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I have some suggestion. but i never got the guts to ask a girl out.

Whip out a boombox playing an acoustic version of Erasure's 90's synth smash hit Always and sing the lyrics. She'll say yes to anything you ask, I guarantee it.

Mistress of minis wrote:Well, at least we've evolved past peeing on someones leg to declare them your freind.

Ok, maybe not everyone has.

Wait... What!?

Gwar! wrote:Like so.

I hate that link, its often used by trolls in circumstances when just goolging is not a solution.
Grambo may well not be an idiot who doesnt know his Google Fu, that link makes him out to be one.
This is the sort of thing you might want to ask a community rather than a random website. it is a very personal matter after all. We have a community, so he is not unreasonable in asking for a personally addressed answer.

Grambo wrote:How do i ask a girl to be my girl friend?

Just asking is still the answer. that much is obvious but it leads to the automatic next question of 'how?' that is not due to any technique or anything special line or anything else but being 1) relaxed 2) confident 3) privite and 4) a bit of good timing. timing is all about her attention, make sure she is focused on you like while walking with her, rather than when she is watching TV. the other three are about the body lauguage you give off, if you are a posirtive person a female will more likely want to be with you and for the right reasons. Girls need support, if you are negative you arent support. This will be picked up on. You may be looking for a girlfriend, but your subconscious and male drive is looking for a child rearing partnership. Her subconscious is no different. Even if you have no intentions to have anything more than a youthful fling her subconscious will be judging you by husband and father material criteria, and that quite literally may be are you caveman enough. This all boils down over the centuries to assertiveness and confidence. Its nothing to do with how much you benchpress or if you can beat up another guy, its about what you can face up to. A successful man need not be able to take on the sabre tooth tiger, but he must be able to get in the way and die so woman and babies can escape the cave. Biologically speaking men are expendible. To breed they have to be men, men come in all shapes and sizes but to be a man amongst them you need to be confident and someone she can rely on. Be that and her bio-chemistry may make her fall for you, rationality has fairly little to do with it. She has to like you, but to get beyond friends you have to show a little more, and you cannot buy that or give that or wisecrack that or wear-right-aftershave that, you can only get 'that' by being confidenced and relaxed. If she wants you for anything else you have the wrong girl, and likely too much money.

My advice? Take anything said in this thread with a grain of Salt. Oh, and Ignore Shadowbrand.

mattyrm wrote:Women like confidence, just stroll right up to her and ask her if you can take her temperature with your all beef thermometer.

That only makes sense if you are all bull.

Just so its a clear majority, pretend you have the confidence and run with it. I used to know a guy that was the most insecure guy of all time. But he could make any woman he want woo over him like he was the best thing sinced sliced bread, this guy was generally amazing. His secret? Confidence, well in his case pretending he had it. He would walk up to any woman anywhere and just talk to them like it was nothing. Key point there is practice. If you are freaked out about talking to this girl, go practice else where. Go downtown to a movie theatre and just practice making random conversation, then when you get into a situation where you actually have something in common and something you can talk about, it becomes easy. Oh god, im about to be the old guy.... When i met my wife, it was pure confidence that made her latch on to me. I spoke easily about anything and everything and today i ve been married for nearly two years and dated for several before that. Confidence, after that be honest. She can't appreciate those two she isnt worth it anyway, resort to club and dragging.

c34r34lk1ll3r has it almost right.

Don't bother 'officially' asking her out. There is no magic line that sounds suave and sophisticated. Instead, when she's alone and focused on you casually drop that you're going to a bar/cinema/whatever, and would she like to come with you?
Women are pretty intelligent creatures- she'll know you're asking her out without resorting to a cheesy line. This scores bonus points.

Follow the same pattern, but don't make the dates too regular, or they become monotonous. Keep her on her toes with the dates. Eventually, when seeing each other has become a regular thing, she'll know she's your girlfriend, and that you're her boyfriend.

Sorted.

Sources: My own relationship, that's been going for quite a while now.

Hit her and sleep with all of her friends. Be a complete douch bag. Spend her money and wreck her car and house. Never pay for anything and let her do all the work. Every guy like this I see can't keep the ladies off of them. All the good guys I know finish last...and alone in the shower.

sexiest_hero wrote:Hit her and sleep with all of her friends. Be a complete douch bag. Spend her money and wreck her car and house. Never pay for anything and let her do all the work. Every guy like this I see can't keep the ladies off of them. All the good guys I know finish last...and alone in the shower.

Nice guys finish last, because we make sure our women finish first.

And It needs to be said:

I <3 BOOBIES!

Orlanth wrote:

mattyrm wrote:Women like confidence, just stroll right up to her and ask her if you can take her temperature with your all beef thermometer.

That only makes sense if you are all bull.

