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How did you know she was the one? Did you guys argue over the stupidest little things? Was it love at first sight? Did you secretly plot to kill one another in their sleep?

I'm just wondering due to the fact that me and a certain someone are acting incredibly odd with one another, even though I haven't spoken to her in practically a year. So feed me your wierd stories of all you married people before you realized you loved eachother, please

Slarg232 wrote:How did you know she was the one? Did you guys argue over the stupidest little things? Was it love at first sight? Did you secretly plot to kill one another in their sleep?

I'm just wondering due to the fact that me and a certain someone are acting incredibly odd with one another, even though I haven't spoken to her in practically a year. So feed me your wierd stories of all you married people before you realized you loved eachother, please

1) There's no exact moment when you know. If your feelings are super sudden, you're probably more in lust than in love. Long-term love takes quite a while to develop. While it certainly can emerge with someone you've had lustful feelings for, they are different things.

2) Yes, of course you'll argue about stupid little things. Neither of you will really change, though, so it won't do much good. Get used to one or two issues causing a fight every few months.

3) No, love at first sight is overrated. See answer 1.

4) Ummm... no. I'll admit, there's been plenty of times I've been incredibly upset with her, and had some pretty negative thoughts. But, I always know I'm not even a little serious when I think about leaving, no matter how mad I am. And, plotting her death crosses a line I've never reached. Perhaps it's time to re-evaluate things if you reach that point?

I knew my wife was the one not long after we first moved in together,no big explosions just a feeling of contentment,trust and really just enjoying time together.
Since then we have had four children together and spent the last twelve years pretty much inseperable(corny i know).
We do sometimes argue,mostly money issues or me being a bit of a helmet,but hey ive always been a bit of a helmet.
I can't ever see me leaving even when we've had a blazing row we end up laughing(very important).Any way that probably reads a little lame/boring but hey it works for us.

I dated a lot, and had come to the conclusion that ALL WOMEN ARE CRAZY, this is of course what happens when you are only looking for girls at bars. I Decided that at 30 it was time to end my swinging bachelor days and settle down. She was the first women I dated that didn't make the crazy bells ring after a few months. She's good looking, has a good head on her shoulders. It was a logical decision. It wasn't really that cold of a decision mind you, I reference the logical end because, I've had the love at first site and complete infatuation relationships before, but without the part that made it logical they didn't work. I get all the other stuff too, I just don't get the crazies from her.

I know there are people that love those drama filled relationships, even I will admit that they were fun .....at times. But I've seen what happens to the people in those kind of relationships, they never end well. She was honestly the first woman I dated in a long time that I thought would be stable enough to raise a family with.

Any way that probably reads a little lame/boring but hey it works for us

You know, I've found that for the most part the ones that are good and last forever are generally kind of lame and boring when you look at them compared to some of the heated crazy relationships. But who honestly has the energy for that all the time, and who wants to raise kids in that environment?

Grakmar wrote:

4) Ummm... no. I'll admit, there's been plenty of times I've been incredibly upset with her, and had some pretty negative thoughts. But, I always know I'm not even a little serious when I think about leaving, no matter how mad I am. And, plotting her death crosses a line I've never reached. Perhaps it's time to re-evaluate things if you reach that point?

That wasn't supposed to be taken seriously

I was mail ordered by a rich american man.... no, I'm joking..

I met my beloved at a victoria's secret while shopping for underwear, at first, I was scared she wouldn't accept me, but when I told her how I felt, she said she felt the same, we were already good friends at that time, 2 years after we met. As time progressed, we grew closer to eachother, we have similar interests, and at times, we share clothes, we shop, and just enjoy eachother's company. Do we fight? Well, we argue and have disagreements, but we always make up. Would I plot to kill her? No, she gave my life purpose, without her, my life is meaningless.

As for love at first sight, no, us transvestites, for a greater part like to model ourselves as dignified women, and frown upon loose women. To me, I've always found women with large breasts to seem to be of questionable repute, or so I thought at the time, but after I met my beloved, I realized, she was so much more, she was a decent woman, and she saw me as more than just a "freak". She's supported me and my lifestyle, and no woman I've ever met has ever accepted a man who abandoned his form to persue the female form, or find it so fascinating.
I knew our bond was inseperable as we learned about eachother, and let me tell you this, sex is the least important thing in a relationship.

Once I saw the size of her bank account and realized how gullible she was I knew it was fate....

I just knew. We meshed far to good, and all I wanted to do was hang out with her at all hours of the day/night. In all honesty, its one of things where if you just thinking about if shes the one, youll tell yourself if she really is or not

The first one who doesn't look like high-pitched trouble, bag her.

Thats way more accurate than you might have intended.

Sure, if you've never spent time with any women of any sort.

Really what Fraz wanted to say was "Take the first woman who doesn't emasculate you."

If you don't sometimes argue you ain't doing it right.

I ignored my future wife to be until being told, like it was a school thing, that she fancied me and did I fancy her.

Soon after that I was pretty much sold on the idea of spending the rest of my life with my beloved...even though she is fething annoying!

Ahtman wrote:Once I saw the size of her bank account and realized how gullible she was I knew it was fate....

A recipie for success right there.

Marriage is just an expensive way to pay money to lose half your gak.

Why, yes, I am relatively recently divorced, how did you know?

