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Alright dakka, I think I can trust you. I had this crazy dream last night that gave me this disturbed, yet resolved to do right feeling. I am hoping someone here has a background in psychology, as I want to know what this meant, or even if it had a meaning.

It was in my highschool. They few people I recognized were the people who hated me. One of them, a girl I had tried to ask out, lets call her "Sarah". She hates me because I asked her out, and I always felt bad about it. Now during this, it was like some sort of carnival, and as I am walking up to the second story, I see "Sarah" except something is wrong, she has been hurt. I go to see what is wrong, and I notice she looks different. Her arm is gone. Its been replaced by a mechanical arm. Now, for some strange reason, this made me incredibly sad. I couldnt understand why. "Sarah" is a very good swimmer, and is on the swim team. I knew this would be an end to that. And as I stood there, she kept changing. Her body slowly began to change to be the same as her arm. She looked to be in pain. I couldn't watch, but I did. It was disturbing. I tried to save her but I couldnt. She was screaming at me. Then she faded away. I woke up sad, as I had watched but couldnt do anything, but I had this determination that nothing like that would ever happen to my friends. Can someone on dakka tell me what this means? I cant understand why it would be someone who hated me that would be the one I had to watch. Anything would be great dakka, I want to know whats going on.

It could be that your mind has made up the fantasy that something happens to her after she denies you like.. losing her arm in this situation.

So you come in and stand by her side and help her and she falls for you.

That's just my interpretation.

Why does she "hate" you for asking her out?

That doesn't make sense.

Dreams don't always mean something. Some of it is just the subconcious cleaning itself out.

That said, the answer is usually "what do you think it means?" Based on what you wrote you clearly had feelings of a complicated nature towards "sarah," based on asking her out, and then feeling bad because she got mad about it. So, this is somebody that you care about, yet don't want to see hurt. Maybe you feel guilt over wanting her to feel as bad as you do. Maybe you just were thinking about bionic arms alot before you slept. I think the key here is that for at least a brief moment, she meant a lot to you, but you can't do anything about it. I think the powerlessness you felt toward her suffering is really a manifestation of the powerlessness you feel about your feelings towards her.

Monster Rain wrote:Why does she "hate" you for asking her out?

That doesn't make sense.

Without going into detail (Because I know I would slip a name), wrong place, wrong time, wrong man asking. If anything could go wrong while I asked her, it did.

And its been almost a year since I asked her, so I cant understand why I would think about something like her getting hurt NOW.

Please note that i have absolutely no degree in pyschology and im generally classified as dumb , so read if you are curious :3

It was in my highschool. They few people I recognized were the people who hated me. One of them, a girl I had tried to ask out, lets call her "Sarah". She hates me because I asked her out, and I always felt bad about it. Now during this, it was like some sort of carnival, and as I am walking up to the second story, I see "Sarah" except something is wrong, she has been hurt. I go to see what is wrong, and I notice she looks different. Her arm is gone. Its been replaced by a mechanical arm.

You have felt bad for what ever reason for asking her out in the past , perhaps you made her feel awkward. You seek for chance to redeem yourself hence create her in this weird vulnerable situation
offering you a chance to change the relationship.

Now, for some strange reason, this made me incredibly sad. I couldnt understand why. "Sarah" is a very good swimmer, and is on the swim team. I knew this would be an end to that. And as I stood there, she kept changing. Her body slowly began to change to be the same as her arm. She looked to be in pain. I couldn't watch, but I did. It was disturbing. I tried to save her but I couldnt. She was screaming at me. Then she faded away. I woke up sad, as I had watched but couldnt do anything, but I had this determination that nothing like that would ever happen to my friends. Can someone on dakka tell me what this means? I cant understand why it would be someone who hated me that would be the one I had to watch. Anything would be great dakka, I want to know whats going on.

However seems like part of you already accept the inevitable , whats done in the past will stay the same , the chance to redemption vanishes before you are able to try anything ,
I guess this is the brain telling you to accept the past while other part of you is afraid of taking a new step into changing the current relation between you and her.

Now the question is , do you know why she hated you for asking her out? I feel that specific incident 's detail would help the most.

Hmmm....

Someone close to you is changing, turning colder, devoid of feelings, kind of like a robot. A lover perhaps? You believe this is bad for them(explaining why Sarah was in pain)
but there's nothing you can do about it. However, I have no idea why it had to be Sarah, since she hates you.

Alright.

