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Ok,, so me and my friends where making a list of things we want to do before we all settle down(Its far off)
So Dakka what are things people should do before they hook up the ball and chain(Aka Marriage and kids)
We got.......
1: stay up all night in town
2: Non-stop videogame marathons
3: Road trip across country surviving on nothing but soda and jerky
4: Wear a dress around town(One friend wants to do this, I dont know why)
5: Launch fireworks(In our county it is against the law)
So what do you guys think you should do before you settle down

All of those can potentially be done with the ball and chain. 1, 2, and 5 especially. 4 if the significant other is especially kinky.

As for me personally, I have nothing special I'd want to do before this happens.

I mean, if I have to do some stuff before settling down maybe that's not the person for me. I'm not losing my video games, wargaming, or kitty cats for any women.

Except number 4, I've done all those things with my wife. I've done some other stuff with my wife that aren't on the list too.

If you want your 'settled down' life to be monogamous the only thing that may be worth putting on the list is:

1.be polyamorous
2. get regular doctor check ups.

I've done everything on that list, except number 4 with my wife as well.

None of that screams "Single only" at all.

To the OP: if "settling down" prevents you from doing anything on your list, then you should not settle down with that person.

Interesting, But i think me and my friends where thinking that it could not because we would have jobs and others to worry about if we did stupid stuff like that Not to mention time
How about, Thing you should do when you are still young?

Threeway.

Really, there isn't anything that can't be done in moderation if you settle down with the right person.

The true advantage of youth is the sheer intensity level with which you're able to pursue something. For instance, most anyone can hike- but very few who are not young are able to hike the entire Appalachian trail at a go. Very few 'settled' people can chisel out 5-7 months.

Another one to add to the list would be join the military. If you have any intention of doing it, do it young and do it before you're married. I can't imagine many relationships begun under normal circumstances can survive the switch to military life.

Most anything else can be done in moderation with a career and a S.O. The main difference once you're married, if you're doing it right, is that whatever else you choose to do will not be your primary goal.

 SlaveToDorkness wrote:
Threeway.

You can do that when you are settled down as well. You have to grow the pervy mustache of course...

No, that's a horrible idea.

Jump out of an airplane.
Swim with sharks.
Swim with skanks.
Rob a bank with a get away monkey.
Climb a mountain.
Stare down a mountain lion in the wild.
Ride a motorcycle across country.

Me and my friends where also thing volcano surfing.

 Frazzled wrote:
Jump out of an airplane.
Swim with sharks.
Swim with skanks.
Rob a bank with a get away monkey.
Climb a mountain.
Stare down a mountain lion in the wild.
Ride a motorcycle across country.

Arn't those all Clint Eastwood movies?

 Ahtman wrote:

 SlaveToDorkness wrote:
Threeway.

You can do that when you are settled down as well. You have to grow the pervy mustache of course...

As long one of them is inflatable its all fine.

And since when do we need an excuse to grow a pervy mustache? Thats actually on my bucket list. I'm thinking after I get married and when the wife goes away for something, then she comes home to Mr Walrus.

Deal crack, scale Everest, and run moonshine.

 Ahtman wrote:

 SlaveToDorkness wrote:
Threeway.

You can do that when you are settled down as well. You have to grow the pervy mustache of course...

We had a friend who did this.

She left him for the other woman.

 -Loki- wrote:

 Ahtman wrote:

 SlaveToDorkness wrote:
Threeway.

You can do that when you are settled down as well. You have to grow the pervy mustache of course...

We had a friend who did this.

She left him for the other woman.

No one guaranteed a good outcome, just that it was possible.

SlaveToDorkness wrote:Threeway.

Again, if it's that important to you, then it should still be fine if you've settled down with the right person.

hotsauceman1 wrote:Interesting, But i think me and my friends where thinking that it could not because we would have jobs and others to worry about if we did stupid stuff like that Not to mention time
How about, Thing you should do when you are still young?

If it's something you've always wanted to do, barring physical or economic limitations, there's no reason why being single or not should have any bearing on it, if you've chosen wisely.

Living till I'm well over Hundred.

 azazel the cat wrote:
To the OP: if "settling down" prevents you from doing anything on your list, then you should not settle down with that person.

+1 to this.

My wife knew I was a gamer when we met.
She has not prevented me gaming unduly (her birthday and our anniversary are the only specific no-gaming days. I conceded these days).
She does not restrict my mandollies money (I control my spending far more than she does).

