I'm thinking of trying one of those dating sites like OkCupid and/or Tinder, so I took a couple of photos of myself for a profile picture but they turned out pretty bad as I'm not a professional so the lighting was bad, the angles were either too top or bottom heavy, so I think I'll pay a professional for

better quality pictures. Anyways does any one have experience with online dating any tips or general info I should know?

1) Expect a low success rate. 1% of the messages you send will get a response, and 1% of those might have a chance of going somewhere. Remember that you're doing the equivalent of walking into a bar and simultaneously approaching hundreds of potential dates. You wouldn't expect most of those attempts to succeed offline, so why expect online dating to be any different? Don't lose hope after a few failures or get emotionally invested into a potential match before you know if there's any mutual interest.

2) Online dating profiles are better at filtering out bad matches than confirming good ones. It's very hard to write a profile that gives more than a superficial impression of a person, so once you filter out the obvious "wouldn't touch with someone else's ten foot pole" people fine-tuning the difference between "ok, but nothing special" and "OMG TRUE LOVE" isn't really something you can do without having an offline date. On the other hand it's very easy to figure out which people fail your list of dealbreakers, especially on a site like OkCupid where you can see the answers to specific questions instead of just a general match percentage. So quickly rule out the people you're definitely not interested in and then be optimistic about giving the rest a fair chance.

3) It's better to get a 10/10 from some people and a 0/10 from others than to have a 7/10 from everyone. The former gets at least some people really interested in you, the latter just gets a lot of people to put you in the "maybe I'll message them someday" pile and then forget about you. So if you've got your controversial aspects be up front about them. You'll avoid wasting your time on the people who are going to reject you over it anyway, and you'll give the people who are looking for those things exactly what they want to see and maybe get them to respond.

4) You're absolutely right about getting professional pictures. Like it or not people can be really superficial, and an average person with great pictures looks better than a 10/10 with blurry camera phone shots in a bathroom mirror. Though if you can find someone to do it a friend might be better than a professional. Posed studio shots will have good image quality, but can look a bit awkward and excessively formal in a dating context. The ideal is to have normal "everyday life" shots taken by a friend with a good camera and the ability to use it right.

Try POF aka Plenty of Fish. Its free and you can read your mails

Instead of your own pic, use one of a young David Hasselhoff. It works every time.

Here's my advice.

Don't take online dating advice serious.

There are several important rules to follow.

First, you need abs and you need to show them off. If your first picture isn't a selfie of you pulling up your shirt and showing off that sick washboard, you're not getting anywhere! Don't have abs? Don't worry! You can just cut & paste your head on to someone else's body, or heck even just draw 'em on with sharpie. You might think such ploys would be transparent, but as humanolgist (that's a biologist that studies humans) can tell you abs and ab-like patterns have an overwhelming effect on the female brain. It's a biological effect that can't be ignored and will always make you stand out from your competitors. It's pretty much the same thing as those old 3D-magic eye puzzles but for her vagina.

Secondly, comment on her appearance. I can't underscore how important this is. As you probably learned in high school or from commercials for dove soap, women are constantly bombard with messages about their body. This breeds a universal and constant need for reassurance that strangers find them sexually attractive. Also remember the stronger language is the stronger the message is, so terms that might ordinarily seem vulgar or rude are the way to go.

Third, be sure to comment on her ethnicity. This is really important because a lot of people are racist, and you need to signal you're sensitive to that fact. Be sure to let her know that you want her to be your "First Black Chick" or that "You've really got a thing for asians", or "Want some of that latin spice". If you don't might she not be sure you're really OK with her background. If you can tie this into the second point by calling out that "Ghetto Booty" or the like.

Fourth, you've got a penis. Well I assume you do, she shouldn't have to! She needs to know you have a penis. So be sure to show her, if you don't whip that puppy out and send a picture by the 3rd message she'll just move on to guys that are less of gamble. Online dating is a risk so you need to provide all the certainty you can, and "He might be packing like a Ken Doll" isn't a question you want her wrestling with.

Fifth, keep it short. You can't get your point lost in a lot of words. Before you move on to the above points just open with a simple to process greeting like "Hey" or "Hi sexy" and always, always, always including the winky face .

Finally if you don't hear back that probably just means she thinks you haven't put enough effort in. Keeping messaging over and over, the more messages you send before she sends a response the more she'll know you're serious about the whole process. You should always let her know you're looking for a response otherwise she might think you're just sending the messages to be seen. Make sure to mix in a few "please respond"s or "are you going to write back"s for good measure


There's a bit more to being an online dating master, but following these steps should get you on the right track.

^best advice ever!

Honestly, I tried online dating and most of the experience sucked. Made a good friend out of it, and that's all.

Fedoras. Ladies love them.

Seriously, though, I guess you just want to get laid. Tinder excels at that. Picture is important, but if you're at least average, getting a few matches will be easy. Meet up, pull of ye good ol' pickup routing and you got a good night ahead of ye. Easy sex has never been as easy to get by as nowadays.

Beware the Nigerian Princess who needs your bank details, so she can buy a plane ticket to join you

I used POF before it turned into a one night stand generator and it worked out great. We are together an happy.

Tips:

It will take a while.
You need to write and rewrite until your profile is an expression of you.
Watch out for Catfish
Always get one or more of their social media profiles before you meet. That one is key as it will help you learn who they really are.
Always meet in a public place the first time.
Keep the to internet or phone talking for a little while before you meet to learn a little more.
Don't go in looking for a marriage.

I have been on POF and Tinder for awhile.
#1 thing is be conventially attractive.
Yeah, thats how online dating works.
I gave up on it and just decided to meet a girl at school, which kinda worked, im kinda seeing someone now.

I was on Match.com.
I met my wife there (we weren't married at the time )
Worked for me.
YMMV

I'm on Tinder, POF, OKC, and Blendr at the moment. I've only got experience with them in the UK, so they probably differ from how it is in the US.

Tinder feels like an app for physically attractive people in search of one-night stands, and I have received exactly 0 matches over the past few months, not counting the 3 or so total spambots (the majority you can easily filter out). I might be being what others may call picky, but if I'm not attracted to someone, I don't swipe them. Simple as that.

POF seems to be the best blend of free dating site out of all the ones I listed. Easy to use, most people have decent profiles, fakes are relatively easy to spot. No luck on there, either. I had a few replies that suddenly and inexplicably stopped coming.

OKC, at least in the UK, is what you get when you cross Tumblr with a dating site. It's full of rude, entitled, thin-skinned special snowflakes, self-titled rad-fems and misogynists, and a small sprinkling of comparatively 'normal' people. Their 'quickmatch' function is also highly flawed from what I can tell. I somehow ran out of matches in the UK on the third day. I get two or three swipes before it starts suggesting people in France. The filters don't seem to work at all.

Speaking of built-in Tinder-esque systems, they are not really Tinder; I only use them as a quick method of sorting through when I can't be arsed manually going through matches (which on OKC, are largely bullcrap anyway; always look at profiles yourself) and seeing who sticks out.

