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I was in the middle of school when the counselor asked for me she then told me that my grandma had just died, I then started to laugh like a madman, not out of comedy or anything but out of sorrow I lived with this woman my whole life and now shes gone, I then walked into class chuckling and smiling, for some reason I couldnt help and I walked over to a few of my friends and told them that my grandma had just died (while laughing), I suppose im asking how you react when a close relative dies.

Sorry to hear about your loss.

My condolences to you and your family.

Sorry for your loss.

Sorry to hear about that man. I'm sure she was a wonderful woman.

I really don't know what to tell you about how you should or shouldn't react to losing a rlative, especially one your close with.
Truth is, everybody will react differently.

For what it's worth if you need to talk I'm a PM away.

Some people go into shock and don't cry; others have a form of hysteria (such as laughing hysterically).

I am sorry to hear of your loss. Please don't feel that there is a "right" way to mourn or express sorrow.

Well when my grandma on my dad's side died I felt a little sick in the stomach and didn't talk much but I didn't feel that bad mainly because I never really got to know her. When I was kid she became permanently hospitalized barely able to speak a word and was

always cranky so I never got to bond with her. Mind you my grand parents on my Mom's side are well and fine.

To be honest i had little emotions. i knew they were going to die for awhile. so i kinda dealed with it.

Sorry to hear about your grandma.

I've since lost all my grandparents except for one, I didnt cry for any of them, but I did cry when my dog died.

Everyone handels these things differently.

Sorry for your loss Man, everyone reacts differently, when my Nan died I was sad and teary but my dad made jokes and made us laugh. Just remember the good times you had and that she's in a better place now.

Sorry for your loss mate, I understand when I lost my great grandparent it was alot to take in, I didnt react much I've never known why.

Don't think you can mourne in a wrong way, like everyone has said everyone reacts differently.

Ther people that pass on are never really gone as you have all the fond memories of the time you were given to spend with them.

Condolences to your and your family.
Wolf

Sorry to hear about your loss. I was taken back that you would laugh. I am shocked that others don't think your expression is weird. I thought it was weird.

For me, I cry and feel sad. I feel empty inside.

My condolences to you and your family.

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:For what it's worth if you need to talk I'm a PM away.

+1.

In the last four years, my mother, then her mother, and finally my grandfather all died. The grandparents slowly and painully, my mother very suddenly. I handled them all quite differently.

Although, let me give you this advice. If you were close to her, let it out. Talk about it. If you feel a tear coming, let it out. Express whatever you're going through. I never shed a tear through all that death, even for my mother. There's been many times I wanted too, but I shunted all the emotions down so deep that I physically can't cry for them, which hurts even more. Let it out.

Catyrpelius wrote:Sorry to hear about your grandma.

I've since lost all my grandparents except for one, I didnt cry for any of them, but I did cry when my dog died.

Everyone handels these things differently.

That was the same for me (well my grandparents on my mom side are still here but on the other side they are all dead) it's sad I knew my dog better than my grandma (my grandpa died before I was born).

I'm sorry for your loss.

We experience loss in different ways. When my Granddad passed it took a while for me to really come to terms with it, he'd been unwell for a while so I was expecting him to go, but he was the first person close to me who died, it took until the funeral for me to really realise he was gone. My grandmother was a lot more sudden, I received a call at work and kept working to finish something off, then I told my boss, went to my car and cried for about ten minutes. By the time I reached my family I was fairly composed, and I found the afternoon with my family talking about grandma quite... pleasant. It was odd in hindsight, but at the time it was very natural for me.

The thing is, don't worry yourself if you're grieving right. Just do what feels natural for you.

So sorry for your loss. There is no "normal" reaction to receiving news like this and it sounds to me like what you're describing is shock, pure and simple.

It strikes me that the mind has a lot of ways to try to shield itself and recoil from a sting like this, and you have absolutely no control over your initial reaction. The laughter reaction, however inconguous it may seem, is actually quite understandable, and I know a couple of people who have experienced the uncontrollable laughter that you describe.

My own experiences of early loss of this kind have been 1) bloodcurdling scream when I lost my grandfather 2) complete numbness and strange lack of any emotion at all when I lost my grandmother (equally dear to me), followed by being more upset later. The "disconnectedness" I experienced in this second instance is perhaps related to your laughter response I think - it's just your brain putting the shields up and misfiring as a result - you will most probably lapse into a more recognisable state of grief / mourning as the bad news sinks in a bit.

I would echo KtulHut - whatever you're feeling - get it out without worrying about it. Very important not to bottle it up.

To all those mentioning lost pets - I lost two dogs this year and I can relate - it's absolutley awful.

Don't want to sound too cheesy, but still: "internet-person-I've-never-met-hugs" all round guys.