Game night gets way too competitive

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**haendas**

The thing is, your original post is asking for help with a problem and it appears to be that the cause of the problem is generally a maturity issue (not necessarily you, but your gaming group in general). I don't mean that as an insult. It is just what the facts appear to be from this thread. When people assess your problem as a maturity issue, if you get overly defensive (which you did since you got moderated) you only prove their point more. I don't know if people are following you to other threads, but in this thread is doesn't appear that anyone is "continually trolling" you. They are giving you the facts as they see them. They are not trying to get a rise out of you (aka trolling). They are telling you what they think the cause of your group's problem is.

**shadowsnip**

Manchu wrote:I think, generally speaking, when someone treats you poorly you have two options: return the poor treatment or respond with good will. If you do the former, you'll have your "revenge" I guess for all that it's worth. But if you do the latter you may find that the way others treat you improves. That is what I have found. This advice will probably serve you equally well in your gaming group or on internet message boards.

I go through life doing the latter. I'm never out to fight with people, Its quite the opposite, I try to make peace with people and avoid an unecessary physical altercation in real life. But honestly, I'm really not the type of person to have people being jerks to me and not stand up for myself. Why would I respond with good will if I never met the person who is being a jerk to me (and I'm the immature one). In this case multiple people are being jerks to me. God that takes be back to middleschool. They didn't shut up until I stood up for myself. What does that say?

As for a gaming envirornment I do the exact same. I'm always courtious and friendly with new people I meet or the people I'm playing with. I always try to make myself on the same level with everyone and since im the "game master" I try to make everything fair to everyone.

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haendas wrote:The thing is, your original post is asking for help with a problem and it appears to be that the cause of the problem is generally a maturity issue (not necessarily you, but your gaming group in general). I don't mean that as an insult. It is just what the facts appear to be from this thread. When people assess your problem as a maturity issue, if you get overly defensive (which you did since you got moderated) you only prove their point more. I don't know if people are following you to other threads, but in this thread is doesn't appear that anyone is "continually trolling" you. They are giving you the facts as they see them. They are not trying to get a rise out of you (aka trolling). They are telling you what they think the cause of your group's problem is.

Yes and in my previous post I mentioned I took it in and was going to have a more mature outlook on the game. People called me a twerp in the beginning of the thread and I acknowledged I could be a part of that issue. but i just got angry at the fact that people continually gave me rude comments about my age and maturity. It would be one thing to say "Hey, just tell your friends to grow up and play the game and have fun. Dont get mad over stupid figures that are put into the dead pile" but its another thing to say "I Bet they're all under 15! lol!"

**Manchu**

Again generally the people I've met who claim to be friendly but put a high premium on "standing up for themselves" tend to come off worse than they might think. Are people just responding to what you posted or is there some massive conspiracy to take everything you posted the wrong way?

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"I Bet they're all under 15! lol!"

I've never heard a mature person make a comment like this. It's the kind of thing I'd think you could just dismiss.

**shadowsnip**

I guess you might be right Manchu, maybe I am a little bit defensive. But I'd like to know how you would've handled the situation if you were me? Ignore the over culmination of derogitory and excessive comments about my maturity?

**Manchu**

On the message board? You can use the yellow triangle button in the top right corner of any post to report rules violations to the moderators. If someone is calling you names, that is clearly a rules violation. It's always better to report people who you think are flame-baiting/trolling you on Dakka and let the mods handle it rather than falling prey to them.

As to your gaming group, although it has in some cases been very poorly phrased I think the other Dakkanauts have given you the right answer -- namely, it's time to find a new gaming group.

**haendas**

I think most of the "derogatory" twerp, grow up etc. comments were not directed at you, but at the attitude of your group that was described in the original post. I encourage you to take them that way. Don't take anything too personally on an internet forum. None of these people really know you anyhow. You seem to have good intentions with your group. You might be fighting an uphill battle if your group does have an immature attitude and you have to be the referee. Patience is what you will need the most. I wish you the best.

**shadowsnip**

haendas wrote:I think most of the "derogatory" twerp, grow up etc. comments were not directed at you, but at the attitude of your group that was described in the original post. I encourage you to take them that way. Don't take anything too personally on an internet forum. None of these people really know you anyhow. You seem to have good intentions with your group. You might be fighting an uphill battle if your group does have an immature attitude and you have to be the referee. Patience is what you will need the most. I wish you the best.