Blendr is a social meet-up app, with allowances for dating. I've thus far had the most success finding people I like here, but the least success--even including OKC--finding someone who responds. It's also full of fake profiles; more than Tinder, POF, and OKC combined. Most of the fakes are transparent, but it can be annoying sifting through all of them.

Pictures of you wearing a fancy wrist watch, wearing expensive shoes, and driving sportscars.

I've heard from employees having good experience with professional online dating services. They do cost some money, but they almost exclusively made good experiences with them.

If your goal is just getting laid, you should just go to Vegas and pay for it, honestly. It'll be a nice little vacation, you'll never see her again if you don't want to, and you'll cut out a lot of the BS you seem to be struggling with here.

You shouldn't have to go to Vegas to do so, as it should be legal everywhere....but I digress....

 cincydooley wrote:
If your goal is just getting laid, you should just go to Vegas and pay for it, honestly. It'll be a nice little vacation, you'll never see her again if you don't want to, and you'll cut out a lot of the BS you seem to be struggling with here.

You shouldn't have to go to Vegas to do so, as it should be legal everywhere....but I digress....

It isnt technically legal in vegas either.

I did online dating for years before I met my wife through one of the sites I was on. A few pointers:

Use good photos. Paying for a professional shoot is a good idea. Do you have a friend with reasonable skills who could help you out?

Take your time writing up your profile. Absolutely spell everything correctly, pay attention to grammar, and try hard to sound reasonably intelligent (assuming you are reasonably intelligent). After the photos, this was the number one turn off: typos and awkward profiles.

It's a numbers game. I am a straight guy dating in San Francisco where the pool of straight guys is a bit smaller than most, and it took me over five years to meet someone I really connected with (my current wife). I met some nice women along the way, and quite a few who really weren't good matches for me at all. As noted above, these sites are reasonably good at filtering out women who aren't matches, but not so good at finding women who are matches. That takes meeting face to face, over and over. It can be quite frustrating, but be patient.

And good luck!


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 hotsauceman1 wrote:

 cincydooley wrote:
If your goal is just getting laid, you should just go to Vegas and pay for it, honestly. It'll be a nice little vacation, you'll never see her again if you don't want to, and you'll cut out a lot of the BS you seem to be struggling with here.

You shouldn't have to go to Vegas to do so, as it should be legal everywhere....but I digress....

It isnt technically legal in vegas either.

It most certainly is, you just need to know where to go (OK, maybe outside Vegas). But I wouldn't bring that up in your profile, nor would I consider including any photos outside of an identifiable brothel.

 Avatar 720 wrote:
OKC, at least in the UK, is what you get when you cross Tumblr with a dating site. It's full of rude, entitled, thin-skinned special snowflakes, self-titled rad-fems and misogynists, and a small sprinkling of comparatively 'normal' people. Their 'quickmatch' function is also highly flawed from what I can tell. I somehow ran out of matches in the UK on the third day. I get two or three swipes before it starts suggesting people in France. The filters don't seem to work at all.

Who uses the OkC quickmatch anyway? Just browse matches, look for a cool profile, and send a message.
Routine for me is :
- Read profile
- Read the personality tab for a quick overview of what I will find in the questions
- Go to the photo tab to check if there are some albums and/or captions that are not displayed on the main profile page.
- Read the questions with explanations, as I feel those give the most information about someone's personality, as well as giving potential conversation openers
- Read the “unacceptable answers” to look out for deal breaker.
- Depending on mood, read more questions.
- Send message, or just like if I am not very interested and/or inspired and/or I feel lazy or too depressed.

I have not got much more success than you did, though.

I have been trying to install Tinder on my phone, but no success. I cannot understand why, but it says it is not compatible with my phone. I have Android 4.1.2 and a LG E410i, I cannot possibly imagine why it would not be able to run such a simple app.

Don't treat it as a main plan or even expect it to be a decent backup. It can help though, but not very likely.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Avatar 720 wrote:
OKC, at least in the UK, is what you get when you cross Tumblr with a dating site. It's full of rude, entitled, thin-skinned special snowflakes, self-titled rad-fems and misogynists, and a small sprinkling of comparatively 'normal' people. Their 'quickmatch' function is also highly flawed from what I can tell. I somehow ran out of matches in the UK on the third day. I get two or three swipes before it starts suggesting people in France. The filters don't seem to work at all.

Who uses the OkC quickmatch anyway? Just browse matches, look for a cool profile, and send a message.

For the reason I mentioned later in the post (not wanting to sift through supposed 'matches' manually), and because it suggests the same 'matches' in more or less the same order whenever I manually check them. There's sorting the wheat from the chaff, and then there's sorting the same wheat from the same chaff every time you come to do it. OKC Never seems to update their matches, and when they do, I have to go through the other 99.9% it's given me already. At least with QM once you say no to someone, they don't come back up.

There's a reason why I don't use OKC any more, and it's because it's bad.

 Avatar 720 wrote:
and because it suggests the same 'matches' in more or less the same order whenever I manually check them.

It used to do that for me, but not that much anymore, really. And have you got the email saying

Hey Avatar 720,

We just detected that you’re now among the most attractive people on OkCupid.

We learned this from clicks to your profile and reactions to you in Quickmatch. Did you get a new haircut or something?
Well, it’s working!

To celebrate, we’ve adjusted your OkCupid experience:

You’ll see more attractive people in your match results.

This won’t affect your match percentages, which are still based purely on your answers and desired match’s answers. But we’ll recommend more attractive people to you. You’ll also appear more often to other attractive people.

Sign in to see your newly-shuffled matches. Have fun, and don’t let this go to your head.

(By the way, that is a bunch of crap…)

Maybe, maybe not; that sort of stuff tends to get deleted fairly quickly. Waste of inbox space.

Barring any scientific analysis, I can say that in the US I've gotten laid from Tinder, OKC, and POF, but I'm not sure which has been more productive...if I had to guess probably tinder because women tend to find it fun rather than the profile based sites that are stigmatized. Your results will depend on your location, especially in regards to the quality and type of women using the sites. You can't really stereotype people using particular apps or sites.

I had great success with OKC. My advice:

1. On OKC, answer a ton of questions before looking at anyone's profile. Not just sexy time questions, either. Questions about hobbies, philosophy, kids, etc.
2. Know what you want before looking. Are you looking for a long term relationship, a FWB, someone to join you in your plans for global domination? "I want a person that enjoys reading, relaxing with a glass of wine and ....Damn, she got a nice rack!" She also might vote Green Party. Be careful out there.
3. Don't settle. Too many fish in the sea. Find one that you share some common beliefs.
4. Take your time. Don't rush anything. Don't be afraid to make a few dates with different people, either. Setting up a first date is not a commitment.
5. Make sure you read all of her profile. Ask questions. She might show up and tell you she has 4 baby daddies, and that 2 are in jail for murder, and then watch as she takes her bipolar medication with a 7&7...

