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Err, what about casually in bed with? I purposely broke up with a girl I was dating for 3 1/2 years with avoiding having to hear unnecessary chatter as a major motivator and the urge hasn't come back yet. I know it annoys other people and she'll even start the same convo with random retail workers and the like whose eyes glaze over almost immediately ("I work retail too, so I understand how it is, lol! Don't you hate when..."). She's actually gotten in trouble at work for talking to customers too much (with the argument "well at least I provide customer service"). I've told her a few times but she gets very defensive and has low self-esteem so no dice there. It's one of those "this is just the way I am" bs scenarios as she holds back the tears inside that she'll never admit are there but she'll beat herself up internally for later. And lord, when she drinks... it's a roller coaster all around

Things are pretty stable at the moment. We had a fairly normal conversation last night, and a couple of times I asked if I could go on a tangent and that seemed to help. I have no clue how much of it she digested, but that's really not a huge concern for me as I at least got to pretend I had an intelligent conversation so I'm believing the best. I'm filtering myself fairly heavily which is really annoying, but it is what it is.