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Hey guys, I have been facing a lot of stress inducing situations lately. Money is tight with no job at the moment, and a flatmate that owes almost £2k in rent and bills. I'm looking at having to move out of my flat and back to my parents, away from all my mates because of this situation. I have found my temper getting short and almost went on a mini-rampage when my trousers split today lifting someone up on a 'scoop' during an Ambulance Aid course for my volunteer work. To top it off my cravings for cigarettes have been on the rise that I'm on the verge of going to the shops to get some; thus ending several months without a smoke.

Any advice on ways to beat the stress in life? What do you do to relax when you feel like going 'stabby'?

Go running.

Or drinking.

I go stabby. Buy a 2x8 Sheet of Polystyrene insulation foam, and just maul it with whatever you get. I've done it with kinves, saws, bow and arrows, nailguns, and even a chainsaw.

Doing Exercise gets my mind of the stress, and makes me feel better, though if it is Girl related problems i just punch a punching bag for 3 hours.

I notice you mentioned before that you had depression. I have it too and I know when it's hitting me as I don't have the resources to cope. An experiment that goes wrong in the lab turns from 'oh feck' to *RAAAAAAAAAAGE* or else crying.

I would attempt to extricate yourself from the situation, make sure your flatmate gets you the money (send the boys round, hollowpoint to knees, Orange juice glass to the face, polite letter, etc) Also make sure you are getting emotional support as well as medical help

What do I do? I get stabby.

FIRING RANGE TIME!

While I hate to be a killjoy, I would suggest against using weaponry when extremely stressed.

That includes chowders suggestion.

Weaponry is too extreme, not like I could go pop a cap in the local Heretic and get away free.

Phototoxin wrote:I notice you mentioned before that you had depression. I have it too and I know when it's hitting me as I don't have the resources to cope. An experiment that goes wrong in the lab turns from 'oh feck' to *RAAAAAAAAAAGE* or else crying.

I would attempt to extricate yourself from the situation, make sure your flatmate gets you the money (send the boys round, hollowpoint to knees, Orange juice glass to the face, polite letter, etc) Also make sure you are getting emotional support as well as medical help

This.

Your flatmate owes you money, if all else has failed you can go legal (can get protracted) or cut your losses and toss them out. You may not get the cash owed you either way but the situation is dealt with and takes that trigger away.

Moving away from your friends is a tough one, stay in contact as much as possible.

Get some emotional help, it may sound wussy but you can call The Samaritans. They are non judgemental and are there to listen, vent to them, its what they are there for. Talk to your mates as well I'm sure that someone will lend an ear to you.

Go to your doctor. They may refer you to your local mental health unit or a thrid party. I think you will get a telephone consult if you go down this route and you could then be refered to the best available solution.

Exercise is good, even just going out for a walk.

Channeling your thoughts of violence into exercise may help you cope but does not deal with the issues that trigger your stress.

Weaponry is too extreme, not like I could go pop a cap in the local Heretic and get away free.

You -DID- ask what I do when I feel like getting stabby, you know! The one thing I avoid at all costs when I get that way is alcohol though. It just turns me into a <CENSORED> when I am already in a bad mood.

corpsesarefun wrote:While I hate to be a killjoy, I would suggest against using weaponry when extremely stressed.

That includes chowders suggestion.

Oh you Brits


Seriously going to a shooting range is EXTREMELY relaxing. My brother has one set up in the back field of his house, so we can shoot off pistols and shotguns. Its a great stress reliever I can tell ya. Something about the loud bangs, and blowing holes in things just puts you in a better mood.


OP - Some years ago, the wife and I lived in a gakky little trailer park and money was beyond tight. Infact we couldnt even afford to live there really, and had to be on state aid and all that jazz. It sucked. And I can tell you all our problems spawned from lack of money, just like you. I didnt have a good nights sleep for literally 4 years. I was always pissed off and moody and things just sucked. But you get over it. If you have to move in with your folks, then so be it. I know a grown man doesnt want to do that but you do what you have to, to move on. If you do that, youll be able to get your affairs in order and get everything back on the right. I wont really give ideas of how to deal with the stress, as thats really up to you, I could say jog 4 miles everyday, itll help! But if you arnt the jogging type, Im wasting my breath. Just go and figure out what helps you to calm down and relax, and do it every now and then.

Break out the LARPing weapons, get one of the lads round and give each other a pasting!

Azza007 wrote:Hey guys, I have been facing a lot of stress inducing situations lately. Money is tight with no job at the moment, and a flatmate that owes almost £2k in rent and bills. I'm looking at having to move out of my flat and back to my parents, away from all my mates because of this situation. I have found my temper getting short and almost went on a mini-rampage when my trousers split today lifting someone up on a 'scoop' during an Ambulance Aid course for my volunteer work. To top it off my cravings for cigarettes have been on the rise that I'm on the verge of going to the shops to get some; thus ending several months without a smoke.

Any advice on ways to beat the stress in life? What do you do to relax when you feel like going 'stabby'?