Never done it, but my only suggestion would be to be honest about yourself, your interests etc.

If you like playing Warhammer, playing video games and watching movies, say that's what you like doing. You might find a lovely girl who likes the same. Result!

If you like playing Warhammer, playing video games and watching movies, but say on your profile you like going for walks in the park, shopping for antiques and caring for sick animals because you think it'll attract more women then you're only going to end up with someone who likes all that crap, and expects you to do it too, and you won't ever get to spend any time doing what you actually enjoy...

Also, no dick pics. She has to earn it!

And don't go in for the motor boat on the first date. You have to earn it!

 NuggzTheNinja wrote:
Your results will depend on your location, especially in regards to the quality and type of women using the sites.

Quality? It feels like you are talking about burgers, not women…

 kronk wrote:
Also, no dick pics. She has to earn it!

And don't go in for the motor boat on the first date. You have to earn it!

It funny, as a social experiment, me and my friends set up a profile for an average looking fake women on several sites.
Dick pic in the first 5 min.

I definitely used to pay more attention to the things we disagreed on among my best matches on OKC. I'd read the profile first to see if they were interesting and had decent hobbies, then I'd check the 'unacceptable answers' for any red flags. Frankly there were a few crucial points on which I'd not go out with someone despite matching in many other ways.

 Howard A Treesong wrote:
then I'd check the 'unacceptable answers' for any red flags. Frankly there were a few crucial points on which I'd not go out with someone despite matching in many other ways.

Excellent way to make sure you're in agreement on what's important to you.

"I like to commit mail fraud at least once a week!"

"Pass."

"I also like to hang out in old folks home dressed as the Grim Reaper in my spare time."

"Well, maybe I shouldn't be too hasty..."

Just don't take any of it seriously. I'm not kidding. People can smell desperation across the internet.

my okcupid profile is the same as my username here, if you want to see what I mean. It's mostly facetious but it works... really well. If you remember that 99% of your competition are douchebags with bathroom shirtless selfies, you're already a leg up on the competition. I usually find one or two elements on their profile and my opening line consists of combining them into some sort of absurd joke.

For example, here's a copy paste from an opening message to a lady that responded and we had several fun dates.

"So when you say "I'll take any excuse to cook a good meal", the first situations that pop into my mind are:

just woke up: time to cook a good meal
just woke up, in an unfamiliar location: time to cook a good meal
just woke up, in an unfamiliar location, which is burning down: time to cook a good meal
just woke up, in an unfamiliar location, which is burning down, surrounded by dinosaurs: time to cook a good meal
just woke up, in an unfamiliar location, which is burning down, surrounded by dinosaurs, on the moon: time to cook a good meal
...this could continue indefinitely. "

another example

"Your profile is like what I imagine what an internal combustion engine turned into text would be like: a series of tiny literary explosions propelling the reader ever forward. (It helps that your opening line is SOOO good. Like a 9.75 on the pretentious scale. I love it)

I'm hoping you've discovered a way to combine artistic alchemy and editing excel spreadsheets into a wholly new form of entertainment. Please tell me your patent is pending and your notice of copyright intent has been filed. When's the Kickstarter for it?

If I were to sit here and comment on your profile, piece by piece, which would be amazingly entertaining, this message might come across a little sycophantic because of the sheer amount of praise that would be involved. Instead, I'll just make the point that anyone that references a Venn diagram in their profile on a dating site immediately makes them awesomererer(erer) than 99% of the rest of the population of any given demographic. Yeah, any demographic. Doesn't matter which one.

Whew, now with less ecstatic verbage... while I'm sure you've uncovered the vast majority of places in this ol' smelly city to satisfy your adventuring desires, I would love to share some of my favs. (It usually involves late night explorations around The Fan with a backpack whose contents include a bottle of wine and perhaps some sort of instruments to create some delightful and unobtrustive street art)"

wound up dating her for a couple months.

or even simple like this:
"hey there sue_babe,
I'm gonna make a terrible pun and assume that your username comes from being overly litigious. "

I'm also on Tinder and I also go out dancing at least twice per week.

Tips: If you are having fun, and you are confident in the way you carry yourself, it's infectious. People like having fun and like being around people who are having fun. (this is why we're on dakka and playing games with each other) Nothing is more awkward than someone who is being awkward attempting to awkwardly talk to you. If I see a lady who has pretty hair I go up to her and say "holy crap you have amazing hair!" because I want to compliment her hair, not merely get in her pants. Expect nothing from people, and you get to be pleasantly surprised if something does happen.

My current plan is to listen to "The Incredible Hulk" theme tune on a loop until I get over the whole notion of this online dating stuff and go back to gaming.

Crispy78 wrote:
Never done it, but my only suggestion would be to be honest about yourself, your interests etc.

If you like playing Warhammer, playing video games and watching movies, say that's what you like doing. You might find a lovely girl who likes the same. Result!

Holy moly, DO NOT MENTION THAT YOU PLAY WARHAMMER OR PUT UP PHOTOS OF YOUR BEST PAINT JOBS. That's probably about as likely to land you a date as a dick pic.

To paraphrase kronk: Don't mention Warhammer! She has to earn it!

pancakeonions wrote:

Holy moly, DO NOT MENTION THAT YOU PLAY WARHAMMER OR PUT UP PHOTOS OF YOUR BEST PAINT JOBS. That's probably about as likely to land you a date as a dick pic.

To paraphrase kronk: Don't mention Warhammer! She has to earn it!

I actually disagree with this completely.

Don't be ashamed of your hobbies if they're something you really value. You don't want to be with someone that doesn't value (or at least respect) the things you like.

 cincydooley wrote:

pancakeonions wrote:

Holy moly, DO NOT MENTION THAT YOU PLAY WARHAMMER OR PUT UP PHOTOS OF YOUR BEST PAINT JOBS. That's probably about as likely to land you a date as a dick pic.

To paraphrase kronk: Don't mention Warhammer! She has to earn it!

I actually disagree with this completely.

Don't be ashamed of your hobbies if they're something you really value. You don't want to be with someone that doesn't value (or at least respect) the things you like.

Works better then saying PS3/4 or Xbox 360/1. Also works much better if you spend little time in front of those game platforms. Also your golden if you do not play World of Warcraft either

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 NuggzTheNinja wrote:
Your results will depend on your location, especially in regards to the quality and type of women using the sites.

Quality? It feels like you are talking about burgers, not women…

We could talk about burgers too, but that's a separate thread.

 cincydooley wrote:

pancakeonions wrote:

Holy moly, DO NOT MENTION THAT YOU PLAY WARHAMMER OR PUT UP PHOTOS OF YOUR BEST PAINT JOBS. That's probably about as likely to land you a date as a dick pic.

To paraphrase kronk: Don't mention Warhammer! She has to earn it!

I actually disagree with this completely.

