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I would also recommend getting gaming stuff delivered to your work. It's much easier to sneak it home.

Plus, you don't have to worry about missing a signiture required package, and having to go to the post office.

Chris

Boyd - Were you a surgeon in a previous life I don't know how many lives you must have saved to build to build those karma points.

I had to wait until I bought our damn house before I plucked up the courage to tell wifey I'd bought an airsoft rifle for myself.

Not that she's scary or anything ...

I am married, and was when i started 40k. My wife is a nerd as well, plays WoW with me, she is a BE priest, I play a DK tank we raid together and pvp together. We game togehter on kinect and board games with friends all the time... but she hates 40k which is fine it is time we get to ourselves which is sometimes nice.

How I get her to be ok with my spending on 40k which is reasonable, $20-50 per month. I usually finish my painting and she likes how they look and understands it is a obby, but when she brings up the money cost I point ou ththat I work 3 jobs, one 40 hour a week job, one 10-20 hour a week and one as needed (usually 5-10 hours a week) and at the 40 jour a week job i make more and provide our insurance so when i wanna spend a little bti on warhammer she just has to deal with it

if i weren't working more or making more money though I would still just point out the amount i spend isn't much in the long run and how once I have them doen I have a army i get to play for many years.

in the OP case though I'd point out that they are decals so that you can finish some of your models. say oh thnak god my transfer sheet now I can get the icons on my figures I am workign on

G00fySmiley wrote:I am married, and was when i started 40k. My wife is a nerd as well, plays WoW with me, she is a BE priest, I play a DK tank we raid together and pvp together. We game togehter on kinect and board games with friends all the time... but she hates 40k which is fine it is time we get to ourselves which is sometimes nice.

How I get her to be ok with my spending on 40k which is reasonable, $20-50 per month. I usually finish my painting and she likes how they look and understands it is a obby, but when she brings up the money cost I point ou ththat I work 3 jobs, one 40 hour a week job, one 10-20 hour a week and one as needed (usually 5-10 hours a week) and at the 40 jour a week job i make more and provide our insurance so when i wanna spend a little bti on warhammer she just has to deal with it

if i weren't working more or making more money though I would still just point out the amount i spend isn't much in the long run and how once I have them doen I have a army i get to play for many years.

in the OP case though I'd point out that they are decals so that you can finish some of your models. say oh thnak god my transfer sheet now I can get the icons on my figures I am workign on

Bro, if you're working three jobs and can't spend $50 on yourself once a month there are bigger problems. How much do you spend on your wife? You gotta spend at least as much on your wife as you do on yourself, or let her spends as much as you do. if you do, then you two need to talk.

naw, she spends pretty much $0 a month on anything. she buys new shoes when a pair of shoes wears out or like a heel breaks. she also works a 40 hour a week job so it isn't liek she does nothing. we're jsut trying to get out from under our student loans and trying to agressivly pay off our house as quickly as possible. I'm 27, she's 22 and as of next march we'll have all our loans paid back and in 4 years at current rate our house will be paid for (we bought it last november) so really ti is a matter of us trying to get ahead in life, she thinks warhammer is to expensive and waants to only play wow since it is cheap or board games cause they are cheap as well ... what can i say we're cheap people but hey once my house is paid we'll be getting a rental property or 2 and payign them off as quickly as possible qand using those to build wealth throwing money at em like we do now to kill the notes

My system was this..., I would show my Missus batches of ridiculously high priced kits/models that I "like" ( which I really had no interest in at all) along with much "cheaper" items ( that I really did want)...more often than not she "let me" order the cheaper stuff...

Now, I just talk with her about what models I want and look for them at the best price available...sometimes she even lets me get them.

Lately I've made a few mail order purchases with relative impunity. Mrs. Weeble's birthday is in a few weeks, so Every brown box addressed to me could very well contain some secret birthday gift.

I also sometimes pretend that I don't remember the order and conclude that it must have been placed a while ago and is only just now arriving.

The worst is if something arrives when I'm away on business, especially if I had intended for it to show up later when I was home and could accept it on the sly. There's been a few times when I've called up the wife and heard, "So a package arrived for you today..."

Mostly I don't catch a lot of flak for hobby purchases, but there's times when things pile up and I start getting the eyebrow. I can't control when there's super good deals on e-bay, and just because there was one (or two or three) doesn't mean I don't need more primer.

Kirasu wrote:Tell your wife this

"Listen, woman.. I am the man of the house and I will buy whatever i want when I want. If I need models then they are mine.. Case closed, no argument..Also when you kill me please send all my models to Kirasu from dakkdakka"

Thats what this Hobby Course is all about. http://www.amorousarmadillo.com/aaf/index.php?topic=1208.0



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Trooper wrote:Boyd - Were you a surgeon in a previous life I don't know how many lives you must have saved to build to build those karma points.

