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What techniques do you use on your family members to let them know you arnt happy
with their spendings? ( perferbly without direct confrontation , probably cant be helped though right... )

I live alone with my mom and cousin , but she spent over $3k during this December / Jan

and it freaked me out as i was stopping myself from buying warhammer stuff -_-

*edit ahaha.... checking bank stuff at 5am ... god this is stressful.

You Mum or your Cousin spent 3 grand?

I'd say just talk about it. When it comes to money, especially if it's a communal house with bills to be paid etc, beating around the bush is an exercise in futility.

You have to be direct I'm afriad, my sister in loaw got my wife spending about 1000$ around christmas,Alll I had to do was have a face to face talk and that settled it.

Oh, and do remember that spending your own money is not a crime.

Just mention you looked at the (assumingly communal) account and noticed that they'd had a lot of fun onthe Christmas Shop.

Well, do you have budgets?

If so, and spending is within budget, no problem.

If not, maybe you should set and follow budgets.

I don't see what business it is of mine what my brother or mother spends out of their own money unless

A) They fail to contribute to some shared undertaking (a family holiday, maybe0

B) They are misguidedly spending money they need for other purposes. For instance, in cases of elder abuse or drugs or something.

In case A, they owe me some of the money. In case B, I have a duty to help look after them because due to some mental problem they are not capable of looking after themself.

However if someone is of sound mind and decides to spend more than I think right out of their own money on something I disapprove of, that's their prerogative.

How my mom handled her own excessive spending?

Divorce from my dad for a guy who has more money. Now she can afford to visit Ireland!

And I'm left with the opinion that in the grim darkness of today money>love.

Kilkrazy wrote:I don't see what business it is of mine what my brother or mother spends out of their own money unless

A) They fail to contribute to some shared undertaking (a family holiday, maybe0

B) They are misguidedly spending money they need for other purposes. For instance, in cases of elder abuse or drugs or something.

In case A, they owe me some of the money. In case B, I have a duty to help look after them because due to some mental problem they are not capable of looking after themself.

However if someone is of sound mind and decides to spend more than I think right out of their own money on something I disapprove of, that's their prerogative.

well i dont really want to get into details , but she dont work :x
infact in the past she have sold our piano , money my dad gave for food , on jeweleries .
so in a way yes its still my buisness