Don't be ashamed of your hobbies if they're something you really value. You don't want to be with someone that doesn't value (or at least respect) the things you like.

I reckon we can agree to disagree. But I have lots of hobbies and plenty of things to talk about before I mention my ... addiction.

I'm particularly passionate about my toy soldiers, but it simply never would occur to me to mention it until I knew my partner was hip to that. Not everyone I date needs to be a long term, serious relationship, but a sure fire way to end something fun quickly is to let fly word of the exciting nurgle warriors I'm painting up, or my rat-people toys, or what not. That strikes me a bit like the stereotypical person who goes on about sports/clothes/cars when it's clear their date is not into it. I don't need to go waving that big red flag first thing!

I've dated a few people for several months who never knew a thing about my toys. It was pretty clear to me they weren't "the one", but it was still lots of fun even if I knew right away they wouldn't be playing my secondary Warmachine faction against my Menoth! But pretty quickly it was apparent that my wife was totally down with my hobby. You'll know when it's OK to tell her about your "true love". But for the love of Sigmar. Don't put that gak on your dating profile... (I mean, unless you aren't really interested in dating anyone)

Some stuff can come out with time. Like kronk might say: she has to earn it!

There's nothing wrong with 40k but it's not exactly a pantydropper. In the early days of dating it's about attraction. Would you be attracted to a woman with what comes across as a creepy obsession with her doll collection?

Happily married for three years to a woman I met on Match.com, so I'll offer some advice based on what I learned. I'm assuming the online dating system is still largely unchanged from 4-5 years ago.

Get used to failure. You might find a profile that seems to perfectly match your own, and they may never respond to your messages. You might get a date with someone who you think you totally hit it off with, and then never hear from them again. People are shallow and have high and often unrealistic expectations. Too many often expect to find that mythical "spark" right away (because that's what Hollywood tells us), and will move on to the next person if they don't find it on that first date. Most people don't realize you have to earn a good relationship, and that it takes time and effort. That's not to say keep dating someone you aren't hitting it off with, but just don't expect love at first sight. It's not about "settling," but it is about finding the right person, and that isn't supposed to be easy. Just as I was giving up on dating (and accepting that I was probably just not meant to ever find someone) after trying it for two years, I found one last profile that I hadn't seen before that I sent a message to. Yep, she's my wife now.

Be honest in your profile. You don't have to say you like toy soldiers, but you can say you like boardgames. If you're not interested in having kids, say so. If you're ok with her already having kids, but don't want new ones, say so. Talk about your interests and hobbies, but make sure they are the things you regularly do and that actually define your lifestyle. Above all, avoid saying things like "I love to travel, I love live music, I love to dance, etc." Unless you are doing those things once or more a month/week, then, no, you don't "love" to do those things. I can't tell you how many shallowly written profiles I saw that always said those same things. Don't write a short novel describing yourself, but make sure you hit all the important points. Think about the kinds of things you wish you could know about someone from their profile, and put those things in your own. The advantage of online dating vs. random strangers in a bar is that you at least get to know the basics of someone and whether or not you have an actual chance at a compatible life with them.

I'll say it again: people are shallow and can and will reject you for all sorts of unknown reasons, so be ready to wonder what you did wrong or why they're not calling you back or whatever. Maybe I am a bit cynical here, as my experience may not be universal (I am certainly not what would be considered a good looking man, so that may have impacted my experiences).

pancakeonions wrote:
That strikes me a bit like the stereotypical person who goes on about sports/clothes/cars when it's clear their date is not into it.

Then don't go on and on about it. There's a difference between turning every conversation into an opportunity to talk about your gaming hobbies and saying "I like beer, football, and 40k". If a person is going to lose interest in you because they know that you play games then honestly I can't see why you'd want to have anything to do with them in the first place.

pancakeonions wrote:
Holy moly, DO NOT MENTION THAT YOU PLAY WARHAMMER OR PUT UP PHOTOS OF YOUR BEST PAINT JOBS.

I did. I mention it passingly in my profile, and in my “Hobbies” picture folder, I have one picture of me doing indoor climbing, a picture of one of my models and a picture of the “Thriller - A cruel picture” movie. If the last one does not make them flee in terror, then certainly neither should the second one .

99,99% of women that will see my profile certainly will not be interested by this, but I would not want to miss on the 0,01%. Though to be honest, I would certainly take the one that is interested in my favorite movies over the one that is interested in my models .

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

pancakeonions wrote:
Holy moly, DO NOT MENTION THAT YOU PLAY WARHAMMER OR PUT UP PHOTOS OF YOUR BEST PAINT JOBS.

I did. I mention it passingly in my profile, and in my “Hobbies” picture folder, I have one picture of me doing indoor climbing, a picture of one of my models and a picture of the “Thriller - A cruel picture” movie. If the last one does not make them flee in terror, then certainly neither should the second one .

99,99% of women that will see my profile certainly will not be interested by this, but I would not want to miss on the 0,01%. Though to be honest, I would certainly take the one that is interested in my favorite movies over the one that is interested in my models .

No offense but aren't you a virgin?

He used to be.

 Peregrine wrote:

pancakeonions wrote:
That strikes me a bit like the stereotypical person who goes on about sports/clothes/cars when it's clear their date is not into it.

Then don't go on and on about it. There's a difference between turning every conversation into an opportunity to talk about your gaming hobbies and saying "I like beer, football, and 40k". If a person is going to lose interest in you because they know that you play games then honestly I can't see why you'd want to have anything to do with them in the first place.

Ding ding ding.

Agree 100%, Peregrine.

Pretty easy to not fething talk about in incessantly. But to hide it? A) you've nothing to be ashamed of, and B) it's dishonest.

 Cheesecat wrote:
He used to be.

Like most people. Though actually for about 10 more years than the average guy .

 NuggzTheNinja wrote:

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 NuggzTheNinja wrote:
Your results will depend on your location, especially in regards to the quality and type of women using the sites.

Quality? It feels like you are talking about burgers, not women…

We could talk about burgers too, but that's a separate thread.

... there's a line here about buns perhaps.. but that is indeed/alas perhaps best left for another thread.

Crispy78 wrote:
Never done it, but my only suggestion would be to be honest about yourself, your interests etc.

If you like playing Warhammer, playing video games and watching movies, say that's what you like doing. You might find a lovely girl who likes the same. Result!

If you like playing Warhammer, playing video games and watching movies, but say on your profile you like going for walks in the park, shopping for antiques and caring for sick animals because you think it'll attract more women then you're only going to end up with someone who likes all that crap, and expects you to do it too, and you won't ever get to spend any time doing what you actually enjoy...

3rd Option: Do some self improvement.

The solution to people being bored with you because you don't have any hobbies outside of nerdy crap is not to double-down and hope to run into someone who has the same niche hobbies as you. The world is a big place, broaden your horizons a bit. No matter who you are there is bound to be at least a couple things you can enjoy that can't be done in a basement. It's easier to change your self than change the world.

