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The guy is clearly a sore loser. A complete saddo, if you will.

Manchu wrote:

 daedalus wrote:

Manchu wrote:
No one is saying that only men should act with courtesy and maturity. The point was, pettiness is not manly.

So she's not being "manly".

No one is saying she ought to be.

Okay, so what I'm getting out of this is that no one is deriding either of them for not being manly, but merely arguing that the pettiness being displayed is NOT manly.

Is that a proper understanding?

 daedalus wrote:

Manchu wrote:

 daedalus wrote:

Manchu wrote:
No one is saying that only men should act with courtesy and maturity. The point was, pettiness is not manly.

So she's not being "manly".

No one is saying she ought to be.

Okay, so what I'm getting out of this is that no one is deriding either of them for not being manly, but merely arguing that the pettiness being displayed is NOT manly.

Is that a proper understanding?

My issue were the many statements that this action is what makes him a "man" and an "alpha".

 daedalus wrote:
no one is deriding either of them for not being manly, but merely arguing that the pettiness being displayed is NOT manly

Whembly said the vindictive actions of the guy at issue were those of an "Alpha Male." I do not dispute that manliness exists or that men should strive to be manly. I dispute that petty, vindictive behavior is manly. When it comes to women being vindictive, manliness is not at issue one way or the other. All the same, I am not excusing women who behave vindictively.

Then I am happy to report that my confusion has been resolved.

My observations are simply that it's just more petty human bs from petty humans. I did have a laugh about it though.


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Manchu wrote:
Whembly said the vindictive actions of the guy at issue were those of an "Alpha Male." I do not dispute that manliness exists or that men should strive to be manly. I dispute that petty, vindictive behavior is manly. When it comes to women being vindictive, manliness is not at issue one way or the other.

Oh, I think that, from all I've heard about "Alpha Males", this is very much their kind of behavior. I also think it's sociopathic and shouldn't be anything that anyone strives for.

All the same, I am not excusing women who behave vindictively.

That was the part that I was confused about.


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Honestly, I kind of pity them that their worlds are so small that these are their biggest concerns.

Manchu wrote:

 daedalus wrote:
no one is deriding either of them for not being manly, but merely arguing that the pettiness being displayed is NOT manly

Whembly said the vindictive actions of the guy at issue were those of an "Alpha Male." I do not dispute that manliness exists or that men should strive to be manly. I dispute that petty, vindictive behavior is manly. When it comes to women being vindictive, manliness is not at issue one way or the other. All the same, I am not excusing women who behave vindictively.

o.O

I'm not sure it's the "Alpha Male" response... I just said it was EPIC.

Big difference.

And I also dispute that it's petty and vindictive. It's righteous.

I do say it's dumb to move next door to your ex...

Well, the idea that this guy is not acting like a "man" (male adult) is because his behaviour is childish (behaviour that is considered immature) which would mean he's acting a like "boy" (a male child) not "man" as a "man" should not be doing such childish things, as a "man" is an adult and

adults are not supposed to act like kids.

 -Shrike- wrote:
That's hilarious! How much money does he have?

Obviously enough to push jokes past the limit just because. I giggled for a solid minute

Edited wrong thread.

 Cheesecat wrote:
Well, the idea that this guy is not acting like a "man" (male adult) is because his behaviour is childish (behaviour that is considered immature) which would mean he's acting a like "boy" (a male child) not "man" as a "man" should not be doing such childish things, as a "man" is an adult and

adults are not supposed to act like kids.

Um... if your wife cheats on you... what's the appropriate response?

Cheaters ought to be the pariah of society.

 timetowaste85 wrote:

feeder wrote:
This guy is clearly five flavours of fethhead and likely deserved this. He's one very small step above a pimp for emperor's sake.

Around here, guys who drop terms like "Man Code" without irony are d-bags of the highest calibre and not to be taken seriously. We leave that behind in high school with fist bumps instead of handshakes and calling everyone "gay".

My boss is in his mid-thirties and still fist bumps. It's more akin to how he grew up, not how he "couldn't get out of high school".

IDK, we all went around fist bumping in high school and then just... grew out of it.

 timetowaste85 wrote:
And honestly, if we did all strive to abide by the man-code, things would be a lot better. I do believe in the man-code. I don't steal my friends girls, current or ex, as I feel it's a serious breach of friendship.

Agreed, but surely one doesn't need a code to not feth his friend's wife.

Perhaps we are living different cultural norms, despite sharing a common language and designer branding.

 whembly wrote:
if your wife cheats on you... what's the appropriate response?

Work through it or divorce as amicably as possible and move on with your life.

Manchu wrote:

 whembly wrote:
if your wife cheats on you... what's the appropriate response?

Work through it or divorce as amicably as possible and move on with your life.

You could yes. Or you could tell her what a colossal worthless she is by errecting a golden middlefinger in your garden.

Im not saying its the correct response, or the "Manly" response (This is idiotic btw, draggin this into a "what makes you a man"-discussion was stupid to begin with.), but I dont see why horrible people should _NOT_ get some backlash from being...horrible people. Granted, there are probably a bit more subtle ways to go about this, but he achieved what he wanted. Personally, I wouldnt give two feths about people deeming it "childish". It probably is by normal standards, but I still think its freaking awesome.

 Kilkrazy wrote:
The guy is clearly a sore loser. A complete saddo, if you will.

Absolutely! He lost a cheating wife and had some fun flipping her off with a golden Middle Finger. Give him a few months, maybe a year, and when the Lady cheats on her new guy, they can move in together and build a second one out of platinum!