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We will start with a little history but ill keep it brief.

In 2012 my wife of 7 years and I got a divorce and after a little while of being depressed and hating the world I finally realized it was for the best and decided it was time to move on and start dating again which lead me to, who I still believe is, my soul mate. This woman was everything I had ever wanted in a partner and I didn’t even have these strong of feeling towards my ex wife. We were together for about a year and there was talk of marriage, kids, and everything else. Sadly, through my own mistakes and jealousy the relationship ended and now we don’t even speak to each other.

So why am I telling you this? To find out if anyone else has that one person they wish they could have a second chance with. I have dated again since she and I ended it but no one has ever been near good enough though. It may be that I am not ready yet again but that’s not what I am here for. I want to know that I'm not crazy because I won’t listen to some songs because they remind me of her, I won’t go to the place we first met, and so on. That those little things that have no meaning what so ever bring a tear to your eye because they remind you of that one that got away.

The whole idea of this thread was brought up because of a song I was listening to (and its not even one she and I listened too). It is called "Cold" by Novo Amor and there is one line that hit me like a freight train. "But I am cold in you heart and you're branded into mine"

Misery loves company my fellow dakkaites; please share your stories if you feel so inclined to do so.

 Boyofdestiny205 wrote:
I have dated again since she and I ended it but no one has ever been near good enough though. It may be that I am not ready yet again but that’s not what I am here for. I want to know that I'm not crazy because I won’t listen to some songs because they remind me of her, I won’t go to the place we first met, and so on. That those little things that have no meaning what so ever bring a tear to your eye because they remind you of that one that got away.

Yep. Used to feel this way about a girl I dated off and on for 6 years. Time heals all wounds, some just take longer than others. It won't be easy or quick, but you'll find someone else. I like to believe everyone has a best person for them, but there are still others out there. Try not to get too discouraged or beat yourself and never pass up a good opportunity. Best of luck.

Edit: It's a goofy country song, but actually quite beautiful.

Yep it sucks and those thoughts will keep popping up for the rest of your life. "what if...." There are plenty of fish in the sea, you just have to move on.

but my song would have went:

Listen to The Gaslight Anthem, especially their most recent album (Get Hurt), you'll probably find it cathartic.