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It's over.
Move on.

All of the advice here is right. Number one is that if you hang around waiting for her to come back to you, it will never happen. I've been there, and it sucks, but that is how things are. If you move on, and you and her paths cross again in a few years time, you might get back together if you are right for each other.

Sleep with her mum.

 MeanGreenStompa wrote:
Sleep with her mum.

This is truely the best revenge.

Just to echo what others have said too - stay away from Facebook, Twitter, whatever. Best case you'll end up staring at the screen hoping she'll sign in and say hello and you might end up getting your hopes up. Worst case she knows she has you wrapped around her little finger. If she wants to say hi she'll phone you, email you, whatever.
Take some time to yourself to figure out some things, get out and spend some time with friends and those closest to you, maybe get in touch with people you haven't spoken to in a while. And for feths sake go enjoy yourself, you are allowed to live a little. Just don't do anything that you'll regret in the long run

For what its worth I got out of a gakky situation shortly before I met my wife. That helped me rule out the type of person that I didn't want to be with which is just as, if not more, important than looking at the qualities you do want in a partner. But if it wasn't for that gakky situation I might not have realised what I had when I met her and I might have missed out on the best thing to ever happen to me

OH! Thats another thing, don't deny yourself a good time in the hopes of "staying true" to her or some bs like that. After my ex ripped my soul out I had an opportunity to have one hell of a great weekend with a longtime friend of mine (who is absolutely gorgeous). We spent the weekend together, but despite her attempts to the contrary I didn't jump in bed with her and I've been kicking myself since... fortunately it looks like I have a second chance this weekend ;D

Take a picture of yourself with two chicks at a party and post it on facebook.

The bigger the boobs, the better the message.


Or, just move on like any adult would.

chaos0xomega wrote:
OH! Thats another thing, don't deny yourself a good time in the hopes of "staying true" to her or some bs like that. After my ex ripped my soul out I had an opportunity to have one hell of a great weekend with a longtime friend of mine (who is absolutely gorgeous). We spent the weekend together, but despite her attempts to the contrary I didn't jump in bed with her and I've been kicking myself since... fortunately it looks like I have a second chance this weekend ;D

Till she reads this...

You're not supposed to announce intent to boink on the internet.

It may be seen as ungentlemanly




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 kronk wrote:
Take a picture of yourself with two chicks at a party and post it on facebook.

The bigger the boobs, the better the message.


Or, just move on like any adult would.

I like the first one better

 kronk wrote:

 MeanGreenStompa wrote:
Sleep with her mum.

This is truely the best revenge.

Revenge? Who said anything about revenge? That is just seems like good solid advice to me!

Steve steveson wrote:
I dissagree. On a brake dosn't mean the relationship is over!

What it means is "I want to bang someone else, but I want you to wait for me just incase it dosn't work out". She may or may not have a someone else in mind, but its a realy horrid thing to do to someone.

Don't believe me, why else would someone ask for a break? What else are they wanting it for? Some "personal space". Ye, if that "personal space" means space in the bedroom. Otherwise they would say "I need some quiet time. I'm realy busy/stressed/hungry/whatever. Can we take a brake from calling each other for a week. I'll talk to you again on X date" or "can we talk every other day. I find it difficult to be busy every day".

Long distance relationships are hard and only work with honesty. The line "take a break" annoyes me no end as women never get picked up on it being a nasty thing to do.

Go out, enjoy the fact that you do not have to be avalable to talk to her every day, go to a strip club, have a beer, eat a pizza, smoke a cigar or whatever other vice is appropriat for your age and situation.

This, as well as going no contact, don't phone her, don't answer her calls, move on with your life and go do fun stuff, date other girls and generally make her unhappy seeing how desired you are. Don't reply to her texts etc ever, she'll want to stay friends to keep you around hoping that she'll come back o you but really its because girls love attention from guys around them.

Delete her number, block her on the social medias, get out and paaaarrrtay

 Alfndrate wrote:
Delete her number

Unless you can remember her number off the top of your head, THIS.

Stops you making an idiot out of yourself when you feel low.

Oh and no drunken dials. Never. NEV-ER

 MeanGreenStompa wrote:
Sleep with her mum.

We disagree on many things. On your advice however, salute!

PredaKhaine wrote:

 Alfndrate wrote:
Delete her number

Unless you can remember her number off the top of your head, THIS.

Stops you making an idiot out of yourself when you feel low.

Funny story about that... in my case I instantly memorized my exes number as I glanced at it for the briefest split-second before deleting it. It was a reeeeeealll PITA, so DON'T LOOK AT THE NUMBER JUST DELETE IT!

 kronk wrote:
Take a picture of yourself with two chicks at a party and post it on facebook.

The bigger the boobs, the better the message.


Or, just move on like any adult would.

We could combine this with the mom advice...

I don't think this is going to offer up any real advice, hope it all works out.