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Ah, I can BARELY remember the days before kids so I can understand to some degree the confusion and "pressure" the folks without kids have.

- A friend of mine had kids early and I remember thinking "Enough about talking about the kids! Sheesh! Get a life!". I realized later it is like riding a bucking bronc: one lapse of attention and it all goes south on you. The kids are cute and all, entertaining little beings but you swear they have a death wish for those first few years. It becomes a rather 24-7 kind of job.

- The pressure has ALWAYS been the same and it never ends, it is like a check list: So, when will you get a girlfriend? So, when will you get married? So, when will you buy a house? So, when will you have kids? So, what school are they going to? So, when are they moving out? So, when will you retire? So, have you found a good doctor? So, are you moving to a smaller house? So, are you having grand kids soon? So, who has passed away lately? So, figured out a good retirement home yet? So, does anyone visit you?... the rest I would rather not think about.

- I have known a few friends and family that never had kids, I don't know how to say it but there is a certain... lack of thought of others that is part of their decision making. Kids force you to place greater value of your own worth to them and other's needs when that does not even enter the equation for those that live alone. I have witnessed some pretty sad and lonely end of life experiences for those who have no children, that alone seems to pay off in spades when you have a few people in your life that care. We, the nieces and nephews end up taking on the role of kids they did not have. Found it made the parents rather mad since the kid-less sibling would point out the various "frivolous" activities and material wealth they had by not having kids.

In the end, being there for people who need it and hoping you get the same becomes a reasonable goal.

 Ouze wrote:
Pretty much all of my goals are thwarted by low willpower; so if anyone has any advice, I'm all ears.

Stick with it, Ouze! My advice is don't get discouraged - just persevere one thing / day / step at a time. And those are some great goals you listed

See for me its boredom. Im so tired of school at this point. Been here for 6 years. I used to enjoy class, but I cant anymorem I used to enjoy reading, even articles for fun. But I cant anymore.
Im hoping this subsides if I take a break from school.

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
See for me its boredom. Im so tired of school at this point. Been here for 6 years. I used to enjoy class, but I cant anymorem I used to enjoy reading, even articles for fun. But I cant anymore.
Im hoping this subsides if I take a break from school.

Take a sabbatical year.

Im a senior, so close, yet so far it seems

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
Im a senior, so close, yet so far it seems

I can say as sure as rain in autumn that it's a really great idea for pretty much anybody - After so many years of railroaded teaching, it's great to sit back and relax for a year or two, to get a grasp of yourself. Sure, in High School's where most of that happens for most people, but that's a protected institution, and has a special culture because of it.

My own current sabbatical years wasn't planned at all, and sort of forced upon me, but I can safely say that it's for the best

 LethalShade wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
See for me its boredom. Im so tired of school at this point. Been here for 6 years. I used to enjoy class, but I cant anymorem I used to enjoy reading, even articles for fun. But I cant anymore.
Im hoping this subsides if I take a break from school.

Take a sabbatical year.

6 years in school already - it seems as if he's had that sabbatical already.

And then some!

Best to get out there into the "Real World" already!

 Alpharius wrote:

 LethalShade wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
See for me its boredom. Im so tired of school at this point. Been here for 6 years. I used to enjoy class, but I cant anymorem I used to enjoy reading, even articles for fun. But I cant anymore.
Im hoping this subsides if I take a break from school.

Take a sabbatical year.

6 years in school already - it seems as if he's had that sabbatical already.

And then some!

Best to get out there into the "Real World" already!

What's this "Real World" everyone is talking about. Isn't it like my computer screen, but larger ?

To see my enemies driven before me and to eat the lamingtons of their women.

Or something like that ...

EDIT : Wrong thread, sorry

 RiTides wrote:

 Ouze wrote:
Pretty much all of my goals are thwarted by low willpower; so if anyone has any advice, I'm all ears.

