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Howlingmoon wrote:

Empchild wrote:So I love my fiance as she and I were best friends in high school, and years later we finally started dating. Hell she puts up with me she's a winner in my book. So yesterday I got my army bonus, as well as paid, as well as disability. All told I made about 10k in one day. Not to shabby right. I was thinking hey drop 2k and bank the rest..........wanted a new firearm, and some models. You notice how I use the term WANT!

So my fiance on the other hand said, we have the house payment, then all the rest have to go towards my wedding!!!!! WTF SERIOUSLY! so I was able to shank away $200.00 for models which I know I will hear about later, and what sucks if I still owe $2500 more on my wedding. This is why I should have taken my ass to vegas! So let this be a lesson to you all 40+ hours a week at work+9 years in the army / divide by marraige= POOR GAMER!!!!

good luck. I give you 3 years and $20 says she'll keep the house.

haha at this point I have no desires to ever divorce, namely because it would be so damn expensive.

Empchild wrote: All told I made about 10k in one day. Not to shabby right. I was thinking hey drop 2k and bank the rest...

So my fiance on the other hand said, we have the house payment, then all the rest have to go towards my wedding!!!!!

Bwahahaha!!!

If she wants a big wedding, get daddy to bankroll it!

Necros wrote:I'm lucky, my GF isn't into the girly things like wanting a huge wedding and a minivan full of kids to brag to the other soccer moms about. If and when we do get hitched, we'll go see a judge and then maybe take the immediate family out to dinner at the outback or something However, I still gotta save up for a good ring. And she's real peticular about jewelry, I'm gonna have to take her to a jewelry store and let her pick out what she likes. Rings will prolly be our biggest wedding expense

I let my wife pick her engage ring out of a wedding mag advert. Big mistake! It cost me 3 months pay.

It used up a lot of cursing at the time but nowadays I feel proud to see her with a big lump of diamonds on her finger.

All I remember is sitting with the future wife in a club, her handing me a cup and saying "drink this." I woke up several months later with a ring and a scar in a tub packed in ice...

Hey quit whining! At least it was only -a- scar. It's when there's two that you gotta worry. You'll be fine. ...Crybaby

Me, I'm planning on doing the "Go before the Judge" common-law shebang. I don't agree with the principle of a religious marriage ceremony. Plus the Judge will save me $600 just on a stupid cake

Kilkrazy wrote:

Necros wrote:I'm lucky, my GF isn't into the girly things like wanting a huge wedding and a minivan full of kids to brag to the other soccer moms about. If and when we do get hitched, we'll go see a judge and then maybe take the immediate family out to dinner at the outback or something However, I still gotta save up for a good ring. And she's real peticular about jewelry, I'm gonna have to take her to a jewelry store and let her pick out what she likes. Rings will prolly be our biggest wedding expense

I let my wife pick her engage ring out of a wedding mag advert. Big mistake! It cost me 3 months pay.

It used up a lot of cursing at the time but nowadays I feel proud to see her with a big lump of diamonds on her finger.

You got the whole story about it being Japanese culture too? I lost 3 month's pay too, to the last cent; the devious darling figured my salary and went nuts.

Here's a pic of what a ton of money gets you at Meiji Jingu followed by a reception at Meiji Kinenkan followed by 2, yes 2, after parties...we're going to speak about the hangover.




Yes, that's a grimace of pain. I told her she's stuck with me forever because there's no way that I'll ever EVER go through that again.

metallifan wrote:

Me, I'm planning on doing the "Go before the Judge" common-law shebang. I don't agree with the principle of a religious marriage ceremony. Plus the Judge will save me $600 just on a stupid cake

How Very Romantic

You know Vegas looks good too. Just saying.

rotfl. This thread makes me smile, in a warm and fuzzy way

binky wrote:

metallifan wrote:

Me, I'm planning on doing the "Go before the Judge" common-law shebang. I don't agree with the principle of a religious marriage ceremony. Plus the Judge will save me $600 just on a stupid cake

How Very Romantic

You know Vegas looks good too. Just saying.

rotfl. This thread makes me smile, in a warm and fuzzy way

Yea but then we'd end up picking up a stripper if we went there.

