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**Pouncey**

Talizvar wrote:
Pouncey wrote:
I used to celebrate my "anniversary" with my snugglefox. Basically, the day Pouncey became his pet (It's an Internet furry harem thing). (and I call him my snugglefox because his character is basically an anthropomorphic fox elemental with ten tails)
Of course, we'd celebrate by having cybersex all day. <snip>
Glad the relationship was fun while it lasted... disturbing, but at least meant well.
Almost gave me pause like when a co-worker of mine had to go on a business trip with me and said they had clear it with their "master".
Not funny name for husband, but the real deal... still making sense of that one.
Anyway, yes, it could be worse, just love hearing the reason or motivation of why people do things.
Good luck all.

Oh, that relationship is still going on. We just don't "RP" as much as we used to.

**Aftermath.**

Puscifer wrote:
Dude... At least you celebrate anniversaries.

During the 4 years I was married to my now ex wife, she did nothing for our anniversaries.

I took her to Linkin Park's Projekt Revolution at the MK BOWL (which cost a freekin fortune) and I didn't even get a thank you.

I never got Birthday or Xmas presents either.

Consider yourself lucky.

That's what happens when you marry a woman that listens to Linkin Park.

Should have met one at church. Or better yet, just don't get married. It is a trap in most western cultures because of a biased unfair\court system, and most western
women are feminized with an entitlement mentality.

**Lynata**

Aftermath wrote:Should have met one at church. Or better yet, just don't get married. It is a trap in most western cultures because of a biased unfair\court system, and most western women are feminized with an entitlement mentality.

I suppose you purchased a "proper" female from the markets in Arabia.

**kronk**

It sounds like you should just talk to your significant other.

**Talizvar**

Aftermath. wrote:
It is a trap in most western cultures because of a biased unfair\court system, and most western
women are feminized with an entitlement mentality.

Why am I hearing Beyoncé's "Single Ladies" running through my head?

No winning that one with this viewpoint, is not very "inclusive" and rather a broad statement.

It is like anything in life; if something has value and is worth the time and effort and gives a good return on investment: commit to the deal, if not, walk.
Do not sell off if there is a bump in the road, find out what happened.

Cynical sounding but got a wife who is capable, makes a decent wage and is willing to sit down and figure out how to cover all the bases in life with me = partnership.
The mushy stuff is all there but not necessary to get into detail.

She does not game, but you cannot have everything.

It is easier to look out for yourself and not trust others to know your wants.
It is hard to let others look out for you and (gasp!) look out for your interests, when it happens it is rather inspiring, give them a chance.

**gossipmeng**

The SM codex is floating around on the internet.... if you can't wait a few days....

**CT GAMER**

pretre wrote:
XT-1984 wrote:
Dump / divorce her and buy the codex.

Also a mature response. :(

Ask marital advice on a war gaming forum is never wise...

Seriously.

**A GumyBear**

martin74 wrote:
I feel your pain. My wife, of 13 years bought me the new codex as well. Now, I have to wait for it to arriveby mail. im deployed to afghanistan, and, well, mail takes a while.

I hear if you worship nurgle enough he will make so that you don't feel pain

**Andilus Greatsword**

Pouncey wrote:
Puscifer wrote:
Dude... At least you celebrate anniversaries.

I used to celebrate my "anniversary" with my snugglefox. Basically, the day Pouncey became his pet (It's an Internet furry harem thing). (and I call him my snugglefox because his character is basically an anthropomorphic fox elemental with ten tails)

Of course, we'd celebrate by having cybersex all day.

That's how we celebrated both of our birthdays as well.

I'd also do other things for his birthday and for Christmas. Specifically, I'd build a WH40k model based on his character. Once, while I was on a splurging spree before I got my spending habits under control, I bought and painted 3 Vindicators for his birthday.

We live in separate countries, and we're both content to keep the relationship online, so rather than mail the models to him, I'd keep them and sometimes game with them.

But... things started happening that put a major crimp in our usual celebrations. My meds made it so that I can't get off as much as I used to be able to (going down from 4-5 times a day to 1 or 2 times every 2 to 3 days, and cybersex with him going down from 1-2 times every 1-2 days to 1 time every 2-3 months). That combined with me getting really into World of Warcraft made it so that I wasn't able to do that sort of thing with him all day, even on special occasions. I also fell out of my WH40k gaming habit almost exactly two years ago today, so I had no real personal use for more models of his character, or any models at all.