Not all of you would need to be bull. One little transplant and you could honestly use this line, you minotaur you.

Just find an opportunity, and kiss her.

Hit her and sleep with all of her friends. Be a complete douch bag. Spend her money and wreck her car and house. Never pay for anything and let her do all the work. Every guy like this I see can't keep the ladies off of them. All the good guys I know finish last...and alone in the shower.

Sadly true lol

Yea, women just love being treated like crap dunno why either. My proof is the douche bags at high school that have literally harems of women.

They also are really attracted to gay dudes, I might get some tight white pants and a pink dress shirt and see where that gets me.

Shadowbrand wrote:Yea, women just love being treated like crap dunno why either. My proof is the douche bags at high school that have literally harems of women.

Actually, it's rather simple. Good looking girls are used to getting what they want. People treat them like princesses, and as such, getting told their beautiful doesn't affect them. But then, a guy comes along that isn't treating her like a princess, and she has to figure out why. So she is drawn to him, and she ends up liking him, simply because he is giving something she doesn't have.

@ Slarg232: This is true but only at younger ages. When they are older you have to stop looking at the girls faults and try to see what the guy is doing, more often then not it is the type of person that gets away with inappropriate behavior in many situations. Usually they are the type of person for whom lying comes easy and they see the world in 'shades of grey'. They have an inflatted opinion of themselves and this leads to the confidence that as many people have pointed out women find attractive. This confidence wheter it be justified or not helps in just about every aspect of life giving the illusion of success which only further fuels their ego and lets them think they can get away with anything; hence the treating their women like crap. The point is the women is more often then not being manipulated by someone with a talent for it and she doesn't want to believe that she is. Women want Mr. Right but he doesn't exist so they will settle for the illusion of him and ignore the faults rather then pick the honest guy that is "doing his best".

Dates first, then the girlfriend question. Asking straight out is daft. If she doesn't want to go on a date, she doesn't want to be your girlfriend.

Also if you have trouble with confidence (as I imagine you do since you came here to ask this question) group dates often take the edge off of the encounter. Just invite her out with you and some of your friends, you'll get to see eachother in a new forum and hopefully relax a little. This really only helps if you have common friends.

There really is no "perfect" answer for this thread. Different things work with different girls. With some the whole "when in doubt, whip it out" will work. Others just be gentleman. For some leave subtle hints and play hard to get, others just go for it and be aggressive. My advice is just be yourself, and do whatever feels right.

amen thaanos...

rocklord2004 wrote:Just walk up and say "Does this smell like chloroform?" and put the rag over her mouth. Nothing leaves them speachless faster.

Hey! That's my line you bugger! I'll kill you!

Walk upto her and ask her if she wants to hear a joke "Wanna hear a joke?"

If she says "Yes" then shout "WOMENS RIGHTS" and ask her out.

Thats been going round my school for yonks!

I'm glad its being used else where.

I say play it safe. With sexy assertive women, it can kind of be a hassle.

However, if you go with the plain, slightly overweight ones, all it takes is a buffet and Twilight. That is, if you can sit through Twilight.

Just do it in person...

Don't do it over the phone, or through a text, or some other crap.

Ok so you didn't like my first post,(It works by the way)get's them laughing, and thats allways a good start.

Just remember one thing!. Your scared of fething up, and looking stupid.
Well so is she!. So go easy, relax,and be yourself.
and get her laughing

IGLannister wrote:I say play it safe. With sexy assertive women, it can kind of be a hassle.

However, if you go with the plain, slightly overweight ones, all it takes is a buffet and Twilight. That is, if you can sit through Twilight.

This literally made me burst out into laughter

But not all of the bigger girls like that. Like there is this one girl which I had something with but the whole her parents won't approve because My father has some black in him.....but I pretty much got her just by being a kind sweet gentleman to her considering how some other people joked about her.


But UUUUUUGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!! That twilight reminded me of this one girl at my school and *vomits in mouth a little* ......dude.......gross.........No sane person would go for that......N E V E R NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's true. Heavier plainer chicks are low maintenance. All it takes is a small modicum of attention and the deal is sealed.

I also find that they are perfect gophers. Like gettin in the sack with them might not be the most life-affirming practice, (to say nothing for the structural integrity of said sack) but after you do the deed, it's amazing. Midnight movie runs, errands of all sorts, after you get a fatty they're always on call for your every whim.

Does this make me evil? Yeah, probably. But I consider it A practical solution to never having to get off your ass so you can concentrate on 40k.

On second thought, yeah, I'm scum.

Yea....but then again, those big wanna be black girls won't do a thing for you.....EHHH...I'ma stop now. I may make myself throw up *gags a little*



Your not scum......just a jerk ^.^

Aight. I can deal with jerk. I get that alot anyway.