Wouldn't that be a great way to wrap things up?

Yeah, just like the wedding I always dreamed of. Seriously, all the other women get beautiful ceremonies and pretty dresses. wtf! You gotta do better than a stripper.

edit: agnosto you're a brave man to go through that, but that's also very sweet. And looks like a lovely ceremony.

Kilkrazy wrote:I let my wife pick her engage ring out of a wedding mag advert. Big mistake! It cost me 3 months pay.

Those adverts are all about getting guys to overspend.

But if we're going by stuff by random strangers, in all fairness, I hope she let you select your honeymoon activities out of a porno flick...

JohnHwangDD wrote:

Kilkrazy wrote:I let my wife pick her engage ring out of a wedding mag advert. Big mistake! It cost me 3 months pay.

Those adverts are all about getting guys to overspend.

But if we're going by stuff by random strangers, in all fairness, I hope she let you select your honeymoon activities out of a porno flick...

Unless that porno flick was "Powerfisters II: Calgar's Revenge", which would be a terrible movie to use for inspiration.

Me and my fiancee are paying for our own wedding - we're budgeting for about £10K. We'll have saved up enough by the end of the year...

fething expensive.

See, I was brought up dirt-poor (still am ), but my missus is proper middle-england middle-class - so that's ME fethed! I would have been happy getting married in Mallorca, but she wants to tie the knot in a stately home.

You're all invited.

agnosto wrote:I had a full blown Japanese wedding...ick, don't even ask how much that cost; I think my butthole's still puckered, a year later.

The weddings I went to in Japan had an interesting approach, the invite had a charge and you knew to give/pay that when you arrived. No fretting about whether or not your toaster gift covers the cost of your dinner, the charge is right there.




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agnosto wrote:

Kilkrazy wrote:

Necros wrote:I'm lucky, my GF isn't into the girly things like wanting a huge wedding and a minivan full of kids to brag to the other soccer moms about. If and when we do get hitched, we'll go see a judge and then maybe take the immediate family out to dinner at the outback or something However, I still gotta save up for a good ring. And she's real peticular about jewelry, I'm gonna have to take her to a jewelry store and let her pick out what she likes. Rings will prolly be our biggest wedding expense

I let my wife pick her engage ring out of a wedding mag advert. Big mistake! It cost me 3 months pay.

It used up a lot of cursing at the time but nowadays I feel proud to see her with a big lump of diamonds on her finger.

You got the whole story about it being Japanese culture too? I lost 3 month's pay too, to the last cent; the devious darling figured my salary and went nuts.

Here's a pic of what a ton of money gets you at Meiji Jingu followed by a reception at Meiji Kinenkan followed by 2, yes 2, after parties...we're going to speak about the hangover.




Yes, that's a grimace of pain. I told her she's stuck with me forever because there's no way that I'll ever EVER go through that again.

Not bad, not bad at all. Meiji Jingu seriously? Did you need an in or did you just have to throw down a pile of cash?

I remember people telling me how much I should spend on my wedding and it was getting upwards of $20,000. I have friends that got married 9 years ago and have finally finished with paying off their wedding.
Taken into context with the fact that these friends are among those telling me what I should spend, I talked to my fiance, and it was off to Vegas we went for a $300 dollar wedding. With the money we didn't spend on the wedding, we had a fine honeymoon and a really fine standard of living.

We paid $18,000US for church, 75 guests (and us) horse and carriage, photos, reception, accomodation at a B&B for the wife and a hotel for me pre-wedding and 3 days in a 5 star hotel at the beach afterwards.


But I do feel for you for the pay out.

I just got a big pay out after leaving the public health system (owed annual and long service leave) and I was going to split $500 each to buy stuff.
So far the wife has a 1 carat diamond pendant, a 1.7 carat diamond eternity ring and I still do not have a gaming table. :(

I can't remember how much my wedding was (wasn't cheap but her parents bankrolled it), but as it's 6 and a bit years later and we're splitting up, it was clearly a waste of fething money.

hahahahahahahaha. Well so far i've read everything here and My Commander wondered what i was laughing about and saw this and laughed. He told me "rule NO.1 Scout don't get married its worst than jail."
(not part of the military, just a boy scout leader and we call this one guy commander. because he was a commander in the navy.)