And the whole thing just got less special every year.

Not sure why we needed to hear about your fetish and the regularity of your cyber sex life, but thanks for making me laugh my ass off.

**Quintinus**

Lynata wrote:
Aftermath wrote:Should have met one at church. Or better yet, just don't get married. It is a trap in most western cultures because of a biased unfair\court system, and most western women are feminized with an entitlement mentality.
I suppose you purchased a "proper" female from the markets in Arabia.

No, he just knows the score in America. Pretty poor attempt at a strawman though, I'd only be able to give you a 2/10 on a good day.

In fact, OP's wife is a perfect example of the entitlement complex.

**TheSaintofKilllers**

Reds8n maybe you might just be deleting about everything?
The people you edited are relatively calm and docile normally, and if they said something sexist that's kind of what this implies. Double standards and all that.

**Talizvar**

Vladsimpaler wrote:
Lynata wrote:
Aftermath wrote:Should have met one at church. Or better yet, just don't get married. It is a trap in most western cultures because of a biased unfair\court system, and most western women are feminized with an entitlement mentality.
I suppose you purchased a "proper" female from the markets in Arabia.

No, he just knows the score in America. Pretty poor attempt at a strawman though, I'd only be able to give you a 2/10 on a good day.
In fact, OP's wife is a perfect example of the entitlement complex.

The back stories always add some perspective.
Gotta make it work out or cut her loose.
Not doing either of them any favors being together.
I am sure the fine lady is "sure" she can find a better sa... I mean "partner".
If the guy mentioned is providing for this "fine" person they could find someone more "appreciative" of their other traits.

**Ratius**

Talizvar wrote:

Pouncey wrote:
I used to celebrate my "anniversary" with my snugglefox. Basically, the day Pouncey became his pet (It's an Internet furry harem thing). (and I call him my snugglefox because his character is basically an anthropomorphic fox elemental with ten tails)
Of course, we'd celebrate by having cybersex all day. <snip>

Glad the relationship was fun while it lasted... disturbing, but at least meant well.
Almost gave me pause like when a co-worker of mine had to go on a business trip with me and said they had clear it with their "master".
Not funny name for husband, but the real deal... still making sense of that one.
Anyway, yes, it could be worse, just love hearing the reason or motivation of why people do things.
Good luck all.

Oh, that relationship is still going on. We just don't "RP" as much as we used to.

Pouncey 1 - 0 rest of the thread. cannot breathe over "Snugglefox"

Cute but WEIRD.....

**Quintinus**

Talizvar wrote:
Vladsimpaler wrote:
Lynata wrote:
Aftermath wrote:Should have met one at church. Or better yet, just don't get married. It is a trap in most western cultures because of a biased unfair\court system, and most western women are feminized with an entitlement mentality.
I suppose you purchased a "proper" female from the markets in Arabia.

No, he just knows the score in America. Pretty poor attempt at a strawman though, I'd only be able to give you a 2/10 on a good day.
In fact, OP's wife is a perfect example of the entitlement complex.
The back stories always add some perspective.
Gotta make it work out or cut her loose.
Not doing either of them any favors being together.
I am sure the fine lady is "sure" she can find a better sa... I mean "partner".
If the guy mentioned is providing for this "fine" person they could find someone more "appreciative" of their other traits.

I don't know how it works in Canada; however in America cutting her loose often involves cutting your assets in half as well. (If you're a male.)

**Talizvar**

Vladsimpaler wrote:
I don't know how it works in Canada; however in America cutting her loose often involves cutting your assets in half as well. (If you're a male.)

Let us just say there is a table you look up (not far off from a 40k "to wound") mine would say around $900 a month for "alimony" or kid upkeep or however it is named to cough up and yes, all assets in half (during the time you were with that person).
Ouch, but if as bad as I think for him = priceless.

**Quintinus**

Talizvar wrote:
Vladsimpaler wrote:
I don't know how it works in Canada; however in America cutting her loose often involves cutting your assets in half as well. (If you're a male.)
Let us just say there is a table you look up (not far off from a 40k "to wound") mine would say around $900 a month for "alimony" or kid upkeep or however it is named to cough up and yes, all assets in half (during the time you were with that person).
Ouch, but if as bad as I think for him = priceless.