Thank you, I really appreciate that.

And for everyone else I'm sorry if I took your comments the wrong way, I didn't mean to. I just felt like I was being pushed around and I didn't like that.

@Manchu: I will do that next time if someone starts flaming me instead of doing it myself. Thank you.

**Aerethan**

OP already admitted to going overboard so there could be no reason for this post other than antagonization which is rude and against our Rule Number One. Please avoid doing this in future. Thanks! ~Manchu

shadowsnip wrote:Can I just say something without most of you people saying negative things to me?

Yes I understand you all think I'm a little twerp. Ok I get it. I took it in. Why do you think i told people stfu about it? Do I not have the right to send hate back? because HONESTLY I'm sure you're ALL smart enough to realize they aren't calling me a twerp to be helpful, nor intelligent, nor contribute anything useful to this thread/forum. It's just plain rudness. Yes I get it when the first 14 people say "I'm a twerp, And that all my friends are twerps. Thanks. Thanks a lot for letting me realize I was being immature and I should just "grow the feth up". Honestly I mean that. I did realize i should grow up a little bit when I'm playing a stupid game. And honestly guys I did exagerate a little bit with the "IF MY TYRANT DIES YOU DIE!" crap i said in the first post.

But I can't get mad at some community members for continuely trolling the crap out of me?

"And you just confirmed you're all younger than 16" Again another unnecessary comment and If I were to respond to it and say something like "Please stfu, I don't need your gak. Not today and not ever. Thanks." People would blam me like all of you are now. Evidenced by the fact that I already gave remarks at some people for being rude and and when I retaliate (which is normal human behavior) people who have nothing to do with it fire at me like I'm some kind of evil ass.

Take chromedog for instanced. He blams me because I was rude to other players for being rude to me. Kind of hypocritcal of him to respond to me with his nice little lecture of kind of putting me down. Okay I get the picture. And if you come around to play 40k with me, improve your ducking skills, Because unless you have a cover save, I assure you i'll hit. (Don't worry, it's not suppose to be literal)

Maybe I'm just paranoid? Maybe not all of you mean to make me feel like an idiot.

I'm probably going to get banned for having a voice but what the hell. I'd rather be banned of a forum where it seems half the people have sticks up their asses with me standing up for myself than to not stand up for myself and take sheise from people I don't even know for no reason.
And I can honestly say I'm not a little shallow 12 year old twerp. I have been through some things in my life that seperates me from a little punk justin bieber lover 15 year old. But I'm not going to compare myself to all of you, because frankly I don't know you. I don't know what you've all been through or what your life is like. All I'm going to say is Don't be an donkey-cave to me for no reason and I won't be an donkey-cave to you.

So hit me with your blam or ban. take your pick.

You do know that there is an "e" in the word "blame" right? And saying things like GTFO and STFU will get gak thrown at you. You have no right to tell others to stop talking on a public forum, and you have no rights of ownership to the thread wherein you can kick them out of posting in said thread. Seriously, grow up no matter how old you are.

**Shadowbrand**

*Puffs cigar*

Oh Dakkadakka, how long it has been since I've seen you in your full glory.

**shadowsnip**

Its slang from where I live. Also known on newgrounds for "Blam this piece of crap!"
Blam me as in "screw with me or put me on blast"

Why do you continue to throw hate after I apologized? Not good enough? Want me to get down on the floor and kiss your feet?

I have no right to tell people gtfo, yes that is a given. I was angered at the time and felt like I was being trolled for no reason (I still kind of feel like they were doing it to get to me) so I felt like saying that. When you cite how i told people to STFU. Why would I say such a thing? Because I felt like people were messing with me. And if you can't understand why I said those things in retaliation, then please, go back to school (Just as bad as telling me to grow up). And if I could do it over I wouldn't even make this thread.. But honestly why don't you grow up too? Do you really think that I totally thought I had full control of this thread and I seriously was kicking them out like I had the authority to do so. But whatever I'm not even going continue. Not going to waste any more time with you.

**Manchu**

Why we can't have nice things.