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hellsguardian316 wrote:At the end of the day, if a supposed "best friend" is willing to hit on his best friend's girlfriend then he isn't that good of a best friend.

YEP!

Ok, i know you guys are right. It's just going to be drama and i hate drama. But your right.
Okies thanks guys...XX

good luck!

Douche-bag

Anyone seen The Late Show recently? Say 18-11-09. Whole section on Douche and Bag.

Oh, the others. This is Totally Off-Topic. Forget it.

To Roze...do it already. What are you waiting for?

And in comes the Dissenting opinion:

I am of the opinion that sex is completely unrelated to romance. Like ice cubes and scotch they go well together in moderation, but are not necessary.

So long as you've locked down your lover's friend in no uncertain terms there's no reason to attempt to drive a wedge between them. 20 years is some pretty serious investment and they likely know the sort of fellows they can be.

Unless you're terribly uncomfortable about how he makes you feel, turn it into a joke and let it go. Why make drama when you don't need to?

Thinking from the other guy's point of view:
I've crossed the line talking to women before, and respected being old where the line was. When they created drama of it I admittedly took advantage of the situation and unabashedly wielded my 'time in position' and let dramaperson know it the evening they were dumped.

I'm of the opinion that if you let it slide you're going to be in the good graces of his mate (so long as you make certain he knows he was out of line) and have that social leverage guys jockey for while they get comfortable with eachother. Its at least enough to make him go pick up a pizza or two.

Oldgrue wrote:I'm of the opinion that if you let it slide you're going to be in the good graces of his mate (so long as you make certain he knows he was out of line) and have that social leverage guys jockey for while they get comfortable with eachother. Its at least enough to make him go pick up a pizza or two.

Read:
Use your BF's, friends guilt to get pizza, while risking looking like a manipulative GF...

This is so fantastically, and epically bad advice, I seriously have to golf clap here.

I wasn't clear enough to be macchiavellian, possibly only Springer-esque

CTLG (crossed the line guy) is the only one whom she gets the leverage to guilt into making run for pizza.

If she *must* unburden herself to the BF, then frame it as a minor screw up so they both get to guilt him into a pizza run, and there's no hard feelings.

This isn't an "OMG infidelity!" problem. There's a 20 year friendship there. BF and CTLG know each other pretty darned well and this probably isn't outside the realm of expected. Making it some sort of drama will invariably go wrong. Pizza based penance is fair.

Wrex, I can't believe you've never used a friend's screwup for some minor favor.

well i did tell him. And it went rather well i must say I didn't just say " your mate hit on me" i made it a joke (like you said) i was lucky enough to be hearing a story about another friend who got drunk and showed himself up...so i laughed and said "yeah CTLG got the vodka horn on and was blind enough to unleash it on me! i'll bet he's SO embarrased now hahaah if he even remembers! My BF laughed. about an hour later he said, if he does it again let me know ok? and i said sure. No drama no screaming, no wedge. it went well and now i don't look like im hieding anything. Job done.

Proper job, here is a proper beer.

Roze wrote:well i did tell him. And it went rather well i must say I didn't just say " your mate hit on me" i made it a joke (like you said) i was lucky enough to be hearing a story about another friend who got drunk and showed himself up...so i laughed and said "yeah CTLG got the vodka horn on and was blind enough to unleash it on me! i'll bet he's SO embarrased now hahaah if he even remembers! My BF laughed. about an hour later he said, if he does it again let me know ok? and i said sure. No drama no screaming, no wedge. it went well and now i don't look like im hieding anything. Job done.

The lack fo sticks with nails saddens Frazzled although he is happy it worked out. Must run off to torment associates. To the Dungeons!

Wrexasaur wrote:Proper job, here is a proper beer.

Cornish Beer!

Well done roze, couching it in a joke was the best way.

MeanGreenStompa wrote:

Wrexasaur wrote:Proper job, here is a proper beer.

Cornish Beer!

Well done roze, couching it in a joke was the best way.

I had several pints of that one the other week. Was very nice if I recall.

Just saw this thread, good thing its resolve by now, my advice was going to be...


KILL HIM!!

Deadshane1 wrote:Just saw this thread, good thing its resolve by now, my advice was going to be...


KILL HIM!!

Already had your back there deady. Stick with nail stick with nail...

MeanGreenStompa wrote:

Well done roze, couching it in a joke was the best way.

"Haha, and then we totally had sex. Isn't that crazy?! Oh, drunken hijinks."

Gr8 work. Keep it up...

Oh, that was my school report...

You guys were right! CTLG came over last night to see my BF and my BF mentioned it asa joke to. he was laughing at him saying he must have been really really drunk! He said he didn't remember and maybe i made it up! My BF defended me of course and said I wouldn't do that ever! (which i bloody wouldn't!) He just shrugged and said "well i must have been wasted" and that was it. there still friends, and now i know if anything like this happens again i dnt hesitate i tell right away! Can't believe he'd do that.

I slaughtered a whole village once....it was ok though, I was drunk so it doesn't count .

Roze wrote:You guys were right! CTLG came over last night to see my BF and my BF mentioned it asa joke to. he was laughing at him saying he must have been really really drunk! He said he didn't remember and maybe i made it up! My BF defended me of course and said I wouldn't do that ever! (which i bloody wouldn't!) He just shrugged and said "well i must have been wasted" and that was it. there still friends, and now i know if anything like this happens again i dnt hesitate i tell right away! Can't believe he'd do that.

See. You're only paranoid if you are wrong. SEE SEE!

(woops my aluminum cap fell off my head, hold on)

Telling him was the best solution

Frazzled wrote:
See. You're only paranoid if you are wrong. SEE SEE!

(woops my aluminum cap fell off my head, hold on)

A picture of a real life mod! aaah! with his MURDEROUSS cat! AAAAH!

Frazzled wrote:
See. You're only paranoid if you are wrong. SEE SEE!

(woops my aluminum cap fell off my head, hold on)

Is it me or has frazzled gotten crazier?

Is that possible?

Nope....

Tell your BF immediately. I would also nix the solo meeting with the culprit... That's a very bad idea and he couLd take it that you are leading him on. He sounds like a total douchebag to me.

G

You joined the party late GBF. Read up a few posts.

Rose I am so very happy you had the courage to tell your boyfriend. Drunkiness is not excuse for what happened. It sounds like your bf is a real keeper. Only a douche would try to seduce his best mate's lady.

G

The guy just shrugged and said "oh well?"
I figure he should have been just about falling all over himself to apologize to you and your boyfriend while feeling like the world's biggest ass.
He was sober when he was talking to you and your boyfriend about the incident, I presume, and yet still tried to make you the villain in this by claiming you made it up. He has no excuse for that.
My advice is to you and your boyfriend, based on the available information here, is not to turn your backs on this guy. I've seen this type many times and they can be real scum suckers that'll screw anyone over to get what they want, including "friends".

Cool. Its over now, without incident, and we got to learn that several dakkaites are socio-paths...can we close this thread now?

Yeah, it sounds pretty much done, to me.