[/Dr.Phil]

LunaHound wrote:

Now the question is , do you know why she hated you for asking her out? I feel that specific incident 's detail would help the most.

Lets just say I asked for help from someone on how I should ask her out. The other person told me I shouldn't, but I ignored their warning. That other person told "Sarah" that I was going to ask. I got cold feet and waited almost a week. She got progressively angrier that I hadn't ask so she could tell me no, as she wanted me to leave her alone. When I finally asked, she said no, but was very nice about it, and had explain the situation to me from her side. I tried to just be friends like we had been before, but then she thought I didnt get the message. Hence why she hates me now.

Happygrunt wrote:

LunaHound wrote:

Now the question is , do you know why she hated you for asking her out? I feel that specific incident 's detail would help the most.

Lets just say I asked for help from someone on how I should ask her out. The other person told me I shouldn't, but I ignored their warning. That other person told "Sarah" that I was going to ask. I got cold feet and waited almost a week. She got progressively angrier that I hadn't ask so she could tell me no, as she wanted me to leave her alone. When I finally asked, she said no, but was very nice about it, and had explain the situation to me from her side. I tried to just be friends like we had been before, but then she thought I didnt get the message. Hence why she hates me now.

K sort of how i imagined it :x then i'll stick to my interpretation.

If you are over her ( i hope you are by now ) , you need to let her know ( unless you dont ever have to see her again )
or else her mind set of you will always be stuck at the vulnerable / weak "you" of the past that she was supposed to decline.

Happygrunt wrote:Alright dakka, I think I can trust you. I had this crazy dream last night that gave me this disturbed, yet resolved to do right feeling. I am hoping someone here has a background in psychology, as I want to know what this meant, or even if it had a meaning.

It was in my highschool. They few people I recognized were the people who hated me. One of them, a girl I had tried to ask out, lets call her "Sarah". She hates me because I asked her out, and I always felt bad about it. Now during this, it was like some sort of carnival, and as I am walking up to the second story, I see "Sarah" except something is wrong, she has been hurt. I go to see what is wrong, and I notice she looks different. Her arm is gone. Its been replaced by a mechanical arm. Now, for some strange reason, this made me incredibly sad. I couldnt understand why. "Sarah" is a very good swimmer, and is on the swim team. I knew this would be an end to that. And as I stood there, she kept changing. Her body slowly began to change to be the same as her arm. She looked to be in pain. I couldn't watch, but I did. It was disturbing. I tried to save her but I couldnt. She was screaming at me. Then she faded away. I woke up sad, as I had watched but couldnt do anything, but I had this determination that nothing like that would ever happen to my friends. Can someone on dakka tell me what this means? I cant understand why it would be someone who hated me that would be the one I had to watch. Anything would be great dakka, I want to know whats going on.

It means that you want this girl but you're watching her slip out of reach, and that makes you sad. You're having to let go of the possibility of being with her; in your dream she symbolizes the relationship. It's turning from something beautiful (her=relationship) into something ugly and lifeless (robot=can't have her.) your guile attempts to save her represent both your desire for the relationship and your growing conviction that you can't have her.

Or it means that your hatred of your mother stemming from a repressed Oedipus complex has turned you into a latent homosexual with a deep neurosis and fear of all women and an obsession with the size of other mens penises.

One or the other.

LunaHound wrote:

Happygrunt wrote:

LunaHound wrote:

Now the question is , do you know why she hated you for asking her out? I feel that specific incident 's detail would help the most.

Lets just say I asked for help from someone on how I should ask her out. The other person told me I shouldn't, but I ignored their warning. That other person told "Sarah" that I was going to ask. I got cold feet and waited almost a week. She got progressively angrier that I hadn't ask so she could tell me no, as she wanted me to leave her alone. When I finally asked, she said no, but was very nice about it, and had explain the situation to me from her side. I tried to just be friends like we had been before, but then she thought I didnt get the message. Hence why she hates me now.

K sort of how i imagined it :x then i'll stick to my interpretation.

If you are over her ( i hope you are by now ) , you need to let her know ( unless you dont ever have to see her again )
or else her mind set of you will always be stuck at the vulnerable / weak "you" of the past that she was supposed to decline.