We paid quite a lot for our wedding, but it was a destination wedding and was the only time our two families (and friends) have all met at the same time due to 4500 miles distance between them. Coupled with the cost of paying for flights for the poorest family members, it all added up, but was totally worth it. Stressful and complex enough to organise (even with a planner) that I'm only getting married that one time!

Although it might count as cheating here for some and in the spirit of one upmanship I got married twice to the same bride within 4 months of each other. The wonders of intercultural marriage!

And even tho we paid for it at first both families insisted in giving us back the money.

M.

Miguelsan wrote:Although it might count as cheating here for some and in the spirit of one upmanship I got married twice to the same bride within 4 months of each other. The wonders of intercultural marriage!

And even tho we paid for it at first both families insisted in giving us back the money.

M.

Did you do the 1 in Japan, one back home thing?

Yup, in for a penny... went for a Shinto wedding here at the Osaka Koukoku Jinja and then a Catholic one at my family´s hometown the birthplace of the Borgia!. (And got a nice homilie from the priest with references to several historical figures that ended up with quite a few lovers, I don´t think my wife got that part )

M.

Well, ours was £12.5k, so that's what, ~$20k? So not utterly grotesque, but still felt like months of penury. Still, I look on it as happy wife = happy geek. I'm so under the thumb it's rubbing away the hair and making a bald patch...

inmygravenimage wrote:Well, ours was £12.5k, so that's what, ~$20k? So not utterly grotesque, but still felt like months of penury. Still, I look on it as happy wife = happy geek. I'm so under the thumb it's rubbing away the hair and making a bald patch...

and when she notices the bald patch, she's off and you've lost everything including the pets. But she'll be nice enough to let you keep the bills.

Wow never expected this much responce, COOL. UMMM kwan her dad is not in the picture, and her mom as well as mine are to say the least not our favorite people. I make decent money right now, about to make make as I switch into the private sector....A TON MORE, so it's not as much of an issue I just wanted toys and damn it I wanted to complain:( hrmph

Meh - I owe over $60 Grand in student loans. My wedding costs were nothing compared to that.

Gitkikka wrote:Meh - I owe over $60 Grand in student loans. My wedding costs were nothing compared to that.

What state do you live in.. I can help you bring those down almost 30k!

If I get married I am buying 4 things a pig a smoker big enough to smoke the pig a large beer fridge and beer to fill the fridge have the guests bring there favorite bbq side and themselves have it at my grandmothers hire a local baker to make a cake and find a priest who does home weddings probably 4k+-

My wifes parents paid for us to get married, which was good. I think it was about £7-8k and it was a really great day.

This my friends is why we talk about what kind of weddings we want before we get engaged. I really believe that the wedding says a lot about the husband/wife they are going to be. Not knocking on the OP, but unless mommy/daddy are paying for the wedding what a woman expects is not what she's going to get.

Huge weddings should be reserved for those who can afford it. If you can't have it paid off before the wedding date then you are probably spending too much.

I think of our own wedding (which was 7+ years ago so I'll do my best). Beforehand it was understood that her parents would buy the dress. My parents would pay for decorations and the church. Everything else was on us. We got an affordable cake by a local company, we had cake and punch at the reception, Groomsmen paid for their own tuxes (bridesmaids had homemade dresses) and our honeymoon was in Kansas City (very exciting I know).

Ultimately a very simple, affordable wedding. We did not have the stress of a big bill to deal with at the end of the day and I think that really helped our marriage (in the beginning at least).

75-100 people doesn't seem all that big to me, and yes it will be paid off before the wedding itself. I was just bitching because I couldn't have fun with the money not because of the price of everything. I'm a guy who likes the simple things in life. Guns, women, and Nascar, and of coarse models. Not all in that paticular order but hey I just wanted to have some more toys and realize growing up rocks, and can suck sometimes! Only thing I won't pay off right away is my rings... no rush just working on more credit. I was soooo close to a perfect credit score!