Minnesota college student, 19, commits suicide after classmates bully her for appearing in porn flic

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**daedalus**

NuggzTheNinja wrote:
Just going to throw this out there - If you're going to make an adult decision, like the one to take off your clothes and have sex on camera for money, then you should probably prepare yourself to have adult reactions to potential criticism directed toward your lifestyle. Or, are pornstars now members of the "protected class?"

Hang out on bodybuilding.com long enough and post some pictures working looking at, and you'll get offers to fly to LA and participate in porn shoots. Ask me how I know. I never accepted any of these offers, but another poster did several years ago. Somebody found the "evidence" and everybody dogpiled the guy pretty bad. His response was, "F U guys, I got paid $1,000 to whack it on camera!"

Long story short - that could be construed as "bullying" but level-headed people don't kill themselves when people criticize their life choices. There was something more going on with this girl that makes me think she fell into the red zone of the hot/crazy curve.

I don't think you understand the subtle differences in how men vs. women are judged for performing promiscuous.acts.

The rest of your post suggests a particular vapidity too..

**daedalus**

I still say everyone is bad people, perhaps a step or two away from being actual and genuine monsters. If we just kill everyone, literally all of humanity, we can make the world a better place.

**daedalus**

Seaward wrote:
Ahtman wrote:
She must have had some issues, because typically if you are a straight A student trying to go to med school you don't get involved in making porn where you are easily seen and recognized if for no other reason then you don't want it to show up when you are doing your application for Med School.

I feel like I'm the only one who read the full article.

She had issues with depression, her dad was in and out of jail, her mom and her mom's boyfriend were dealing drugs and had child neglect convictions, and so on.

I'm not sure I feel that makes the way she was treated any less terrible. I'm not going to scream "zomg bully bully bully!!!", but for feth's sake it's odd how hard of a time people have being human.

**daedalus**

Seaward wrote:
daedalus wrote:
I'm not sure I feel that makes the way she was treated any less terrible. I'm not going to scream "zomg bully bully bully!!!", but for feth's sake it's odd how hard of a time people have being human.

Ahtman opined that she must have had some other issues. I pointed out some of them.

I've refrained from jumping into the debate over whether or not we need to figure out a way to force people to be nice to each other at all times on social media because I know Dakka OT loves to saddle up the horse and white knight off into the sunset on that kind of topic, and pointing out that she was in fact likely a fethed up kid was not meant to reflect an opinion on how terribly she was treated.

Every bit of that makes perfect sense.

**daedalus**

Sigvatr wrote:
Well, at least he's honest about his opinion. Better than all those canted "So tragic, I'm so sad!!!!1" knee-jerk reactions that occur after such events.

She wasn't famous. Have one of the big name stars do themselves in and you'll have people crying a storm even as they warm up their favorite DVD.

People are just revolting, and it's not the porn stars I'm talking about.

**daedalus**

cincydooley wrote:
She's full of it. If it was "such a nightmare" she wouldn't be going on the view and if she wanted to keep it a secret she certainly wouldn't have shared it with someone at a frat party.

Truly she must have been faking it when she offed herself.

**daedalus**

whembly wrote:

I'm just challenging the notion that one couldn't "extricate" themselves from social media. That's all.

It's alienating. I'm not even that young, and sometimes I wish I had a facebook account. I have about 5-6 people I'm incredibly good friends with, and I talk to those people over email usually if we're not meeting in person. People usually tell me on short notice about upcoming gettogethers and stuff, because they forget I'm not on the facebook and they feel like they have to catalog it in there rather than just compose a brief email.

So it's doable, but not for someone who's a social butterfly. Even my situation would be exacerbated if you took someone 10 years younger. I don't think they actually use email for casual communication anymore at that age.

**daedalus**

Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
I think he was talking about Belle Knox, not the poor girl that suicided.

Maybe. Based on some of the comments, I honestly can't tell anymore.

**daedalus**

This is perhaps the new low for Dakka. I'm gonna check out for a little while.

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NuggzTheNinja wrote:

That's rich...our resident autist is calling me vapid. Carry on.

Autist? That's a new one, actually.