That would prove to be difficult. As I am considered the "creepy guy" by most of the school, so talking to her would be a problem. Another problem is, at our school the girls coach the guys swim team, and they guys coach the girls. I am joining the guys swim team this winter to try and get that good ol' "VARSITY" tag. Need the for college, and I need to get in shape. So I might be able to tell her, or at homecoming next weekend (LONGER story Of why I am going to that, but an old friend asked me to go so she could see me), but I doubt that the conversation will be anything but pleasant.

AbaddonFidelis wrote:

Happygrunt wrote:Alright dakka, I think I can trust you. I had this crazy dream last night that gave me this disturbed, yet resolved to do right feeling. I am hoping someone here has a background in psychology, as I want to know what this meant, or even if it had a meaning.

It was in my highschool. They few people I recognized were the people who hated me. One of them, a girl I had tried to ask out, lets call her "Sarah". She hates me because I asked her out, and I always felt bad about it. Now during this, it was like some sort of carnival, and as I am walking up to the second story, I see "Sarah" except something is wrong, she has been hurt. I go to see what is wrong, and I notice she looks different. Her arm is gone. Its been replaced by a mechanical arm. Now, for some strange reason, this made me incredibly sad. I couldnt understand why. "Sarah" is a very good swimmer, and is on the swim team. I knew this would be an end to that. And as I stood there, she kept changing. Her body slowly began to change to be the same as her arm. She looked to be in pain. I couldn't watch, but I did. It was disturbing. I tried to save her but I couldnt. She was screaming at me. Then she faded away. I woke up sad, as I had watched but couldnt do anything, but I had this determination that nothing like that would ever happen to my friends. Can someone on dakka tell me what this means? I cant understand why it would be someone who hated me that would be the one I had to watch. Anything would be great dakka, I want to know whats going on.

It means that you want this girl but you're watching her slip out of reach, and that makes you sad. You're having to let go of the possibility of being with her; in your dream she symbolizes the relationship. It's turning from something beautiful (her=relationship) into something ugly and lifeless (robot=can't have her.) your guile attempts to save her represent both your desire for the relationship and your growing conviction that you can't have her.

Or it means that your hatred of your mother stemming from a repressed Oedipus complex has turned you into a latent homosexual with a deep neurosis and fear of all women and an obsession with the size of other mens penises.

One or the other.

I vote for interpretation #2!

Oh come on, you know it's more fun that way.

Yeah. Probably #2

AbaddonFidelis wrote:Or it means that your hatred of your mother stemming from a repressed Oedipus complex has turned you into a latent homosexual with a deep neurosis and fear of all women and an obsession with the size of other mens penises.

One or the other.

Why do I love Dakka Dakka?

Being able to log on and read something this funny.

I think it means you've been playing too much sonic the hedgehog, personally. Think about it.

Hey guys, thanks for the support. /sarcasm

Clearly it means that the insolent wenches who turn you down turn into dissapearing robots.

Duh.

Happygrunt wrote:Alright dakka, I think I can trust you. I had this crazy dream last night that gave me this disturbed, yet resolved to do right feeling. I am hoping someone here has a background in psychology, as I want to know what this meant, or even if it had a meaning.

It was in my highschool. They few people I recognized were the people who hated me. One of them, a girl I had tried to ask out, lets call her "Sarah". She hates me because I asked her out, and I always felt bad about it. Now during this, it was like some sort of carnival, and as I am walking up to the second story, I see "Sarah" except something is wrong, she has been hurt. I go to see what is wrong, and I notice she looks different. Her arm is gone. Its been replaced by a mechanical arm. Now, for some strange reason, this made me incredibly sad. I couldnt understand why. "Sarah" is a very good swimmer, and is on the swim team. I knew this would be an end to that. And as I stood there, she kept changing. Her body slowly began to change to be the same as her arm. She looked to be in pain. I couldn't watch, but I did. It was disturbing. I tried to save her but I couldnt. She was screaming at me. Then she faded away. I woke up sad, as I had watched but couldnt do anything, but I had this determination that nothing like that would ever happen to my friends. Can someone on dakka tell me what this means? I cant understand why it would be someone who hated me that would be the one I had to watch. Anything would be great dakka, I want to know whats going on.

I tend to have dreams like this that come true in some sort of style, and I got to tell you, they almost never mean what I think they mean.

Before I can try to interpret this, I am going to need to know something:

"She was screaming at me". Screaming how? Yelling at you to come help her? Screaming bloody murder that she hated you?

Slarg232 wrote:

Happygrunt wrote:Alright dakka, I think I can trust you. I had this crazy dream last night that gave me this disturbed, yet resolved to do right feeling. I am hoping someone here has a background in psychology, as I want to know what this meant, or even if it had a meaning.