Kilkrazy wrote:The first one who doesn't look like high-pitched trouble, bag her. Buy or make her breakfast in the morning then rinse and repeat.

dogma wrote:"Take the first woman who doesn't emasculate you, unless you're in a particular subby mood or you're into that sort of thing."

Massively fix'd.

I believe that love is a mindset more than the chemical infatuation which can only last so long. You decide to stick together. The notion of "the one" has no basis in reality or logic. Many people (women) tend to trick themselves into believing it which makes it suck even more when it inevitably fails like 90% of the time or whatever statistic makes more sense.

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:

Kilkrazy wrote:The first one who doesn't look like high-pitched trouble, bag her. Buy or make her breakfast in the morning then rinse and repeat.

dogma wrote:"Take the first woman who doesn't emasculate you, unless you're in a particular subby mood or you're into that sort of thing."

Massively fix'd.

I believe that love is a mindset more than the chemical infatuation which can only last so long. You decide to stick together. The notion of "the one" has no basis in reality or logic. Many people (women) tend to trick themselves into believing it which makes it suck even more when it inevitably fails like 90% of the time or whatever statistic makes more sense.

There's a lot of truth to that.

Frazzled wrote:

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:

Kilkrazy wrote:The first one who doesn't look like high-pitched trouble, bag her. Buy or make her breakfast in the morning then rinse and repeat.

dogma wrote:"Take the first woman who doesn't emasculate you, unless you're in a particular subby mood or you're into that sort of thing."

Massively fix'd.

I believe that love is a mindset more than the chemical infatuation which can only last so long. You decide to stick together. The notion of "the one" has no basis in reality or logic. Many people (women) tend to trick themselves into believing it which makes it suck even more when it inevitably fails like 90% of the time or whatever statistic makes more sense.

There's a lot of truth to that.

There's a WHOLE lot of truth in that...
I myself have got two divorces under my belt and and currently with my third long term Missus ( though we're not married).
There does come a day, often sooner than later when all the " pretty ideas" about " the one" fade and your left with " two people"...the trick here is to then have more days where you actually like each other rather than wishing the other would burst into flame.

Old deaf man stares across kitchen table at old deaf woman.

"What do you want to do today?" Deaf woman asks?
"Kill you." Deaf Man replies
"What????" Deaf woman shrieks

Loss of hearing - further proof of the existence of God.

FITZZ wrote:

Frazzled wrote:

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:

Kilkrazy wrote:The first one who doesn't look like high-pitched trouble, bag her. Buy or make her breakfast in the morning then rinse and repeat.

dogma wrote:"Take the first woman who doesn't emasculate you, unless you're in a particular subby mood or you're into that sort of thing."

Massively fix'd.

I believe that love is a mindset more than the chemical infatuation which can only last so long. You decide to stick together. The notion of "the one" has no basis in reality or logic. Many people (women) tend to trick themselves into believing it which makes it suck even more when it inevitably fails like 90% of the time or whatever statistic makes more sense.

There's a lot of truth to that.

There's a WHOLE lot of truth in that...
I myself have got two divorces under my belt and and currently with my third long term Missus ( though we're not married).
There does come a day, often sooner than later when all the " pretty ideas" about " the one" fade and your left with " two people"...the trick here is to then have more days where you actually like each other rather than wishing the other would burst into flame.

^^ This.

I'm possibly not as cynical as FITZZ or Cannerus but, yeah, 'The One' 'True Love' 'match made in heaven' are pretty much over used and overrated. when it comes down to it you have to be able to spend time in each others company, everything else is a bonus.

Mr. Burning wrote:

FITZZ wrote:

Frazzled wrote:

Cannerus_The_Unbearable wrote:

Kilkrazy wrote:The first one who doesn't look like high-pitched trouble, bag her. Buy or make her breakfast in the morning then rinse and repeat.

dogma wrote:"Take the first woman who doesn't emasculate you, unless you're in a particular subby mood or you're into that sort of thing."

Massively fix'd.

I believe that love is a mindset more than the chemical infatuation which can only last so long. You decide to stick together. The notion of "the one" has no basis in reality or logic. Many people (women) tend to trick themselves into believing it which makes it suck even more when it inevitably fails like 90% of the time or whatever statistic makes more sense.

There's a lot of truth to that.

There's a WHOLE lot of truth in that...
I myself have got two divorces under my belt and and currently with my third long term Missus ( though we're not married).
There does come a day, often sooner than later when all the " pretty ideas" about " the one" fade and your left with " two people"...the trick here is to then have more days where you actually like each other rather than wishing the other would burst into flame.

^^ This.

I'm possibly not as cynical as FITZZ or Cannerus but, yeah, 'The One' 'True Love' 'match made in heaven' are pretty much over used and overrated. when it comes down to it you have to be able to spend time in each others company, everything else is a bonus.

...Didn't mean to come off as cynical...though I suppose I am.
I simply think that the idea of " Match made in Heaven" is ...well..nonsense.
If one can end up with a person they can still laugh with, still be attracted to and only occasionaly think about where they'd hide the body after ten years of so...then congratz...they are "winning" in "The Game of Love".

Watch an episode of The Muppet Show with the other person. If they don't laugh once get rid of them.

I knew she was "the One" when she "had my kid". Now we are "blissfully in love" and I eagerly await "my death" to release me from my "responsibilities."

remilia_scarlet wrote:I was mail ordered by a rich american man....

I'm still waiting...

I've known my wife for over 20 years.
We've been together for 11.
Married for almost 5.

It's just something that happens and when it does, you'll know it.