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Have you tried to make him watch Ponies?

He's very clearly an alien. Or just kind of vanilla man. He strikes me as the kinda guy that will grow up, have 2.5 kids, and work for an insurance agency for 30 years before exploding in a fit of mid-life crisis, marrying a trophy wife, and buying an extremely expensive sports car. Back on topic, maybe he just doesn't see those things as fun. It's clear he lives a reserved lifestyle, and you gotta respect that, and if the case may be, move one.

Drop acid in his water bottle and then take him to see the Wall...

hotsauceman1 wrote:Im 19 and so is he.
I mean i can understand he doesnt always have money and he doenst get a whole lot of help from his family. But i have tried getting him a job and he said he doesnt want to work in the afternoon.

Sorry dude right there is your 'cue exit call'. I hate having to get up at 5:30am to go to work but crappy thing is unless you are wealthy in the real world this just doesn't work. No one should be refusing work in this day and age. It's not like it was 7-12 years ago and work was everywhere. You can't pick and choose your jobs just because you don't want to work in the afternoon.

Screw his lazy ass and find some new friends. I know it blows hardcore but that is what I had to do after highschool. I got a crappy job at super store working the night shift from 10pm-2am so I could have some extra money because honestly my parents couldn't and shouldn't have to support my lazy ass. They gave me a ultimadium when I graduated HS, do more schooling or get a job. If you don't want to do any of those you have to find another place to live. So I had 'friends' hang around me for my money which was really crappy because I had known a lot of these guys for 10+ years. But when hit around 18-19 it's time to grow up and sometimes you have to thin the heard that you call friends.

I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide to do, but honestly I think you know what the right answer is already and just wanted to hear it from someone else.

hotsauceman1 wrote:I dont know them that well yet, Just talk to them every once in awhile when i run into them.

Best way to turn an acquaintance into a friend is to share something deeply personal with them. Preferably something really sad that makes them feel sorry for you and want to take you out shopping for new shoes with them.

Talk about that one priest when you were a kid who yelled at you for playing in the holy water, talk about that one teacher who gave you a banana flavor laffy taffie (THE HORROR!!!). It doesn't even have to be true just believable.

Instead of sad you can also tell/show them something interesting, though you won't have their pity with is a shame because pity is great for getting for free stuff from people.

Maybe show them that weird rash on the bottom of your foot, your kidney stone that you just passed, or show them your collection of plastic dudes.


I should charge for this advice it’s so good.

FabricatorGeneralMike wrote:

hotsauceman1 wrote:Im 19 and so is he.
I mean i can understand he doesnt always have money and he doenst get a whole lot of help from his family. But i have tried getting him a job and he said he doesnt want to work in the afternoon.

Sorry dude right there is your 'cue exit call'. I hate having to get up at 5:30am to go to work but crappy thing is unless you are wealthy in the real world this just doesn't work. No one should be refusing work in this day and age. It's not like it was 7-12 years ago and work was everywhere. You can't pick and choose your jobs just because you don't want to work in the afternoon.

Screw his lazy ass and find some new friends. I know it blows hardcore but that is what I had to do after highschool. I got a crappy job at super store working the night shift from 10pm-2am so I could have some extra money because honestly my parents couldn't and shouldn't have to support my lazy ass. They gave me a ultimadium when I graduated HS, do more schooling or get a job. If you don't want to do any of those you have to find another place to live. So I had 'friends' hang around me for my money which was really crappy because I had known a lot of these guys for 10+ years. But when hit around 18-19 it's time to grow up and sometimes you have to thin the heard that you call friends.

I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide to do, but honestly I think you know what the right answer is already and just wanted to hear it from someone else.

I wont leave him, We have been friends sense where where 3 years old. I cant.

That's tough man. I can honestly say I have been in a similar situation, though I guess not as bad. A friend of mine became much more "popular" than I, getting into sports, while I got involved in the band, and made an idiot of myself in public. One day we decided to go our separate ways. He went and joined his circle of friends, and I went with mine. We don't see each other often, and the most we warrant is a slight nod in the hallway should we pass. It was hard, but I eventually got over it. I don't know if that'll change anything, just a similar experience.

