Cocked and locked on a 1911 is for a different purpose than a DA/SA or Glock style.
Not sure what you mean by "purpose." Both the Glock and 1911 are primarily intended as fighting pistols.
In my opinion the optimal fighting pisol is a DAO, double stack, no controls, no external hammer. That's my opinion...
If somebody is experienced with a 1911, I'd suggest they go with what they know. But from a blank slate, I recommend the simple DAO pistol. I also tend to think that the popularity of 1911s is almost entirely due to nostalgia, reputation and the like. As fighting implements, they're really not all that friendly. This is a very MINOR distinction. A 1911 can certainly perform admirably as a fighting handgun, it's just not optimal.
Obviously the US military disagrees with me. They want all their sidearms to be laden with every bell and whistle possible. Grip safety, trigger safety, manual safety, decocker, etc. etc. etc. They love bells and whistles. I don't know why.
I also don't agree that a Glock is in any way more likely to accidental discharge than a 1911. On the contrary a
SA trigger is far more likely to do so than a DAO. I realize there are anecdotes and monikers for ADs with Glocks, but I think they're more of a product of the "gun wars" between various factions, and less about actual reality.
And that's basically along the line with what I'm saying, which is "best fighting handgun." In that category, it's any of the top end DAO, no controls autoloaders, the Glocks/XDs/Kahrs, etc.
As I mentioned before I really don't like shooting Glocks just for the sake of shooting. If I'm doing actual combat drills, I'll train with a Glock since it's what I carry, and the satisfaction of doing the training is what I'm after. But if I'm just standing still in a lane, shooting at paper, I prefer something nicer to shoot.
The XDM is kind of like a glock clone, but with more safeties, and looks like it was designed by a dirtbike manufacturer
Well, Croatians. I actually have one of the original HS2000s. They're actually not quite as nice as the XDs that came later.
i feel that muzzle control and proper handling are the only safeties a conscientious shooter should need, but not everyone shares that view.
I tend to agree. A lot of the drills I work on are about assuring that the weapon is never pointed at onesself, even for an instant, that the finger is off the trigger unless firing, etc. There are whole rituals and muscle memory training patterns that teach proper safety, and this is really all that can be relied upon.
You may be called upon to operate a weapon that has no safety. If you rely on it to be safe, you're not a trained gun fighter.
i'd like to hear about your experiences with the kimber
I carried a Kimber Ultra Carry II for about a year.
So, re: earlier comments, it's not like I bought a Glock and decided that was the be-all end-all. I actually owned and carried many guns before I finally admitted to myself that a Glock is the correct weapon for fighting.
Anyway, it did not function flawlessly, it did have some feed issues, as most 1911s I've seen do. Usually this can be resolved by choosing the right ammo for the gun, and keeping it clean, but it lines up with the 'not all they're cracked up to be' stuff you're hearing. I'd generalize that to all 1911s, not just Kimbers, though.
If you do want a 1911, I think a Kimber is a fine choice. If you want to save some money, the Taurus PT1911 is also very good. It's one of the few 1911s I've owned/dealt with that DIDN'T have problems.
Also, yet ANOTHER reason I don't like 1911s for carry is that they've got a sharp hammer and pointy beavertail just waiting to destroy your ribs when you sit in the car, etc. etc.
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