I'm being hunted, stalked, pursued even by a woman of a certain age. Actually I wouldn't call her a cougar persay as I usually identify cougars as being in their mid-40s... if not older *shudder* This woman is still twelve years my senior which doesn't really bother me, but I know it would bother others. So Dakka it's time to ask that question, what is the acceptable age gap in a relationship? One night stand or more committed.
And just to get the XKCD response out of the way:
I actually think this is a pretty good rule of thumb.
Jihadin wrote: Age gap is such a mental barrier. Your an adult. She an adult. Cougar is reverse for MILF. KM you alright?
Oh yeah no I'm good with it, hot blue eyed redheads can mind control me like no body's business and I've always dated older women. Hell I married a 25 year old model at 18 XD. (Horrible idea for a variety of reasons but the age thing wasn't one of them.... well except me being 18) I was just curious to what everyone else's standards were.
Had a 20 years old neighbour who I would watch bring back women he had probably picked up at the elderly home. I draw the line there. Otherwise, is she a) good looking, b) a dirty little minx, and c) fun to have a conversation with.
If does 3 are okayed, then you've got yourself a keeper. Until the next.
Oldest I ever dated was mid-30s when I was in my mid-late twenties; just seven years' difference. I concur that the older you both are, the less it matters.
The youngest I've dated was (IIRC) ~ seven years difference as well. 18 when I was mid-twenties. Even then 18 was pretty immature and it didn't last long. Once you get past 30 or so, unless you've had a really prolonged adolescence, even college-age girls become children to you, and it's difficult to sustain any kind of interest in them.
I've always went with a very simple rule, you have to find it attractive.
If shes a bit older and I fancy her who cares.. If she got a face like a melted wellington boot/an arse like a rhino/teeth like a witchdoctors necklace... then I don't much give a feth how old she is, shes not getting poked.
Kovnik Obama wrote: Had a 20 years old neighbour who I would watch bring back women he had probably picked up at the elderly home. I draw the line there. Otherwise, is she a) good looking, b) a dirty little minx, and c) fun to have a conversation with.
If does 3 are okayed, then you've got yourself a keeper. Until the next.
Those three criteria are my qualifiers at pretty much any age.
I pulled the receptionist at my first job, she was 15 years older than me and went like a fething rocket.
Best 6 months of my life.
Been with plenty of older girls in the decade since then and never failed to enjoy the experience, so much less headache than younger models. They know what they want and go for it.
Most fellers worry about their self image - what will my mates think wah etc, when in actual fact they will be jealous as hell.
That said more than 25 years starts to get weird depending on your own age.
Yeah I think "Old Enough to be my Mother" is a good upper limit on where to stop.
and while legal is theoretically the lower limit it's rare for a woman my own age to not make me want to suck start my .45 by the middle of a date, I can only imagine how bad an even younger female would be.
Speaking of dating up one of my buddies has it made because he's dating an older bird. She's in her mid 40s, he's early 30s, she's a complete fitness nut, cooks for him and is generally the perfect girlfriend, little clingy but you should see the meals this brings to work! Spoils the ever living hell out of him XD
Just remember, in most states consent for sex cannot be given by an intoxicated person. Even if they're screaming naked on the floor and you go for it, you can be charged with rape. Seems a bit unfair, until you realize that the number one date rape drug is Alcohol.
Bottom line. Be careful who you're porking - and why.
Yeah, if Alcohol is involved, the best course is to not do it unless 1) you are absolutly POSITIVLY sure she is not too drunk(as in blacked out) or 2) you are already in a relationship together in which physical contact has already been soberly conducted.
Besides, who wants to have drunk sex anyway. Drunk people are gross, not to mention you may not remember it so whats the point?
There are many activities that gain something when done buzzed. RPGs, games of Munchkin, Warhammer, and Charades. Sex is not on this list.
And nothing should ever be done while blacked out, why do something you'll never remember? Its never a good thing when the DA knows more about what you did then you do.
Cheesecat wrote: Hey, if some drunk babe wants to feth me I'm not going to say no, but she'll probably have a lot of regret when she wakes up the next morning.
Consent is still required. Having sex with someone without consent is, you know, rape. Inebriation is not a substitute for consent.
Cheesecat wrote: Hey, if some drunk babe wants to feth me I'm not going to say no, but she'll probably have a lot of regret when she wakes up the next morning.
Consent is still required. Having sex with someone without consent is, you know, rape. Inebriation is not a substitute for consent.
The opposite in fact,
In most states, being under the influence of ANY type of drug automatically removes the person's legal ability to give consent. The person doesn't have to be incapacitated, they just have to be inebriated(sp?)
The situation onlys gets worse if the other person(s) involved is sober, or was the one who provided the drug in question.
Grey Templar wrote: Yeah, if Alcohol is involved, the best course is to not do it unless 1) you are absolutly POSITIVLY sure she is not too drunk(as in blacked out) or 2) you are already in a relationship together in which physical contact has already been soberly conducted.