It is important to remember that it is the amalgamation of several factors in your life that's making you like this. Part of the solution therefore is to break it down into the individual problems and start to work out what can be solved.

1. You are in financial hardship.
2. Your flatmate owes you a sizeable amount.
3. You are facing relocation due to lack of money.
4. You will lose regular contact with your friends if you move.
5. You are aware that the stress of the above factors is causing you to crave cigarettes and have a short temper.

So lets break this down a mite.

1. can be soothed somewhat by 2., so what are your chances of getting that money back (and how in the hell did you lend 2k to someone that won't pay it back?!?). Hard to face but if getting the money back is not realistic, then decide to either take a particular revenge or just cut your loses and lose the loser.

2. How and can you get that money back? If it's ultimately a bad debt and the guy or girl is not going to pay back, answer yourself this question, are you going to hang that fether over a bridge and shake them or are you not, if you're not prepared to fight for it, cut the loses and walk away from that person. And when you walk away, you cut them out of your life like a cancer.

3. You will have to relocate, but is it possible to relocate to a much smaller apartment or bedsit for the time being? If you have a regular income, this will be feasible.

4. See above, scale right down for the time, whilst you have little finance, live frugal, become friends with baked potatoes, pasta and rice dishes. Remind yourself during this time that it is transitory, it will pass once you have regained financial control.


Work, earn cash, live in the cheapest accommodation in your area possible, cut all contact with the flatmate that has led you to this regardless of if he or she pays you back.

I think MeanGreenStompa has it down tbh. Although things may be going gakky for you at the moment, aside from the shooting range advice (which, sadly, is not feasible in Bath!) there is some good advice here.
Move back to your parents by all means, just stay in contact with friends and try to sort out the money problem. Just out of interest, is the £2000 skipped rent or did you lend it to your flatmate? If it's skipped rent and your flatmate was in a proper tenancy agreement then you have a better chance of getting it back, not great, but better....

Exercise. Go for a run. Go swimming. Do pushups, sit ups. It relieves stress and costs nothing.

I gots soundproof walls, so I scream as loud as I can. That, or I go running.

PLAY VIOLENT VIDEO GAMES! It really blows the stress away. Though if you're the type who rage quits...

I buy dolls. Like plush, cheap, made in china ones. If nothing else works, I go on a rampage, ripping off heads and sh*t.

Music helps, too, sometimes.

Working out or martial arts are a good way to let off some steam.

You are in the UK, right? On a rainy day, go to your nearest castle. Stand on the wall in a metal hat all day and pretend that if you leave, your feudal lord will have you hanged.

Then your real life will seem great!

Rub one out...

feeder wrote:You are in the UK, right? On a rainy day, go to your nearest castle. Stand on the wall in a metal hat all day and pretend that if you leave, your feudal lord will have you hanged.

Then your real life will seem great!

I second this advice.

Go see your doctor rather than posting on Dakka

Chibi Bodge-Battle wrote:Go see your doctor rather than posting on Dakka

I second this as well, but you may want to seek a second opinion.

I dunno whether or not I was just unlucky, but the times i've been to see a shrink on the NHS have been worthless, it's just a combination of "We think you'll become addicted, so you're not getting happy pills, now tell us about your life... hmm, yeah, that sounds crappy, oh well, it'll get better, see you next time for the exact same talk."

It was about as useful as a chocolate teapot; in fact, I became more depressed because now the therapist, who is paid to help me and paid to care, is acting like they don't give a crap; awesome.

I think MGS has the gist of it, anyhow.

Relax?

....poooooooonies........

I always hug out my aggression on a plushie.

Play some violent video games and have a feth occasionally. Seems to work for everyone.

grab something hard. go out and take you anger out on a tree or wooden post. keep up til you cant go any longer.

that or just punch the tree. or choke a pillow to death.

lord commissar klimino wrote:grab something hard. go out and take you anger out on a tree or wooden post. keep up til you cant go any longer.

Sounds kinky.

Avatar 720 wrote:but the times i've been to see a shrink on the NHS have been worthless

Shrinks do generally do good for people, but it seems that the way things are right now, you never get to see one, there is either a waiting list a century long, or the GP just cuts out the whole process and starts dishing out anti-depressants like m&m's, so either way it doesn't really help. Although the successful treatments I've seen are generally very successful.


As for stress relief, I can't remember who exactly on Dakka (Might have been MGS or KC, could also be Frazzled) gave me this stress-busting tip years ago when I posted about stress-busting on Dakka:

Put on the heaviest most hardcore music you have, and clean the kitchen/bathroom/room that needs cleaning. Have a really good mosh/headbanging session as you clean up.

Tried it and can confirm it's pretty damn effective, I didn't realise that wiping off grease and other crap while headbanging to Rammstein could be so therapeutic!

Really when i ever get mad at someone i go into my room lock it turn on re4 turn on mercenaries mode and kill hundreds of zombies with my killer 7 oh the good ole days.