 Chongara wrote:
The world is a big place, broaden your horizons a bit. No matter who you are there is bound to be at least a couple things you can enjoy that can't be done in a basement.

Is it about also enjoying things that cannot be done in a basement, or is it about stopping to enjoy things that can be? Because if you like both, why not mentioning both?

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Chongara wrote:
The world is a big place, broaden your horizons a bit. No matter who you are there is bound to be at least a couple things you can enjoy that can't be done in a basement.

Is it about also enjoying things that cannot be done in a basement, or is it about stopping to enjoy things that can be? Because if you like both, why not mentioning both?

Because online dating is a competitive space. You're looking to gain the attention of other people, and people have limited time and energy to spend thinking about getting date. You need to stand out from the other 60 messages they got this week. That means sticking to the high points. It's fine to enjoy nerdy hobbies but they're not particular useful in the "Why you should date me" elevator pitch that is an online dating profile, at least for most the population anyway.

 Chongara wrote:

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Chongara wrote:
The world is a big place, broaden your horizons a bit. No matter who you are there is bound to be at least a couple things you can enjoy that can't be done in a basement.

Is it about also enjoying things that cannot be done in a basement, or is it about stopping to enjoy things that can be? Because if you like both, why not mentioning both?

Because online dating is a competitive space. You're looking to gain the attention of other people, and people have limited time and energy to spend thinking about getting date. You need to stand out from the other 60 messages they got this week. That means sticking to the high points. It's fine to enjoy nerdy hobbies but they're not particular useful in the "Why you should date me" elevator pitch that is an online dating profile, at least for most the population anyway.

Ding ding ding.

Agree 100%, Chongara.

Pretty easy to completely turn someone off immediately if you stray from that "why you should date me" elevator pitch. By not mentioning it, A) you're not saying that you're ashamed of it, and B) it's more appealing to 99.9999% of your potential mates. I've dated a lot of women who LOVE shoes. Have HUGE collections. Not one of them mentioned it in their profiles, nor even hinted at it (though some of their photos did include their shoes in the shot, so maybe Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl is on to something?)

And I do admit, even though Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl is clearly a virgin (no offense intended, it's fine to be a virgin), he's got HUGE BALLS OF STEEL. Hat's off to you, my friend! And good luck.

pancakeonions wrote:
And I do admit, even though Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl is clearly a virgin

Except he isn't, not that one's virginity should ever matter at all. Your statement about him having balls of steel was fine without the pointless 'virgin' addition.

 Chongara wrote:
Because online dating is a competitive space. You're looking to gain the attention of other people, and people have limited time and energy to spend thinking about getting date. You need to stand out from the other 60 messages they got this week. That means sticking to the high points. It's fine to enjoy nerdy hobbies but they're not particular useful in the "Why you should date me" elevator pitch that is an online dating profile, at least for most the population anyway.

This is good advice if your primary goal is "get someone, anyone, to have sex with me". Which is a perfectly legitimate goal to have, as long as you're honest with yourself about what you're looking for. But some of us have more specific goals in mind and mass appeal isn't very important. I'm not going to be very interested in the kind of person who doesn't find nerdy hobbies appealing, so why do I care if I fail to attract them?


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 Avatar 720 wrote:
not that one's virginity should ever matter at all.

It does matter in this context, because there's a difference between offering advice based on experience and offering theoretical advice about something you've never done.


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pancakeonions wrote:
B) it's more appealing to 99.9999% of your potential mates.

So what? 99.9999% of my potential mates are people I have no interest in dating. If a brief mention of 40k in my profile is enough to keep the clutter out of my dating pool then I'll consider that a success.

Again, I agree with Peregrine (WTF?!)

Unless you're just looking to get your dick wet (which again, is fine) be honest about the HOBBIES you enjoy. Unlike purchasing shoes, a hobby takes time to participate in, not just a credit card.

And honestly, I think you'd be surprised at how many attractive girls not only don't care if you have something nerdy about you, but can appreciate the artistic attention to detail war gaming in particular entails.

Just don't make it the only fething thing you're interested in. Diversify yourself.

I know the girl Im with right now is interested to hear about my nerdy hobbies.

It does matter in this context, because there's a difference between offering advice based on experience and offering theoretical advice about something you've never done.

So a virgin cannot have dating experience? Got it. Peregrine says that you have to have had sex to qualify to give dating experience, everyone. Time for some of us to pack up and go home.

 Peregrine wrote:

 Chongara wrote:
Because online dating is a competitive space. You're looking to gain the attention of other people, and people have limited time and energy to spend thinking about getting date. You need to stand out from the other 60 messages they got this week. That means sticking to the high points. It's fine to enjoy nerdy hobbies but they're not particular useful in the "Why you should date me" elevator pitch that is an online dating profile, at least for most the population anyway.

This is good advice if your primary goal is "get someone, anyone, to have sex with me". Which is a perfectly legitimate goal to have, as long as you're honest with yourself about what you're looking for. But some of us have more specific goals in mind and mass appeal isn't very important. I'm not going to be very interested in the kind of person who doesn't find nerdy hobbies appealing, so why do I care if I fail to attract them?

If the slice of the population you want to potentially foster relationships is limited to "Those who already/have like nerdy hobbies, and use nerdy hobbies as primary means identifying possible dates" that's pretty narrow-minded and shallow.

There are a lot of really cool people out there. People that are fun, intelligent and supportive individuals that are just plain nice to spend time with. The vast majority these people would have no idea what "Warhammer 40k" is, and a fair number might even have an initial reaction of "I dunno, that sounds kind of weird" if they googled it or saw a picture of a stranger surrounded by minis. These are initial reactions though, and after a while hanging out that "I dunno, sounds kind of weird" becomes "Oh? Really. How do you paint something that small? That's cool".

When you're making first impressions you have only a few limited moments to sparks someone's interest. If you're only willing to do that with people who are going to gravitate a set of really niche interests you're just forcing yourself into a little box. You'll have time to put forward that more nuanced and complicated picture of yourself later, that's what getting to know people is all about.

Taking a genuine interest in some things with broader appeal, and using that to have real engagement with people who share those interests does a lot to open the world up and not "Just for getting your dick wet".

What if we're expert masturbators? I bet that makes me qualified to give dating experience and know what women want! (I actually had a friend in college, both virgin and drunk, use that line on an attractive woman in my dorm. Remains to this day one of the most cringeworthy experiences I've seen)

Playful ribbing aside, if you're up for putting a wee thing into your online dating profile on your toy soldiers, go to it! I just can't imagine... That really, er, playing in your favor, that's all.


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 Peregrine wrote:

 Chongara wrote:
Because online dating is a competitive space. You're looking to gain the attention of other people, and people have limited time and energy to spend thinking about getting date. You need to stand out from the other 60 messages they got this week. That means sticking to the high points. It's fine to enjoy nerdy hobbies but they're not particular useful in the "Why you should date me" elevator pitch that is an online dating profile, at least for most the population anyway.

