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So I love my fiance as she and I were best friends in high school, and years later we finally started dating. Hell she puts up with me she's a winner in my book. So yesterday I got my army bonus, as well as paid, as well as disability. All told I made about 10k in one day. Not to shabby right. I was thinking hey drop 2k and bank the rest..........wanted a new firearm, and some models. You notice how I use the term WANT!

So my fiance on the other hand said, we have the house payment, then all the rest have to go towards my wedding!!!!! WTF SERIOUSLY! so I was able to shank away $200.00 for models which I know I will hear about later, and what sucks if I still owe $2500 more on my wedding. This is why I should have taken my ass to vegas! So let this be a lesson to you all 40+ hours a week at work+9 years in the army / divide by marraige= POOR GAMER!!!!

Registry office FTW for me! Luckliy my fiancee thinks the same and is not big on racking up decades of debt for a fancy marriage.

Personally, you should have spent $2K on the wedding and paid down the house payment or your most expensive debt. Oh well.

I had a full blown Japanese wedding...ick, don't even ask how much that cost; I think my butthole's still puckered, a year later.

House payment is easy through VA and I make enough to afford it. I'm a technican for the gaurd meaning I still have to go to drill on weekends but I work full time and get paid hourly as oppossed to salary. So if I want I can quit my day job and just drill that one weekend a month Either or vegas really was a promising idea...maybe i'll do it for my next marriage hmmmmmm jkjk.

We saved our backsides off for the wedding, and now it's house, and child, and car, and next one on the way, and so another car... My gaming pennies is extra hours our work. Love, as they say, sucks.

Agreed, at elast mine is supportive of my habbit. Hell she literally told me to go to adepticon even though it's the weekend after our wedding. What women would do that. BTW she and I are holding off on a honeymoon till 2011. I told her honeymoon or home.. hrmm she chose a good one.

Neither of my ex wives were very interested in BIG expensive weddings..of wich I was grateful,and of course neither of them was interested in Big expensive divorces..of wich I am EXTREAMLY grateful.
Curreny girlfriend has no desire to get married (been together 10 years and we are happy..so why mess with what works).

I wouldn't rate mine as some big expensive wedding really. It is actually below the national average still responcability sucks! Also I was at a wedding in sept where it was I kid you not $50,000, and the guy wonders why he can't affoard models right now, or his apartment. At least I still get to buy toys just not a ton

Church wedding-check
Reception in barbeque joint-check
post reception Zombie killin hunting party-priceless

$50,000 for a wedding? That's simply insane...

FITZZ wrote: $50,000 for a wedding? That's simply insane...

I've seen that actually.

I encourage my children to elope.

Frazzled wrote:

FITZZ wrote: $50,000 for a wedding? That's simply insane...

I've seen that actually.

I encourage my children to elope.

Encourage? hell,I'll drive mine to Vegas myself.

agreed, it was nice don't get me wrong, and the food was tastey but for one day COME ON!

I am in the same boat as you man. We just opened up new bank accounts (local banks, switching from large national banks). Her parents are paying for a very large chunk (she is an only child), but we want to have a few extra things and not let her mother get 100% control of our ceremony etc etc, so we are working our asses off to save money for it and pay down all our debt before hand. It sucks for sure, as my multiple hobbies have had to be trimmed, but I don't want to be in debt AND pay for a wedding at the same time, but its worth it to pay down everything.

She did let me start a new hobby though, one of mutual interest. Picked up my first firearm (a Winchester Wildcat Target .22, very fun) the other day after a few years of waffling about it (me waffling that is). Funny thing is she is a better shot than I am.

Empchild wrote:agreed, it was nice don't get me wrong, and the food was tastey but for one day COME ON!

I'm sure it was a very nice affair,and I've no doubt that the food was fantastic,but as you said...COME ON!,I just dont see that spending ridiculous amounts of cash ="We are so much in love and will be perfect together".

Ouch, that sucks man. Im glad my wife is the way she is. When we started talking seriously about what to do for our wedding, she instantly said, "theres no way in hell we are going to have a $10k wedding. Its gotta be cheap" It was stil a really good wedding, and everyone had a BLAST at it, and only cost us like 3k Id say.

FITZZ wrote:

Empchild wrote:agreed, it was nice don't get me wrong, and the food was tastey but for one day COME ON!

I'm sure it was a very nice affair,and I've no doubt that the food was fantastic,but as you said...COME ON!,I just dont see that spending ridiculous amounts of cash ="We are so much in love and will be perfect together".