Besides, who wants to have drunk sex anyway. Drunk people are gross, not to mention you may not remember it so whats the point?
There are many activities that gain something when done buzzed. RPGs, games of Munchkin, Warhammer, and Charades. Sex is not on this list.
And nothing should ever be done while blacked out, why do something you'll never remember? Its never a good thing when the DA knows more about what you did then you do.
If she's an attractive cougar and wants to do a little knob-gobbling, lay back and enjoy the dream. I was hoping for a little bit of that this weekend with a 'coworker' I haven't seen in a year and a half, but alas the opportunity did not arise, and I head for home tomorrow. When the opportunity comes for some MILF-y fun, take it-and take it hard.
"I'm being hunted, stalked, pursued even by a woman of a certain age," is how many of my fantasy's start. However I am quite sure it will never happen in real life due to my extreme shyness.
So I say go for it man, live enough for the both of us.
The only problem I see with age gaps, is youll eventually run into the age difference in culture and generally talking about things. Like "Oh yea, I remember so and so, because of X reason, do you?" And your answer will be "Uh...who? Oh....yea I wasnt born yet"
As long as that isnt awkward I dont see a problem here. Enjoy. And Redheads......egats.....they might be soulless, but thats only because everything needs a weakness
I was wondering who would take the bait on my witty choice of words. Day ended and she took off before I knew what happened. There was no double meaning other than fun word choice.
KingCracker wrote: The only problem I see with age gaps, is youll eventually run into the age difference in culture and generally talking about things. Like "Oh yea, I remember so and so, because of X reason, do you?" And your answer will be "Uh...who? Oh....yea I wasnt born yet"
As long as that isnt awkward I dont see a problem here. Enjoy. And Redheads......egats.....they might be soulless, but thats only because everything needs a weakness
I wouldnt go much younger then myself, specially 18-21. Good god it seems women in that age range are just fething moronic for some reason. I dont care hot attractive a chick is, if she cant grasp basic conversation, then I wont pay attention to her
Girl I'm trying to figure things out with now is 19, I'm 27, and she's far more mature than I am. she started college classes while still in HS, graduated from college after her first official full year, doesn't drink (by choice, not by legality), and is ready to settle down. I've known her for a couple years now because she also used to work with my mom and a mutual friend. So yes, I'll try to work things out with her-but typically that young would be a bit eyebrow raising, but this one is special.
What ever happened to that scrawny dude that took the picture in the hot tub with the 3 ladies? Didn't he get banned for bragging about getting in a fight?
Shame. That young man was an entertainment gold mine!
kronk wrote: What ever happened to that scrawny dude that took the picture in the hot tub with the 3 ladies? Didn't he get banned for bragging about getting in a fight?
Shame. That young man was an entertainment gold mine!
He was fething brilliant him.. he told me he was "handy in a knife fight"
Like he has practiced?!
I think he got banned because he made a second account claiming to be a friend, who witnessed him beat people up or something ridiculous.
In related news, I watched "Salt" last night...
Its the worst thing I've ever had to watch, and I saw my grandad get dragged under a bus.
Meowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
It's okay as long as a woman is
1. White and being Kylie fan
2. Blonde and being sexy,
3. Also a fan of cats =^.^=
4. not being 'too old' please 30 or 40 is okay
I'm always a lil kitten for those 'girls' meow.
Actually, there was one TV series portraying the lives of 'cougar pack
Relationships are interesting. My friend asked out a girl, She canceled on him, Then 3 months later, in which they didnt talk, she broke up with him, before he even had his first date with her.
HE is the only guy who had a break up before his first date.
hotsauceman1 wrote: Relationships are interesting. My friend asked out a girl, She canceled on him, Then 3 months later, in which they didnt talk, she broke up with him, before he even had his first date with her.
HE is the only guy who had a break up before his first date.
hotsauceman1 wrote: Relationships are interesting. My friend asked out a girl, She canceled on him, Then 3 months later, in which they didnt talk, she broke up with him, before he even had his first date with her.
HE is the only guy who had a break up before his first date.
Hmmm, not sure if in that situation I would feel like a loser or that I'd avoided something really bad by the skin of my teeth.
My wife of 10 years in -15 to me. I was settled down with a good career, already owned a home and cars, very little debt. Looking to start a family (being pregnant and birth gets more problematic as women get older) while i was still middle aged. She was done and over with the bar scene (though we both like to go out once a month or so to blow off steam and have fun) and guys still living with mom playing X-Box and was also looking to start a family, realizing she needed a guy with stability, maturity, and a JOB. Someone who wasn't going to be a part-time baby-daddy, but a father.