This is good advice if your primary goal is "get someone, anyone, to have sex with me". Which is a perfectly legitimate goal to have, as long as you're honest with yourself about what you're looking for. But some of us have more specific goals in mind and mass appeal isn't very important. I'm not going to be very interested in the kind of person who doesn't find nerdy hobbies appealing, so why do I care if I fail to attract them?

If the slice of the population you want to potentially foster relationships is limited to "Those who already/have like nerdy hobbies, and use nerdy hobbies as primary means identifying possible dates" that's pretty narrow-minded and shallow.

There are a lot of really cool people out there. People that are fun, intelligent and supportive individuals that are just plain nice to spend time with. The vast majority these people would have no idea what "Warhammer 40k" is, and a fair number might even have an initial reaction of "I dunno, that sounds kind of weird" if they googled it or saw a picture of a stranger surrounded by minis. These are initial reactions though, and after a while hanging out that "I dunno, sounds kind of weird" becomes "Oh? Really. How do you paint something that small? That's cool".

When you're making first impressions you have only a few limited moments to sparks someone's interest. If you're only willing to do that with people who are going to gravitate a set of really niche interests you're just forcing yourself into this a little box. You'll have time to put forward that more nuanced and complicated picture of yourself later, that's what getting to know people is all about.

Taking a genuine interest in some things with broader appeal, and using that to have real engagement with people who share those interests does a lot to open the world up and not "Just for getting your dick wet".

I think I'm just gonna have to hire Chongara to do all my posting and dating advice from now on. That's pretty much exactly what was going on in my head, but instead I blathered on about masturbating.

My wife is exactly one of those amazing people who would have seen my toy soldiers and gone "huh. no thanks", but now that she knows me, and has that context, she's totally cool with it.

As was said above, and could be said about many things, save it for later. Let her earn it once she gets to know you.

 Avatar 720 wrote:

It does matter in this context, because there's a difference between offering advice based on experience and offering theoretical advice about something you've never done.

So a virgin cannot have dating experience? Got it. Peregrine says that you have to have had sex to qualify to give dating experience, everyone. Time for some of us to pack up and go home.

Everyone is entitled to express his or her opinion. But you have to consider the source...

Whose advice on weight training would you trust more, some guy who went to Planet Fitness once? Or a competitive powerlifter?

 Chongara wrote:
If the slice of the population you want to potentially foster relationships is limited to "Those who already/have like nerdy hobbies, and use nerdy hobbies as primary means identifying possible dates" that's pretty narrow-minded and shallow.

Knowing what you like and wanting to save your time and energy for people that have long-term potential is hardly "narrow-minded and shallow". And it's certainly less narrow-minded and shallow than the kind of person that rejects someone just because they briefly mentioned a hobby.

Also, that's not really the slice of the population. The actual slice is the "people who like nerdy stuff" group and "people who don't care about nerdy stuff but don't have strong negative reactions to it either". And that's a much larger group.

There are a lot of really cool people out there. People that are fun, intelligent and supportive individuals that are just plain nice to spend time with. The vast majority these people would have no idea what "Warhammer 40k" is, and a fair number might even have an initial reaction of "I dunno, that sounds kind of weird" if they googled it or saw a picture of a stranger surrounded by minis.

And that's your preference to see those people as potential matches. That's fine if you don't put much value on having common interests, but it's not the only legitimate way to do things. I happen to put a high priority on having at least a general overlap on "nerdy hobbies", and the "fun, intelligent and supportive" people who don't have that overlap are in the "you're a nice person, but I'm not interested in dating you" group. And it's incredibly unlikely that someone who instantly dismisses me as a possible date over mentioning a hobby was ever going to be someone I'd be interested in long-term even if I hadn't mentioned whatever scared them off.

When you're making first impressions you have only a few limited moments to sparks someone's interest.

Well yes, which is why mentioning something like 40k is good. It sets you apart from all of the other potential dates the other person might have available, instead of wasting your limited moments of "first impression" time on listing a bunch of bland TV shows or whatever.

If you're only willing to do that with people who are going to gravitate a set of really niche interests you're just forcing yourself into a little box.

It's hardly a "niche interest" when you consider "nerdy hobbies" in general and not just 40k. Someone who likes science fiction/roleplaying/etc is at least going to recognize that you're both the kind of person who would be interested in stuff like 40k, even if they don't share that particular activity. And that's a pretty large group of people.


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 Avatar 720 wrote:
So a virgin cannot have dating experience? Got it. Peregrine says that you have to have had sex to qualify to give dating experience, everyone. Time for some of us to pack up and go home.

No, of course it's not that black and white. But dating threads on gaming forums often have people with no real success or experience with dating giving out advice that is unconventional at best. So the difference between "this is what I've learned from experience" and "these are my theories about how things should work, but I've never tried any of it" is a relevant one. And let's be honest, unless it's for religious reasons (or something similar), being a virgin at 25+ years old is probably a sign that whatever dating method you've been using isn't very effective.

Just a friendly reminder:

http://www.dakkadakka.com/core/forum_rules.jsp

It also should go without saying that swearing, profanity, sexual references, etc, are strictly forbidden, including all images that are posted on or uploaded to our site. Remember that we have users of all ages and that Dakka should be a welcoming place for everyone to enjoy.

pancakeonions wrote:
By not mentioning it, A) you're not saying that you're ashamed of it, and B) it's more appealing to 99.9999% of your potential mates.

Really? When I am looking at someone's profile, I mostly search for stuff we have in common and that we could share. If there is also stuff I do not care about, well, I am not looking for a conjoined twin…
Though, as it has been mentioned, I do not really have much worthy experience.

pancakeonions wrote:
And I do admit, even though Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl is clearly a virgin (no offense intended, it's fine to be a virgin), he's got HUGE BALLS OF STEEL. Hat's off to you, my friend! And good luck.

Thanks but I am not sure what you mean here. And, as it has been pointed, I am technically not a virgin anymore .


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 Chongara wrote:
Taking a genuine interest in some things with broader appeal, and using that to have real engagement with people who share those interests does a lot to open the world up

Yeah, that is why I am putting climbing, and cooking, forward more than wargaming. Actually the lion's share of my profile is, I am afraid, in the “Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food” section, because it is the easier to flesh out. And if I really think about it, I am not sure it is such a good idea because music and books do not matter that much. Movies do though. I would really like to find someone interested in the same kind of movies I am into. I already found one, even though it sadly did not really work for a bunch of reasons (including her living in another country ).

Knowing when to be yourself and who with is important.
Like the girl im dating(Idk, Second date went well, we talked for like 50 minutes after the food was done. Dating is hard)
We where talking about cartoons and stuff and I accidently let it slip I used to be a brony. She didnt care cause she was an anime nut/convention nut/tumblr girl and she knew it was just something I used to do, and I knew some weird things about her.
If I did that with say another girl, it would be bad, but it just depends. IF you are going out with a normal soririty girl, showing your Xwing models might be weird.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
IF you are going out with a normal soririty girl, showing your Xwing models might be weird.