You know the funny thing about that is he told me and all his friends he is already very unhappy with her. The groomsmen took a bet on how many years till divorce, I'm sitting at 3 years for them

I'm lucky, my GF isn't into the girly things like wanting a huge wedding and a minivan full of kids to brag to the other soccer moms about. If and when we do get hitched, we'll go see a judge and then maybe take the immediate family out to dinner at the outback or something However, I still gotta save up for a good ring. And she's real peticular about jewelry, I'm gonna have to take her to a jewelry store and let her pick out what she likes. Rings will prolly be our biggest wedding expense

See I proposed with a family ring(thank god thing is now worth 16k) so that didn't cost me a dime!!! Whats even worse is she found out about the proposal before I was gonna do it. I had her check my phone texts one day when I was in the bathroom and she saw the first sentence of a text to my cousin about it.....That women sure knows how to kill a suprise let me tell you.

Empchild wrote:

FITZZ wrote:

Empchild wrote:agreed, it was nice don't get me wrong, and the food was tastey but for one day COME ON!

I'm sure it was a very nice affair,and I've no doubt that the food was fantastic,but as you said...COME ON!,I just dont see that spending ridiculous amounts of cash ="We are so much in love and will be perfect together".

You know the funny thing about that is he told me and all his friends he is already very unhappy with her. The groomsmen took a bet on how many years till divorce, I'm sitting at 3 years for them

Exactly,even in the BEST relationships things can (and often do) go to far south to be saved, and going so completely over board on wedding expences just seems a bit silly IMO,as I said,I have 2 divorces under my belt and if I had dropped $50,000 (or even half that) on either wedding,I belive I would have thrown myself under an industrial tiller.

Mate, i dont think it CAN suck, i think it DOES suck!

agnosto wrote:I had a full blown Japanese wedding...ick, don't even ask how much that cost; I think my butthole's still puckered, a year later.

Did you have the four meter tall rubber wedding cake, with the trick piece that surrounded you in dry ice clouds when you cut it? Should've just gone with the three meter version instead, you would've saved a bundle.

Bookwrack wrote:

agnosto wrote:I had a full blown Japanese wedding...ick, don't even ask how much that cost; I think my butthole's still puckered, a year later.

Did you have the four meter tall rubber wedding cake, with the trick piece that surrounded you in dry ice clouds when you cut it? Should've just gone with the three meter version instead, you would've saved a bundle.

Marrying Japanese Body Pillows is really cheap though.

Been married 21 yrs
I'd have been out now if I'd killed her

I don't know, guys...
For those of you who've been down that road before, I can sort of understand a decision not to have a "formal" wedding.
As a father, though, I'm glad my kids are not robbed of that experience.
When I was a kid, I found great joy in looking at the pictures of my parents wedding (Justice of the Peace) and reception (local bar), but I always wished they were "real" wedding and reception pictures.

When my wife and I got married (almost 14 years, now), we had a church wedding and small reception. Cost about $1000 total. My kids, though... they get HUGE kicks out of going back and looking at all the wedding pictures. Same for most everyone I know. They love looking at their parent's wedding photos.

No judgement. Just something for you to think about.

loki old fart wrote:Been married 21 yrs
I'd have been out now if I'd killed her

Thats why they say:

Marriage isn't a word, it's a sentence.

loki old fart wrote:Been married 21 yrs
I'd have been out now if I'd killed her

I really can't stop laughing whats worse is a corrections officer is sitting ion the other room woundering wtf.

Empchild wrote:So I love my fiance as she and I were best friends in high school, and years later we finally started dating. Hell she puts up with me she's a winner in my book. So yesterday I got my army bonus, as well as paid, as well as disability. All told I made about 10k in one day. Not to shabby right. I was thinking hey drop 2k and bank the rest..........wanted a new firearm, and some models. You notice how I use the term WANT!

So my fiance on the other hand said, we have the house payment, then all the rest have to go towards my wedding!!!!! WTF SERIOUSLY! so I was able to shank away $200.00 for models which I know I will hear about later, and what sucks if I still owe $2500 more on my wedding. This is why I should have taken my ass to vegas! So let this be a lesson to you all 40+ hours a week at work+9 years in the army / divide by marraige= POOR GAMER!!!!

good luck. I give you 3 years and $20 says she'll keep the house.

My mother inlaw gave us six months

been a long six months