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Screaming Banshee






Cardiff, United Kingdom

Maybe a weird topic to start, but hell, I'm not a member of any other forums.

I honestly have no idea why, but over the past week or so I've become much easier to anger. I'm pretty easy-going, and definitely the type who, if irked by someone in public (most commonly, some loud fool in the library) will sit there too awkward to say anything about it and just silently endure it.

But lately I've been getting angry and *acting* on it. Really out of character for me. The only thing I can think of that's changed is that my PC is broken and I only have SWTOR to play rather than my usual vent that is shoot 'em ups

Either way I find myself getting short with people, easily irritated and generally having angrier thoughts than I am used to.

So, Dakka, does this ever happen to you? And what do you do to relieve that red hot rage that is simmering barely visible beneath your skins?

   
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I'd love to have some useful advice for you, and you'd think that since I generate enough self-loathing to start helium fusion, I'd have some great methods for dealing with anger.

I just hit things (usually a wall) until I bleed and then tell myself what a big useless git I am for making myself bleed.


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Probably work

Just a guess: You young? Could just be hormonal imbalance.

Could also be stress. What's changed in the last week?

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Screaming Banshee






Cardiff, United Kingdom

I'm nearly 21, I'd like to think I'm past all that, but hey...

Source of stress is my dissertation really, what with my research being insufficient and me not being able to do much work toward it (that is, I procrastinate)... I suppose that generates a fair amount of frustration but I never consciously link that to much.


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Nerivant wrote:I'd love to have some useful advice for you, and you'd think that since I generate enough self-loathing to start helium fusion, I'd have some great methods for dealing with anger.

I just hit things (usually a wall) until I bleed and then tell myself what a big useless git I am for making myself bleed.



So you suggest self-harming eh?

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What you've described is stress and frustration, not anger imo.
Cliched and potentially boring as it sounds, get out and get some real exercise going, work out your frustrations through physical activity, whatever you may enjoy.
Get rested - good night sleeps and regular sleep patterns.
In specific situations, at the libray or whatever, get up, take 10 mins and let the anger rush pass, dont act on it. I guarantee in 10 mins you'll look back and probably laugh at things. Perspective is totally key here.

The current feelings will pass. If they dont, go see a professional.

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Working out and weight lifting is a great vent for me.

Put on some Hatebreed/Pantera/Slayer/other metal and then pound some iron. Not only is it therapeutic, but it helps me stay in shape

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As with any emotion, here's what you should do:

Step 1: Realize that you're having an emotional response.
Step 2: Ball up that emotion and shove it deep down.
Step 3: Drown the emotion with beer until it goes away. (If beer doesn't work, switch to whiskey.)

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How do I cope with anger...I dance! Seriously.

Other ways: I meditate on it. Not in the way you see spiritualist do. I am not new agey or religious or anything but I do understand the need for self reflection. Lots of times I take time to be by myself and reflect on what it is that is making me angry and why. I study it like you would an artifact until I have a complete understanding of what it is and why it affected me so. Then next time it comes up, I feel prepared to handle it.

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Weed, mainly.
Having a woman helps, especially if she's a "struggler".


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mega_bassist wrote:Working out and weight lifting is a great vent for me.

Put on some Hatebreed/Pantera/Slayer/other metal and then pound some iron. Not only is it therapeutic, but it helps me stay in shape

Working out has the opposite effect on me. After a workout I feel like walking onto the street and punching the first person I see.
I don't, obviously, since I'm not a pyschopath. But still.

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I play extremely violent video games and scream loud obscenities about the person in question. Lifting weights as suggested above is also good.

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Excercise.

Rub one out.

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I dont usually get noticably angry at people, i do not raise my voice at them like ever. I just seeth for a while, often accompanied by dark mutterings.

I do have serious Road rage and Gamer Rage though, i dont have a mike for xbox live for just this reason. When driving the minorest inconvenience gets the horn or the finger or flashing full beams if it's night time. The Nanometre tailgate is another specialty. Often i combine all three in an overtaking manuevre with a florishing sharp brake after i pull in to make them gak their pants. I am basically a menace on the roads.

Also any form of technology that plays up in my hands gets destroyed. Literally Punched my previous laptop to pieces, luckily it was incredibly crap and was overdue for replacement.

So it's pretty obvious how i deal with rage, displacement.

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mega_bassist wrote:Working out and weight lifting is a great vent for me.

Put on some Hatebreed/Pantera/Slayer/other metal and then pound some iron. Not only is it therapeutic, but it helps me stay in shape



^This x 100.


 
   
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Screaming Banshee






Cardiff, United Kingdom

I'm very easily irritated on the roads too.

But gaming is perhaps where I am worst. I am most definitely a 'rage-quitter', even if I've made a point of getting in a group to play with friends, I have bailed out of FPS', Civ games and all sorts... I think the introduction of kill-death ratios has meant that alt+f4 will be worn keys on my keyboard if I play FPS'

   
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St. Louis, Missouri

Frazzled wrote:Watch a wiener dog run.

Watching a pug run always had that effect on me

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Disassociate it from myself, view it objectively, rationalise it, contain it, and focus it into something positive. That for the serious stuff. Little stuff I just rant to my girlfriend who makes sympathetic noises at me. That and short, control bursts of profanity.

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Henners91 wrote:I'm very easily irritated on the roads too.

But gaming is perhaps where I am worst. I am most definitely a 'rage-quitter', even if I've made a point of getting in a group to play with friends, I have bailed out of FPS', Civ games and all sorts... I think the introduction of kill-death ratios has meant that alt+f4 will be worn keys on my keyboard if I play FPS'


Learn to play better. Maybe if you stuck around, and didn't throw a hissy fit like a little girl when you lost, you might get better at games.

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Drink, sleep and play violent video games.
   
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I wait until my shift finishes, then go home. It's usually only work that gets me substantially mad.

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Perkustin wrote:I do have serious Road rage and Gamer Rage though, i dont have a mike for xbox live for just this reason. When driving the minorest inconvenience gets the horn or the finger or flashing full beams if it's night time. The Nanometre tailgate is another specialty. Often i combine all three in an overtaking manuevre with a florishing sharp brake after i pull in to make them gak their pants. I am basically a menace on the roads.


You weren't driving near Mallaig this summer were you?

OT: There is a saying "Music calms the savage beast". I have found this to be true. If something annoys me I just plug in my iPod and forget about it until I'm calm. I'd suggest not listening to angry music though, that tends to make me seethe more.

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I do the usual stuff, play games, work out, etc. Now my game time is limited because my mother showed my wife a study that shows games raise BP...
When I'm REALLY stressed, and I can afford it, I go shooting. Not blasting away. For finding your center two things are best.
Clay Shooting, or Precision Rifle.
I prefer Clays it's my one true love. There's no rush no urgency, 25 shots, 25 clays. Trap, Bunker Trap, or Skeet. They are all ultimately calming

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AustonT wrote:I do the usual stuff, play games, work out, etc. Now my game time is limited because my mother showed my wife a study that shows games raise BP...
When I'm REALLY stressed, and I can afford it, I go shooting. Not blasting away. For finding your center two things are best.
Clay Shooting, or Precision Rifle.
I prefer Clays it's my one true love. There's no rush no urgency, 25 shots, 25 clays. Trap, Bunker Trap, or Skeet. They are all ultimately calming



Shooting guns really does help I find. Go fire an FN-FAL or a minimi and don't tell me you didn't have a little gak eating grin on your face after.


I also find booze and weed help but thats just me and I don't recomend it to anyone else, especially when you are firing guns. Guns and booze just doesn't mix, unless you are a redneck....or from Texas
   
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