 : Adult
See the dog on page 1.
Then again, when you remember Moses as "Pharoah's little punk kid who keeps walking across my lawn," everyone's a child to me.
Nah, you are a child until you are 26. You don't realize it until you are about 30, but that is the way it is. The insurance companies have known it for years. That's why they don't give you that discount till 25.
Believe me, people don't grow up till their late 20's. That act like children for a lot longer than 12 years...
It's kind of funny. You spend so long trying to be all growed up, and then when you finally get there FOR REALS, you try so hard to pretend the opposite.
daedalus wrote:It's kind of funny. You spend so long trying to be all growed up, and then when you finally get there FOR REALS, you try so hard to pretend the opposite.
And it seems like it happens over night.
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Frazzled wrote:I just try hard to remember what day it is, or more properly where the hell am I?
Quick question, have you ever heard the song "Get Off My Lawn" by Stuttering John? I think you would like it.
samusaran253 wrote:I already knew what I was going to do and how I was going to do everything before I even posted this thread. I just did so to see what people would say. Is that wrong?
Yes. We call that "attention whoring". Why post some really long crap and ask people a question regarding what to do when you already knew what you were going to do? Sounds like a pity party I won't be going to.
It was a social experiment.
Plus This:
samusaran253 wrote:lol @ people who don't know what they're talking about
Plus This: (Quoted from Karon)
All of his posts are in Introductions, Video Games, and Off-Topic. He has nothing to do with wargaming.
His first thread was "I come to troll" which contained...
Your evil overlord, NoBaconz4You (Sacred Flea on Bungie.net) invited me to rip this place a new one with raunchy remarks and threads about crossdressing. So brace yourselves.
He is a child that is best ignored until he slips up and gets banned.
Oh dear god, not more of this crap. When did DAKKAs OffTopic become the self help section? I agree, from what Ive seen of the crap youve posted lately, you need a bit of growing up to do, and so does your friend. Other then that, can we keep this crap out of DAKKA please?
Not to be mean, but "adults" generally don't "go to live with their biological mom." They go to their own house.
Also, when you need to point out which boyfriend a person has sex with, they're not really that adult. I mean, it's not always true, but most adults have sex with anybody they're in a relationship with.
You can quibble about what a child is, but few people are emotionally fully mature in their teens. Dont' get me wrong, you think you are. God knows I did.
Lord Scythican wrote:Nah, you are a child until you are 26. You don't realize it until you are about 30, but that is the way it is. The insurance companies have known it for years. That's why they don't give you that discount till 25.
Believe me, people don't grow up till their late 20's. That act like children for a lot longer than 12 years...
Lord Scythican wrote:Nah, you are a child until you are 26. You don't realize it until you are about 30, but that is the way it is. The insurance companies have known it for years. That's why they don't give you that discount till 25.
Believe me, people don't grow up till their late 20's. That act like children for a lot longer than 12 years...
This is indeed closer to the truth.
So close to the truth to be indistinguishable from it!
Bugger it, it is the truth.
Well, circumstances will always affect maturity. I know people much younger than myself with children, and a mortgage, and who are five years into a career. they're far more mature than I am.
A guy that's 20, in hte marines, and has a wife and kids is pretty much an adult (or shoudl be), while a 27 year old grad student probably isn't.
I mostly agree with that. I think its a little more situational, for example I know Ive been an "adult" for more then this year (being 26) but yea I would say I was nan"adult" more like 20-22 some where in there. But I also have children and own a house, so again my situation made me more adult then say one that has no responsibilities
Lord Scythican wrote:Nah, you are a child until you are 26. You don't realize it until you are about 30, but that is the way it is. The insurance companies have known it for years. That's why they don't give you that discount till 25.
Believe me, people don't grow up till their late 20's. That act like children for a lot longer than 12 years...
I'm definitely in agreeance with this one (and I don't care if it's not a "real" word, I like it!).
She sounds like a total wackjob and someone that you really do not need in your life. She sounds like one of those people who constantly plays the victim, doesn't know what they want out of life or where they are going, someone who is a drama queen. Trust me, you don't need that.
filbert wrote:Exactly. Look at the posting history. Enough said. We don't need further crap diluting the noise to signal ratio.
But this is OT. As time approaches infinity, the SNR is constantly trending toward zero. I'm still convinced the only reason they keep it around is to keep all the sludge from leaking out into the useful section of the forum.
Far as the kid being a complete non-contributing troll, I have no doubts. But that's just me.
Polonius wrote:Well, circumstances will always affect maturity. I know people much younger than myself with children, and a mortgage, and who are five years into a career. they're far more mature than I am.
Man, that really freaked me out when I first realized it. Nothing like the new guy at work being 5 years younger than you and having kids old enough to walk and talk.
Yeah, under eighteen is a child, over eighteen is an adult.
I don't take you, or your story seriously, Samus, because you're just a troll, a very bad one at that.
You are definitely 16 or under, so this whole story is bs.
You are wasting your time on Dakka, most of us on here are trolls in ourselves, and we spend most of the time in the off-topic boards trolling eachother.
Can we get some cliffs up in here? No way I'm readin all this
Well, Ernie and a Fatman, Girl goes out with three guys, has a good friend, leaves good friend in the dust to go live with her biological mom, comes back, still hates good friend, good friend comes on Dakka starts complaining about it, Dakka acts as Dakka Does, "Dakka doesn't know what it's talking about", "I knew what I was going to do all along", "TROLL IN THE DUNGEON!", and a little bit of BLAME THE VICTIM!.
Can we get some cliffs up in here? No way I'm readin all this
Same. Tl;dr dude.
I skimmed it, and from what I can tell, it's too complicated to follow.
going off what I read...
That sounds really sad, but I don't think there's anything you can do about it. People change, life gets hard, life goes on, man... Maybe you can use your feelings to push you into making new friends, that's what usually happens to me.
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:Individuality I'll buy, poise I question I've all the grace of a horny jungle beast, or rather, an elegant, horny jungle beast.
That pose! That make-up! That hair! You sir, have poise and grace!
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:Individuality I'll buy, poise I question I've all the grace of a horny jungle beast, or rather, an elegant, horny jungle beast.
Or a canadian, yes you could very well be canadian.
Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:Individuality I'll buy, poise I question I've all the grace of a horny jungle beast, or rather, an elegant, horny jungle beast.
Or a canadian, yes you could very well be canadian.
He neither has a beard or a plaid flannel jacket therefore it's safe to conclude he's not Canadian.
) Clearly not worth your time and effort if she's not wanting anything to do with you and good riddence is all I would say 
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