Getting my girlfriend to play, or the long road ahead.

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**Beamo**

My wife tried to learn to play from her cousin in order to impress me, so that I'd date her.

He made it too complicated and it turned her off the whole thing... Thanks.

Although, I finally got her to play Space Hulk.

One day I'll get her to give it another go maybe.

**Cannerus_The_Unbearable**

My girl paints rarely. Let her come to it at her speed. It's your ONLY option.

**Brother SRM**

My girlfriend likes the painting aspect and some of the figures. We've paged through a few White Dwarfs together, and she thought some of the stuff was pretty cool. She also got me Logan Grimnar for Christmas last year! She doesn't have the time to paint for herself though.

**kinghammer**

HaLLuCiNaTiOn wrote:My girlfriend, Amanda, is mildly interested in Warhammer. I showed her the armies and she fell in love with the Tomb Kings (having liked ancient Egypt all her life).

I play Daemons of Chaos, and I have enough for us each to play a small thousand point "army", to show he the rules.

She knows nothing about it, just that the models are cool and she loves the Tomb Kings.

Does Dakka have any experience in this field? What can I do to help her not shun the game, and to keep an open mind? How can I make it more enjoyable? Also I've never taught anyone how to play, so should we go through the rulebook together first, or just throw her into the midst of it all with a game where I explain everything and walk her through it?

Thanks guys.

[Inevitable typo edit]

She shows intrest cuz you are intrested. Let her paint a couple of models, before you get her an army and she is then forced to play or paint the whole thing. Most time women are going to support you and your hobbies, that does not mean they want to do your hobbies. Be careful and don't force her into something.

Cheers

**Platuan4th**

My wife has decided she doesn't want to play, because she'd get competitive with it.

Once she gets competitive with something, she can't view it as a game designed for fun, it's purely about winning at all costs.

Incidentally, this is why no one wants to play Monopoly with her...

**JonnyDelta**

Kinghammer +1

**Cannerus_The_Unbearable**

Platuan4th wrote:My wife has decided she doesn't want to play, because she'd get competitive with it.

Once she gets competitive with something, she can't view it as a game designed for fun, it's purely about winning at all costs.

Incidentally, this is why no one wants to play Monopoly with her...

I would kill for that! You should see my girlfriend at Twilight Scene-it. She murders (and she apologizes for it). She's extremely non-competitive otherwise though.

**Captain Killjoy**

My girlfriend will ask questions every once in a while.Mostly she just leaves me to my thing.

God I need to hurry up and marry this girl.She accepts
the fact that im her 6'4, Trophey nerd

**HaLLuCiNaTiOn**

Wow, thanks guys!

**Frosty Hardtop**

My girlfriend really likes to put the figures together, but she's not yet "into it." What I'm thinking of doing is picking a new army to play, and occasionally buying a box of figures here or there and having her assemble and paint them for me, however she likes, and then letting her play with them if that can raise her interest enough.

Although, I sort of tried that technique with Magic, since I know she likes faeries, I built a faerie deck. She played a few games, but she didn't really take to it.

Board games, and regular card games, though, she really enjoys. Agricola, Carcassonne, Stone Age, Bohnanza, Chez Geek, Fluxx, she loves all that stuff. Honestly, I'm happy with that.

**Grunt_For_Christ**

Only 7% for significant other support? Without skirmishes & custom scenarios my weekends with my April wouldn't be half as fun. But if I won more than 33% of the time it'd be more fun too. That's a discussion for another day.

**Howlingmoon**

nyyman wrote:
Redbeard wrote:I tried to get my girlfriend into 40k once, but my wife wouldn't allow it.

What?
You live in Arabian country or something?

no. what he was saying, in internet speak, is that he is DESPERATELY single.

**Lord Alaric**

As others have mentioned, I would start small concerning the rules. They are very daunting to a newcomer.

I would just go with a couple of basic units, and show her the very basics of the game. Stuff like movement and shooting. Give her very brief explanations along the way, so as not to be too overwhelming. Once she has the very basics down, then let her read portions of the rulebook that will give more information on the topics you have covered. Encourage her to ask questions if she has them. Let her learn at her own pace. And above all, make it fun.