It was in my highschool. They few people I recognized were the people who hated me. One of them, a girl I had tried to ask out, lets call her "Sarah". She hates me because I asked her out, and I always felt bad about it. Now during this, it was like some sort of carnival, and as I am walking up to the second story, I see "Sarah" except something is wrong, she has been hurt. I go to see what is wrong, and I notice she looks different. Her arm is gone. Its been replaced by a mechanical arm. Now, for some strange reason, this made me incredibly sad. I couldnt understand why. "Sarah" is a very good swimmer, and is on the swim team. I knew this would be an end to that. And as I stood there, she kept changing. Her body slowly began to change to be the same as her arm. She looked to be in pain. I couldn't watch, but I did. It was disturbing. I tried to save her but I couldnt. She was screaming at me. Then she faded away. I woke up sad, as I had watched but couldnt do anything, but I had this determination that nothing like that would ever happen to my friends. Can someone on dakka tell me what this means? I cant understand why it would be someone who hated me that would be the one I had to watch. Anything would be great dakka, I want to know whats going on.

I tend to have dreams like this that come true in some sort of style, and I got to tell you, they almost never mean what I think they mean.

Before I can try to interpret this, I am going to need to know something:

"She was screaming at me". Screaming how? Yelling at you to come help her? Screaming bloody murder that she hated you?

Surprise and pain, with help mixed in. It all was awful.

How did you react? Did you go to her or just kinda watch it happen?

Edit: Also, and this may or may not have anything to do with it, but..... was this a first person dream or a third.

Slarg232 wrote:How did you react? Did you go to her or just kinda watch it happen?

Edit: Also, and this may or may not have anything to do with it, but..... was this a first person dream or a third.

First, I dont dream in third. I remember I couldn't get close enough to touch her, but I moved in. There was a barrier. (Whats hard is, I had a full day, so recalling what I dreamed is getting harder and harder.)

Well, without actually having the dream myself,the only things I can give you are pretty basic:

1) Sarah is going to be going through a drastic change.

2) She still likes you, and when this change is going to happen, she wants you to help her, to be with her, but she won't actually let you to get close enough.

3) You will be looking at a totally different person after this is done.

That's all I am getting from this, which is pretty basic and not much help.

Dreams are(possibly) minifistation of you subconcious. While on the out side your subconcious and "true" self starts to realise she is a cold machine with no emotions(as shown for hating you for asking her out) The carnival were everyone has fun and shows emotion is a backdrop for what really is going on. Or its just a carnival.

I was taking anti malarials (larium) and I had a dream I was getting raped by monsters.

Dreams don't always mean things.

I didn't read what your Dream was, but I know it has something to do with you wanting [Not funny, a Moderator].

Dreadwinter wrote:I didn't read what your Dream was, but I know it has something to do with you wanting [Not funny, a Moderator]..

I know this is OP but , do some of you really feel the need to make posts like these?
I mean ok fine you dont feel like helping OP with his issues , but have some common decency yes?

Oops i reported my own post , i meant to report the one above me ^

mattyrm wrote:I was taking anti malarials (larium) and I had a dream I was getting raped by monsters.

Dreams don't always mean things.

Oh come on matty you know what that dream mean.

don't you

If people hated me for asking them out... i'd have less friends than I h-

/end sarcasm

Oh c'mon in all honesty, her hating you might be a teeny bit extreme. People just seem to drift apart due to awkwardness from the whole affair. That said, it can turn a bit nasty, especially if you dont taken rejection well.

http://ladderwiki.com/wiki/Main_Page

The sooner you learn, the better. Seriously, get over any guilt you felt as she would have probably been happier knowing you liked her, and having you NOT ask. Hell, she probably would have even taken advantage of it by making you listen to her talk about random crap/provide emotional support when the douchebag she would be going out with gets everything you would want/deserve for giving so much. Any of this resonating?

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:http://ladderwiki.com/wiki/Main_Page

The sooner you learn, the better. Seriously, get over any guilt you felt as she would have probably been happier knowing you liked her, and having you NOT ask. Hell, she probably would have even taken advantage of it by making you listen to her talk about random crap/provide emotional support when the douchebag she would be going out with gets everything you would want/deserve for giving so much. Any of this resonating?

It is with me!

Until I wised up to this one girl back in the day, that was exactly how it went down.