Stick with it, Ouze! My advice is don't get discouraged - just persevere one thing / day / step at a time. And those are some great goals you listed

My advice would be go easy maybe just make yourself go for a walk everyday (tell yourself at some point to day I'm going for a half hour walk no matter what) for like a month or two go for a 15 minute walk one way then 15 minutes back, by then you should be in somewhat of a habit. Then

start to add more advance stuff like instead of walking you jog the whole distance now (or run), add more minutes, add other exercises like weight lifting, etc.

LethalShade wrote:

 Alpharius wrote:

 LethalShade wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
See for me its boredom. Im so tired of school at this point. Been here for 6 years. I used to enjoy class, but I cant anymorem I used to enjoy reading, even articles for fun. But I cant anymore.
Im hoping this subsides if I take a break from school.

Take a sabbatical year.

6 years in school already - it seems as if he's had that sabbatical already.

And then some!

Best to get out there into the "Real World" already!

What's this "Real World" everyone is talking about. Isn't it like my computer screen, but larger ?

Yes, exactly!

Only not as High Def!

Cheesecat wrote:

 RiTides wrote:

 Ouze wrote:
Pretty much all of my goals are thwarted by low willpower; so if anyone has any advice, I'm all ears.

Stick with it, Ouze! My advice is don't get discouraged - just persevere one thing / day / step at a time. And those are some great goals you listed

My advice would be go easy maybe just make yourself go for a walk everyday (tell yourself at some point to day I'm going for a half hour walk no matter what) for like a month or two go for a 15 minute walk one way then 15 minutes back, by then you should be in somewhat of a habit. Then

start to add more advance stuff like instead of walking you jog the whole distance now (or run), add more minutes, add other exercises like weight lifting, etc.

Sound advice there!

 LethalShade wrote:

 Alpharius wrote:

 LethalShade wrote:

 hotsauceman1 wrote:
See for me its boredom. Im so tired of school at this point. Been here for 6 years. I used to enjoy class, but I cant anymorem I used to enjoy reading, even articles for fun. But I cant anymore.
Im hoping this subsides if I take a break from school.

Take a sabbatical year.

6 years in school already - it seems as if he's had that sabbatical already.

And then some!

Best to get out there into the "Real World" already!

What's this "Real World" everyone is talking about. Isn't it like my computer screen, but larger ?

Well, the Real World, according to Frazz is..... Off to the coal mines!!! it builds character

I think a stint in a coal mine or some similar situation could be just the thing for the HSM!

Retire in 20, move the feth out of Illinois.

 Alpharius wrote:
I think a stint in a coal mine or some similar situation could be just the thing for the HSM!

I have just the program!
http://www.gamersgate.com/DD-UMS2011/underground-mining-simulator-2011
Now you can coal mine from the comfort of your own home.
Plus I have the song for it (Devo: Working in a coal mine):
https://youtu.be/ms79633njIg
You can probably do without the video being imbedded, it can scar the mind.

Short term goal in life now: survive my wife's need to nest in the new house: expensive furnature, extensive honey-do fix-it projects and trying to improve the man cave in the basement so what goes on upstairs means less to me...

 kronk wrote:
Retire in 20, move the feth out of Illinois.

Bad drivers got you down?

Current goal ? Not dying for the next four years, then deciding if I leave the country or not.

 LethalShade wrote:
Current goal ? Not dying for the next four years, then deciding if I leave the country or not.

Yeah, the current state of affairs gotta make you wonder what you are going to do with your life, in case something happens.

 The Wise Dane wrote:

 LethalShade wrote:
Current goal ? Not dying for the next four years, then deciding if I leave the country or not.

Yeah, the current state of affairs gotta make you wonder what you are going to do with your life, in case something happens.

Um, what?

Well, something is in fact always happening, so I guess it is best to be...prepared?

Depends how far from the point of impact the event is. If All State will cover it

Finish my degree, go full-time at the lab and become a biomedical scientist.

Oh, and finish painting all my miniatures (I'm not too optimistic about achieving this one)