Why?

Because all they like is nail polish and shoes?

In my experience with the sorority girls on this campus it would be weird.
Im talking about first date kinda stuff.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
In my experience with the sorority girls on this campus it would be weird.

You're talking about a huge number of people, and treating them like a single monolithic group.

But then again I'm biased in my hatred of these fraternities and sororties on campus.because that's my experience with them.

 cincydooley wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
IF you are going out with a normal soririty girl, showing your Xwing models might be weird.

Why?

Because all they like is nail polish and shoes?

That's pretty close, even if your generalizations are kinda painful.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Knowing when to be yourself and who with is important.
Like the girl im dating(Idk, Second date went well, we talked for like 50 minutes after the food was done. Dating is hard)
We where talking about cartoons and stuff and I accidently let it slip I used to be a brony. She didnt care cause she was an anime nut/convention nut/tumblr girl and she knew it was just something I used to do, and I knew some weird things about her.
If I did that with say another girl, it would be bad, but it just depends. IF you are going out with a normal soririty girl, showing your Xwing models might be weird.

If she accepts that you used to be a brony and didn't run screaming, then don't let her get away! Even if you have to tie her up, keep her in your basement, and have a chipMONK perform the wedding ceremony!*

*total advocate of bronies who kidnap.


**not really.

Lol, it was a conversation about crazy fandoms, and she said she was that way with supernatural. she herself go to an I'm conventions, so she knows weird stuff exists and is fine with it.
I'm not sure what to do know. What after a second date.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Lol, it was a conversation about crazy fandoms, and she said she was that way with supernatural. she herself go to an I'm conventions, so she knows weird stuff exists and is fine with it.
I'm not sure what to do know. What after a second date.

FHRITP.

Ask her to carry your demon spawn.

Following what Nuggz said.

People are less 'weirded out' by hobbies, fandoms and such more they are being cautious of timesinks and moneysinks which can be representative or lead to addiction and relationship neglect.

Being a Huge starwars fan isn't a big deal. Coming home and seeing a 25k$ collection of starwars memorabilia where one has neglected aspects of their lives to collect is a red flag.

Gaming, especially MMORPG can be worse than a drug addiction. Anyone who has played WoW knows people fail out of school, neglect their personal lives, lose jobs, spend money and sacrifice health to play it.

Many people have had legitimate bad experiences with people who 'overgame' or 'overcollect'. So they see such things as a gateway to neglect and addiction. I can't blame them.

Everyone has hobbies, everyone likes stuff which is not appealing to their partners. People have personal stuff, but when dating, you want to find stuff in common, and not try to say 'like what I like or screw you. I'm not gonna change.'

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
tumblr girl

Red flag, man. Red flag.

What is your problem with Tumblr?

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
What is your problem with Tumblr?

For lack of a better term, attention whoring. I've dated a Tumblr girl that I met via OkCupid. She was insanely hot and completely flying rodent gak crazy.

At this moment, I just need experience.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:
What is your problem with Tumblr?

Tumblr is 4chan rebranded with a target group. Same level.

Well, I like her. Now I just need to know what to do after the second date.
Jeez, this gak is hard.

Like Nuggz said....FHRITP

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Well, I like her. Now I just need to know what to do after the second date.
Jeez, this gak is hard.

It sounds really, really stupid but it's effective and at the very least, you get to know your potential SO better:

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html?_r=0

Give it a try. If you think that using those cards is too awkward, memorize some or all and ask them right away.

 Sigvatr wrote:
Tumblr is 4chan rebranded with a target group.

Tumblr has harassment campaigns and pedopornography and anonymous posting and stuff?

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Sigvatr wrote:
Tumblr is 4chan rebranded with a target group.

Tumblr has harassment campaigns and pedopornography and anonymous posting and stuff?

4chan and Tumblr are on the same coin, just different sides. 4chan has gore, porn and social rejects, Tumblr has...gore, porn and social rejects. 4chan isn't limited to /b/, Tumblr isn't limited to feminazis. Both have their ups and dows. Put 4chan and Tumblr in a bag, put some stones on it and throw it in the kitty river. Instantly improve the internet.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Lol, it was a conversation about crazy fandoms, and she said she was that way with supernatural. she herself go to an I'm conventions, so she knows weird stuff exists and is fine with it.
I'm not sure what to do know. What after a second date.

I've always been curious about watching supernatural.

Not to be rude here but have you been improving your physical form at all? If i recall some said it wasn't too good months ago. If you judge women in a similar fashion then it should only be fair of them to judge you in that fashion as well. Sure it's a bit shallow but at the very least you want to appeal to women to get a girlfriend.

If I can also give advice. Message every girl, not just the ones who have interesting profiles. My friend said 10 a day or more.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Knowing when to be yourself and who with is important.
Like the girl im dating(Idk, Second date went well, we talked for like 50 minutes after the food was done. Dating is hard)
We where talking about cartoons and stuff and I accidently let it slip I used to be a brony. She didnt care cause she was an anime nut/convention nut/tumblr girl and she knew it was just something I used to do, and I knew some weird things about her.
If I did that with say another girl, it would be bad, but it just depends. IF you are going out with a normal soririty girl, showing your Xwing models might be weird.

I'm glad something positive came out of albatrosses date thread. keep it up sauceman.

FHRITP - i'm not too sure it's a wise idea to try anywhere else on a 3rd date.

 Sigvatr wrote:
Tumblr has...gore, porn and social rejects.

Tumblr has gore?

Hell yeah.

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Sigvatr wrote:
Tumblr has...gore, porn and social rejects.

Tumblr has gore?

Google it. That's just the easily available stuff. Tumblr has some nasty back alleys at /b/ level...or worse.

That awkward moment when you stumble on your GF's tumblr and find that she has pictures of her pierced nipples, sex gifs (not of her thank god), and pics of her in nothing but underwear all over it.

That is why you don't date tumblr girls...especially if they have a history of emotional/physical/sexual abuse...just stay away from that.

Sauce- for your second date, go someplace like one of the campus theatre productions or something. You probably get in for free as a student, and it will be something you guys can talk about later.

Take her to a campus poetry recital.

Afterwards, invite her to your place and show her your Longfellow.

 Easy E wrote:
Sauce- for your second date, go someplace like one of the campus theatre productions or something. You probably get in for free as a student, and it will be something you guys can talk about later.

Already went on a second date.
Now I just need a third one. I may try that. But im leaving for a weekend, so then she is. so Yeah.

 trexmeyer wrote:
That awkward moment when you stumble on your GF's tumblr and find that she has pictures of her pierced nipples, sex gifs (not of her thank god), and pics of her in nothing but underwear all over it.

That is why you don't date tumblr girls...especially if they have a history of emotional/physical/sexual abuse...just stay away from that.