Turns out we both had the same tastes in music and stuff and she is quite tollerant of my gaming hobby (cheaper and better than hanging out in strip clubs). Today we have 3 kids and still going strong. Or as I tell friends: the day she turned 25 was the happiest day of my life...I didn't feel like a child molester anymore. LOL Anyways, age should not make a difference as long as your honest with yourselves about what it is your looking for and the intent of the relationship (a mutual 1 night stand, you want to be a boy-toy for a few months, friends with benefits, something more permanent and lifeling?)
You are living the dream, my friend. My mom has a friend who's twelve years older than me, and I would be ecstatic if she was into me.
I'd say go for it, but be mysterious and dark and keep your distance, so she's not upset when you dump her for some younger girl with perkier breasts
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Squigsquasher wrote: I must admit I'd prefer someone my own age. Anyone older and I feel uncomfortable, younger and it gets creepy.
But then I am 16 so, yeah.
Anyway, who needs real girls? Rei is mai waifu. :p
Spoiler:
having a waifu doesn't necessarily mean you can't have a girlfriend, or even a wife. I will always be true and honest to my waifu, no matter what. She is my soulmate, my everything, my sun, my moon and my onigiri... I can't say the same about girlfriends
At work, one of the department managers bumped into me as we were leaving a conference room and I said "Don't touch me there, you're not my uncle!" Something I said 1,000,001 times in my gaming group. I guess it was just an auto-response if someone bumped into me.
There were some red faces at first, then everyone laughed. I've been watching my mouth a bit more since then, though!
Anyway, who needs real girls? Rei is mai waifu. :p
having a waifu doesn't necessarily mean you can't have a girlfriend, or even a wife. I will always be true and honest to my waifu, no matter what. She is my soulmate, my everything, my sun, my moon and my onigiri... I can't say the same about girlfriends
Do what your heart tells you to do and listen not to wittless fools, love is pure if you chose it to be thus, do not cloud it with a meaningless thing like age, what is that compared to the rest of your lives in peace and harmony.
hotsauceman1 wrote: Relationships are interesting. My friend asked out a girl, She canceled on him, Then 3 months later, in which they didnt talk, she broke up with him, before he even had his first date with her.
HE is the only guy who had a break up before his first date.
Hmmm, not sure if in that situation I would feel like a loser or that I'd avoided something really bad by the skin of my teeth.
I'll go with the latter.
I think he feels like a loser TBH. I mean i know there is this girl he goes out to lunch with and went to a wedding with, and i keep telling him to make a move, but he just wants to stay friends with her.
Well, yeah. In that case, loser it is. I mean, I have trouble asking girls out(they're scary!) but if you already have a friend relationship its perfectly fine.
KalashnikovMarine wrote: I'm being hunted, stalked, pursued even by a woman of a certain age. Actually I wouldn't call her a cougar persay as I usually identify cougars as being in their mid-40s... if not older *shudder* This woman is still twelve years my senior which doesn't really bother me, but I know it would bother others. So Dakka it's time to ask that question, what is the acceptable age gap in a relationship? One night stand or more committed. .
Smash her doors in. Seriously, have a good time.
Want something more? Then treat it like any other relationship...and smash her doors in.
If you do care what others think then don't pursue it.
Incidentally, fundamentally Dakimakura are just orthopedic body pillows with cute girls drawn on them. In fact they are often comfort objects for children.
Some sad men just don't grow out of them.
They are also not to be confused with Daikon, which is a type of white radish, although someone will eventually combine the two into Radish-Chan.
I fail to see how attempting to have a relationship with an anime character screenprinted on a pillow is any different than attempting to have a relationship with an anime character printed on anything else.
hotsauceman1 wrote: If you where a kid nd didnt have stuffed dino's your parents hated you
I had a teddy bear. I still have said teddy bear safely stored in the attic.
GC had a whole slew of the same kind of stuffed babby doll she liked. The Boy had a dinosaur, also safely stored by the Wife. I am sure it will be revealed to the future Mrs Boy.
I had, and have a winnie the pooh somewhere. He used to have a shirt, but it got messed up in the wash when I was like three, so he's been naked since then. How embarrassing.
My sister has a winnie the pooh, as do all of my cousins. It's like the gold standard of stuffed animals.
I had a stuffed bunny rabbit toy and a little frog. They went on adventures with my plastic bucket of green army men. They were huge compared to said green army men, so they occasionally stood in as Godzilla once I saw my first giant monster movie.
Samus_aran115 wrote: I had, and have a winnie the pooh somewhere. He used to have a shirt, but it got messed up in the wash when I was like three, so he's been naked since then. How embarrassing.
My sister has a winnie the pooh, as do all of my cousins. It's like the gold standard of stuffed animals.
Thats exactly the state mine's in too. Buck naked.
But its because I lost the shirt. You could take it off, it wasn't attached or anything.
brings to work! Spoils the ever living hell out of him XD
Day ended and she took off before I knew what happened. There was no double meaning other than fun word choice. 
