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Golden Eyed Scout wrote:I know some people might disaggree, but it's true. The world is made up of nice guys/gentlemen/fedora men and pricks/asses/douches, and I'm the former. Yet why do I lose?
For that matter, why do all nice guys lose? You know what I'm talking about. Johnny Screws Everything He Sees has a wonderful guirlfriend who loves him, yet, as his name suggests, he goes off and screws the first thing that breathes. When you asks his lady why she dates him, she replys "I just love the bad boy vibe." WTF!!!

Sorry, just had to rant. Feel free to argue about this subject.





Thing is, it's nice and comforting to think that other people are getting girls because you're nice and they're not. It's very unlikely that's what is going on. It may be that the biggest thing you've got going for you is the idea that you're nice, which is not a good place to be. How many girls have you wanted to date because they're nice... no we want to date people who are interesting, funny, outgoing, active and good looking.

I'd recommend you get out there and develop some features that will attract women. Become stupendously rich. Take on an exciting hobby like parachuting or seal punching. Ask out enough women that you become comfortable with rejection and develop a clue as to what works (and if you do please PM some tips).

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Adam Smith, who must have been some kind of leftie or something. 
   
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Take on an exciting hobby like parachuting or seal punching.


. SEAL PUNCHING FTFW!!! Oh, man sebster you know you need to fight elephants with a tooth-pick in order to become a man .


 
   
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Because beeing evil is WAY more fun? Or perhaps the bad people dont have any morales like nice people have? Just look at 40k, Khorne would not be fun if he was a nice guy! Same goes for the crazy people in the Inqusition and the Commisariat

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@GES , just think of it this way.

Would you really want to be with someone that have no value for someone nice in the first place?

If they choose someone bad over a nice guy for the sheer thrill ,
thats their problem , their loss.

Next thing you see them on Maury's show.

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Thing is, it's nice and comforting to think that other people are getting girls because you're nice and they're not. It's very unlikely that's what is going on. It may be that the biggest thing you've got going for you is the idea that you're nice, which is not a good place to be. How many girls have you wanted to date because they're nice... no we want to date people who are interesting, funny, outgoing, active and good looking.


When I said this my post got modded for being insulting.

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Do you remember that time that thing happened?
This is a bad thread and you should all feel bad 
   
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confidence. If you have the whiney "but, Im the nice guy, that guy is an ass!" thing, then you are very likely low on self confidence. Don't worry about getting a girl to like you, and instead focus on making yourself happy by doing other things. If you become happy with yourself, then others will see that and those who you might get along with from common interests will probably interact with you.
My advice: stop trying so hard. It will happen.


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Because nice guys play by the rules and bad boys don't have to.

Persistence helps though.
Sometimes good things do happen to guys who wait.
I've known my wife for over 20 years. We had a set of friends who overlapped.

We've only been together for 11 years.


I'm OVER 50 (and so far over everyone's BS, too).
Old enough to know better, young enough to not give a ****.

That is not dead which can eternal lie ...

... and yet, with strange aeons, even death may die.
 
   
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LunaHound wrote:
Next thing you see them on Maury's show.


   
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Jin wrote:
Valhallan42nd wrote:Well, I suppose the only solution is to start a band.



Nonono, you want a stable source of income .


Women like men with stable incomes, he's talking about girls. And girls are idiots who like druggie losers in bands.



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Well, I've gotten some good advice from this thread. I think I'll put it to use and let you know if I get tazered or a date.
   
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Valhallan42nd wrote:Women like men with stable incomes, he's talking about girls. And girls are idiots who like druggie losers in bands.


touché

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The older I get the less true this becomes. I was the nice guy too, but I tihnk it's jsut a matter of looking at yourself objectively, "fixing" what's generally unattractive about you rather than focusing on the positive, and just plain being assertive. A little attention to personal detail goes along way, and it doesn't mean your shallow.

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Golden Eyed Scout wrote:
Frazzled wrote:I have a solution.

1. Knowledge is power.
2. Power corrupts.
3. Study hard: Be evil.


Yeah, but being evil is a full time job and requires dedication. WHich i do not have.



This, ladies and gentlemen, is going into my sig.

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Doombot001 wrote:
Golden Eyed Scout wrote:
Frazzled wrote:I have a solution.

1. Knowledge is power.
2. Power corrupts.
3. Study hard: Be evil.


Yeah, but being evil is a full time job and requires dedication. WHich i do not have.



This, ladies and gentlemen, is going into my sig.


Make it so Number One.

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Seriously on topic though...

I felt this way back in the day when I was younger. So I became the arse and treated women not very nice. Bottom line what I've learned is this...

At the end of the day, can you live with yourself with what you've done. If you can, then continue to be the arse. If you can't, then be the nice person.

I did both and while I've learned alot about myself, women, and relationships, I don't have all the answers. But I think just having a man with a lot of life experiences is what women are interested in. Some women will always go for the jerk and whine about it. If that's your case dude, move on to the next woman.

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