Sometimes, friends just drift apart, no matter how close they were.

hotsauceman1 wrote:

FabricatorGeneralMike wrote:

hotsauceman1 wrote:Im 19 and so is he.
I mean i can understand he doesnt always have money and he doenst get a whole lot of help from his family. But i have tried getting him a job and he said he doesnt want to work in the afternoon.

Sorry dude right there is your 'cue exit call'. I hate having to get up at 5:30am to go to work but crappy thing is unless you are wealthy in the real world this just doesn't work. No one should be refusing work in this day and age. It's not like it was 7-12 years ago and work was everywhere. You can't pick and choose your jobs just because you don't want to work in the afternoon.

Screw his lazy ass and find some new friends. I know it blows hardcore but that is what I had to do after highschool. I got a crappy job at super store working the night shift from 10pm-2am so I could have some extra money because honestly my parents couldn't and shouldn't have to support my lazy ass. They gave me a ultimadium when I graduated HS, do more schooling or get a job. If you don't want to do any of those you have to find another place to live. So I had 'friends' hang around me for my money which was really crappy because I had known a lot of these guys for 10+ years. But when hit around 18-19 it's time to grow up and sometimes you have to thin the heard that you call friends.

I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide to do, but honestly I think you know what the right answer is already and just wanted to hear it from someone else.

I wont leave him, We have been friends sense where where 3 years old. I cant.

No offense, but that means jack gak. I knew this guy from when I was five years old. He was the type of guy who would agree with anything the last person said, and honestly, I wasn't in the position to be choosing friends. After 11 years, it just got pathetic, to the point where he would swap stances constantly in a conversation between three people..... Not only that, but he was in the "In crowd", who wear aluminum foil over his teeth, flip people off as a greeting, and general douchebaggery.

I realized this wasn't someone to call my friend, and dropped him like a sack of potatoes. From what I've seen, he hasn't improved.

Slarg232 wrote:

hotsauceman1 wrote:

FabricatorGeneralMike wrote:

hotsauceman1 wrote:Im 19 and so is he.
I mean i can understand he doesnt always have money and he doenst get a whole lot of help from his family. But i have tried getting him a job and he said he doesnt want to work in the afternoon.

Sorry dude right there is your 'cue exit call'. I hate having to get up at 5:30am to go to work but crappy thing is unless you are wealthy in the real world this just doesn't work. No one should be refusing work in this day and age. It's not like it was 7-12 years ago and work was everywhere. You can't pick and choose your jobs just because you don't want to work in the afternoon.

Screw his lazy ass and find some new friends. I know it blows hardcore but that is what I had to do after highschool. I got a crappy job at super store working the night shift from 10pm-2am so I could have some extra money because honestly my parents couldn't and shouldn't have to support my lazy ass. They gave me a ultimadium when I graduated HS, do more schooling or get a job. If you don't want to do any of those you have to find another place to live. So I had 'friends' hang around me for my money which was really crappy because I had known a lot of these guys for 10+ years. But when hit around 18-19 it's time to grow up and sometimes you have to thin the heard that you call friends.

I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide to do, but honestly I think you know what the right answer is already and just wanted to hear it from someone else.

I wont leave him, We have been friends sense where where 3 years old. I cant.

No offense, but that means jack gak. I knew this guy from when I was five years old. He was the type of guy who would agree with anything the last person said, and honestly, I wasn't in the position to be choosing friends. After 11 years, it just got pathetic, to the point where he would swap stances constantly in a conversation between three people..... Not only that, but he was in the "In crowd", who wear aluminum foil over his teeth, flip people off as a greeting, and general douchebaggery.

I realized this wasn't someone to call my friend, and dropped him like a sack of potatoes. From what I've seen, he hasn't improved.

@OP, I know it's hard, I've been there. You have been friends forever but deep down inside you know it's not working out for either of you. People change often right before your eyes. I'm turning 35 this year, while not a old fart, I have been around the block once or twice and it's just a fact of life. At the time it seems like the worst thing in the world, it can often make you have mood swings and actually feel it in the pit of your stomach but it passes. Honestly it does.

It just like at work. Some times there will be someone there who just doesn't like your. You will get along while working, but at coffee time or non working hours this guy won't give you the time of day. It sucks. It's just the way it is. It's nothing you have done it just him. It's the same way with your friend, it just isn't working out anymore. It's part of life. It sucks but it's part of life.

