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My girl is totally fine with it. I told her fairly early on and she thought it was, "ADAWABLE!" I'm apparently her "adawable" lovey dovey poetic buff nerd.

I tend to get a bit sexist here (justly so I'd argue) as I tell guys I date earlier than I do girls.

But either way, I generally don't tell at first so that there's nothing to give them preconceptions based on stereotype about me. But once they know me better I'll mention it at some point. I don't force the conversation topic up like it's something I absolutely must tell them. I just let them see the models and ask me, or if an oppurtunity arises in normal conversation I bring it up; if they disapprove at that point then they're not the kind of person I want to be with. I need to be a nerd, I don't know any other way of life.

If they really care about you then they are not going to have a problem with it at all. She has her lame TV shows, I have my models.

I think I told my girlfriend after a week or two. I had them sitting right on my desk one day, and she asked. I told her. Smoot sailing ever since. Easy enough.

"I guess your name is Creed because you snuck a boner into my pants"

Alexzandvar wrote:"I guess your name is Creed because you snuck a boner into my pants"

I think you need to quote something when you say this. Its rather confusing... like why does creed give you wood? Back to the topic on hand. Just make sure what ever you do, Don't let them pay for anything. right after you break up they will try and say they paid for it all and try and steal the goodness

I wish I never had introduced it to her, I swear to god I would get less flack for being a sportsbar boozhound that simply say's "Oh my god did you see the game!?!?" to any questions as to where I was and why it took so long.

I waited until the kids were old enough so it was just plausible I was buying all the mini's for them.

"He's such a great dad he paints all these little men for the kids"

My warhammer stuff is in a box labeled "Drugs and Porn" when it's at home.

It's easier that way. She comes down from her anger and goes, "Oh. Plastic Space Men. At least it's not drugs and porn."

Also, Kronk, you should get your gal pal to game with you!

Never had this issue as I was with my missus before I started playing.

She does like to joke about my little plastic men though (despite trying a battle once). I just remind her I could be spending the money on blackjack and hookers

Chowderhead wrote:Also, Kronk, you should get your gal pal to game with you!

She played D&D briefly in college. She doesn't seem interested in the miniatures game beyond "What does that gun do?" Perhaps if she watched me play a game or something.

Besides, it's fine if she's not into it. She has her hobbies, too. That's very healthy in a relationship to have your own outlets...so long as your outlet doesn't also have 2 legs...

Tried and failed.

We parted ways not long after I took interest on the hobby again. Not that plastic soldiers were to blame. Actually, they were a comfort in the long, tedious post-breakup days...

My wife is so glad I am not risking permanent injury and liver damage from playing rugby anymore.

So my brothers and the guys we grew up with playing this are in our 30s now, and our parents were talking about how this social interaction is how men of our generation do things rooted outside of the home instead of bowling or going to bars. It's competitive, entertaining, and exclusive. SOME women play, but this is definitely a male generated/orientated activity.

Sasori wrote:I've been married for a while, but it's not something I would hide. If it's a dealbreaker for them, they aren't the kind of person I'd want to continue a relationship with anyway.

This. You let it all out and use it as a filter to get rid of the women that don't swing that way.

Amen i like it when were on the couch and she is sitting next to me watchin her shows when i paint.

Beaviz81 wrote:I sort of think never. I quit WHFB for one girl (she thought it was extremely childish of me), and russ-things. Of course my return was with WH40k, but still I think most girls think of guys who paint and argue about plastic and metal dudes at a table as silly at best.

This is a ridiculous statement.

Do what you enjoy - if the person you are with can't appreciate you for you - screw em. They aren't the right person for you. Quitting something you enjoy - for someone else is just never the right answer. (unless it's like Heroin or something I suppose... but then you have bigger problems!)

cvtuttle wrote:

Beaviz81 wrote:I sort of think never. I quit WHFB for one girl (she thought it was extremely childish of me), and russ-things. Of course my return was with WH40k, but still I think most girls think of guys who paint and argue about plastic and metal dudes at a table as silly at best.

This is a ridiculous statement.

Do what you enjoy - if the person you are with can't appreciate you for you - screw em. They aren't the right person for you. Quitting something you enjoy - for someone else is just never the right answer. (unless it's like Heroin or something I suppose... but then you have bigger problems!)

THIS.

If the girl doesn't like you because your hobby is nerdy or childish why waste your time on her? She obviously doesn't care about who you are or what you are interested in so just move on.

Immediately, hiding things never ends up well.

But if you just want to get laid..... never.