900 a month?

I'm laughing because of the sheer ridiculousness of it all, plus the reference to the 40k "to-wound table"

Of course, as you said, if it's as bad as you think (and I believe it is), then indeed it would be priceless.

**Lynata**

Vladsimpaler wrote:No, he just knows the score in America. Pretty poor attempt at a strawman though, I'd only be able to give you a 2/10 on a good day.

Not any more of a strawman than looking at "she wants to wait with the present until it's the day" and calling that "entitled", and then going on to apply this to an entire gender. Which is probably why it was so poor.

He is a good example of why society is still struggling with achieving equality, though. If it had been two brothers gifting each other stuff for birthday, nobody would've cast any sort of judgment on an entire group of people.

And I maintain that the "issue" could have been resolved with a simple chat. Pretty sure she doesn't even know how he feels strong enough about this to actually go through the trouble and post on an internet forum.

Vladsimpaler wrote:In fact, OP's wife is a perfect example of the entitlement complex.

How exactly is that entitled? Do you even know if she asked for it, or are you merely operating on assumptions and bias?

Seriously, dakka, sometimes you make me sad. Then again, this is why I don't post in OT - pretty much lost territory over there.

**Kain**

Well the casual misogyny here certainly is disheartening.

And I'm saying this as a married man in his mid twenties.

**Quintinus**

Lynata wrote:
Vladsimpaler wrote:No, he just knows the score in America. Pretty poor attempt at a strawman though, I'd only be able to give you a 2/10 on a good day.
Not any more of a strawman than looking at "she wants to wait with the present until it's the day" and calling that "entitled", and then going on to apply this to an entire gender. Which is probably why it was so poor.

He is a good example of why society is still struggling with achieving equality, though. If it had been two brothers gifting each other stuff for birthday, nobody would've cast any sort of judgment on an entire group of people.

And I maintain that the "issue" could have been resolved with a simple chat. Pretty sure she doesn't even know how he feels strong enough about this to actually go through the trouble and post on an internet forum.

Don't try and turn this into something else. I'm calling you out for your strawman.
I'll bite anyway though. Achieve equality? As in, a 150 GBP bracelet being worth a $58 dollar book? I seriously doubt that two brothers would give such lopsided gifts to eachother. Hell, my brother and I set a limit for how much we give eachother.

The OP is simply a provider. He doesn't have the confidence to confront his wife.

Vladsimpaler wrote:In fact, OP's wife is a perfect example of the entitlement complex.
How exactly is that entitled? Do you even know if she asked for it, or are you merely operating on assumptions and bias?

Seriously, dakka, sometimes you make me sad. Then again, this is why I don't post in OT - pretty much lost territory over there.

I would call her entitled based on the fact that she is getting a 150GBP bracelet in exchange for a 58 book. And that's just what we know.

Kain wrote:
Well the casual misogyny here certainly is disheartening.

And I'm saying this as a married man in his mid twenties.

Don't you have a "honey do" list or something to work on? And to equat "muh soggy knee" with actual problems in the United States is pretty sad.

:edit: I just realized both of you guys aren't from the US.

**Kain**

Vladsimpaler wrote:
Lynata wrote:
Vladsimpaler wrote:No, he just knows the score in America. Pretty poor attempt at a strawman though, I'd only be able to give you a 2/10 on a good day.
Not any more of a strawman than looking at "she wants to wait with the present until it's the day" and calling that "entitled", and then going on to apply this to an entire gender. Which is probably why it was so poor.

He is a good example of why society is still struggling with achieving equality, though. If it had been two brothers gifting each other stuff for birthday, nobody would've cast any sort of judgment on an entire group of people.

And I maintain that the "issue" could have been resolved with a simple chat. Pretty sure she doesn't even know how he feels strong enough about this to actually go through the trouble and post on an internet forum.

Don't try and turn this into something else. I'm calling you out for your strawman.
I'll bite anyway though. Achieve equality? As in, a 150 GBP bracelet being worth a $58 dollar book? I seriously doubt that two brothers would give such lopsided gifts to eachother. Hell, my brother and I set a limit for how much we give eachother.

The OP is simply a provider. He doesn't have the confidence to confront his wife.