FabricatorGeneralMike wrote:

Slarg232 wrote:

hotsauceman1 wrote:

FabricatorGeneralMike wrote:

hotsauceman1 wrote:Im 19 and so is he.
I mean i can understand he doesnt always have money and he doenst get a whole lot of help from his family. But i have tried getting him a job and he said he doesnt want to work in the afternoon.

Sorry dude right there is your 'cue exit call'. I hate having to get up at 5:30am to go to work but crappy thing is unless you are wealthy in the real world this just doesn't work. No one should be refusing work in this day and age. It's not like it was 7-12 years ago and work was everywhere. You can't pick and choose your jobs just because you don't want to work in the afternoon.

Screw his lazy ass and find some new friends. I know it blows hardcore but that is what I had to do after highschool. I got a crappy job at super store working the night shift from 10pm-2am so I could have some extra money because honestly my parents couldn't and shouldn't have to support my lazy ass. They gave me a ultimadium when I graduated HS, do more schooling or get a job. If you don't want to do any of those you have to find another place to live. So I had 'friends' hang around me for my money which was really crappy because I had known a lot of these guys for 10+ years. But when hit around 18-19 it's time to grow up and sometimes you have to thin the heard that you call friends.

I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide to do, but honestly I think you know what the right answer is already and just wanted to hear it from someone else.

I wont leave him, We have been friends sense where where 3 years old. I cant.

No offense, but that means jack gak. I knew this guy from when I was five years old. He was the type of guy who would agree with anything the last person said, and honestly, I wasn't in the position to be choosing friends. After 11 years, it just got pathetic, to the point where he would swap stances constantly in a conversation between three people..... Not only that, but he was in the "In crowd", who wear aluminum foil over his teeth, flip people off as a greeting, and general douchebaggery.

I realized this wasn't someone to call my friend, and dropped him like a sack of potatoes. From what I've seen, he hasn't improved.

@OP, I know it's hard, I've been there. You have been friends forever but deep down inside you know it's not working out for either of you. People change often right before your eyes. I'm turning 35 this year, while not a old fart, I have been around the block once or twice and it's just a fact of life. At the time it seems like the worst thing in the world, it can often make you have mood swings and actually feel it in the pit of your stomach but it passes. Honestly it does.

It just like at work. Some times there will be someone there who just doesn't like your. You will get along while working, but at coffee time or non working hours this guy won't give you the time of day. It sucks. It's just the way it is. It's nothing you have done it just him. It's the same way with your friend, it just isn't working out anymore. It's part of life. It sucks but it's part of life.

It's a sad age in the world when people advise others to drop friends because said friends are lazy or your tastes don't align exactly.
OP never said this friend betrayed or hurt him. Just that he only likes one thing and doesn't want to work afternoons.
Hardly a case for "dropping him like a sack of potatos."
Loyalty is an incredibly rare and increasingly diminishing commodity in this world; not something to be thrown away.

deathholydeath wrote:Drop acid in his water bottle and then take him to see the Wall...

Hahahahah This

Seeing uptight people tripping is always good for a laugh

hotsauceman1 wrote:I wont leave him, We have been friends sense where where 3 years old. I cant.

Sure you can. That's total BS. He's the one checking out on life, not you. Besides, no one is saying to treat him like a lepper. Just go find new friends.

I had a great friend in high school. We hung out every day after school, except when I had to work. Even when we had girlfriends, we'd still find time to hang out and do stuff.

Then college came along and he became a debbie downer. He never wanted to go anywhere or do anything. I was in college, but he stayed home and became a bum. I'd ask him to go to movies and what-not when I was in town, but he'd make up a lame excuse not to go. I met new friends, lived my life, and so on. I have no regrets. He's the one that wouldn't make time and checked out.

What you need to realize is that there is a difference between "He's been my best friend for 16 years" and "4 years ago, we were best friends for 12 years". If that makes any sense.

Go. Meet. Other. People. And stop trying to change him. That's not your fething job. Also, when you tell him about going to X with your new friends, and tell him how much fun you had, that might light a fire under his ass.

Best of luck. I can't give you any more advice than that.

TBH if we didnt go to school much we wouldnt talk much. i have a feeling once i transfer out to a 4 year we will go our seperate ways.