I feel I would not care .

 hotsauceman1 wrote:

 Easy E wrote:
Sauce- for your second date, go someplace like one of the campus theatre productions or something. You probably get in for free as a student, and it will be something you guys can talk about later.

Already went on a second date.
Now I just need a third one. I may try that. But im leaving for a weekend, so then she is. so Yeah.

Keep in mind, I know nothing about the area, but is there something outdoorsy you guys can do?


Online Dating you say? Is that where you call people and there is more than one person on the phone?

Im not sure, I will think. It sucks because I only for a few weeks until im back home :(

 hotsauceman1 wrote:

 Easy E wrote:
Sauce- for your second date, go someplace like one of the campus theatre productions or something. You probably get in for free as a student, and it will be something you guys can talk about later.

Already went on a second date.
Now I just need a third one. I may try that. But im leaving for a weekend, so then she is. so Yeah.

Did you FHRITP yet?

No, I didnt.

FHRITP?

Ask Jameis.

I've finished Empire at War now (well, I suppose I could still do the Empire story mission).

Forces of Corruption was hilarious at the end with the story ending on a pointless non existing sequel hook final scene.

I'm now, as I'm waiting for my new computer to turn up, playing Don't Starve.

 Compel wrote:
I've finished Empire at War now (well, I suppose I could still do the Empire story mission).

Forces of Corruption was hilarious at the end with the story ending on a pointless non existing sequel hook final scene.

I'm now, as I'm waiting for my new computer to turn up, playing Don't Starve.

I think you're looking for the 'what are you playing now' thread.

Yes, yes I am...

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
No, I didnt.

There's your third date idea.

 flamingkillamajig wrote:

 Compel wrote:
I've finished Empire at War now (well, I suppose I could still do the Empire story mission).

Forces of Corruption was hilarious at the end with the story ending on a pointless non existing sequel hook final scene.

I'm now, as I'm waiting for my new computer to turn up, playing Don't Starve.

I think you're looking for the 'what are you playing now' thread.

Either that, or it's some sort of Pick-Up Artist-style code.

I have this weird deja-vu feeling...

 Albatross wrote:


I have this weird deja-vu feeling...

Ancient Buddha say HOLY FETH!!!

 Frazzled wrote:

 Albatross wrote:


I have this weird deja-vu feeling...

Ancient Buddha say HOLY FETH!!!

What? You didn't know? Its Teriyaki humans in a can

 Jihadin wrote:

 Frazzled wrote:

 Albatross wrote:


I have this weird deja-vu feeling...

Ancient Buddha say HOLY FETH!!!

What? You didn't know? Its Teriyaki humans in a can

Bear I to Bear II: I told you I don't like SPAM! Ok this one time. NOMNOMNOM!

 Albatross wrote:
I have this weird deja-vu feeling...

Ahah, if I get a girlfriend, I will definitely PM you the news, Albatross .

Here is some other Online Dating Advise.

DON"T!

Instead, just do things that are outside of your comfort zone that involve other people for a while and you will meet more people. The more people you meet, the more people you will have a chance to date or set-up dates for you.

I.E. Do more stuff!

There's nothing wrong with Online Dating as a concept. It greatly increases the chances of finding an appropriate partner as you get to know him / her better before meeting; i.e. mutual interest, hobbies and stuff.

 Sigvatr wrote:
There's nothing wrong with Online Dating as a concept. It greatly increases the chances of finding an appropriate partner as you get to know him / her better before meeting; i.e. mutual interest, hobbies and stuff.

Think of it as fishing, sometimes you will just toss it out and catch nothing (like me, I have never caught a fish) sometimes you have people who do it professionally.

 Easy E wrote:
Instead, just do things that are outside of your comfort zone that involve other people for a while and you will meet more people.

Which things?

 hotsauceman1 wrote:

 Sigvatr wrote:
There's nothing wrong with Online Dating as a concept. It greatly increases the chances of finding an appropriate partner as you get to know him / her better before meeting; i.e. mutual interest, hobbies and stuff.

Think of it as fishing, sometimes you will just toss it out and catch nothing...

Wearing a condom helps with that..

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Easy E wrote:
Instead, just do things that are outside of your comfort zone that involve other people for a while and you will meet more people.

Which things?

Anything that gets you around other people.

 Easy E wrote:

 Hybrid Son Of Oxayotl wrote:

 Easy E wrote:
Instead, just do things that are outside of your comfort zone that involve other people for a while and you will meet more people.

Which things?

Anything that gets you around other people.

inb4 sexual harassment lawsuit!

i don;t know you personally and don't take what im about to say the wrong way..but in my opinion online dating seems to be the last ditch effort to fill a void in ones life. The old fashion way of going to the bar or hell even lingering like a bad fart in the produce section at the grocery store i think has a better chance of working, Online dating is a sure fire way to get ripped off, or end up on a date with boss nass who had a picture borrowed from somebody else's profile. I'm not sure if your a shy guy or what, but your better off cutting your teeth and growing confidence the old fashion way..yeah you might end up asking a few grenades out, but its better then have a long drug out fake online experience that results in you in buffalo bill's pit.

Crimson Heretic wrote:
i don;t know you personally and don't take what im about to say the wrong way..but in my opinion online dating seems to be the last ditch effort to fill a void in ones life. The old fashion way of going to the bar or hell even lingering like a bad fart in the produce section at the grocery store i think has a better chance of working, Online dating is a sure fire way to get ripped off, or end up on a date with boss nass who had a picture borrowed from somebody else's profile. I'm not sure if your a shy guy or what, but your better off cutting your teeth and growing confidence the old fashion way..yeah you might end up asking a few grenades out, but its better then have a long drug out fake online experience that results in you in buffalo bill's pit.

I can pretty much guarantee you that online dating beats lingering around like a bad fart and harassing people at the grocery store. With online dating, you know everyone is there for the same thing: to meet someone. Trying to pick up a stranger at a grocery store is creepy. At a bar, eh. OK. Maybe. Good way to get herpes, too.

I'd stick with the online shenanigans.

There's varying degrees of success or this I think.For instance- I got a 2yr relationship out of 1 site a while back, and just recently I got a creepy man transitioning to a woman spamming me messages on another. So YMMV lol

 Easy E wrote:
Anything that gets you around other people.

Wargaming ?
Nah, seriously, what? Climbing did not help.

Crimson Heretic wrote:
but in my opinion online dating seems to be the last ditch effort to fill a void in ones life.

Your opinion seems to be stuck in the 1980s.

The old fashion way of going to the bar

You mean meeting the exact same people you'd meet online, except without the ability to filter out the obvious bad matches before buying them a drink?

or hell even lingering like a bad fart in the produce section at the grocery store

AKA "being really creepy and awkward". I really don't see how this is supposed to be better than online dating.

Online dating is a sure fire way to get ripped off

Only if you pay for it. Nobody pays for online dating anymore.