Vladsimpaler wrote:In fact, OP's wife is a perfect example of the entitlement complex.
How exactly is that entitled? Do you even know if she asked for it, or are you merely operating on assumptions and bias?

Seriously, dakka, sometimes you make me sad. Then again, this is why I don't post in OT - pretty much lost territory over there.

I would call her entitled based on the fact that she is getting a 150GBP bracelet in exchange for a 58 book. And that's just what we know.

Kain wrote:
Well the casual misogyny here certainly is disheartening.

And I'm saying this as a married man in his mid twenties.

Don't you have a "honey do" list or something to work on? And to equat "muh soggy knee" with actual problems in the United States is pretty sad.

:edit: I just realized both of you guys aren't from the US.

While I agree that the OP needs to take a chill pill, I find some of the comments here less than savory. And I'm afraid I'm not entirely familiar with the terminology you're using.

As for me, I'm a Muscovite who spent some early years in America as well as some of my teens, some more time in Russia, and am now working in South Africa.

**rigeld2**

Vladsimpaler wrote:
Don't try and turn this into something else. I'm calling you out for your strawman.
I'll bite anyway though. Achieve equality? As in, a 150 GBP bracelet being worth a $58 dollar book? I seriously doubt that two brothers would give such lopsided gifts to eachother. Hell, my brother and I set a limit for how much we give eachother.

It's a gift. There's no reason to assume equality. I don't care that the sum MSRP for gifts I've received from my family for the past 2 years is about $200 (parents, 3 siblings, wife) while I spend on average $200 a person for Christmas. Gifts are about giving and the relationship you have with the person, not "I better get this much back". Talk about entitlement...

Vladsimpaler wrote:In fact, OP's wife is a perfect example of the entitlement complex.
How exactly is that entitled? Do you even know if she asked for it, or are you merely operating on assumptions and bias?

Seriously, dakka, sometimes you make me sad. Then again, this is why I don't post in OT - pretty much lost territory over there.

I would call her entitled based on the fact that she is getting a 150GBP bracelet in exchange for a 58 book. And that's just what we know.

Did he ask for more? Did she offer to buy other things? Does the value of gifts matter? Far from entitled.

Kain wrote:
Well the casual misogyny here certainly is disheartening.

And I'm saying this as a married man in his mid twenties.

Don't you have a "honey do" list or something to work on? And to equat "muh soggy knee" with actual problems in the United States is pretty sad.

:edit: I just realized both of you guys aren't from the US.

No, I don't have a honey do list. We split household chores and repairs.
And the US has actual mysoginistic problems - your viewpoint is popular, but flawed.

**Aftermath.**

Vladsimpaler wrote:
Talizvar wrote:
Vladsimpaler wrote:
I don't know how it works in Canada; however in America cutting her loose often involves cutting your assets in half as well. (If you're a male.)
Let us just say there is a table you look up (not far off from a 40k "to wound") mine would say around $900 a month for "alimony" or kid upkeep or however it is named to cough up and yes, all assets in half (during the time you were with that person).
Ouch, but if as bad as I think for him = priceless.

900 a month? I'm laughing because of the sheer ridiculousness of it all, plus the reference to the 40k "to-wound table"

Of course, as you said, if it's as bad as you think (and I believe it is), then indeed it would be priceless.

It is actually far worse than that. When a man gets divorced in America, he will likely loose 75% of his assets.
75% of divorces are initiated by Women.

50% of marriages fail. (Some studies suggest more like 75%+ in major metro areas like California and New York).
75%+ of second marriages fail.

Would you walk into a business arrangement that has a minimum of a 50% chance of failure, and if it fails, you loose 75%
of your net worth?

And don't even get me started on children. If you have children with your nut job, there is a high chance she can easily set things
up with the court so you only see your children 25% of the time. Or you may have to be supervised to see your children because she
filled false domestic charges against you to get you out of the house. Both of these situations are very common, and most men never
see it coming.

In short; DON'T DO IT. DO NOT get married in America today. It is absolutely moronic.

Have a girlfriend(s), but forget about putting a ring on any woman.

You have been warned.

**Badger_Bhoy**

Wow, peeps taking things waaaay too seriously.

In the Grimdark future there is no 'fair'.

Maybe threaten an orbital bombardment?

Happy Anniversary!

**Kilkrazy**

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