No its just open communication with your spouse or significant other. You just tell them your priorities - family, friends, and gaming. Its rough at first (make sure she acknowledges its on the schedule) and then you'll sacrafice some of your time doing stuff you don't like as much (I've seen a cabbage patch kid being born, I'll watch the Kardashians and add my MST3K-esque commentary because she likes to laugh at their "problems", watch romantic comedies even though I would rather see an action movie, and will go shopping with her be it shoes, work clothes, summer clothes, birthday, holiday or whatever). Just always include one weekend on the calendar for her and once each quarter or 6 months take her on a real nice date (away from kids), weekend out of town, or a day trip somewhere to relax.

I wish I were a surgeon and saved lives... she has more of an impact on people's lives than me - I'm an accountant and she's a social worker. She helps people find services, I just make sure my company remains profitable (or in some recent months doesn't lose an and arm and a leg).

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G00fySmiley wrote:I am married, and was when i started 40k. My wife is a nerd as well, plays WoW with me, she is a BE priest, I play a DK tank we raid together and pvp together. We game togehter on kinect and board games with friends all the time... but she hates 40k which is fine it is time we get to ourselves which is sometimes nice.

How I get her to be ok with my spending on 40k which is reasonable, $20-50 per month. I usually finish my painting and she likes how they look and understands it is a obby, but when she brings up the money cost I point ou ththat I work 3 jobs, one 40 hour a week job, one 10-20 hour a week and one as needed (usually 5-10 hours a week) and at the 40 jour a week job i make more and provide our insurance so when i wanna spend a little bti on warhammer she just has to deal with it

if i weren't working more or making more money though I would still just point out the amount i spend isn't much in the long run and how once I have them doen I have a army i get to play for many years.

in the OP case though I'd point out that they are decals so that you can finish some of your models. say oh thnak god my transfer sheet now I can get the icons on my figures I am workign on

My advice would be to come up with a budget. Show her where all the money is going. Show her that you're saving money for XYZ fund for a car, house, whatever and that you're putting money away for a rainy day, etc. She may just be unhappy as she is unaware of the big picture. It really sounds like a communication thing. Its painful to start and get it done initially but its worth it in the long run you will avoid so many arguments. We keep 5 envelopes for receipts in the house - food, house, my CC, her CC, and entertainment. We track each of these so we can see where our money is going. If we see one expense going up then we look to correct it somewhere so its not a surprise down the road. I tell her that I want to spend $30 per month and I make all of my purchases at the end of the month if I am going to make them so if we had something unexpected I can have some wiggle room. When your spouse knows how every dollar will be spent she will feel much better.

We're in the same boat - I'm 29 my wife is 26 and we've paid all but our car loans off and house off. At the rate we're going, we'll pay our house off in 10 years and our cars off in 12 - 18 months. Sounds like someone is following the Dave Ramsey methodology of handling money. It feels good when you pay off your debt and are a free man

The real solution is: don't get married

nectarprime wrote:The real solution is: don't get married

I don't suppose many "wargamers" have to try hard to follow that advice.......

Wargaming is to women as garlic is to Vampires! Try it next time you meet a beautiful woman......"Hey, you look great, I'm a Wargamer.....hey, was it something I said?!"

Since when did you have to be married for them to try to take control of your gak?

"Blessed are the basement dwelling neckbeards, for they shall buy baneblades in peace"

notprop wrote:

"Blessed are the basement dwelling neckbeards, for they shall buy baneblades in peace"

Hahaha nice!

I just outright tell her that I'm buying whatever I want to.

Of course theres a little hell to pay, but I get the stuff, she's told about it, and knows the score.

If she didn't want the minis, she shouldn't have moved in and started dropping off her S@#$.

Move has been a little "Thank you" from me, though. She now has sufficient house space to live in.


Seriously, though. Tell the woman your getting the stuff, go through the obligatory ball busting, and get the stuff.

Better to be up front then to go through some Bullgak drama, and go through some unneeded stress. Make it up to her with some baubles, or some stuff she wants, now and then.

Mrs. Flashman, as in Elspeth? The real Harry Flashman wouldn't put up with such tomfoolery!

My missus has nothing to scoff at if i'm buying plastic toy soldiers and she's buying a wardrobe of shoes to match every single 'outfit'...

As long as the bills are paid and we're putting money towards something we want, anything else is 'free reign'.

When I got back into the hobby she was curious and then went all out on a SoB army, then all the terrain. When it came time to painting it up, i drew the line at brightly painted sisters... "Goddammit woman this is grimdark! Not Saturday Night Fever!"

Ah she's a nerd at heart (as much as she tries to deny it)

Wargaming is to women as garlic is to Vampires! Try it next time you meet a beautiful woman......"Hey, you look great, I'm a Wargamer.....hey, was it something I said?!"

That line only works at comic-con...

I keep my finances seperate... I spend my money, she spends hers.

Having a joint bank account is the most argument-causing idea I can think of.

Just split your bills, or agree for one person to pay say, the phone, internet and gas, while the other pays the tax, electric and water. As long as the 2 halves are roughly equal each month, it can be considered "job done".