Why so many people hook up with partners who hate their hobbies or belittle their friends or interests, I'll never understand.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Ok,, so me and my friends where making a list of things we want to do before we all settle down(Its far off)
So Dakka what are things people should do before they hook up the ball and chain(Aka Marriage and kids)
We got.......
1: stay up all night in town
2: Non-stop videogame marathons
3: Road trip across country surviving on nothing but soda and jerky
4: Wear a dress around town(One friend wants to do this, I dont know why)
5: Launch fireworks(In our county it is against the law)
So what do you guys think you should do before you settle down

A wife shouldn't stop you from doing any of those, if so you might have found the wrong woman for you.

Kids on the other hand will jump on your spleen starting at the ass crack of dawn if you attempt 1 or 2, burn your house down with #5, and make your life miserable if you attempt #3 with them. There is a bright side, once they hit jr high or high school if they ever piss you off just do #4 when you drop them off at school/parent teacher night/whenever you can and their friends are around.

1. Spend lots of money on toy soldiers. If your settled down with a housing loan and kids, you just won't have the spare cash.

Go on holiday to Amsterdam or Thailand.
Indulge in the local "colour"

 rubiksnoob wrote:
Deal crack, scale Everest, and run moonshine.

I'm saving those for retirement.

These things are only improved by becoming a crazy old man with a beard you could hide a ferret in.
I also want a combover. And then to go out in a strong wind, so it flaps off one side of my head.
I will then use hairspray so it sets. This will be my old age hairstyle.

Its kinda late for me to have a 'before I'm married' list.

 Grey Templar wrote:

 Ahtman wrote:

 SlaveToDorkness wrote:
Threeway.

You can do that when you are settled down as well. You have to grow the pervy mustache of course...

As long one of them is inflatable its all fine.

And since when do we need an excuse to grow a pervy mustache? Thats actually on my bucket list. I'm thinking after I get married and when the wife goes away for something, then she comes home to Mr Walrus.

Do you have "Movember" in the USA?

http://uk.movember.com/

 AndrewC wrote:

 Frazzled wrote:
Jump out of an airplane.
Swim with sharks.
Swim with skanks.
Rob a bank with a get away monkey.
Climb a mountain.
Stare down a mountain lion in the wild.
Ride a motorcycle across country.

Arn't those all Clint Eastwood movies?

Well so far I've swim with sharks (as a lawyer there's no issues here sharks don't attack lawyers out of professional courtesy); climbed a mountain; stared down a mountain lion; and intend to ride a motorcycle across the West US when GC goes to college. They won't let me jump out of an airplane until GC graduates as well.

I'd love to rob a bank with a monkey driving the getaway van. That's be awesome. "STEP ON IT MONKEY!!!"


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EDIT: Yea, its not necessarily the Wife that stops these activities. Its the kids. Once you have kids you will have no money, no privacy, and no sleep. On the positive you have an excsue to see all those cool kids films you really want to see but are too embarrassed to go yourself...

1) Actually show up on the wedding day!

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Interesting, But i think me and my friends where thinking that it could not because we would have jobs and others to worry about if we did stupid stuff like that Not to mention time
How about, Thing you should do when you are still young?

That makes more sense. I find it is Jobs and other commitments (Mostly kids) that tie you down more than being married.

1. Live someplace completely different from where you live now.
2. Travel alot.
3. Avoid debt (as that is just something that will eventuaklly tie you down too)

I can't really think of anything else.

Rather than say: Things to do before settling down

Say: gak to do before I die. It's called a bucket list.

Note: The following is not my bucket list. It's just a list of gak that I think would be up your alley.

* Parachute. It's fun!
* Take 1 flying lesson. It's not that expensive, and you get to fly a fething plane for 30 minutes to an hour. Careful, I got hooked!
* Read a book! Exciting and magical adventures await!
* Go to the Grand Canyon! It's like a ditch, but fething huge!
* Go to fething Europe! It's fun! Their money has many colors and they talk funny!
* Mail in vote once! It's like regular voting, but to the EXTREME!
* Wear a fur cod piece to the Ren Fest! Winches love fur cod pieces.
* Wear a bowler hat at a night club. Bitches love bowler hats.
* Go skiing in Utah or Colorado. It's like falling down a mountain, but slant-ways!
* Go put $100 on 1 number at the Roulette Wheel. You ain't no kind of man until you do.
* Wake up really early every morning for a week and put your neighbor's newspaper in another neighbor's yard! Watch the hilarity!

Hedonism
More hedonism
Even more hedonism
Paint every damn model i have!
Sleep with a female band member from a band i like
Go to many concerts where the bands i like are playing
Do a festival tour
Stay awake for a week
Attend protest marches
Chain myself to the gates of Wesley street mill infront of the bulldozers (those Gorrie bastards wont demolish it if i have my way)
A 2 day gaming marathon
Lead the charge against police lines in a protest charge
Loot
Trek across the lake district
Go clubbing
Have a guys night out

As a side note, if you want a 3some then copy the master and date a bisexual.